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In General, what is the "direction" of handling anger or emotion?

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I don't want to bore you with a long story and nobody will want to read.

In short, I'm living in a very densely populated country where people

here are really and mostly bad, mean and ridiculous. This is not a widely

accepted view here but it's agreed by many local people. 

My emotion could easily get triggered by very small matter but I have

hard time dealing with it. In reality, you can't start a fight every time 

or every minute because someone unintentionally steps on your foot without apology, or when someone you don't know looking at you with a disgusting face.

This is something that I feel so annoyed. My life is affected. 

I have been getting counseling here for many years by social workers. However, I don't think I have too much progress.

I really wish my life would be changed, my emotion would be stabilized.

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Just now, louis2008 said:

I don't want to bore you with a long story and nobody will want to read.

In short, I'm living in a very densely populated country where people

here are really and mostly bad, mean and ridiculous. This is not a widely

accepted view here but it's agreed by many local people. 

My emotion could easily get triggered by very small matter but I have

hard time dealing with it. In reality, you can't start a fight every time 

or every minute because someone unintentionally steps on your foot without apology, or when someone you don't know looking at you with a disgusting face.

This is something that I feel so annoyed. My life is affected. 

I have been getting counseling here for many years by social workers. However, I don't think I have too much progress.

I really wish my life would be changed, my emotion would be stabilized.

The "direction" for handling emotion is from the stomach, up.  First, you feel a familiar sensation in your gut, and you react in a "familiar" way.  The bad way is a reaction from anger.  And you take the same path, direction, you always have.  Any conscious handling has to start with changing a reactive response.  You need to recognize the old pattern taking shape, and change it at that point, with your head.  Create a new, and more thoughtful, approach to the situation, and practice that.  That is you, handling the situation, instead of the event handling you.  It's easy enough to say, but if you're talking about changing a behavior, as opposed to psycho therapy, it might be a good place to start.  I'm not a mental health professional, and my thoughts are just suggestions.  Ask a counselor or therapist if this approach might be something you could try.  Good luck in creating a new route.

Bulga

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