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On 8/22/2020 at 2:49 AM, sober4life said:

I don't know maybe I've always been depressed or maybe my life has never been good.  Maybe the right way to think always was get me out of here!

I get what you mean, my therapist talks constantly about loving myself. I dont think I ever have, I was just very lucky to meet someone who made me forget how much i detest myself

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On 8/20/2020 at 9:39 PM, Troydg said:

"anywhere but here, anytime but now".

"anyone but me." [Burning Too, by Fugazi 👍]

 

I'd like to let go of perfectionist impulses like pouring over my school assignments one last time (and then one more last time) before submitting them. Wasted hours this week on routine homework. 

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Took a large bag full of bits and bobs to charity. Including my blender. And beloved rocking horse 😳

I'm way down on ornaments now with just a few pieces to worry about looking after, packing and moving, if I move. 

I saw the woman in the shop's eyes light up when she saw BRH (beloved rocking horse). I'm only surmising of course but she seems like the type who would stash it away and take it home for her hoard. I knew a few old girls who used to work in a charity shop who would take a lot of the stuff home for themselves 🤔

I saw it as a negative trait but when I think about it, I collected all that stuff in the first place so I'm not that much different really am I? I used to love collecting pretty things. 

Next on the list: frying pan - can't eat fried food anymore. 

Plus I've got a bag full of clothes and shoes which is going out to be collected on Thursday. Clothes I don't like or use anymore. Shoes. Ditto. 

Im very close to having everything I want gone, gone. 

Just that folder of dastardly paperwork to sort through (I've been putting that off for months😏) and I'm good to go 👍

I actually can't wait to see how many boxes I can fill now. I should be way down with the number I need. I'm gonna take a photo. Its not gonna be like I can live out of a backpack or anything. I still have a house full of stuff but it should be a much more minimal house full ❤️

 

 

 

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The feeling I get when I believe I'm letting people down. This made quitting my job (which I had to do for my health) so hard. I became so anxious writing my letter of resignation.

I talked it over with my therapist about today. We could trace this fear back to my childhood, a fear of being abandoned or given away if I didn't please everyone. It constrains my capacity to enjoy success, to be successful at anything. Does anyone else struggle with this?

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4 hours ago, Atra said:

Does anyone else struggle with this?

Yup!  I could have written that post.  With me it is this weird, tangled mess of failing myself and letting other people down.  I have stopped even trying to figure it out.  I mean that in a 'bad' way not a noble I-have-finally-learned-my-lesson way.   🙁

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Of course I feel that way.  I've always had the fear of being abandoned because there was always a sense that I was on my own.  A family reunion is a roomful of people that don't want to be there, don't get along or like each other and you wouldn't know they were even related unless they told you.  There's never a feeling of love or hey you did a good job there.  You're on your own and go through life with that emptiness because you've never felt loved a day in your life.

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Four purple pillows (2 large, 2 small) Paperwork (yeah, still not done 😬) Bag full of bits n bobs, old tops which are tatty, tatty old socks, frying pan, too old cereal and freezer stuff, another bag full of bits n bobs. That's all I can think of for now 🤔

 

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I finally got through a folder of old paperwork and threw it away. I'm not really feeling a sense of achievement at the moment though coz I'm struggling with stress induced brain fog. I think I had brain fog as I was sorting through it all too. Yuk. 

Anyway, one big chunk of paperwork is sorted and binned. Just one more chunk to go and I'm on top of all the paperwork again. There isn't any rush with it, I could even take it with me when I move but I'll try and sort through it before I go. 

I'm still waiting for charity shops to reopen so I can get my final couple of bags to charity. They should be opening again soon here which is good news for me 👍 

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I've been going through paperwork this morning too.  What is it for me?  I'm obsessed with having the absolute minimum I need because everything seems to be extra something to worry about and everything seems to add stress and everything seems to be attached to bad memories.

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I wish I could let go of the memories that ruin all the "normal" family holidays like Christmas, Thanksgiving and yes Easter too. I haven't spoken to my parents or most of my blood related family in 5 years, but even still with the family that kinda adopted me in, I still can't stop the dark thoughts from coming in on days like today (well yesterday technically, it's 130am) and ruin the potential good day it coulda been. I know it won't happen over night but I thought after 5 years things would be a bit better then what they are currently.

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I wish I could let go of the self hatred I have. I blame myself for every terrible thing that has happened, and I don’t know how to stop doing that, I don’t want to live in this victim mentality bs. Also I’d like to let go of my dreams, almost every dream is either really violent or is about people that are no longer here, some of them are even about getting too fat and being stuck, I wish I could let go of that because I know it’s silly

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Health anxiety...rearing its ugly head at this time. Also, have so much stuff (purses, clothing items, etc..) I don’t use, some have never been used. Really need to do something with it. And I also need to stop buying more stuff I don’t particularly need or want. Just because it is on sale doesn’t mean I need to buy it!

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26 minutes ago, monicott17 said:

Health anxiety...rearing its ugly head at this time. Also, have so much stuff (purses, clothing items, etc..) I don’t use, some have never been used. Really need to do something with it. And I also need to stop buying more stuff I don’t particularly need or want. Just because it is on sale doesn’t mean I need to buy it!

That's me in the spring.  I go on shopping sprees.  I went shopping today.  Not a chance I could tell you everything I bought.  Buying anything makes me feel better.  It doesn't matter what it is.

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Shame. 

It's been said that nobody has ever shamed themselves into being a better or even a more content person.

Still, I try because what I have done became a pattern and neurons that fire together wire together (until a new pattern is woven).

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