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Long story short, I was rushed to hospital and couldn't call in sick. My job called me approx 16 times but my phone was left at home, they also sent me 3 letters after being unable to contact them for 3 working days. 

Now I have to have a disciplinary meeting with them to discuss it. I really hate that I'm going to have to completely open up to them and tell them all about my health issues,  just to give myself a small chance of not being fired. 

My depression is really making it hard for me to see the point in keeping this job, even though I need it. 

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I'm very sorry to hear about your hospitalization and job problems.  If you have proof that you were sick enough to be hospitalized, and unable to get in touch, wouldn't that be enough to excuse your missing work, without having to resort to giving your employer intimate details about your health issues?   

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I'm sorry you have to deal with your job issues when you are dealing with your health issues at the same time. It must have been really difficult. Sometimes, the best way to deal with it is to be as honest as you need to be. Hang in there!

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1 hour ago, Lumen said:

I'm very sorry to hear about your hospitalization and job problems.  If you have proof that you were sick enough to be hospitalized, and unable to get in touch, wouldn't that be enough to excuse your missing work, without having to resort to giving your employer intimate details about your health issues?   

Yeah I can give them evidence, but they seem to think there isn't an excuse for me not getting in touch, even told me I should have got my mum to call, my mum was terrified thinking I was going to die or something. Thanks for the advice and sympathies. 

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If you were unable to get in touch, and you have evidence that you were hospitalized, they probably have no right to discipline or fire you.  Your mother has nothing to do with this, as far as they're concerned, she does not work for them and has no responsibilities.  In the United States, if an employer were to do something like this, the employee would be entitled to a hearing at the Board of Labor, where there are experts in workplace rules and laws.  

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I thought i'd just put this on here, seeing as I don't want to make yet another stupid topic about my work related issues. 

They sent me a letter asking me to attend an investigatory meeting, for the 6th November? (sent on 30th march)  Its got to be an accident but it made me feel so awful, they can't even be bothered to spend enough time to put a letter together that actually makes sense.

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2 hours ago, anxiouspickle said:

I thought i'd just put this on here, seeing as I don't want to make yet another stupid topic about my work related issues. 

They sent me a letter asking me to attend an investigatory meeting, for the 6th November? (sent on 30th march)  Its got to be an accident but it made me feel so awful, they can't even be bothered to spend enough time to put a letter together that actually makes sense.

:console:  hugs!!

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I called them,  apparently it was supposed to be 6th of April,  I also called my doctor's surgery and requested a letter from them confirming my diagnosis. 

I have no issue with the investigation meeting,  I fully understand the need for it but I'm worried I won't be able to get my point across due to my stupid anxiety. I keep writing myself notes on what I need to remember to say to them; things like "my disorder is known by the company,  I was asked to disclose the nature of my disorder so that if something like this happened they could respond to it appropriately".  I also really want to tell them that sending me 4 letters and calling me every working hour for two days was completely inappropriate,  there was no way I could answer the call,  and I was in hospital,  so I didn't receive the letters. 

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Don't just think about what you want or need to say, write it down. You are more than allowed to bring a notebook to the meeting and in fact you should. You also need to take notes on everything they say and do. Any threats they make about your employment status you can take to a labor board. Including taking them to court. Like Lumen said, in the US, there are laws to protect people. I live in a "right to work" state. So employers can take lots of liberties on "getting rid" of people. But they best not get stupid or loose or they'll end up in legal trouble and monitary penalties. They don't like the bad press.

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Update: I had the meeting,  it was horrible and I felt like I wasn't ill enough for them. The ladies that did it were very nice to me but they obviously had to find out what went on.  I ended up completely being honest about my anxiety and cried in front of them that I feel trapped with it and when it gets that bad it's so hard to make myself do things that make me uncomfortable. 

Now I'm waiting for a phone call on their decision. 

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Good luck:) I hope they have a heart and understand mental health is the same as physical health .... and just as serious!

one good thing about opening up to them is it maybe easier to prove they are being discriminatory if they decide to take further action now that you've disclosed to them ...

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Happy ending: first day back was great, I really didn't want to lose this job as it is so mentally stimulating and rewarding to me which I've never had before. Thanks so much to everyone who has given me advice. I'm obviously on thin ice to a certain degree but that's OK, I'm just glad I still have this job. 

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