Jump to content
Donate Now Read more... ×

1966michigan

Newbie
  • Content count

    17
  • Joined

  • Last visited

About 1966michigan

  • Rank
    Newbie
  • Birthday April 27

Profile Information

  • Gender
    Female
  • Location
    Southeast Michigan
  • Interests
    Dog obedience, travel, reading, boating, watching tv

Recent Profile Visitors

The recent visitors block is disabled and is not being shown to other users.

  1. 1966michigan

    Running out of rope

    Thank you for your reply. Thank was good of you to follow up. I’m sure you were trying to help. I know that giving up my dogs would be the worst thing I could ever imagine. It is a tragedy for the poor homeless dogs left behind in the storms or from financial hardships. The hoarders aren’t helping them either. I’m quite sure the lady with 30 dogs suffers from some severe mental illness. The original poster sounded like he had other things he could change to get out of debt, so hopefully he’ll consider his budget very carefully and get rid of the expensive car and any other unnecessary items. Some people don’t realize they’re living beyond their means. They eat out almost every day and buy coffees every morning, along with other expenses they can’t afford. Brand name everything, expensive haircuts and other luxuries. These are easy ways to pay off debts quicker. Luckily I’ve always been good with money and try not to buy things I don’t need. I’ve still got horrible depression, but no debt.
  2. 1966michigan

    Destined to be single forever

    Remember that you don’t always know what goes on behind closed doors. Sure, many people are happy with their lives and don’t have to deal with depression, but these people you see as “perfect” could have all sorts of bad things going on. Like / Alcoholic in private, hits each other, are in debt for more than you could imagine, been abandoned by family, been abused, etc... No ones life is perfect. We have to find what makes us happy and make the most of it. Whoever this girl is, why does her opinion matter so much to you? She’s not perfect. No one is. If she has to brag, then she’s obviously insecure about something as well. She’s also not good friend or relationship material for you, so stay away and find someone who is worthy of your time. I know I’m guilty of spending too much time on people that weren’t worth it, but live and learn. i also have terrible depression and have been divorced. My life is far from perfect but I’m trying to live one day at a time. The people in my life are ones that deserve my time, not selfish, condescending jerks. Good luck to you.
  3. 1966michigan

    Running out of rope

    I’m sure mnml won’t see this, but I am sickened by the reply from Here2help2 to get rid of his dog! Not only did he say it was like his child, but a dog is a living creature who has feelings and unconditional love. I can attest to the fact that a pet can definitely help with depression. Without my dogs, I wouldn’t want to get out of bed on days I don’t work. A mindset like that is why so many dogs get killed in shelters every day.
  4. Thank you, yes I am in therapy as well. It is a lot of stress. My dad, who was 93, fell and hit his head and passed away that day. He forgot his walker coming out of the bathroom. He had not been sick and was still doing quite well for 93, including driving. It was quite a shock! Now my mom is very unsteady and forgets her walker all the time, plus lives in a two story house and climbs the stairs every day. She Refuses to move or go into assisted living. I realized in the back of my head that every day I worry that she's going to fall. I can't get it out of my head. It's not always a conscious thought, but it's always a worry in my subconscious. UGH
  5. Absolutely not. That would be illegal. They could both lose their licenses. Give it Time. They take a while to work and the first medication may not be the right one for you. Don’t give up.
  6. 1966michigan

    Cannibidiol (CBD) usage

    I tried the CBD oil capsules for a bit. Approximately 30mg/day. I thought they gave me a little boost at first but as I kept taking them they didn’t really do much for me. Everyone is different though so worth a shot. A lady I know through work does the drops under her tongue and she said they helped her depression and help with fibromyalgia quite a bit! It was CBD hemp oil tincture 1500. I think she said she does a couple/few drops 1-2x day.
  7. I’ve currently been on Effexor XR 150mg for over 10 years. I’m a 51 year old female. Before that I was on Paxil, but gained weight and felt lethargic. I was also on Xanax in the past, but am not having panic attacks at the moment! I have been extremely depressed over the past year or so. I make it to work but don’t want to do anything social. I am dealing with an aging Mom that is very depressing and stressful She is forgetful and unsteady but refuses to move out of her big house. My Dad passed away 04/2015 so she lives alone. Plus failed relationships and that loss, etc... plus throw in perimenopause. Do you think I could benefit from adding or changing antidepressants? Could they possibly be losing their effect since I’ve been on them so long? Thanks for any tips or help!
  8. 1966michigan

    Another bad day, I am scared

    I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Dont be ashamed. Things happen. Scars add character ;) However, I'm worried that you might get an infection in your hands if it's been that long and they still look bad. Be careful. You may need medical attention. i know it's hard to face, but hiding it from everyone will only make it worse for you. face your fears. Show them and get it over with. What is the worst thing that can happen if they see them? Hang in there & best wishes to you.
  9. 1966michigan

    Good Pets for Depression?

    It depends on how much work or interaction you want. Ferrets are very friendly and love to play, but need a lot of attention. Guinea Pigs are also super friendly and just like to hang out, eat and be petted (they need daily vitamin C to remain healthy). Birds are cool and interesting, but not cuddly - if you want something to pet. Green Cheek Conures are full of personality. Cockatiels can also be nice. You can teach them both to whistle and talk. (Just don't get a Sun Conure - noisy!) Some hamsters can be quite bitey, but not always. They are also nocturnal so they're up all night running on a wheel. Bunnies can be nice, but can hurt themselves or you if not held right (strong back legs).
  10. I'm sorry for what you're going through. Depression is hell. If she won't help herself, there's no way you can help her. She's never going to get better that way. It may be time to move on. Have you asked her why she won't get Therapy? best of luck to you.
  11. 1966michigan

    Do Antidepressants Actually Work?

    Antidepressants saved my life. Without them, I wasnt able to function. I couldn't go to work. I couldn't even concentrate to read a book or even a magazine! Its true that some don't work. Some work on one person and not another. We are all individuals and our bodies react differently. I am not hollow inside. I agree is can dull certain things, but it can also help many, many people to get through the worst thing I could ever imagine. I wouldn't wish depression on my worst enemy!!!
  12. 1966michigan

    Therapy & remembering

    Thank you all for the advise and uplifting words. Lots of good tips and encouragement. benswah, I like the idea of trying to lie down. Maybe that will help. I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time too. It's nice to have people to relate to. skblue, I like the recording idea. Maybe I'll give that a try. I've been to different therapists over the years and some were definitely Wrong! She does a good job, realizes I'm struggling and she is trying different stuff and is very helpful and encouraging with comments and questions. I'm just trying to figure out how to dig deeper so I can feel better. mistral001, that makes sense. Thank you. I know we can't remember everything. I have a great memory for the present things, numbers, names, ideas, etc... But it's the past stuff that is just so fuzzy. I realize I won't remember it all, but I can't remember any. Maybe it will come in time. I've always been hard on myself. I think the perfectionism makes some things worse. I think I'm supposed to be doing better and of course am impatient and sick of feeling this way. Thank you all.
  13. 1966michigan

    Therapy & remembering

    Hi guys. Help, please? It is really frustrating being stuck in such a hopeless spot. I've had depression for years and been on medication 20 years. It helps, but for the past year or so, I don't look forward to anything. I don't want to do anything social. I read, watch tv and surf the web. I go to work full time and really like my job (thank God) but at home I just want to stay there and sleep. I love hanging with my dogs. I used to do little projects, cook, bake, date, etc... Now I don't really feel like doing much of anything ever. I feel so bad that I'm not even excited to go to my best friends wedding. I'm 51, divorced, no kids, 2 dogs, college degree. My dad passed away 2 years ago and I'm caretaker to my mom once a week (physically), but mentally I worry about her daily. She's frail, lives alone, won't wear a fall alert button and forgets her walker/cane its very stressful. My brother & wife live several hours away, so aren't here to help much. I was in a long term relationship until about 3 years ago, then did some dating, but now I don't even feel like doing that. I'm in therapy 1X week and really want to get better, but I also can't remember much at all from my childhood. I can't get out my current feelings, memories and life either. My dad was a recovering alcoholic who stopped drinking when I was 5 and apparently yelled at my brother during that time (he was 16 when my dad stopped drinking). He probably yelled at my mom too. She won't talk about it. I can't remember Anything from my childhood. I look at the old pictures and know it's me, but don't remember anything about those days. She said I may not remember because it was scary. I also have a hard time thinking of things to tell my therapist. I like her and she's easy to talk to, but I just clam up. I've always had a hard time talking about my feelings, but I know I need to, if I want to get better. She thinks it's a self defense mechanism so I can cope. How do I get these memories to the surface? How can I talk about my feelings easier? I want to stop burying stuff! Thanks for any advice or tips.
  14. 1966michigan

    Need Some Feedback

    Seek out a good therapist. If you are already going thru PTSD from a past relationship, imagine how bad it will be adding this onto your list. This man sounds like he needs to control & belittle you. If he can't handle that you're taking meds to get better or not eating enough veggies - you need to run (not walk) far away. Best of luck and wishes for strength. It's hard to be in a bad relationship, but sometimes harder to get out of one.
  15. 1966michigan

    If I Can Get Everyone's Opinion Please?

    It sounds like depression to me. I agree with a previous poster about going to a doctor and therapist. We cannot diagnose, but only guess from our experiences. I feel the same about many of your comments. I have depression and anxiety. I love to sleep. I don't go out much, but when I do, I just think about coming back home. It didn't used to be this way, but as more bad things have happened (two divorces and a couple failed relationships = fear of loss) in my life, it seems easier to stay home & hide. Luckily I have a full time job that I love and get out of the house for. I don't have unlimited funds. My mom is in Mensa. I haven't taken the test but may qualify. I think that in itself is part "curse" personally. I wish I could turn off my brain sometimes & not over analyze things. I have a bf who i live with, but he gets depressed & is also antisocial. I want to be more social and have more close friendships but I'm just unmotivated and want to be in the comfort of my home. I hope you find out what is going on & feel better soon!
×