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DreamAgain last won the day on February 27 2012

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    Art, music, my husband, my Bichon, computers, children and grand children, trying to improve my physical and mental health. I play piano and guitar when I am able. I compose when I am able....

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  1. Been away for awhile...life catches up sometimes. My stepfather died. I was ill for over a year. Also, just couldn't face reading about certain things which trigger my own condition. So, now I am thinking about the forum, at least for today. Hope everyone is well. 

  2. Welcome to the DF. You definitely have a lot on your plate. It isn't easy to raise children and make a go of a good marriage and still keep up with your own goals and desires. Definitely try and do something for you. Work on your own self esteem. Jealosy is never good, but after you reassure your husband...in the end he needs to trust you. Wishing you the best.
  3. Welcome to the DF. Sorry you have been going through so much. You sound like a very intelligent person who can figure things out. Sheepwoman seems to have some good leads. Wishing you the best.
  4. The key to forgiveness is repenting, turning around and not being a practices of what is bad. Yes of course we all fall short of the glory of God, but we are flesh and bone. Don't despair, keep trying, keep praying for forgiveness. Feed your mind with positive thoughts. Cast away badness. 1 Corinthians 15:33 bad associations spoil useful habits. You can find the strength from God to do what is right, prayer, association, put serving God first. Matthew 6 God is love, 1 john 4:8
  5. Hi mucha.. I managed a web development team, working from home for over a decade. At times the only people I spoke to were during conference call. I often worked 16 hour days, sacrificing my mental and physical well-being. My husband was so patient with me. I had a nervous breakdown and ended up on disability...I guess what I am trying to say is you are not alone. I am glad you found the forum. This is a wonderful place to let out your feelings, put them out into the universe...I found this forum to be so therapeutic and freeing. I also found it helpful to join a exercise group, go to counseling, follow-up on medical needs, basically take care of yourself.
  6. Hello Lycan, Welcome to the depression forum. So happy to meet you. If you have been depressed for awhile you might want to get medical help. Counselors are very helpful and sometimes medication is necessary. Sorry you have been feeling bad for awhile. I hope you can find support. Please take a look around and hopefully your google translator will be able to give you accurate and good information that you can use.
  7. Dear Bcbbmom, It seems like you are doing all the right things, definitely counseling is the right way to go. Your daughter needs a trained therapist to talk to and you might also consider family counseling. I applaud your strength and will to stay sober. I raised two children. My ex-husband was an alcoholic. I watched them go from happy trusting to suspicious and unhappy, especially my daughter. My husband had been in and out of the house due to horrible behavior from the drinking. The turning point was when my husband went to our daughter and said "If you accept daddy back into your life I promise not to drink anymore." He should never have promised not to drink because he could not/ would not keep that promise. When he started drinking again she because very bitter and angry. I think that was the point where he lost her forever. Their relationship was never repaired. He died from hitting his head from being drunk. We all went to counseling. The children went to an al-anon support group for teens. My son was in a special program for boys. Both had big brother/big sister. I did everything I could to help and support them. Fast forward to current, my daughter is in her thirties, has to children of her own. She is a nurse and has a loving husband. She still has problems but is doing pretty well. I still see her moodiness and anger rear it's ugly head but she is aware of it and fights it. I love her so much....and of course hope for the best. My son has his own business and a daughter that he is raising. I am proud of both of my children. I guess what I am trying to say is to encourage you to keep doing what you can to support your daughter and that it should all work out in the end. Al-anon for young people/teens is a great place for kids to talk and to related to other children. Get support for yourself and take care of yourself and your own sanity. I wish you all the best in everything...
  8. Dear Anglcsprt, I had a solution-based therapist and learned so much. I did address some of my past on occasion but found it was better to focus on the her and now and how to get through today rather than rehash the past over and over. We cannot change the past but we can change today and how we react. I did finally have to do some work with having been sexually abused and he had an exercise for that as well. I say go for it. Hopefully, like me, you will come out of it with many exercises you can apply when and as needed for daily life. I feel like it was the best thing I could have done for myself.
  9. Hi Nienna! Welcome to the Depression Forum. I have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety, struggled with it for years...Everything finally came to a head in 2010 when I had an emotional breakdown. I ended up having to go on disability. I also have physical limitations that add to my disability. So, yes I can definitely relate. I am also married. My husband is a very loving man and pretty easygoing...so at least I have that. However, he is impatient and I have to be careful not to push his buttons. It is hard enough to maintain a healthy relationship when things are going well but when you have no control over your environment and where you are living it is even more stressful. Years ago, during my first marriage, my husband and I lived for a time with my step-father. It was totally stressful so I really feel for you. I know it is difficult but if you could put aside just a little bit each month so you have enough for a down payment to move you would probably be much better off. The recommendation is to have 3 months of salary...I know that sounds impossible but it can be done. We need much less than we think and so much is wasted on things like eating out and impulse spending. Regarding medications...Check out the medication section and you will find that there are a few that you can take that will not cause weight gain. Check with your doctor. Also, I found it helpful to go to a counselor to get helpful tips on how to get past anxiety attacks. I also take Xanax for my attacks and only when absolutely necessary. I find that it is easier to deal with the anxiety during the moment it happens than to take drugs 24x7 so I only take a Xanax when I need it. Finally, if you have medical insurance and can see an endocrinologist you might want to get a full workup. I found out that I am vitamin D deficient and that the deficiency can cause S.A.D. (Seasonal Affective Disorder). I now take 10000 MG daily of Vit D3 and am feeing much better. I wish you all the best and hope things get better for you.
  10. Welcome Unbridled27, I have also suffered from sleep deprivation...for years now really...I wake up every hour, never sleep more than 4 hours at a time and that is a good night. It is definitely worth getting help for. There is a long list of things you can do to help like making sure you get to bed at a decent hour, have a process you go through to get ready for bed, stop watching TV at least an hour before going to bed, having a cup of chamomile tea or other nice comforting drink...light reading....distress...There are relaxation exercises, tapes and more. I like this one where you envision taking a walk in the country...and you come across a box and put all of your problems in the box. You can come back later and get them but for the time-being you put them in the box and continue on your walk... Eventually you come across a beautiful open-air yurt type building where you can lay down on pillows and blankets. There is no danger, no problems, only a light breeze, a trickling stream nearby and birds chirping...You lay down to rest...all you are aware of are you deep breaths and peace all around enveloping you....You are finally able to sleep. Anyway, try and picture this or something similar that will help you. I wish you all the happiness and glad you are here.
  11. Hi Blueman85, Yes, I've been in the deep dark hole before. I also repeat my mistakes in my head and torment myself doing it sometimes. My therapist has told me that I need to focus on positive things. Also, there is a mental exercise you can do when you are having and OCD moment. Stop and focus on 5 things in the room...you can pick out 5 colors or 5 objects in the room. The point is to get you focused on the her and now. Where you are now not in the past. Anyway, glad you are giving your meds a chance. It does take time for them to become effective.
  12. Dear olivesmama, Welcome to the DF. So sorry you are going through so much. The forum is a great place to start. I would also recommend AA, and Gamblers anonymous. Membership is anonymous and you can get support and help to beat your drinking and gambling problems. Your mother obviously knows what is going on so maybe if you express to her that you are going to start with AA and work through the steps and then report progress back to her it would help. Holding yourself responsible for your actions is very helpful. Also, get a sponsor, very important. Just remember every day is a new day and there is no better time than today to start. I wish you the best.
  13. Welcome to the DF. Take your time, read some of the articles on the forum. There is so much supportive material about depression that could help. Definitely good to check with your doctor. There are so many professionals in the medical fields that really care and want to help. Counseling has helped me tremendously to sort out my feelings and come up with a plan of action on what to do when I have my anxiety and depression attacks. Glad you are here...there are many caring and supportive people on this site as well to talk to and express yourself. Take care and hope you get the support and answers you are looking for.
  14. Welcome to the DF Shovelbison, So glad you found the forum. There is so much on this site that could help including many fine people that are loving and supportive. I have found that sometimes the most important thing we can do is listen and be there for others and by doing so we help ourselves. I wish you success in the changes you are making in meds and better eating etc. I am trying to do the same thing and I have my good and bad days.
  15. Hi tmichl, Welcome to the DF. Glad you posted. There are a lot of really good articles and educational materials on the forum. Please take your time to look around. Noone is alike, some have depression, others anxiety, others have social issues, eating disorders, childhood abuse, etc. This forum is really supportive. Hopefully you will find it useful and supportive. There are so many nice and supportive people on the site as well. Hope to hear more from you in the future.
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