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  1. I made some positive life changes, and I am now free of this obsession. I feel it was just pure escapism on my part to get away from a life I wasn't happy with. Now I don't care about celebrities. I don't think I'd ever want to date one anyway. Hollywood is a pretty rough place. I am very happy to be in the life I have now, with the partner I have now. You can get over these things, but it takes lots of inner work. If you find the root cause of your behavior, you can bring it to the surface, learn from it, and release it. I hope I never have to go down that road of having a painful obsession again.
  2. I've been trying to focus more on his negative traits too. I know he's not perfect and far from it. If I were single and he were single, we probably wouldn't be compatible either. There's something very captivating about him, but something very dark too. I know he probably has some issues that nobody knows about except the people really close to him. I'm not sure he'd be a very good person to be in a relationship with. Most celebrities aren't. They are too self absorbed to really care about anyone else but themselves. I really think I wasted a lot of time on someone who wasn't worth my time to begin with. Not that he's a bad person, I don't know, because I don't know him, but I'm sure he's far from being a god.
  3. I'm back, and still battling this obsession thing. I'll be good for a week or two, then I'll go back into my old ways again. It's a bad cycle. I wish I could stop it. It's ridiculous, I know he's not worth my time. He's had a girlfriend for 2 years now, and they are said to be getting married and trying for a family soon. This makes me feel sick to my stomach. I shouldn't even care. Why do I care? I really wish I didn't. My obsession is with Ryan Gosling. I have this feeling he's not at all like the image he portrays though. I actually think he's probably quite different, and not in a good way. I've stopped putting him on a pedestal, but I still keep going back for more. He's like a drug. I am in serious need of a detox, permanently. I try being busy, but it only works for so long. I tried to stop going online, but then when I'd go to watch TV, an ad for one of his movies would come on, or that shampoo ad with his girlfriend would come on and then I have to start at square one again. So so frustrating.....
  4. It just so happened that I couldn't look up stuff about my obsession over the last day or two. I had surgery, so I've been doped up on pain meds and unable to get out of bed until now. I guess it was a blessing in disguise, because it allowed me a bit of a break, and to distance myself for a while. When I went back online today, I saw new pictures all over the net with him holding hands with his girlfriend, whom I dislike very much. I'm bugged about it, of course. But I don't feel as devastated as I did before. I don't know why. I think the key is just to try to cut back on exposure to the obsession. Take breaks. Do things to distract yourself. I'm going to try that. Like you said, it's hard to give it up cold turkey, but if you can reduce the amount of time spent, it may get easier. I hope you are all doing ok. We'll get through this together!
  5. I had a super bad day too. And I just found out this actor's girlfriend is wanting to start a family with him. I was crushed, devastated. I know I shouldn't care, but I do. I felt sick to my stomach, couldn't eat all day. This is a horrible feeling. I wish I could stop goggling him. It's compulsion I can't seem to stop. I borrowed a book from the library today about OCD, I'll have a look at it and let you know if it's helpful. I know if I want to be happy, I have to stop this. I'm sure we'll have bad days and slip up. But as long as we keep trying, hopefully we can be free of this.
  6. I completely understand where you're coming from. I really wish I could turn my brain off too. It drives me crazy, and it's taking over my life. Except my obsession includes physical attraction as well as really admiring traits and qualities this person has. You could say I am in love with him, but I know it's not love. It's infatuation and obsession. It's painful because I know I'll never meet him or be his significant other. If he knew my obsession about him, he'd probably be appalled and run away. I don't want to be this kind of person.
  7. That's exactly how I feel. She is definitely someone I would not like, even if she wasn't with him. I feel badly because I've turned into a person I dislike. I would never behave that way otherwise, so why should I when I'm online? I don't like who I've become and yes, it is distressing. Jealousy is sure a powerful thing and it's very destructive. Why can't I be normal like everybody else, and admire him for is work, and not care about his personal life? It sucks.
  8. I'm so happy I'm not the only one suffering with this. My obsession has gotten really really bad over the last month. So bad that I am ticking people off on a forum I visit and post at very frequently for this actor. I do not like this actor's girlfriend/fiancee and I am very jealous of her. Therefore I find myself leaving not so nice messages about her on the forum. I'm not proud of it. I got told off for it, and I am very ashamed actually. It's so ridiculous and I know it's not healthy. I just want to be free of this. I wish I only admired him for his work. I wish I wasn't so attracted to him. I've decided to stop posting messages on the forum, for a start. Then, if I can do that, I'll progress to only googling him once a day. Baby steps. I hope I can do it.
  9. No. I don't want to take any more antidepressants. I gained so much weight last time and I'm afraid to have it happen again. I managed to lose all the weight I gained, and it took alot of work. I cannot afford therapy right now because I just graduated from school and am looking for a job. I am hoping to try and stop this on my own if I can. Does anyone have any tips which helped? I will seek help if I'm still struggling with this in a few months. I hope to have it under control by then.
  10. Hi all. Several years after starting this topic, I am back. I am so relieved and comforted that so many others suffer from the same problem. I don't feel so alone. I managed to get control of my obsession for a little while. I changed my career, went back to school, studied, and tried to keep myself busy. Now I am back at square one. It's the same celebrity again. Over the last year, this actor has become more and more famous, so he's been hard to avoid. Some of you said some interesting things in previous posts. Someone said something about finding things in common with the person is usually what starts the obsession. This is exactly what happened in my case. I found out I had alot in common with this guy. We are both from the same country, are the same age, had no friends as a kid, bullied at school, are passionate people, appreciate the same types of music and arts, both shy, both are thought of as a bit eccentric, etc. The obsession is in full force again and it's taking over. I feel so lost. He's all I think about 24/7. And he's been talking about getting engaged to his girlfriend, which really upsets me, and it shouldn't. It's crazy! The constant googling to find out any new stuff about him is out of control. I'm too embarassed to tell my husband about this. This is so hard, I wish I could stop it.
  11. I hope you had a fantastic day :)

  12. I was on Effexor for years, (for depression) but it made me gain so much weight that I had to stop taking it. Is there really a medication I can take to help this? Hopefully one that doesn't cause weight gain. I haven't seen a doctor about this, and I feel too ashamed to go.
  13. Hi there. I am new here. I have never been diagnosed with OCD, but I do suffer from depression and anxiety. I have a problem and I didn't know where else to go. I'm too ashamed to tell anyone close to me about it because I feel so ridiculous. What initially started as a harmless crush on this male celebrity has turned into something thats taking over my life. Thing is, this celebrity is really nice in real life and really approachable, so it makes him even more attractive to me. I haven't met him but I know people who have. I think about him all day, daydreaming constantly, spend hours googling him and checking all the latest news on him online. And if I hear he's dating someone, I become really jealous and even more depressed. And heres the kicker: I am married to a nice man, who is very good to me. And I still have this horrible obsession on the side! When my husband is at work, I'll spend the day daydreaming about this celebrity. I'll also watch his movies over and over, and turn on music and dance around, thinking about what it would be like to be with him. I can't seem to stop! He's famous, he's out living his life, and he doesn't know I exist, and I am married for crying out loud! What is wrong with me? I know it probably isn't love, it's an infatuation gone out of control and I don't know how to get my life back. Is there anything I can do to stop this? I would really appreciate any help. Thank you in advance.