It all not be

[Floor2017]

People should have more compassion and understanding, when it comes to mental illness but they do not. This all not be because no one wants to feel alone and helpless when it comes to controlling your mind and thoughts that keep you up and want allow you to rest. 

[sober4life]

Yeah there is no caring in real life it all.  If you talk about it you hear so what I have problems too.  What makes you so special.  They pretend it's a caring world so we go get help.  25 years later I haven't gotten any yet.

Edited October 25, 2022 by sober4life

[iWantRope]

13 hours ago, Floor2017 said:

People should have more compassion and understanding, when it comes to mental illness but they do not. This all not be because no one wants to feel alone and helpless when it comes to controlling your mind and thoughts that keep you up and want allow you to rest. 

I see where you made mistake

You expected compassion & understanding from a cruel, selfish, & narcissistic species of egomaniacs in the first place. People will only care what you can do for them, what benefits they can get out of you

Edited October 26, 2022 by iWantRope

[sober4life]

Yeah people are the only reason anger and rage exists.  Like today I'm sure I'm going to punch someone.  It's just a matter of which one of these guys is going to be the one.

[Camellia]

Thats why Im scared of people. I dont know to whom j can talk to in real life. 

[surfcaster]

Hey floor hope you're doing ok, sadly people only care about what are you doing for me

[ladysmurf]

On 10/25/2022 at 10:57 PM, iWantRope said:

I see where you made mistake

You expected compassion & understanding from a cruel, selfish, & narcissistic species of egomaniacs in the first place. People will only care what you can do for them, what benefits they can get out of you

Sadly, you are right! Most people don't care, it's very hard to find someone who will. People will use you and abuse you until they get what they want from you and then they leave you. It's happened to me several times in my relationships.. I wish I could turn back time and not have fallen and done so much for people who used me, but at least now I know better, and I don't trust as easily as I did in the past. Whether or not I meet someone in my future who will be willing to accept the real me, which includes my chronic depression/anxiety is unknown. I don't know what the future holds. It would be nice to meet someone who understands and can support you. I would like that, but we'll see what life has in store for us..

I hope that all people who suffer from mental illness can find some peace/relief in their life, whether its from a medical, relationship, career, etc, whatever aspect they want..

[ladysmurf]

On 10/25/2022 at 9:36 AM, Floor2017 said:

People should have more compassion and understanding, when it comes to mental illness but they do not. This all not be because no one wants to feel alone and helpless when it comes to controlling your mind and thoughts that keep you up and want allow you to rest. 

You are absolutely right, they should be more understanding, but they are not. The medical field itself is behind. Look at how many people are suffering and struggling. Then you have people in our society who don't believe in this illness and that makes it even harder for us dealing with it to cope. If someone has not been through this illness or seen a family /friend suffer, they most likely won't understand it or believe it. I have depression and anxiety and years ago I was approached by a co-worker who had a relative struggling with similar issues. At first we became friends at work, but eventually when she saw me stressed out or down, she finally did have a conversation with me, and told me that she understood and would support me if I ever needed anything. I was very grateful for this person, because nice people do exist in this world, they are just hard to find.

I believe that things will get better in the future.

[Abby Sciutos Myae]

I once saw something that was so funny, I have never forgotten it from a comedian - Trust noone; swipe left! I forgot her name, but I've always remembered that line and laughed my head off every time I've said that line. Sad thing is, I do exactly what she said in real life. I trust noone anymore. Not one single person, sadly. Everyone has the potential to be a backstabber and sadly, everyone has done so at one time or another. I have a very, very tiny circle of people around me now, and even that circle I do not trust with everything I do. I only give the tiniest bit right now. As much as I am willing to lose, I suppose. I gave everything I had at one point and then I was backstabbed in the worst possible way by someone I loved more than this world. That is when I said never again. Although, I did allow one more person a small chance...(because I am a die-hard romantic) just to get me back on my feet and "to see" if there would be any sort of hope moving forward, and of course, once again, I was let down withini 8 months, so that was the very last straw. I'd finally reached the breaking point. From that point forward, I trust noone. Period. I only give as much as I am willing to lose. That is all. Nobody will break the barrier any longer. I'm not willing to risk that pain anymore. To me, I finally gained mental stability enough that I can stand on my own two feet again. Granted, I get sad still, quite a bit and need help still and thus why I am here, but that is the extent. I am not afraid of asking for help, but I am no longer the weakling I was before either. I am quite different today. I can rely upon myself whereas before I was co-dependent on someone else for my happiness. I control if I am sad or happy, but sometimes, I need help. I can admit that. As you can see, I go back and forth a lot. It's a battle I face. You may know the same battle. It is why we are here, right? We all need a hand sometimes. There is nothing wrong with asking for help sometimes. This is how much I've grown since those last 2 mistakes. 

[Abby Sciutos Myae]

This all was said because, yes, I understand where you are coming from. As you can see, I've been through it myself, a few times. That first one almost broke me so badly I did not think I was ever going to get back up again. The second one is who got me back on my feet just long enough again, just to knock me right back down. That is when I had to find my own inner strength again. Miraculously, I did. And nobody wanted to listen to me talk about any of this, sadly. Who are your friends when you feel this way? Most likely nobody. I had to fight all of this emotional turmoil on my own - or at least that is how they made me feel because everyone got tired of hearing me say anything negative. So yes, having compassion is a very huge deal. And it seems like the only ones who do, get paid for it and even those people tend to blow you off at times. At least in my own opinion for a few of the ones I've spoken to - maybe I've just spoken to ones who were not the right fit. Probably why I because so self-reliant. That is also why I became really passionate about wanting to help others too. Because I care about other people. Usually more for others than I do for myself a lot of times. So, if I can help someone else while I am here, I'd be happy to share my stories. I've got many. I've lived a few decades and even have a few PTSD situations that continue to haunt me, as well. I am very empathetic to other's needs, compassionate, and more than willing to share. So, if I can help others, I am more than willing. Just say the word. 

[ladysmurf]

On 1/12/2023 at 3:10 PM, Abby Sciutos Myae said:

I once saw something that was so funny, I have never forgotten it from a comedian - Trust noone; swipe left! I forgot her name, but I've always remembered that line and laughed my head off every time I've said that line. Sad thing is, I do exactly what she said in real life. I trust noone anymore. Not one single person, sadly. Everyone has the potential to be a backstabber and sadly, everyone has done so at one time or another. I have a very, very tiny circle of people around me now, and even that circle I do not trust with everything I do. I only give the tiniest bit right now. As much as I am willing to lose, I suppose. I gave everything I had at one point and then I was backstabbed in the worst possible way by someone I loved more than this world. That is when I said never again. Although, I did allow one more person a small chance...(because I am a die-hard romantic) just to get me back on my feet and "to see" if there would be any sort of hope moving forward, and of course, once again, I was let down withini 8 months, so that was the very last straw. I'd finally reached the breaking point. From that point forward, I trust noone. Period. I only give as much as I am willing to lose. That is all. Nobody will break the barrier any longer. I'm not willing to risk that pain anymore. To me, I finally gained mental stability enough that I can stand on my own two feet again. Granted, I get sad still, quite a bit and need help still and thus why I am here, but that is the extent. I am not afraid of asking for help, but I am no longer the weakling I was before either. I am quite different today. I can rely upon myself whereas before I was co-dependent on someone else for my happiness. I control if I am sad or happy, but sometimes, I need help. I can admit that. As you can see, I go back and forth a lot. It's a battle I face. You may know the same battle. It is why we are here, right? We all need a hand sometimes. There is nothing wrong with asking for help sometimes. This is how much I've grown since those last 2 mistakes. 

i think you are right about the part that people do have the potential to be backstabbers , but i  personally think there are certain levels of severity that come along with that..i don't want to get into too many details because this is a forum and i want to respect peoples experiences/trauma in life, but i think certain people go way over the limit at how much they use or abuse others,

yeah we've probably all used someone , no one is perfect, and we all have our regrets, and made mistakes...

[ladysmurf]

On 1/12/2023 at 3:25 PM, Abby Sciutos Myae said:

This all was said because, yes, I understand where you are coming from. As you can see, I've been through it myself, a few times. That first one almost broke me so badly I did not think I was ever going to get back up again. The second one is who got me back on my feet just long enough again, just to knock me right back down. That is when I had to find my own inner strength again. Miraculously, I did. And nobody wanted to listen to me talk about any of this, sadly. Who are your friends when you feel this way? Most likely nobody. I had to fight all of this emotional turmoil on my own - or at least that is how they made me feel because everyone got tired of hearing me say anything negative. So yes, having compassion is a very huge deal. And it seems like the only ones who do, get paid for it and even those people tend to blow you off at times. At least in my own opinion for a few of the ones I've spoken to - maybe I've just spoken to ones who were not the right fit. Probably why I because so self-reliant. That is also why I became really passionate about wanting to help others too. Because I care about other people. Usually more for others than I do for myself a lot of times. So, if I can help someone else while I am here, I'd be happy to share my stories. I've got many. I've lived a few decades and even have a few PTSD situations that continue to haunt me, as well. I am very empathetic to other's needs, compassionate, and more than willing to share. So, if I can help others, I am more than willing. Just say the word. 

I understand what you are saying, but just like you mentioned that you are here to share, and help others, we are all here doing something similar. We're trying to support each other, because this illness is not very easy to live with, and we can understand and share experiences. This illness is not easy to deal with, and I'm sorry that your friends were not there for you. I have also lost people in my life for it. Perhaps the people who didn't stick by us during our hardest moments, are better off not being in our lives. I mean if they aren't there during my difficult times, why would I want them there during my good times only?

Many people still don't understand mental illness , and don't know how to be supportive to people suffering/struggling from it that they give up on them. I've seen it happen at times. I've also seen people who stick by their loved ones and support them with it. It helps if the people by your side are educated on the illness, so they can support you. There are support groups that a loved one can go to and learn more about how to support someone struggling with mental illness. You also have to remember how society sees mental illness as. Some people still don't believe it, someone people are afraid, etc.

Most of the battles in life you will fight alone, but there are people who will support you in times of need without asking for things in return, just simply because they care and want to help. I had people in the past help me slowly get myself back together , and some didn't ask for anything in return.

I don't think anyone is perfect, nor do I consider myself perfect either. If I can help someone in need, I will do it, just because I know what it's like to suffer with this illness and it's changed my views on life.

[Evergreenforst4]

On 1/12/2023 at 12:25 PM, Abby Sciutos Myae said:

This all was said because, yes, I understand where you are coming from. As you can see, I've been through it myself, a few times. That first one almost broke me so badly I did not think I was ever going to get back up again. The second one is who got me back on my feet just long enough again, just to knock me right back down. That is when I had to find my own inner strength again. Miraculously, I did. And nobody wanted to listen to me talk about any of this, sadly. Who are your friends when you feel this way? Most likely nobody. I had to fight all of this emotional turmoil on my own - or at least that is how they made me feel because everyone got tired of hearing me say anything negative. So yes, having compassion is a very huge deal. And it seems like the only ones who do, get paid for it and even those people tend to blow you off at times. At least in my own opinion for a few of the ones I've spoken to - maybe I've just spoken to ones who were not the right fit. Probably why I because so self-reliant. That is also why I became really passionate about wanting to help others too. Because I care about other people. Usually more for others than I do for myself a lot of times. So, if I can help someone else while I am here, I'd be happy to share my stories. I've got many. I've lived a few decades and even have a few PTSD situations that continue to haunt me, as well. I am very empathetic to other's needs, compassionate, and more than willing to share. So, if I can help others, I am more than willing. Just say the word. 

I am so sorry for the back stabbing Abby,

You build people up and then they backstab and leave you because they think there is someone better but they end up finding out they were wrong but it is too late. I can tell by your words you have suffered through so much, I think the reason the world is unhealthy is because of the way it treats people like you. If society treated you better then I think it would be a much more healthy and beautiful place, that is where they make the mistakes and it is their loss.