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  1. Oh, my heart goes out to you, friend. I know dealing with a break-up like this isn't easy--especially if you feel like it came out of the blue. And like Epictetus shared, being a single mom is tough, and it's understandable you're discouraged about not having the possibility of this man being a father to your child any longer. So, I'm glad you felt free to share your heart here. Just having someone to talk to can make a huge difference. And, along those lines, have you ever considered any therapy? If you are struggling with depression, it's really key to get in touch with a professional. Or, another thought would be finding a local support group--and a counselor could probably recommend something of that nature. So, just a couple things to think about. But, in the meantime, I'll certainly be keeping you and your daughter in my prayers...
  2. Thanks for the update, belle. I'm glad you're starting to understand your struggles with your BF a bit more, and, hopefully, when you meet with your therapist next, they'll also give you some insight. I'll be praying that's the case, anyways!
  3. Hi bellerose~ Well, it's understandable you were hurt by his comment, and it can definitely be hard to let go of that and trust again. I know you said you're seeing a counselor--have they had any thoughts to offer you on how get past this? It sounds like you've talked with your boyfriend about this issue, but maybe they'll have some tips on how rebuild that trust and what you should expect from him support-wise. You also may want to think about joining a local support-group. Just meeting face to face with others who know what you're dealing with can go a long way-and might also take some of the stress off the relationship with your BF. Just a thought...
  4. Well, first of all, your daughter is fortunate to have your support and encouragement. And I know it's hard as a parent to watch your adult child not seeking the help they need (and feeling helpless to know what to do about it). But you sound like you've made a good start so far with providing her with the crisis number and other info. Another thought might be to see a therapist on your own and get some tips from them on how to respond to her. I'm sure they've seen similar situations and they'd be a great source of information. Or, if your daughter would be willing to read some material, there's tons of books out there on depression (and again a counselor could probably recommend something good) that might give her some behavioral techniques to try. So, just a couple thoughts to consider...
  5. Hi Thegooch~I just caught your post and I'm sorry you're struggling right now. And you have every right to share honestly how you're feeling-that's what we're here for :). Also, if you are struggling with depression/anxiety, then a lot of the emotions you're describing kind of come with the territory. So, as hard as it can be to make work, usually, therapy/seeing a doctor is your best option for getting this treated. Although I understand that your work can make that difficult. But, if at all possible, I'd encourage you to try to find a counselor, or maybe even a support group you could meet with in your area. And, hopefully, you'll eventually find a job that will make your life a little stressful and allow more time for your family. But know that we all go through these hard seasons where things can begin to feel a bit hopeless. There is light at the end of the tunnel, so don't give up hope, friend. And know that someone out there is praying for you!
  6. Thanks for the update, tenant. I'm glad you're considering going the route of a school counselor. I know it can get frustrating finding the right fit with a therapist, but I hope you're able to have a good experience this next time. Keep us posted on how it goes, OK?
  7. Hi tenant10~ I'm glad you're reaching out for some support. I know it's easy to isolate yourself when you're facing emotions like you shared, but it can make a huge difference just to be able to talk about this with someone who understands. So, along those lines, have you ever thought of trying to find a support group or counselor in your area? I realize you're not comfortable at this point with seeing a doctor, but perhaps this would be a good first step to take. And, like Tim suggested, your school might be a good starting point for finding something like this. Or I've heard of support groups like Celebrate Recovery that might be helpful if you wanted to look them up online. But it would be difficult to say for sure what you're dealing with without seeing some sort of professional-as hard a step as that is to take. So, just something to think about. I'll keep you in my prayers in the meantime...
  8. Thanks for the update, atheos. I know it's so hard to hold steady, and hope you'll see changes in him from the therapy. But it's good he's at least willing to see someone and work on these issues. And, hopefully, the issue of accepting blame will come up in his counseling. But, in the meantime, I'll keep you guys in my thoughts and prayers...
  9. It's definitely tough being in a relationship with someone who struggles with depression. But I agree that working with a therapist is probably your best option here. And you may want to think about couples counseling again. Hopefully, a counselor could help him understand who's responsible for what in this relationship, as well help you work through any co-dependency issues. I think just having a professional second what you're feeling can go a long way...
  10. That's great to hear, scienceguy! Keep us posted on how it goes... #girlluvs2garden#
  11. Hi scienceguy~ Well, it's definitely hard to feel isolated, and I think help from others can make a huge difference. And where that support comes from can vary from person to person. But it sounds like you're trying to find ways to reach out to others, so don't give up hope. It takes time to form the type of relationships that can help us during times of depression. As far as how much you should be depending on others, I guess I would wonder what your therapist thinks. I can't imagine they don't want you to have friends or family in your life-unless they are toxic relationships pulling you down. Have you thoughts of finding a local support group? That might be a good way to connect face to face with others and see how they're coping with loneliness, etc. Just a thought! #girlluvs2garden#
  12. You're so welcome, friend! I hope your daughter's appt goes well tonight and you're able to get some guidance on what steps to take next. Keep us posted, and I'll definitely keep you in my prayers... #girlluvs2garden#
  13. Well, I totally understand that it's hard to stop cutting, and finding other ways to cope with your emotions can be tough. But it would seem that indulging in something like this just puts you back on the path to cutting. So, perhaps it would be a good idea to let your therapist know you're struggling with this, and see if she has some other coping mechanisms to suggest to you during the times when you can't see her. Maybe even find a support group in your area, so you can speak directly to someone who knows what you're going through when you're facing the temptation to cut or scratch? I've heard of an organization called S.A.F.E Alternatives that might help you find something like this if you want to google them. I think they also have articles on there that might give you some suggestions on things you can do to keep yourself from cutting, as well. For instance, I know I've read that finding ways to keep your hands busy when you're stressed, like sketching, scrapbooking, journaling, cooking, etc, can be good solutions depending on your interests. So, just a couple thoughts. Hope they help! #girlluvs2garden#
  14. Hi friend~ Well, first of all, your daughter's so fortunate to have such an obviously loving mother on her side. A lot of times, parents don't recognize when their kids are struggling or depressed, and I know that seeking professional help early on can make a huge difference. So, good for you for being proactive about this. As far as meds, that's a tough one because what works for adults may not always be best for their kids. But have you had a chance to ask your pediatrician his/her thoughts? If they have a history with your daughter, they may be the best ones to comments on this. With that said, I don't know if this will help, but I did find an articles on teen depression at http://bit.ly/1KOHZh0, and I've heard the book, Is Your Teen Stressed or Depressed? by Dr. Archibald Hart has some good guidance in it (there's a whole section on medication and teens). So, maybe those would be worth reading through? Just a thought. In the meantime, you and your daughter will be in my prayers. Keep us posted on how she's doing. #girlluvs2garden#
  15. Hi friend~ Well, my heart went out to you as I was reading all you've been through. I'm so sorry for the loss of your wife, and that the treatments for depression you've tried so far don't seem like they've been very helpful. I don't blame you for wanting to explore all your options. And, as far as getting started, have you though of maybe trying a doctor that specializes in more natural treatment? Maybe a homeopath or something like that? It seems like they would be pretty knowledgeable about vitamins/herbs/etc. Too, I would think you'd want to make sure that anything you try doesn't interfere with any other medicines you may be taking, as I know that can come up with certain vitamins, etc. So, just a thought... #girlluvs2garden#
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