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About 1966michigan

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    Southeast Michigan
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    Dog obedience, travel, reading, boating, watching tv
  1. Another bad day, I am scared

    I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Dont be ashamed. Things happen. Scars add character ;) However, I'm worried that you might get an infection in your hands if it's been that long and they still look bad. Be careful. You may need medical attention. i know it's hard to face, but hiding it from everyone will only make it worse for you. face your fears. Show them and get it over with. What is the worst thing that can happen if they see them? Hang in there & best wishes to you.
  2. Good Pets for Depression?

    It depends on how much work or interaction you want. Ferrets are very friendly and love to play, but need a lot of attention. Guinea Pigs are also super friendly and just like to hang out, eat and be petted (they need daily vitamin C to remain healthy). Birds are cool and interesting, but not cuddly - if you want something to pet. Green Cheek Conures are full of personality. Cockatiels can also be nice. You can teach them both to whistle and talk. (Just don't get a Sun Conure - noisy!) Some hamsters can be quite bitey, but not always. They are also nocturnal so they're up all night running on a wheel. Bunnies can be nice, but can hurt themselves or you if not held right (strong back legs).
  3. I'm sorry for what you're going through. Depression is hell. If she won't help herself, there's no way you can help her. She's never going to get better that way. It may be time to move on. Have you asked her why she won't get Therapy? best of luck to you.
  4. Do Antidepressants Actually Work?

    Antidepressants saved my life. Without them, I wasnt able to function. I couldn't go to work. I couldn't even concentrate to read a book or even a magazine! Its true that some don't work. Some work on one person and not another. We are all individuals and our bodies react differently. I am not hollow inside. I agree is can dull certain things, but it can also help many, many people to get through the worst thing I could ever imagine. I wouldn't wish depression on my worst enemy!!!
  5. Therapy & remembering

    Thank you all for the advise and uplifting words. Lots of good tips and encouragement. benswah, I like the idea of trying to lie down. Maybe that will help. I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time too. It's nice to have people to relate to. skblue, I like the recording idea. Maybe I'll give that a try. I've been to different therapists over the years and some were definitely Wrong! She does a good job, realizes I'm struggling and she is trying different stuff and is very helpful and encouraging with comments and questions. I'm just trying to figure out how to dig deeper so I can feel better. mistral001, that makes sense. Thank you. I know we can't remember everything. I have a great memory for the present things, numbers, names, ideas, etc... But it's the past stuff that is just so fuzzy. I realize I won't remember it all, but I can't remember any. Maybe it will come in time. I've always been hard on myself. I think the perfectionism makes some things worse. I think I'm supposed to be doing better and of course am impatient and sick of feeling this way. Thank you all.
  6. Therapy & remembering

    Hi guys. Help, please? It is really frustrating being stuck in such a hopeless spot. I've had depression for years and been on medication 20 years. It helps, but for the past year or so, I don't look forward to anything. I don't want to do anything social. I read, watch tv and surf the web. I go to work full time and really like my job (thank God) but at home I just want to stay there and sleep. I love hanging with my dogs. I used to do little projects, cook, bake, date, etc... Now I don't really feel like doing much of anything ever. I feel so bad that I'm not even excited to go to my best friends wedding. ☹️ I'm 51, divorced, no kids, 2 dogs, college degree. My dad passed away 2 years ago and I'm caretaker to my mom once a week (physically), but mentally I worry about her daily. She's frail, lives alone, won't wear a fall alert button and forgets her walker/cane its very stressful. My brother & wife live several hours away, so aren't here to help much. I was in a long term relationship until about 3 years ago, then did some dating, but now I don't even feel like doing that. I'm in therapy 1X week and really want to get better, but I also can't remember much at all from my childhood. I can't get out my current feelings, memories and life either. My dad was a recovering alcoholic who stopped drinking when I was 5 and apparently yelled at my brother during that time (he was 16 when my dad stopped drinking). He probably yelled at my mom too. She won't talk about it. I can't remember Anything from my childhood. I look at the old pictures and know it's me, but don't remember anything about those days. She said I may not remember because it was scary. I also have a hard time thinking of things to tell my therapist. I like her and she's easy to talk to, but I just clam up. I've always had a hard time talking about my feelings, but I know I need to, if I want to get better. She thinks it's a self defense mechanism so I can cope. How do I get these memories to the surface? How can I talk about my feelings easier? I want to stop burying stuff! Thanks 🙏🏼 for any advice or tips.
  7. Need Some Feedback

    Seek out a good therapist. If you are already going thru PTSD from a past relationship, imagine how bad it will be adding this onto your list. This man sounds like he needs to control & belittle you. If he can't handle that you're taking meds to get better or not eating enough veggies - you need to run (not walk) far away. Best of luck and wishes for strength. It's hard to be in a bad relationship, but sometimes harder to get out of one.
  8. If I Can Get Everyone's Opinion Please?

    It sounds like depression to me. I agree with a previous poster about going to a doctor and therapist. We cannot diagnose, but only guess from our experiences. I feel the same about many of your comments. I have depression and anxiety. I love to sleep. I don't go out much, but when I do, I just think about coming back home. It didn't used to be this way, but as more bad things have happened (two divorces and a couple failed relationships = fear of loss) in my life, it seems easier to stay home & hide. Luckily I have a full time job that I love and get out of the house for. I don't have unlimited funds. My mom is in Mensa. I haven't taken the test but may qualify. I think that in itself is part "curse" personally. I wish I could turn off my brain sometimes & not over analyze things. I have a bf who i live with, but he gets depressed & is also antisocial. I want to be more social and have more close friendships but I'm just unmotivated and want to be in the comfort of my home. I hope you find out what is going on & feel better soon!
  9. Depression And Pregnancy

    Yes you will have to go off your meds and it will be rough. It's not up to others to judge if you will be a good mom or not. However - my thoughts are that you may think twice about trying to give birth with the issues that you can pass on. Does your partner have any mental or major physical illness? I couldn't live with myself knowing that I purposely brought a child into this world and then watch them go through the depression & anxiety that have been a nightmare for me. I do not have children & this is a primary reason. I would consider adoption or someone else carrying the baby. I hope you have thought about the fact that it is very likely you will have to see this baby or them as an adult suffer thru mental illness. Best wishes to you!
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  14. Why Is My Depression Better In Evening?

    Hello - I'm new here - 1st post. I've been on other forums in the past. Mine is definitely better at night as well. Sometimes even later in the afternoon. In the morning there is a lot of fear of all the hours to come and what could go wrong.The feeling of doom and gloom. I like night time. My therapist made a good point - about when I was a child and had asthma. I would wake up not being able to breath sometimes when I had an attack - so maybe that's part of it? I can't even listen to asthma commercials where you hear the kids breathing heavy - it makes me feel like it's hard to breathe. I love to sleep. I want the doom & gloom and anxiety to go away! (I'm on Effexor & Xanax)