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Thanks for your words of encouragement. I appreciate your response so much. I don’t know what the future holds for me but like you said I deserve a good life. Yes, I believe one day he will realize I am a good woman but by that time I may have moved on.

I was with my boyfriend for several months. But, a few weeks ago, he “ghosted” me and blocked me from everything. (Ghosting is a term in the dating world that means a person disappears and stops all means of communication with a person they are dating or in a relationship with.) I remember my last conversation with him. I asked him was something wrong and he said it wasn’t and that he would call me back. He never did. I tried to reach out but no reply. This has caused me to fall into a deep, deep depression. I’m so devastated. I feel like I’m losing my mind. I go to therapy but I still feel like the pain of this is too unbearable.

I wasn't trying to attack you. Sorry if it came off that way.

I have been single my entire life. I’m a female in my early thirties. I never had a relationship (no boyfriend). Recently, it’s starting to bother me more than ever (guess because my birthday is coming up). I guess it’s that a lot of people are already married with children yet I can’t even get a boyfriend or date. I’m worried because I really want a family before I’m too old. I socialize and hang out places, but seems like most guys are in their own little world or just not interested in me. I also don’t have any friends. I don’t know what’s wrong. But, it’s driving me crazy. I don’t know if depression plays a role in this.

I was granted disability. Thanks for the advice. Hooray!

I was granted disability. Thanks for the advice. Hooray!

I was granted disability. Thanks for the advice. Hooray!

I have been on a few dating sites for a year. There has been a share of losers on there. Lol. And the ones that I did connect with are somewhat far. I was thinking of traveling to meet one of them though I wish he would come here first. I agree with you. The dating pool may be better somewhere else. I would love to move if I had the funds to. I will consider it.

No, You're definitely not ugly. I looked in your album. You're cute. Yeah, I hardly meet single people either. It's rare. Everyone's married or dating it seems. I had to limit my time on Facebook because it really was bothering me that everyone had someone. It's frustrating but oh well. Sometimes, I start to believe that maybe some people will go their whole life without anyone. It's sad.

Thanks for responding. Yeah, I'm definitely a late bloomer. I'm behind in more areas than I want to be. Lol. Well, I try to hide my anxiety and depression from others as best as I can.

Thanks for responding. I have tried the approaching part but the guys ended up not liking me. Twice. I usually don't agree with girls approaching guys though. I guess I'll continue socializing. I've been doing a lot of hobbies and going out but still seem to attract nobody.

Thanks for your response. I believe you are right that certain behaviors in a relationship can be destructive. But, again, I've seen women have all kinds of personalities and have obtained a man. I am in fact not a downer most of my depressive episodes I hide. Most people think I'm am funny and happy. So maybe I'm just doomed somehow LOL

Thanks for your reply. Okay. If you don't mind me asking, what attracted you to your wife if she had low self-esteem in the beginning? Not trying to come off as rude but wouldn't that be a red flag if you knew it could cause problems.

I stumbled upon a video on YouTube. I think the guy in the video is some type of counselor. Anyway, the guy states a girl can be pretty and yet if she lacks confidence it will be hard for her to attract men. I mean I'm sure he means well. But, I have seen plenty of women with low self-esteem have boyfriends. In all my thirty one years, I have been told numerous reasons why I don't have a boyfriend. People give me every excuse. I mean I've met all kinds of women with different personalities who find boyfriends. Mean girl at work has a boyfriend. Unattractive neighbor has a husband. Cousin who cheated on her boyfriend is still with him and he forgave her. Bossy friend has a boyfriend. Rude, obnoxious sister has a boyfriend. Yet, I can't seem to get a man's attention or boyfriend. I lost weight. I smile. I dress nice. I joined clubs/hobbies where guys are. I worked around guys. I'm friendly. I think I should just give up and give up on hopes of having a family. It's frustrating and even my therapist is puzzled.

I often feel the same way. I see person after person getting married and I haven't even had my first relationship at 31. I never dated. I graduated from college nine years ago, I just had a series of lay offs, workplace bullying and low wages. Currently, I'm unemployed. Life is so rough. I can't I afford a car or to live on my own yet. Also, like you, I have health issues and chronic pain. I don't have any friends and I'm always broke. I don't have any advice just want you to know there are people just like you -- ME.