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Cupcake_girl

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  1. I also have telephone phobia. I don't like to make or receive calls. I find them awkward and agitating. I put off the outbound calls and then stress out when I finally force myself to make them. When a call comes in, I'll only answer if I know the caller ID. I much prefer texting these days, because there are no awkward pauses and I can take time to think of my responses.

    I am sorry you have the same issue..

    I only pick up the phone if it's a close familymember our a close friend, other then that I don't. If ppl need a way to contact me I always give them my email instead of phonenumber, I always say I don't use my cell.. This is so stupid! Because like I said I have no problems with talking in reallife, that's why it's so weird to me but yeah. A friend told me once though ppl have 3 diffrent personalities. One online, one over the phone and one in person lol. I guess she has a point in that because a few friends of mine are a lot diffrent online and over the phone then in person. I think I just have an akward phone personality then..

  2. Yeah I struggle with the having to be the perfect everything as well... I'm very critical on myself so I guess that's part of the reason why I have this issue. And you are so right, when I do make a phonecall I'm always like, this HAS to go perfect otherwise the friendship will be ruined, our I screw up my career chances.. Like this whole part of my life depends on ONE phonecall. So stupid.. And I never really thought about that actually, that it's 50/50. I always automatically think that if something goes wrong it's my fault. I will probably have to change that so setting small goals would be good.. I'm gonna try that with my next phonecall.

    Anyways thank you Ep1ctetus, I appreciate it! :)

  3. Ok I don't know if this is the right forum for this so excuse me of it's not.

    Anyways so I was wondering if any of you are scared of the phone as well. I've been having this problems as long as I can remember. I mean whenever I have to make a phonecall I get so nervous, my heart starts pounding and when I dial the number my hands even start shaking. When the phone rings I get nervous as well but it's less then when I actually have to make the phonecall myself. I try to avoid the phone as much as I can so when I'm home alone I just let the phone ring and if there's any way I let my parents make the call for me, at 21! Even if I call up a good friend I get nervous, it can take me up to an hour before I finally have the courage to dial the number! Usually when I call for a while I get calmer but as soon as I hang up I start analyze every single thing that has been said... Even if the other person says he/she enjoyed the call! Lately I've started to call ppl up more often just for practice because I will need to make lots of calls for my new intern but it just doesn't seem to get easier. I stumble with my words and I just can't focus on what that other person says because I am too busy trying to distract myself from my nerves. This is so weird to me because I don't have any problems with a reallife conversation. Does anyone have this problem as well, our has some advice?

  4. Aw that is great :)

    I started keeping journals as well during my worst time wich is almost 3 years ago. I read them over a while ago and I couldn't believe certain things I wrote. I never really realized it back then but I was so sick.. So yeah, I am grateful for my journals because it allows me to see all the progress I've made so far. I'm doing SO so much better then then. Even just a year ago! It's a world of change really...

  5. 1. I finally found new pillows for my room

    2. I went swimming for almost an hour so I got my excersise for today

    3. I called up my friend I haden't talked with for over a month. I always get very nervous about making calls but it went very well. I had missed her a lot so it was great to hear her voice and we filled eachother in on a lot of things lol. When she hang up she even thanked me for calling her!

  6. I like my body. I wouldn't say I LOVE it though because the're still certain parts I really dislike but overall I'm happy with how I look. I use to hate my body though. I've always been overweight and I've been bullied a lot with that, I also got a lot of negative comments from my family so that absolutely made me hate my body. But last summer I lost quit a few pounds and I finally look normal and I can just fit in normal size clothes. The past year I've also gotten so many compliments about my weightloss and body.. It's still a little weird because I never heard those kinds of things but after a year I'm finally starting to believe it lol. So anyways yeah, I like my body, it looks just like a "normal" womans body and even more important, it's healthy! So no reason for me to hate it any longer :)

  7. Well, I'm a homosexual woman. Though I don't really "look" like one. I've never been in an intimate relationship with any man, so I don't really know if I ever was attracted really (though I do find male celebrities to be charming, but that's just in the movies, lol).

    Yeah same here, I do find men acttractive but that's just on the TV lol. I can't really imagine myself ever falling in love with them.

  8. Aw well you tried and did your best, you can't ask much more from yourself I think, so don't feel like you messed it up.

    Oh ok, I'm sorry you don't feel well. I understand you want to seperate yourself from the other people but if you want to feel part of the team, you should get involved with those people and do an effort for that.. I can't make something more of that, I'm sorry. So if you have the energy for it yeah definitely join your coworkers during lunch. I'm pretty sure they will not see it as you being desperate. Just be interested and ask some questions. Most people enjoy telling a new person about there job ;) I think they will just see you as a nice and friendly person if you make that effort. Good luck with it :)

  9. Oh ok, I'm sorry about that.. I know it's scary but maybe you can ask them why they don't say hi anymore? Maybe it's just a simple explanation.. But at least you would know why then, it's better then assuming things right? How long do you have left at your intern actually? I wouldn't give up yet. Just be you, be friendly and work hard. There isn't much more you can do actually I think.. But don't give up, try to stay positive and do your best :)

  10. Hi xora

    I think StoniumFrog has a few really good points. Did anyone really said they hate you? I think you are being way too harsh on yourself. I understand were you come from though. I had several interns myself and at non of them I really felt comfortable and at my place. It's always a little akward because you're new, and your just temporary there. I myself always think everyone thinks I am stupid, but you know what? Most people really don't think so. I asked at my last intern how they saw me and they said I was very nice and did really well. I couldn't be more suprised honestly.. So just try to relax and stop thinking they hate you. As long as you do your best and work hard I am sure they will like and appreciate you :)

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