Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Online     Adriana Barton The Globe and Mail Published Monday, Dec. 14, 2015 3:06PM EST   Let’s say you’ve been down in the dumps for months, but are leery of taking psychiatric drugs. Your doctor may recommend cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), a form of “talk therapy” that focuses on changing the underlying thought patterns and distorted perceptions that perpetuate the “stinkin’ thinkin’” brought on by mood disorders. Several trials have shown that CBT is just as effective as medication, and highly successful in treating mild to moderate depression and anxiety. But what if you don’t have the time or money to see a therapist? You…

What doesn't kill us, makes us stronger—and can sometimes become a gift.    Posted Oct 10, 2015  Gregg McBride The Weight-ing GameSHARE TWEET EMAIL MORE   Source: Gregg McBride It wasn't so long ago that I was physically attacked while walking to the gym one morning. This was during a walk I had been making for over three years at the time—and although I knew the neighborhood I was living in was a bit on the "edge," I never expected anything like this attack to happen. Granted, it was very early in the morning (before 5 a.m.)—a time of day that I've since learned that (sadly) no one should be walking…

10 cognitive distortions that make things worse for us. Published on September 29, 2014 by Toni Bernhard, J.D. in Turning Straw Into Gold   2 inShare   I learned about cognitive distortions in the 1990s from a book by David Burns called Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy. I’d just moved from the faculty wing at U.C. Davis’ law school to serve as the dean of students. I knew how to teach law…but I didn’t feel competent to help students who were struggling emotionally.   When I shared my concerns with a friend who was a therapist, she recommended Feeling Good. She said it would help me recognize when a…

  by Pete Earley “Why won’t you just take your medication? I take pills for my cholesterol every night and its no big deal?” “Every psychiatrist we’ve seen has said you have a mental illness. Why won’t you accept it? Why would the doctors tell you that you’re sick, if it weren’t true?” “Let’s look at when you were doing well and when you got into trouble. What was the difference? Medication. It was the difference. When you were on your meds, you were fine. And when you weren’t, you got into trouble. Can’t you see that?” These quotes may sound familiar to you if you are a parent and…

      Want to change? How to get to a new you.                                Self-Esteem vs. Self-Acceptance     The Path to Unconditional Self-Acceptance How do you fully accept yourself when you don't know how?     by Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D. in Evolution of the Self   0 inShare         Though related, self-acceptance is not the same as self-esteem. Whereas self-esteem refers specifically to how valuable, or worthwhile, we see ourselves, self-acceptance alludes to a far more global affirmation of self. When we're self-accepting, we're able to embrace all facets of ourselves–not just the positive, more "esteem-able" parts. As such, self-acceptance is unconditional, free of any qualification. We…

If you have any doubt about what love is, all you have to do is listen to the music through the last several decades. It’s a many-splendored thing and it is a battlefield.       It’s been lost, found, thrown away, knocked, stopped, made and fallin’ into. But you can’t buy it and you sure can’t hurry it.     Evidently there are different kinds — baby, puppy, jungle, secret, young, endless, runaway, gangsta, sexy, summer, bleeding, international and even a muskrat type that lasts around 40 years. Sorry, Captain and Tennille.       There are seas of love, cradles of love, chapels of love, soldiers of love,…

  The ADHD-impacted marriage             ADHD Adults: "What It Feels Like to Have ADHD"       by Melissa Orlov Your brain, and everyday experiences, feel different with ADHD. Here's how. Published on November 21, 2013 by Melissa Orlov in May I Have Your Attention   What does it feel like to have ADHD?  And, more importantly, what’s the long-term experience of ADHD like?  A recent post at my website (www.adhdmarriage.com) reminded me of how poorly those of us without ADHD understand that ADHD experience, and how critical it is that we think compassionately about our partner’s way of being in the world.  Non-ADHD partners…

  Two reasons are tied for first place. Published on July 11, 2013 by Sean M. Horan, Ph.D. in Adventures in Dating In my experiences, for some individuals “couples therapy” is a stigmatized term accompanied with shame and perceived failure. I would like to challenge this thought pattern by reminding people that attending couples therapy demonstrates a commitment to working on, and even enhancing, one’s relationship. Perhaps most alarming though when it comes to couples therapy is how under-utilized it is. Consider the following: “Only about one fourth of divorcing couples report seeking professional help of any kind to improve their relationship (Albrecht, Bahr, & Goodman, 1983; C. A. Johnson…

Women naturally give love, but our men really want something else     Published on April 26, 2013 by Dr. Susan Biali, M.D. in Prescriptions for Life My husband and I recently went to a “marriage conference” attended by (and highly recommended by) some of our friends. One would think that a relationship-focused conference would be something that most men would avoid at all costs, equating it to sitting for seven straight hours in a women’s clothing store while their wife tries on outfit after outfit, asking “do I look fat in this?” Yet the atmosphere at this event, the Love & Respect Live Conference, was something the likes of…