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  1. Hi there and welcome! I can definitely relate to the hours spent daydreaming and what you said about feeling lonely and not being able to form meaningful relationships because I have the same issue. I think it’s good that you’re seeing a therapist. I saw one a few years ago and while it was nice to talk to someone, it didn’t result in me changing my behavior. But in my case, I wasn’t going specifically to help me get rid of my obsession although I did mention it to her. Although I would ideally like to have better relationships in real life, I don’t really want to stop obsessing over my favorite celebrities in order to do it. I know that I haven’t excelled socially in life, but I don’t blame my interest in celebrities for that. It’s just a coping mechanism and security blanket and I think it’s less harmful (for me) to indulge in my celebrity obsessions rather than something that could potentially be more dangerous. So I accept that I’ve done this all my life and will continue to do it, but if it’s causing you distress, I think you’re doing the right thing in trying to get help. Don’t be embarrassed to talk to your therapist about it or even other people you trust because you definitely aren’t the only one who’s going through this.
  2. I don’t know if I’d consider that a “perk”, but I agree that learning negative things about a celebrity can be disappointing. I feel like I’ve been lucky that most of my favorite celebrities have really good public images. Some of them kind of seem too perfect and of course I know no one is perfect, but I appreciate that they at least try to put out a positive public image for their fans. Of course there’s also the fact that the people who I like the most aren’t super famous, so it’s not like the paparazzi/media are following them around all the time looking for dirt on them.
  3. Hi there! I definitely think that feeling unfulfilled in certain areas of your life (for example, romantic relationships) can lead to these celebrity obsessions. I’m not saying that that’s the case for everyone, but I can certainly relate to you saying that you’ve never had a boyfriend before. Even though I’ve dated people, I’ve never gotten what I wanted out of a romantic relationship and they’ve never been like I imagine that they should be in my mind. So my obsessions are definitely something that I use to cope and distract me from thinking about what I’m missing in my life. So it sounds like you’ve been obsessed with the same person for 18 years and never any other celebrities? I actually don’t really have any advice that I’ve followed myself for how to get over a celebrity obsession. I’ve gotten over some of mine, but it was never because I was actively trying to get over them. It just happened naturally and I lost interest (in my case, I just move on to another person). But since you do feel like this is having a negative impact on your life and you want it to stop, then I think you definitely have to limit your social media time. If he is a person who is always involved in drama and you feel like you have to defend him, then that’s going to keep stressing you out. And I think that you have to realize that the person who you fantasize about is not really HIM so that it won’t disappoint you so much when you hear things about him that make it clear that he’s not really the person who you’ve made him out to be in your mind.
  4. Hello there and welcome! 🙂 I can definitely relate to what you wrote about your obsessions happening suddenly and spending hours looking them up. That’s basically the story of my life. My latest obsession started last month and came on suddenly, and I’ve been in an obsessive haze ever since. lol It’s fun for me, but also makes me feel like an immature and slightly pathetic person. I’d feel like an immature and slightly pathetic person even without the celebrity obsessions though, so it doesn’t really matter. I don’t think I’ll ever really stop having obsessions and I am not actively trying to stop having them. I only wonder who the next one will be since my interest usually starts to wane after about three months.
  5. A personal gift from your CO? That's awesome! I can understand not wanting to say too much about it though. Meeting my CO was pretty much a blur like I expected it to be. That's why I'll need to do it multiple times! lol There were probably less than 20 people ahead of me in the meet and greet line, so I got up to him pretty fast. I hadn't really planned out much to say. I was just like, "Hi CO! It's so nice to meet you!" And I think he said, "Hi, how are you?" and then he said something about my phone case matching his shoes. lol So after we took the picture, I do think I was coherent enough to look at him and say thank you instead of just walking away. But what was really nice is that I also had front row for the concert, so even though the meet and greet was short, I was still able to just stare at him for a few hours up close so that was great! Our picture together turned out nice too, so I was not disappointed.
  6. Yes, it definitely happens to me with celebrities and there's already a thread about it: https://www.depressionforums.org/forums/topic/150729-celebrity-obsession-help-or-support-2/
  7. This thread has been so quiet. Did everyone get over their obsessions? I did not. lol But I've been doing fine. I was recently able to meet my main CO for the first time (but hopefully not the last), so I'm happy! I hope everyone else is doing ok too. 🙂
  8. Don't worry, I'm sure that person has already forgotten about it and is not going to stalk you on YouTube. I think Rami is cute too, by the way! I have a little crush on him, but it's not at obsession level. 🙂
  9. I’m pretty sure it wasn’t a big deal, but you can delete your YouTube comments. I’ve changed my username too without having to start a new account.
  10. I don’t have a CO who I’m really super obsessed with right now and I’m kind of sad about it. I had a new one who I was really into this time last year. 😞 Maybe in 2019...
  11. Hey, I’m still around! I’m just not currently having any CO issues so I haven’t had anything to post. I’m not sure why you need to hate Josh to get over him? Hate is a strong word. I was very into an Instagram model for a few months. Not even a famous Instagram model, but just kind of a regular guy who models sometimes. I never really tried to get over him, but one day I just completely lost interest in him and didn’t understand why I was so obsessed with him in the first place. A friend of mine did tell me that he wasn’t that cute (LOL) when I initially started obsessing over him, but I just couldn’t see it for myself then. But now I feel like an idiot for how obsessed I was and the things I did to get him to notice me (like sending him a birthday gift). I was successful in getting him to notice me, but now I don’t even care and I even unfollowed him on Instagram. None of this is his fault, by the way. A switch just flipped in my brain and I was no longer interested in him just like that. Hopefully that will happen for you too instead of you ending up hating him. It takes mental energy to hate someone, so I don’t think that would be helpful.
  12. Oh don’t worry, I’m already over the 22 year old (although I’m still a fan). My current main obsession is in his 40s, so this one teenage boy didn’t send me down a path of obsessing over more teenagers.
  13. @BlueStarr, thanks for your input. I’m not surprised that you’re responding the way you are because I’m sure all of this sounds weird to other people. But I know what my intentions are and I know that I’m not sexually motivated in general, so it’s not about that for me. Nor would I try to read between the lines and assume that @Myshka meant anything other than what she’s told us.
  14. It’s not wrong to be a fan or find him attractive (despite what people on the Internet will tell you). You and I definitely aren’t the only ones who think that he is. I do understand your concern because I was worried about whether something was wrong with me too at first, but I know that I have no ill intentions toward him or anyone else. I’m not sure how long this has been going on for you, but the intensity of my feelings for him did mellow out after a few months after another celebrity (who happens to be 22) caught my interest. So I was a bit relieved that I had found someone else who I could publicly fangirl over and not be shamed for it. Not that there was anything wrong with me being a fan of the guy you’re talking about (and I still am a fan), but there are definitely people who just won’t get it and will try to make you feel bad about it.
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