AllisonM 47 Posted February 19 Coming out as transgender was the best thing I did in my life.I felt being the youngest brother feeling inside I was really a girl from the inside born the wrong gender.I was 6 years old at the time when I felt this.It was tough hiding it in for a long time.Worst part was my no good dad always on me wanting me to be like my two older brothers,tough and masculine.He is no longer in my life,left when I was 7 years old.Freshman year of high school,secretly crossdressed trying on girl's clothes at first.My family never knew this and led a male life still.It was haunting me a lot and secretly crossdressed more on my own in my adult life going out dressed as female.I also knew that I was a woman from the inside and hid this too.Held it in and it got worse.Two years ago,it was 3 days after I turned 40 I had the anxiety and was depressed.Got help for the depression at first and my therapist knew there was something else wrong with me too.Had a tough time opening about this first and knew it had to come out.Married at the time,ex wife was concerned and we were having marital problems too.Finally one day I opened up to my therapist being transgender feeling I am really a woman from the inside.She was proud of me and did refer me to a great gender specialist whom did diagnose me with gender dysphoria.The decision was easy for me,transition and next step was not an easy coming out.First was to my family,told them I am really a woman from the inside and going to transition.I was tearful,my mom and my brothers hugged me telling me they still love me.Also said they were going to support me through my transition too.Did a good job of supporting me,they love me as a daughter/sister now.My ex wife and I were seperated at the time and it ended up in divorce.Good thing is my ex wife and I divorced on good terms and still speak to her.I started my transition 2 years ago and it was well worth it,decided not to have the GRS last month.I am completely happy as a woman now,my family fully supports my decision not to have the GRS.Knew it was my decision and not theirs to have this done.Also have a great loving boyfriend Mitch I met last month,he sees me as a woman and loves me for who I am.Also supports my decision not to have the GRS.I don't regret doing this and glad my old life, "Alex" is gone. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sober4life 31,985 Posted February 19 So we're about the same age then. I think I knew at 5 as soon as I got around the other kids in school. I think it was 4 years ago I told everything to mom. She accepted me completely and our conversations were very good the whole time. We became very close but she passed away. Everything had to come out or I wouldn't be here it's that simple. I am much more content in life now. I'm more at peace I guess. It's been a very hard road but I'm in much better shape than I was that's for sure. Like you I have no plans on getting surgery. I'm perfectly happy the way I am right now. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AllisonM 47 Posted February 20 What also helped was reading well known transgender activist Andrea James's story whom transitioned too.Her story encouraged me not to give up and is my positive role model in my life.Mom knew she wanted a daughter and knows she has one now,an unhappy son that became a much happier daughter.Good thing was my business partner and I are still together and our employees adapted to the changes of me becoming a woman very well. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sober4life 31,985 Posted February 20 Everything seems to be going well for you too. Your story will encourage a lot of people as well. I certainly need to do more. Sitting here and watching life go by isn't good enough that's for sure. In life people come along at times when you really need them. Your story is helping me get through a winter I might not have gotten through otherwise so thank you for that. I wish you all the happiness in the world. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AllisonM 47 Posted February 21 It has and my ex wife sees me much happier.She has moved with no grudges and has since remarried.I was invited to her wedding too.I felt what my dad did to me was holding me back from coming out at an early age.I overcame it and proud of myself.I also learned to love myself too from it 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
