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How to release anger quickly?

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To keep my long story short, I just try to highlight the important points.

I am living in a very densely populated country where people here are 

very mean, they are not only mean with their wallets, they are also very

mean with their mouth. No matter what you say they just tend to violently

speak against you and attack you without the real points, they don't use

guns but they like to use verbal violence at anytime, anywhere, without

any reasons, while at the same time, they believe that they are very right,

and they are very ..justified by all means which are definitely not the true.

 

I have no ability to change the world, however, I want to change myself.

I perfectly know that I can get angry very easily and I can become very 

angry. However, I can't figure out how I can do normally to put away my

anger. Local people also get angry very easily but they can just "attack"

immediately and say all the bad things with bad mouth in order to make

you feel bad. It's their way of releasing the anger. However, I am too weak,

I am not able to do that like them...

 

Any advice??

 

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Well, it is really good of you not to want to throw a stone for a stone because

no one really benefit from hurting one another.  So, the next time someone say or

do something bad😒 to you just say something positive or do something good to them.

When you repay good for bad behavior it just do something to the person that is being bad.

It's like dumping coal on that person head and your good deeds penetrates their thick skin

or their dark soul.  Give it a try and start watching how people begin to start responding

differently to you.😂

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4 minutes ago, Floor2017 said:

Well, it is really good of you not to want to throw a stone for a stone because

no one really benefit from hurting one another.  So, the next time someone say or

do something bad😒 to you just say something positive or do something good to them.

When you repay good for bad behavior it just do something to the person that is being bad.

It's like dumping coal on that person head and your good deeds penetrates their thick skin

or their dark soul.  Give it a try and start watching how people begin to start responding

differently to you.😂

 

Sorry, but from what I understand, you are believing / assuming that I am

having problems at the very first time so people treat me badly. When I 

am peacefully resting and people throw stones to me and I give them sweets,

hoping them not to throw stones to me any more? I never see such people, at least in my past many years of life.

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No, what I'm trying to say is if you keep a positive attitude about life regardless

of what people are doing or saying to you, you can smile about it and move on.

I just so happen to work in a environment where I have to deal with this on a 

daily bases.  I just smile and keep on going and what do you think happens 99%

of the time, I win them over and they become some of my closes associates at

work.  I'm telling you from 48 years of experience it actually works. 

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7 minutes ago, Floor2017 said:

No, what I'm trying to say is if you keep a positive attitude about life regardless

of what people are doing or saying to you, you can smile about it and move on.

I just so happen to work in a environment where I have to deal with this on a 

daily bases.  I just smile and keep on going and what do you think happens 99%

of the time, I win them over and they become some of my closes associates at

work.  I'm telling you from 48 years of experience it actually works. 

 

Before trying to keep a positive attitude to deal with some ridiculous people,

How did you kick away the immediate anger that came to you when they threw you stones?


Your idea is a utopia, but in reality most of us can only take small steps. I can't reach your

utopia in one minute

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I do understand you will have to try to take baby steps.  Well to be honest

with you I did not have much of a choice because it is a really good paying

job and I could not afford to quit.  So, I took control of the part I could control

me and I started to focus on ways that I could help to make myself happier in a

very hostile environment.  You do have the power to control yourself regardless

of what others might do or think of you.

 

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Try to take life one day at a time and try to be wiser today than you were

on yesterday.  In other words do not continue to trip over the same ole

things on a daily bases.  It is a waste of time to continue to allow life to beat

on you over and over again for the same ole thing.  You can not control the

foolishness of others but you can control how you respond to their foolishness. 

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2 hours ago, Floor2017 said:

Try to take life one day at a time and try to be wiser today than you were

on yesterday.  In other words do not continue to trip over the same ole

things on a daily bases.  It is a waste of time to continue to allow life to beat

on you over and over again for the same ole thing.  You can not control the

foolishness of others but you can control how you respond to their foolishness. 

So, how should I respond to the foolishness of others when they are doing something

that you hate so much, when they are speaking something that makes you feel so angry?

when they are pretending to be very justified while they are obviously selfish?

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Rule number one never allow your enemy know your weakness or what get

to you because they will use it every time to get under your skin.  Smile if

you must but do not allow them to know that it is tearing you up because

once the wound is open they will pour hot sauce to it to cause even more pain 

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A quote from Henry Rollins... hope it helps:

"Its good to be able to deal with anger somehow other than drinking, fighting, crashing cars, hitting your kid, your wife, your husband, your whatever.  Paintbrushes, pens, movie cameras, guitars, microphones, typewriters - - these are good things.  Weights.  These are positive ways, good ways to deal with anger, frustration, alienation, rage.  'Cause all the other ways do nothing but hurt people."

 

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On 7/19/2018 at 4:58 AM, Floor2017 said:

Rule number one never allow your enemy know your weakness or what get

to you because they will use it every time to get under your skin.  Smile if

you must but do not allow them to know that it is tearing you up because

once the wound is open they will pour hot sauce to it to cause even more pain 

Oh Yes... you read me.... I think I am not stupid, but I often unconsciously

reveal my weakness to my "enemy", But we can hide our credit card number,

we can hide our ATM passwords, but how can we hide ourselves? What can

I do to avoid people understanding me too much??

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Well when things get to you try not to show it is affecting you if you have to get out of the environment before you begin to lose your cool 😎.  Other wise you will begin to lose it.  Always think 🤔 before you react and try to stay in control of your emotions .

 

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