Husband In Jail

[D3vo]

My husband and I are estranged. We have a 16 month old daughter together, but he's been kicked out and living with his mom since December of 2010. He is a cronic alcohol abuser and has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. He hasn't been cooperative about seeking treatment or finding a job either.

Two days ago he was drunk and told his mother he'd **** her in her sleep. She called the cops and they found a knife under his bed. He's now in jail charged with a felony.

I don't know what to think, how to feel, or what to do. I never thought he was dangerous before, but now I think he might be.

Any advice or people in similar situations? Please and thank you.

[AquaViolet]

Hi D3vo. I agree with Lauryn. I would get away from him as soon as you can. He does NOT sound like a good guy to be with!

I'm sorry you are going through all of this. You can always come here to DF for emotional support.

Take care.

[anhedonistica]

if you feel like he's any kind of threat to you, you may want to apply for a restraining order. That would mean that he could be arrested if he came within a certain distance of you. I think you should contact your local women's shelter/domestic violence hotline for support and information about the best step to take in your circumstance.

Best of luck.

[DownToEarth]

Obviously you have very strong feelings for him. I've been in unhealthy relationships before too. They have all ended badly. It boils down to what it is you want for yourself. Even through the pain and tears. You have to start fighting for you your child. Nobody else will. Be careful.