hkc9591 Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 I have a good life. I have a good job (I teach school). I have a great family. When I am home I either want to sleep or just sit around literally doing nothing. I love my husband, but I look forward to the time when he is gone so I can sit and do "nothing". I don't even want to watch tv. (Sometimes I will read if I can find a really good book. )Before the depression, I stayed busy all the time doing constructive things and things with friends. Why does depression do this? I would love to get some kind of "passion" back. I am a Christian, and I even feel that my faith is so weak right now. I am on some good meds that help, but I guess there's nothing that can make us totally back to what we were before. Just wish it could all be fixed.Thanks for listening.Connie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
acorn54 Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 i am the same way. i just sit and do nothing. everything is such an effort to do.i dont'see the point 0f doing anything. i guess it is because we are depressed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hkc9591 Posted September 19, 2011 Author Share Posted September 19, 2011 I feel like I expend all of my energy at work, and so have very little for home :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jddro Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 I really hate to admit it, but yes, I do waste alot of time... I don't have any energy, and not much gets accomplished. I can't even work or take care of the house. I know it will get better eventually, and I am trying to hang on until it does... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
White Knight Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 I procrastinate a lot as well :(I will sometimes think about what I have to do for hours and the thoughts circle in my head but very little gets accomplished as I am unable to just decide where to start. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
easeinbeing Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 i spent all weekend in bed. feels like i've spent two years in bed - yes. definitely spend time doing nothing - everything seems so daunting Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MommyofPrecious Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 I waste loads of time - it's my life's work right now. Connie, I understand what you say about wanting to be alone so you can just do nothing. For me, I think part of it is that I feel very guilty for doing nothing, so want to appear busy when others are around. I've almost given up the pretense, shamelessly wasting time, out in the open. Give yourself a break, and being a teacher, I'd think it would be very soothing to just do nothing if it wasn't coming from a place of depression. Hang in there, you aren't alone. M of P Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lindahurt Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 Hi Connie,I can understand you needing some down time especially after coming home from work. You might consider learning more about CBT (cognitive behavior therapy) to work on changing your thoughts to help you get motivated to do other things outside of work. I find it very helpful when I'm too laxed and need to spend my time more constructively. It helps to keep depression from getting the best of you by keeping busy.Lindahurt Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scm9988 Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 I really wasted most of my time thinking what am I going to do next, and it takes me lots of energy to accomplish what is going around in my mind. Just like some people mentioned, I am just being guilty for doing nothing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
solarflare Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 I am actually trying to look at my ability to procrastinate as a good quality that I have......I definitely am contributing to global warming less. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Every Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 Do something outside of school, take up a hobby. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nocturneangel Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 I guess doing nothing and procrastinating is common with depression. Like right now I should be learning for my History exam. But if you can find the motivation to start with something small, the rest is much easier. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tmm0127 Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 I do, and I really hate that I do. ._.;; I KNOW I could be doing something... I know I SHOULD be doing something... but I just never, ever feel like it. Generally even when I do get off of my behind and do things, it never makes me feel better afterwards like people tell me it will, so I hardly ever see the point in trying. I can force myself at work, but otherwise I'm just... in a huge "no" mood. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hkc9591 Posted September 19, 2011 Author Share Posted September 19, 2011 I REALLY appreciate everyone's replies. It means so much to me to have such a support group. I will do better at replying to other's posts. I have up and down days. I hate to admit this, but yesterday I took a Klonopin just so I could sleep the afternoon away instead of getting my work done. I slept for 5 solid hours! It was nice to just get away from life for a while, but not very healthy taking a pill to do that. :(Thanks again.Connie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1i11ian Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 Teaching is very rewarding and also very stressful. If you are a wife and mother on top of that, then that is added stress. No wonder you are tired when you get home which is further complicated by the depression. Make a list of the must do's. Do the most important one first to get it out of the way. Break it up into integrals. Do the parts first that you dislike the least. This will jump start you. Leave the nice to do's but not essentials for the weekend. Space them out over this large period of time. Take breaks between chores to take a nap or have some tea or do something you enjoy. But most important, do not beat up on yourself. This only makes things worse and you have enough stress without adding this undeserved action. Take care and continue to share your concerns on this forum. I always feel less stressed when I do this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Axe39 Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 I do, and I really hate that I do. ._.;; I KNOW I could be doing something... I know I SHOULD be doing something... but I just never, ever feel like it. Generally even when I do get off of my behind and do things, it never makes me feel better afterwards like people tell me it will, so I hardly ever see the point in trying. I can force myself at work, but otherwise I'm just... in a huge "no" mood.One thing CBT teaches you is how poisonous the word 'should' is. "I should be doing this, or I should feel better' -- statements like this just lead to feelings of guilt.In fact, it's one of CBT's 10 types of distorted thinking that leads to or exacerbates depression.8. Should StatementsShould statements are ways we talk to ourselves that emphasise expectations, rules and unattainable standards. Should statement are self defeating, because after imposing what we "should" be doing on ourselves, and always falling short of our own ideals, we tend to rebel against our own ideals, and we fail in our own eyes. (From http://addictions.about.com/od/overcomingaddiction/tp/cognitive_distortions.htm) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheepwoman Posted September 20, 2011 Share Posted September 20, 2011 I am the "queen of procrastination." lol I used to do nothing when I came home from work except veg. Eventually, I started taking my dog out for walks before it got dark. Good exercise and it helped ease the depression. I'm retired/disabled now. I've built a routine. When I wake up in the morning, I get up and do not crawl back into bed until it's bedtime. I have a farm that requires a lot of work. During the summer, I stay busy all day with projects outdoors. I avoid housework like the plague during the summer. I look at the mess when I have free time and walk away. I'll sit outdoors in the sun to avoid doing housework. When I'm finished outside for the day, I make dinner and then veg until bedtime.My neighbors have one family night out a week. They will go out for dinner and maybe a movie or stroll through one of the malls. Maybe a family night out would be good for you, too. Taking a walk a few nights a week can be relaxing. If you plan for something to do every evening for 30 mins or longer, it will help with the procrastination and help with depression. I find keeping occupied is a great secondary treatment for depression.Sheepwoman Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hkc9591 Posted September 20, 2011 Author Share Posted September 20, 2011 Thank you, Sheepwoman!You sound like you have a nice routine that works for you. I would love to take my dog for a walk each evening. I always find a reason not to. But I know it would be good for me and HIM. I just need the motivation, and I will try it tomorrow, and see how it goes.Connie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tallow Posted September 20, 2011 Share Posted September 20, 2011 I feel like I expend all of my energy at work, and so have very little for home :(i get that way sometimes. but right now i feel like i have a ton of energy, but any pursuit is pointless so im stuck in one place. its like i even have things to do and know i have enough personal value to accomplish them, but i feel like ill be suspect the whole time. it seems like defending myself from hordes of accusative eyes is an impossible task, so ive just given up.but actually this weekend, i was able to muster enough power and go look around town. i didnt end up really doing anything worth mentioning, so in a way it actually was pointless. but i was proud of myself, i got to see alot of stuff ive never seen before. i saw that the feeling keeping me down was just a feeling, and all i really had to do was stand up and walk. and my mind would automatically switch gears. now to just be able to do that everyday, or at least even today would be a start... :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hkc9591 Posted September 20, 2011 Author Share Posted September 20, 2011 AXE 39,Can you tell me some more about CBT? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hkc9591 Posted September 20, 2011 Author Share Posted September 20, 2011 Tallow,I agree, it is hard to get out, but once we do, all we have to do is put one foot in front of the other. Wish it was all that easy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MommyofPrecious Posted September 20, 2011 Share Posted September 20, 2011 I am actually trying to look at my ability to procrastinate as a good quality that I have......I definitely am contributing to global warming less.Hilarious! The glass is half full, huh? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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