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candy22

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    candy22 reacted to violeteyes in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    Yes this is so true.  Why are people like this?  Why do they have an agenda?  I've also found these people to be vampires they just suck the life right out of you.  
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    candy22 reacted to lily22 in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    ...and being unable to communicate those things either because no one wants or cares to hear it, or there just is plan no one there to hear it.  I use to get so frustrated at that, that I would shout at the night, but then in turn realized the utter futility of doing that. It was a growing cycle of frustration that I just learned  to bury and ignore like everything else about my life.  Anymore I just get bitter, so I don't think about it.
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    candy22 reacted to duck in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    I have found the majority of people out there are leeches.  They always demand something from me.  
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    candy22 reacted to FreeSolo in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    In Johann Hari's book 'Lost Connections', he talks about loneliness.
    He talks about one way to make more meaningful connections with people. And that is to have something in common with them that builds a strong connection. One way to do this is hobbies.
    For example joining a tennis club, a book review club, a chess club etc.
    Is there something that you like doing where you can make a meaningful connection with someone?
    I'm part of a tennis group and that makes me feel better. One of the guys there I talk to about depression, any problems I have etc.
     
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    candy22 got a reaction from Kogent5 in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    I deal with a great deal of loneliness. Nobody checks on me but with the exception of my mother or therapist. I have reached out to old friends months ago but nobody has texted or called me since then. I can go months with out anyone contacting me whatsoever. Like nobody truly cares about me. And before you say I should reach out I have but it would be nice if someone contacted me first. I feel like I’m not valued and I feel worthless. I know it’s a pandemic going on but I dealt with a lack of friendship and loneliness for years now. 
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    candy22 reacted to lily22 in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    That's the truth. I've had no one since 1975. So sick of being alone I can't stand it. I've tried all the 'cutsy' things people come up with to try, but that ran out long ago. I so long for the touch of another human being so I know I actually still exist in this world. I come so close to giving up so often. How long can a person be alone and have no one and not go  nuts from lack of human companionship? This life really holds nothing anymore.  There is no joy or meaning when you are constantly alone.  Human companionship makes life have some value, but without it, there is none. 
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    candy22 reacted to duck in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    Some people never return my calls.  I just call and leave a message letting them know I am thinking about them.  
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    candy22 reacted to Maxx55 in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    I definitely understand what you are going through.....all of my friends don't check up on me. Only my father and a couple of cousins along with some people I work with actually seem to give a damn.  
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    candy22 got a reaction from Lorax in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    I deal with a great deal of loneliness. Nobody checks on me but with the exception of my mother or therapist. I have reached out to old friends months ago but nobody has texted or called me since then. I can go months with out anyone contacting me whatsoever. Like nobody truly cares about me. And before you say I should reach out I have but it would be nice if someone contacted me first. I feel like I’m not valued and I feel worthless. I know it’s a pandemic going on but I dealt with a lack of friendship and loneliness for years now. 
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    candy22 got a reaction from Nightjar in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    I deal with a great deal of loneliness. Nobody checks on me but with the exception of my mother or therapist. I have reached out to old friends months ago but nobody has texted or called me since then. I can go months with out anyone contacting me whatsoever. Like nobody truly cares about me. And before you say I should reach out I have but it would be nice if someone contacted me first. I feel like I’m not valued and I feel worthless. I know it’s a pandemic going on but I dealt with a lack of friendship and loneliness for years now. 
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    candy22 got a reaction from anon22ae in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    I deal with a great deal of loneliness. Nobody checks on me but with the exception of my mother or therapist. I have reached out to old friends months ago but nobody has texted or called me since then. I can go months with out anyone contacting me whatsoever. Like nobody truly cares about me. And before you say I should reach out I have but it would be nice if someone contacted me first. I feel like I’m not valued and I feel worthless. I know it’s a pandemic going on but I dealt with a lack of friendship and loneliness for years now. 
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    candy22 got a reaction from duck in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    I deal with a great deal of loneliness. Nobody checks on me but with the exception of my mother or therapist. I have reached out to old friends months ago but nobody has texted or called me since then. I can go months with out anyone contacting me whatsoever. Like nobody truly cares about me. And before you say I should reach out I have but it would be nice if someone contacted me first. I feel like I’m not valued and I feel worthless. I know it’s a pandemic going on but I dealt with a lack of friendship and loneliness for years now. 
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    candy22 reacted to mmd in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    Yes, me. I dont feel that people dont care about me or devalued, but I really dont have people to talk besides some family, which is just that, family talking. 
    I pass days alone, and only talk a bit with some online contacts, but its not a meaningful chat.
    Ive been like this since 5 years and maybe a little more.
    I finally get used to this. But anyway is not easy.
     
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    candy22 reacted to jkd_sd in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    Oh!  How did I forget about that one?  I used to wish I waited a little longer to give them a chance to call.  Of course, I finally realized it made no difference -- they would never have called.  
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    candy22 reacted to sober4life in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    I can't count how many times I've heard I was just going to call you!
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    candy22 reacted to Bex5 in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    I think that when dealing with the loneliness and those feelings, it's good to just be caring to yourself and remind yourself that you are worthy, and also to try to do as much self-care as possible. I think that loneliness is sometimes underestimated because it's such a difficult emotion that can affect everything.
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    candy22 reacted to sober4life in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    I know how you feel.  I've been doing this on my own for 2 and half years now.  Nobody cares what happens to me whatsoever.
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    candy22 reacted to jkd_sd in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    I definitely understand this.  There are people who, when I contact them, respond that it is so good to hear from me and really seem to mean it; but they are never the one to make the first contact.   It is nice to feel like someone thinks about you enough to make the 'first move'.
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    candy22 reacted to Floor2017 in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    I totally can relate to what you are saying that it would be nice if some people reached out to you instead of you always having to reach out to others
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    candy22 reacted to Floor2017 in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    You know if I did not reach out to other hurting people I would not have anyone to talk to me. People only
    seem to need me when they needs help, but it is ok.  I like having their company and I like helping others.
    They are not taking advantage of me because I love to help if I can.  I chose to take the road less travel.
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    candy22 reacted to Bex5 in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    I totally understand being lonely, or just not having a lot of interaction on a daily basis, and I hope that you're alright.
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    candy22 reacted to duck in Anyone deal with extreme loneliness?   
    I have friends but I still struggle with loneliness. I feel I cannot communicate my true feelings to my friends.   Many of my friends suffer from anxiety, depression, and ptsd like me but they do not understand me sometimes.  
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    candy22 got a reaction from Camellia in Disliking the family you were born into   
    First and foremost, I know every family has their problems and issues. So, telling me that is not helpful. I just don’t like the family I was born into - nothing but chaos, drama, rejection, mental illness, narcissism, abuse, etc. My dad suffered with severe mental illness and my mom is pretty much overbearing at times. Sometimes I just wish I had a different family. Even as an adult, I still think this. Anyone feel the same way? 
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    candy22 reacted to sober4life in Disliking the family you were born into   
    Of course I feel the same way.
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    candy22 reacted to Tymothi in Disliking the family you were born into   
    I was lucky to be born with a single loving parent who, to this day, will do anything just to make me happy.
     
    But I did know a terribly at-risk girl from the East Coast who was in an extreme, similar circumstance. One day her desire to survive outweighed her desire to have a family and, without money, friends, or leads, she packed up all her stuff in a junky car and moved two states away alone, never to return. This was ten years ago, and not only is she now professionally fulfilled, artistically prolific, and free of 90% of the diseases her family inflicted on her, but she has also since married the love of her life, and after seeing how happy she became, everyone in her family consistently begs to visit her. Considering the state she was in when she arrived, I've never been more proud of anybody in my life.
     
    Of course, I'm certainly not suggesting you run off and cut all ties or anything like that (this girl's circumstances were extreme, and therefore so was her response). But I can say that the world is a huge place, and sometimes all it takes is distance. Even small amounts of it. Even just a little bit in the mind.
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