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As a parent or caregiver, you want the best for your children or other dependents. You may be concerned or have questions about certain behaviors they exhibit and how to ensure they get help.


What to Look For

It is important to be aware of behaviors that your child may be struggling. You can play a critical role in knowing when your child may need help.


Consult with a school counselor, school nurse, mental health provider, or another health care professional if your child shows one or more of the following behaviors:

  • Feeling very sad or withdrawn for more than two weeks
  • Seriously trying to harm or **** himself or herself, or making plans to do so
  • Experiencing sudden overwhelming fear for no reason, sometimes with a racing heart or fast breathing
  • Getting in many fights or wanting to hurt others
  • Showing severe out-of-control behavior that can hurt oneself or others
  • Not eating, throwing up, or using laxatives to make himself or herself lose weight
  • Having intense worries or fears that get in the way of daily activities
  • Experiencing extreme difficulty controlling behavior,  putting himself or herself in physical danger or causing problems in school
  • Using drugs or alcohol repeatedly
  • Having severe mood swings that cause problems in relationships
  • Showing drastic changes in behavior or personality


Because children often can’t understand difficult situations on their own, you should pay particular attention if they experience:

  •     Loss of a loved one
  •     Divorce or separation of their parents
  •     Any major transition – new home, new school, etc.
  •     Traumatic life experiences, like living through a natural disaster
  •     Teasing or bullying
  •     Difficulties in school or with classmates

Sen. Gordon Smith encourages others to "bring mental health issues out of the shadows."
What to Do
If you are concerned your child’s behaviors, it is important to get appropriate care.  You should:


  • Talk to your child's doctor, school nurse, or another health care provider and seek further information about the behaviors or symptoms that worry you
  •     Ask your child’s primary care physician if your child needs further evaluation by a specialist with experience in child behavioral problems
  •     Ask if your child’s specialist is experienced in treating the problems you are observing
  •     Talk to your medical provider about any medication and treatment plans

How to Talk About Mental Health
Do you need help starting a conversation with your child about mental health? Try leading with these questions. Make sure you actively listen to your child’s response.

  • Can you tell me more about what is happening? How you are feeling?
  • Have you had feelings like this in the past? 
  • Sometimes you need to talk to an adult about your feelings. I’m here to listen. How can I help you feel better? 
  • Do you feel like you want to talk to someone else about your problem? 
  • I’m worried about your safety. Can you tell me if you have thoughts about harming yourself or others? 
  • When talking about mental health problems with your child you should:  
  • Communicate in a straightforward manner 
  • Speak at a level that is appropriate to a child or adolescent’s age and development level  (preschool children need fewer details than teenagers) 
  • Discuss the topic when your child feels safe and comfortable 
  • Watch for reactions during the discussion and slow down or back up if your child becomes confused or looks upset 
  • Listen openly and let your child tell you about his or her feelings and worries 

Glenn Close talks about her family's experience with mental health problems, and the importance of talking and learning about mental health issues. "I challenge every American family to no longer whisper about mental illness behind closed doors," she said.
Learn More about Supporting Your Children
    There are many resources for parents and caregivers who want to know more about children’s mental health.  Learn more about:
    Recognizing mental health problems in children exit disclaimer icon, how they are affected, and what you can do

    Diagnosing and treating children with mental health problems exit disclaimer icon
    Talking to children and youth after a disaster or traumatic event exit disclaimer icon (PDF – 796 KB)


Get Help for Your Child


Get Immediate Help


People often don’t get the mental health services they need because they don’t know where to start.


Talk to your primary care doctor or another health professional about mental health problems. Ask them to connect you with the right mental health services.

If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help for yourself, your friends, your family, or your students



Seek immediate assistance if you think your child is in danger of harming themselves or others.  You can call a crisis line or the National Suicide Prevention Line at 1.800.273.TALK (8255).


SAMHSA Treatment Referral Helpline – 1‑877‑SAMHSA7 (1‑877‑726‑4727)

Get general information on mental health and locate treatment services in your area. Speak to a live person, Monday through Friday from 8 a.m. to 8 p.m. EST.

If your child is in need of community mental health services you can find help in your area.

Give Feedback here @ depressionforums.org and:
    U.S. Department of Health & Human Services, 200 Independence Avenue, S.W. Washington, D.C. 20201

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This is all great advice. It is so hard to know where to turn to or even what to do.

I think it can be hard for parents. We are often told that teenagers all go through this dark place and rebellion etc. while some do, others have different reasons for their actions.

As an educator, we need to be on the alert for the signs y have posted, and take the initiative in talking to the child or the parent. Sometimes it is easier for an outsider to see things.

Finally, I would also like to say that these observations are very valuable, but please be aware, that there are kids who never show anything, don't let their grades drop and slowly descend into the void.

Please look out for them as well. Sometimes being an adult and listening may be enough to hear what they are not saying.


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