BPD; otherwise known as a trust-allergy?

[cheshire_chick]

What do you think. Sometimes I feel like I'm just straight-up allergic to feeling trust toward anyone.

 

[PoeticProse]

Hi cheshire_chick,

That certainly seems like a reasonable feeling.  Trust is not only extremely difficult and potentially beyond one's abilities, but creates a highly vulnerable sphere of existence that can cause a wide range of thoughts and feelings that could be just as severe as a reaction to an allergen.  Therefore, it is completely reasonable to want to avoid it like someone with a peanut allergy would avoid peanuts.  The major difference would be the reality that trust is something that plays a role in everyday life - in every encounter, every relationship.  

I'd definitely say that your post is an insightful one.

[tage]

I'm not convinced. I don't have a diagnosis of BPD, but I don't relate to other people in a 'normal' sort of  way, and the doctors have always treated this as abnormal. For some reason, they keep touting a trusting romantic relationship with someone of the opposite sex as the beginning of a cure to my major depressive disorder, which I find confusing and a little offensive, especially as they see me as abnormal for not wanting what they think I should. It may not be an 'allergy' to trust, so much as just being wired differently in general. But I'm not an expert.

[sober4life]

I know I don't trust anyone ever.  It's impossible to trust someone.  I always start with an automatic belief that people are bad and plotting against me.  I don't think there is anything a person can say or do to make me trust them.