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Ace445

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  1. I will keep that in mind when I'm feeling anxious. Thanks again LibraryLady!
  2. Since no one has posted back on this thread for a few days, I might as well give you guys an update. We've already established that the first day was pretty bad for me anxiety wise. I was expecting the same amount, if not more, anxiety the next day. Turns out the next day went a lot smoother than I previously thought. I actually had a pretty good day, and was thankful that my anxiety wasn't so bad. Hopefully tomorrow will be just as good if not better. Though everyday isn't always a good day, or perfect for that matter. Which is why I want to hear from you guys still. I want to hear what helps keep your anxiety down, so that when I am having a bad day, I can think back to this thread and hopefully get through the day. I'm still waiting to hear from Ep1ctetus, hopefully this will get his/her attention and will help me out. I appreciate all the comments you guys posted to this thread. Anyway, hope to hear from you guys soon!
  3. I would be interested in hearing your techniques for keeping anxiety down and see if I can apply it to my life and whether they will help or not. Seems to work for you so it's worth a shot.
  4. Hello once again folks! It's that time of the year again, the first day of school. My anxiety is at an all time high this year. Normally, it's not so bad, but yesterday was terrible anxiety wise. It ended up being a very stressful day for me. Anyway, that was yesterday. Today is the second day of school for me. I'm hoping today won't be as bad as yesterday, but my anxiety is tough to deal with. That is why I'm turning to you good people. I need help with just getting adjusted to school and my new classes until my anxiety starts to settle down. I'm a junior by the way, so this isn't new to me at all, just really stressed out this year I guess. So here's my question, how do YOU guys keep your anxiety down when you're in a stressful situation?
  5. You mean platonic friends? I once had a platonic friend (which means your friends with the opposite sex), but we stopped talking after awhile. Most unfortunate, but I guess that's life. And thank you for the compliment! I really appreciate it! :D Most people don't go around telling me how nice I am and stuff, so it's nice to hear a compliment occasionally. Anyway, haven't had much luck recently, but I guess I'll keep on trying. Easier said than done, I know, but it's something I gotta start doing.
  6. Unfortunately, I live in Montana, so there's more rednecks here than anything. :P So finding other girls with similar interests (ex. into computers) is tricky because quite a few girls are more into guys that toy with cars or play football than computer nerds. Another thing is, I've had several chances to start flirting with girls in the past, but I always blew it. I guess I'm just not good with picking up body language and natural ques. Either that, or I'm too nervous to start flirting with them. So I always get stuck in the "friend-zone" with another girl, but I will still be very much interested in dating them. It makes it hard to talk to them since I get nervous around them, and eventually our friendship becomes awkward because I can't work up the nerve to talk to them again. Oh well...I guess I'll have to keep on trying. I just don't know where or how to start. I get way too nervous around girls sometimes :(
  7. Ok, so a few of you guys said to be myself around girls, and let me clear this up. I try my best to be myself around girls, even though not a lot of girls appreciate a big computer nerd like me. Especially at my school. Maybe this is why I'm having a hard time finding someone that will appreciate me. I mean, I'm in high school, and all the girls are usually after the douchebags and the jocks, not nerds like me. There's not too many girls at my school that will appreciate someone for their personality instead of their looks. And this is one of the reasons why I'm having a hard time finding a girlfriend at my school. Another thing is, I'm not exactly looking for a hot Biotch with huge **** and a nice ***. Sure that would be nice, but if they have a horrible personality, that's more of a turn off than anything. On the other hand, I tend to avoid the extremely ugly girls at my school as well (maybe this is another reason why I'm having trouble with girls :P). Unfortunately, most of the girls at my school who ARE nerds don't really appeal to me as attractive enough. What I'm really looking for is someone who I will find attractive enough, but yet will have a personality that I can be compatible with. Someone who will be into computers as much as me, but yet won't be lacking in looks. I don't know, maybe I'm just setting my standards too high. By the way, I appreciate the advice guys! Although most of it is stuff I've already read about on my search to attracting and talking to a girl. But the fact that you guys took the time to read my post and reply is very awesome! :D Thanks again guys!
  8. I don't know if this is the right place, but here goes... I haven't had much of a male role-model in my life, so I'm not very good with girls. The thing is, I have a "dry" sense of humor, so most girls don't laugh when I'm trying to be funny or they just don't get the joke. I have quite a few guy friends that can appreciate my sense of humor, but when it comes to girls, they just don't get it. I'm going to assume that that's one of the reasons why I have a hard time with girls. But it may be for several other reasons as well. Maybe I'm too ugly, or too annoying. Maybe I'm not funny enough or maybe I'm boring to talk to. I don't know. No matter what girl in my school I talk to, they don't seem interested in me. I'll usually talk to them once, and then I'll never see them again. So people of the Depression Forums, any advice for a guy like me?
  9. I would love to bring it up to her about it, but the problem is, I would rather do it in a face-to-face conversation. I haven't had much opportunity to do that though since we've only seen each other once since we started talking again. A serious conversation like that probably wouldn't go so well over text, and it would be more appropriate to bring it up in we see each other again. The next time we hang out, which won't probably be for a long time, I'll try to bring it up. But for now, my options seem limited...
  10. I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but here goes... This is a long story, so I'll try to make it as short as possible. I know a girl who had recently started contacting me again after an unfortunate event that happened about 2 years ago. We will call her Sarah to prevent her real name from being shared online. Now, I had only "met" Sarah through Facebook, but she lives in a small town two hours away from where I live. She used to go the school I was currently going to, at the time, about a year ago before she moved up to this small town, so she shared a lot of mutual friends with me. And that's one of the reasons why she added me. Another reason was because she knew my current ex, so she helped me a lot with getting through the rough breakup. Anyway, things were going great. We talked quite a bit online, although we never actually met in person, until she dropped by at my 8th grade graduation party. We had actually planned to meet up at the graduation because I was interested in meeting her in person, and that was pretty much the only available time she could actually see me. But of course, being the socially awkward me with social anxiety, the meet up did not go very well. We walked up to each other, said hi, exchanged a few words, nervously of course, and that was it. I wanted to talk to her again after that, but I just couldn't work up the nerve to. So, I apologized to her over the internet for being such a nervous wreck, and she understood. So now, jump ahead a few weeks, and our online friendship is going pretty well! Keep in mind, though, we weren't actually dating, we were just friends. But that suddenly changed when July came around. We were still talking like normal, but one day, out of the blue, I get a message from her that were paragraphs long saying a whole bunch of nasty s*** about me. I read in disgust, and tears began to fill my eyes as I was reading this horrible message. She said nasty and negative things about me, like how creepy I was and how much of a computer nerd I was. How I had no life and that I needed to stop sending her constant messages and go do something with my life. I was literally crying by the end of the message. How could she say all that horrible stuff about me when our relationship was coming along so well...?? So now, jump about 2 years forward to March. I go to sit on my computer, and I do my daily check-in on Facebook. The first thing I noticed was a new message and friend request. Huh, that's pretty weird. I never hardly get any messages when I go on Facebook (or friend requests for that matter!). I click the drop down for the messages panel, and lo-and-behold. A new message from Sarah. My heart literally sank after that. I suddenly remembered the events of that summer, and that terrible message. I read the first few lines from the preview, and I could instantly tell that it was an apology. But I didn't want to read it...It was too much for me to handle at the moment. I just didn't want to have anything to do with her ever again. I eventually read the message, and I noticed how much Sarah had changed. The message seemed genuine enough, and she was willing to have our friendship back. I was reluctant though, so I gave myself a day to think about it for awhile. I realized, I'm still a nerd to this day, and I still have no life. Why would she suddenly want to talk to me again if she meant all those nasty things she said? I told her how much of a mistake she was making. I told her I'm still pretty much the same person I was 2 years ago, only this time I'm more mature and that I'm going through depression. We exchanged long messages over Facebook for awhile, and It seemed that she was really willing to start our relationship again. Although, I've had second thoughts about it on and off for the past 2 months, and I'm starting to wonder if I made the right choice. See, here's the problem...At first, we would talk for hours over text up until the point of bed time. We even arranged plans to meet up and hang out for awhile at my house. And if you were wondering, things went some much better the second time around, although I could tell she was still pretty nervous around me. Recently, though, she's been kinda funny with the way she's been communicating with me. Mostly, we'll talk for awhile, and then suddenly she won't respond, claiming the next day that she passed out or she shut off her phone or something like that. I can understand that, but she's been doing it a lot lately. It even got to the point where she just shut off her phone completely for awhile, and I was unable to contact her until I sent her a message over Facebook asking what the heck was going on. Now, my trust with her is not very good because of that event that took place over the summer, so I sometimes have a hard time believing her "excuses", and I'm left wondering if I'm talking to her to much or if I'm the reason she keeps turning off her phone. I just can't tell where this relationship is going at this point... So what do you fine folk think I should do? Was this a dumb idea to give her a second chance in the first place, or should I keep trying? We've been talking on and off on Facebook for the past week, but she just doesn't seem like the same person that she was about 2 months back. Keep in mind that I mainly just talk to her either over text or over Facebook. And I know, there will be some of you folk out there who will probably say, "Why don't you talk to her over the phone or hang out with her and talk to her FACE-TO-FACE!?" And yes, if it was a perfect world, I would prefer that kind of relationship with her. Unfortunately, I have a hard time talking to girls over the phone, due to my social anxiety, so I prefer the texting method, even though I've wanted to call her several times. I just can't work up the nerve too... Another thing is, she lives in the same town she lived in 2 years ago. And I live in the same house I lived in 2 years ago. So 2 hours might not seem that bad, but the ride to and from this small town is about 4 hours, plus the cost of gas, which is a big issue for my family at the moment. So due to financial issues and stuff, I've only been able to hang out with her once since we started talking again. If she lived any closer, I would love to hang out with her more often! But that might also cause problems with my social anxiety as well, though it's not as bad, for some reason, as talking to girls over the phone.
  11. I actually do find myself quite intimidated by a list! But starting small seems like the best way to go. I also never thought of adding items to a list as I finish other tasks, something I will definitely take into consideration. As far as the homework goes, that's an interesting study on that. I always thought you were more productive when you just plowed through it in one sitting. Obviously, this is not the case :P. I will have to try taking small breaks every 30 minutes when I start doing homework again. Maybe that will help me with actually getting it done. If that helps, I will also try applying it to other small chores I may have to do around the house and see if that helps. Doing something is always better than doing nothing, I suppose. Also, congratulations on getting started with yoga and meditation in the morning! That can be very hard to force yourself to do, especially in the morning where you would, in your case, rather watch TV. :P Anyway, thank you all for the advice. It's awesome to see such a community of people willing to help each other out. I really appreciate the advice you guys are giving me and I will try and start applying that advice into my life. Thanks again everyone. You guys are awesome! :D
  12. No my therapist does not handle my medication. But my psychiatrist and therapist communicate between each other when they need to. So yes, they are in close communication. I'm not sure if I'm suffering from the same enzyme deficiency you are talking about, but I'm currently prescribed to Prozac so that concerns me. It does sound quite complicated but I'm on a pretty low does, only 15mg, so I don't think that's it.
  13. I actually like that idea! I know starting small is the most common way to get motivated but I never thought about applying it to homework and stuff. I'm just really lazy I guess :P I'll have to try that starting tomorrow. I just hope I can stick with it, even when I am feeling low. Btw, any suggestions for a reward? I like to play video games occasionally, but some days I just can't get into them. Would that be a good idea for a reward or something else? Yeah no pressure to start today I guess. I skipped school today anyway (again :P) so I might as well just start tomorrow. I will try the list thing and see how that works for me. I also occasionally walk outside when I feel like it. It's an awesome feeling just getting out of the house. But sometimes I can't get myself to go for a walk if I'm feeling really down. I have an "awesome journal" as well where I used to write good and positive things about what I have done during the day, but I completely forgot about it after awhile because I never used it. I might have to try writing in it again, and see how that goes. Oh and here's an Internet hug back. :D
  14. Hey guys. It's been awhile since I've been on here but I need help again. I'm a sophomore in high school and I'm currently struggling with depression. I'm taking anti-depressants and I see a therapist every week but I'm still very unmotivated to do anything. For example, I don't do my homework at all, I hardly ever brush my teeth (gross, I know), I don't exercise even though I've been meaning to start exercising for a long time. I'm just not motivated to do anything really. Small chores seem like the end of the world to me. I would rather just sit on my computer or lie in bed all day. So tell me guys, what are your ways of staying motivated? Whether it be doing a big project or just doing some small chores. I'm really concerned about my failing grades right now, but I just don't give a crap about doing my homework anymore. And there's a lot of other things I've been meaning to do, but I just can't get around to doing them. Any tips would be very appreciated at the moment!
  15. Yeah I completely agree with you when you say that being with other people bums you out. It's like that for me too sometimes. Sometimes therapists don't understand that being with other people is gonna bum us out, so they just assume that being with other people is going to make you feel better. Have you tried telling your counselor that being around people doesn't make you feel any better? If you haven't, then you probably should so he/she will understand your situation better. Hopefully things will get better for you with your medication, as it seems you're struggling to find something that works for you. I wish you the best of luck!
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