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(I wrote/edited this over, making sure not to trigger anyone)

I'm was up late again :coophelp:.  This time, well everytime I don't need this.  But instead of first talking about my woes and miseries I want to say thank you to this forum, the brave members who wrote and posted about their intense unyeilding (obsession) or crush on a celebrity.  I had that once some years ago, it's was so strong I put myself back into therapy.  I didn't exactly tell my therapist, who would have understood--but like you all, me, i just felt so incredibly embarrassing to speak about it, ya know?  Being a grown up, I mean, who in their right mind has a crush and can't stop thinking about someone who they will never meet.  That was my reason for never talking aloud about it.  But I found a way to shake that crush, and boy was it intense!!  I remember like it was yesterday, I googled him to no end, printed out every picture of him, if I thought he had another I would moan and groan.  Then google her!  Thank goodness I'm not the type to reach out and do the contact'im.  No way.  Anyway in my mind I'm this horrific uggo blob of a person and he'd run screaming to the hills.  At least I'm not that delusional, so I thought, I am now talking out loud (when alone) like I'm some star being interviewed--this is so insane, but at least I know that, does that help??  UGH.  I replaced that crush with another which I found was as satisfying but not as intense--I also did a huge book I needed to write to make him fall in love with someone I was sure he couldn't resist (is this fanfiction?), and wow that kind of brought the crush to a fruition and I could let it go--and I had a replacement crush, I was writing, wow, the crush just left me.  But TODAY, good grief this 24/7 crush is something that keeps me from sleeping, I'm not hungry, and unfortunately (so many websites feed obsession) and celebs needing to document their every move just drives me crazy.  I'll fav a page, delete it, find another better than the last.  I'm trying so hard to find a replacement, another to crush on so I can get some sort of normalcy back in my life.  And I do have a life to get to.  I have some understanding of my behavior, being in therapy for almost 20 years, I suffer from depression (severe neglect/trauma within fam) and I believe, this crush is driving me because I need to feel like I could be beautiful too (don't we all want to be BELOVED!!?), I could be a star too, he'd run into me at a gala and fall madly in love.  Wow, I hate feeling ridiculous.  So, I googled how to get rid of an obsession, kept reading on and found YOUR page, you all writing about your crushes and I felt like WOW it's not crazy (well, ya know, we're not nuts, and we're not alone).  I'd hate to go back to therapy, because so many people are counting on me getting my act together and being here for them and therapy is so exhausting and time consuming and never nearby.  Costly, and I'm unemployed on disability. I didn't eat dinner.  I got off Xanax last year (after 20 yrs on it) and now I'm barely sleeping but thinking about "him/crush" makes me happy and makes me morbidly unhappy.  A reminder, silly, you're here again.  I need to deal with reality but it's so painfully boring and unsatisfying and, well, I want to say hello to everyone on this website here.  I joined today.  Thank you all for being open, honest, having this website and I know I won't make friends (I'll leave u before you leave me! :/ ),  but I'll hope you'll be nice to me.  YOu'll understand.  Thank you for that.  No I'm not going to bed, that's not till 7 am and then I'm up after two hours of sleep.  And to make this more horrible, this actor just got started and that means he's EVERYWHERE.  Ugh!  Least  on sundays (unnamed show) is on and keeps my mind off him for an hour.  But that series is about to end.  AM I posting this in the wrong spot?  I'm so sorry. :/

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Hi and welcome to the Forums Heather!

     The "Unhealthy Obsession with a Celebrity" thread here on the Forums is one of the most active, so you are not alone.  I myself have experienced that and more than once in my 62 years on the earth.  It can be both glorious and agonizing.  At least that is how I experienced it.   I think you will make lots of compassionate and understanding friends here on the Forums and I hope you find the Forums as helpful as I have.  Except for therapy and medication, I don't know what helps with obsession.  A type of psychology called Cognitive Therapy helped me a lot.   I generally try to turn any obsession I have with someone into something positive, like praying for them or sending them good will.  I'm sure others here will have better words for you than my poor words.  Wishing you all good things . . . all the very best.  - epictetus

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37 minutes ago, Epictetus said:

Hi and welcome to the Forums Heather!

     The "Unhealthy Obsession with a Celebrity" thread here on the Forums is one of the most active, so you are not alone.  I myself have experienced that and more than once in my 62 years on the earth.  It can be both glorious and agonizing.  At least that is how I experienced it.   I think you will make lots of compassionate and understanding friends here on the Forums and I hope you find the Forums as helpful as I have.  Except for therapy and medication, I don't know what helps with obsession.  A type of psychology called Cognitive Therapy helped me a lot.   I generally try to turn any obsession I have with someone into something positive, like praying for them or sending them good will.  I'm sure others here will have better words for you than my poor words.  Wishing you all good things . . . all the very best.  - epictetus

Hi Epictetus,

Thank you so much for responding.  I was trying to connect to the already established thread on here but new to navigating and couldn't find it.  Just posting on here has been a reprieve for me.  I believe, I hope I can snap out of this sooner than later.  If not, I do agree, going back to therapy will help.  But I sure hope I don't have to go back.  Anyway, thanks again for replying.  I'm really grateful this website is here.  And your words are not poor, they are appreciated :)

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I understand so well. Over my years I've had deep attractions for different people. It feels good to think about them and engage in activities like writing books about the person, but at the same time it leaves me so unfufilled. Knowing that they will most likely not have the same feelings about me (and I'm not even talking about sexually/romantically) sucks. Knowing that I'm sitting around focusing on them and their endeavors as opposed to something "more important" sucks. I feel like a loser or something. But at the same time they make me feel strong emotions - and it's rare that something or someone makes me FEEL something. It's all so confusing.

It's good to know that other people have experienced these obsessions, though; I thought I was alone for years.

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  • 6 months later...

Hello. I’m a 44 year old gay Male. My obsessive crush at the moment is not quite a celebrity but a YouTubeer iv been following on YouTube. I don’t know this person so it’s kind of a celebrity. Although this as just been for under a month that Iv had these feelings it is enough to make me cry and generally depressed. The only thing is I’m addicted to watching all his YouTube videos more than once a day. It probably hasn’t help with the depression bit that iv got issues with pay at work so I’m unable to decide which is which with me at the moment. I’m hoping both pass soon. I have sent this YouTubeer a few random messages on his Facebook page he’s set up. Iv not said iv got a crush on him though and iv had no response anyway and I don’t want to be done for stalking. I have had  fair few crushes on friends etc but never had or possible boyfriends but iv never had a relationship which I kind of want. It’s nice I’m not the only person with similar feelings. Some thoughts or advice would be great as well.

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Hey don't feel bad. I'm a 24 year old female and I used to have a massive obsession with Miley Cyrus. She's still my favorite celebrity but I no longer seek out all of her newest candids or even pretend to be her (I did once). You'll find something that will ease this obsession or distracting attraction. It's okay to feel that way just don't let it start to run your life.

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