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  1. That's usually called solitude. Loneliness is negative by definition. There's a pandemic of loneliness during these crazy times. My experience with fighting loneliness by seeking online connections has been dismal. A local friendship/networking site has produced nothing but illiterate, very boring and deeply dysfunctional people (not that I'm the pinnacle of functionality myself lol). My conclusion is that very few nice, interesting and/or intelligent people frequent such sites. They all come off as difficult people. It's either that or my approach has been faulty. So-called dating sites produced even worse results. Meeting the 'right' people online seems like the proverbial needle in a haystack. I actually have much more positive and meaningful interactions communicating with random people while shopping. Usually hard to transition that to friendship though. Online anonymity contributes to the problem. People can be pretty ignorant hiding behind a keyboard. That being said, I always welcome suggestions. Most friends I had died, became very ill, moved or moved on in very bizarre ways. Long story. I'm in my mid-60s. The search for compatible people becomes increasingly difficult with age, it appears. Normally I'd have more IRL resources, but covid has shut all meeting venues.
  2. .. much appreciate all suggestions though. Our area is awaiting possible announcement of 8pm curfew. That'll be fun. NOT I'm checking a few networking sites. Lots of people experiencing excessive isolation, but connecting is not easy
  3. They can here, and do. Businesses in particular are heavily regulated as to what they can and can't do. A large restaurant near here was shut down and heavily fined for infractions and the owner was led away in cuffs after not complying. Stores are strictly limited to maximum customer numbers allowed in. I can't go to any of the social venues I frequented because they're closed. I think the degree of lockdown and enforcement is happening state by state, province by province, region by region, which in my opinion is why it's all pretty messed up. And rules change almost weekly. Agreed that the enforcers can't really control my individual movements much (although officially I'm not to congregate with more than one other family, and I've heard of cases of neighbours snitching), but if there's no place of interest (e.g. movie theatres, community centres, coffee shops etc etc) to go, then I'm pretty much controlled. I can walk or hike, but the winter weather here is really unpleasant, trails are treacherous, and you don't meet many people doing that in January. Shopping at Walmart has become an excuse for a social outing. Wow. That's kinda sad Cooking is great! It's just not my thing to do at home alone. I'm looking to meet people, and that simply won't happen in the confines of my 1-bedroom apartment. I have tried some social networking, but that's been rather futile and frustrating. I really enjoy solitude (by choice) but enforced isolation sucks. Friend of mine made the right decision in September and is working remotely from home now in balmy southern Mexico. Not in my budget
  4. I appreciate the reading suggestion - I don't do enough, except for online news articles. Agreed that there's virtually nothing on TV worth watching. You may well be right that lockdowns could end by about April because there won't be enough government money to prop up the economy, which imho will be in dire shape by then, if not already. My personal struggle with the lockdown stems largely from the fact that my life revolves around being out and about - every day. I'm in my 60s and every day that I sit in my little apartment alone is one more day of an ever-diminishing timeline in which I feel I've accomplished nothing socially. The result is situational depression - so I'm still forcing myself outside daily even in this harsh winter weather. Not nearly as much fun as back in March/April when we anticipated warmer weather, and less social contact because most people are just cooped up. I'm unable/unwilling to isolate! I really feel for seniors in nursing homes who can't leave their rooms and aren't allowed visitors.
  5. Looking to share ideas All social groups, activity groups, gymnasiums, community centres, cinemas, restaurants, coffee shops, and libraries here have been shut down for at least 4 weeks, probably longer. Most have already been very limited for the past 9 months. For people like myself living alone (with very few friends and no near relatives) this is a nightmare scenario. I've come up with some strategies (e.g. walking/hiking, shopping at the few stores still open, going out for takeout food), but doing these things alone and with social distancing becomes increasingly difficult and discouraging as this pandemic drags on. I'm not a fan of zooming and virtual meetups. I'm looking for in-real-life activities with people, but the resources aren't available. Cold winter weather has significantly exacerbated the situation. Thankful for any feedback!
  6. Good job on 5 miles! I now regret having given my exercise bike to a now-former friend who went rogue on me. I should have followed my own advice re the treacherous trails. I fell today. Sheer ice was covered by light snow, and I went a** over teakettle. Landing was softened by 3 coat layers, but I pulled a few back muscles.
  7. .. actually just did it now. Huffing and puffing, but feeling much better. Another advantage - I don't need to wear my covid mask, as the stairwell isn't considered a 'common' area. Normally I hike with area clubs, but they've all been shut down due to covid. Also, all gyms and physical activity groups are shut for at least 4 weeks, probably more. This can't be good for people's health. happy (I hope happier) new year!
  8. Anyone else here climb apartment stairwells? I do 15 flights. Once a day is often enough. I find it plenty of exercise jammed into a few minutes. Sounds boring but my bluetooth speaker and streaming audio accompany me. The trails have become icy and treacherous. Besides, I can do this at any hour day/night.
  9. I agree that it has become an unfair redistribution of wealth. Walmart and Wendys (just 2 corporate chains of many) aren't suffering, in fact probably prospering, from the pandemic. They're considered "essential services". How liquor stores got classified as such baffles me, but i assume that the high rate of alcoholism in our society probably demands it. Meanwhile small businesses are dropping like flies because (here at least) they're relegated to curbside pickup (which doesn't bring in the customer base needed to stay profitable or even solvent), or closed up. Most small businesses will not recover and those livelihoods are finished. How many people will die from poverty? In my limited experience many small businesses have lower in-store people density than I've seen in crowded Walmarts, so I don't understand the logic. In Ontario we currently have different covid restriction zones. They change rapidly, making it difficult for businesses to adjust to setting up expensive and time-consuming barriers and other covid mitigation strategies. So what's happening - a lot - is people driving between zones for goods and services. That puts businesses in highly restricted zones - often only a few miles away - at a huge disadvantage. There's a lot if protest about that here. The only solution to cross-zone shopping is to prohibit people from travelling between zones - as i believe they've now done in Italy. Will people here stand for that? It also means you can't visit a friend a short distance away because of an arbitrary zone boundary. Meanwhile Walmart laughs all the way to the bank. They have the perfect business model - and virtually no comparable competition. We do need them, but others aren't getting a fair shake.
  10. I would have to guess that the concept of most people getting covid from going the hospital is only anecdotal. I'm sure that the stats would have caught that by now if it were entirely true. Otherwise why even have the hospitals costing them 100s of billions. Businesses in small towns here in Ontario Canada seem even more cautious and compliant with the rules than those in the urban areas. I think it's because they don't want it coming into their communities from city folks passing through stopping at restaurants and such. But yes, getting sick (with anything) these days is a bit scary because one thinks one is getting covid (when it's usually a regular cold or flu), and you can't be near people because of their fears.
  11. What I find most distressing about this pandemic is the way it has become politicized. Statistics appear manipulated to suit the agenda of different jurisdictions. There also seem to be few nation-wide or international standards to count covid-caused fatalities. So it becomes comparing apples to oranges when viewing charts. Even definitions of 'case' aren't always clear and consistent. And then, of course, regional restrictions on and availability of testing skew the numbers. I find the lack of consistency maddeningly frustrating. One isn't sure if one is to panic and completely isolate, or more or less go on with one's daily life. One (or more, as it's looking now) years of life in isolation with limited attention to our other health needs, both physical and mental, will undoubtedly result in serious long-term effects. Statistics are already indicating it. I suspect that the postmortem on this pandemic may show more casualties from the effects of lockdowns than from the virus itself. That being said, I'm not against restrictions or masks, little as i enjoy them. But the degree of their application and/or enforcement seems haphazard and in many cases arbitrary. In my humble opinion, there should be national (if not international) standards, and the degree of restrictions should be dictated in large part by regional population density. Anyway, that's my editorial/rant for today. thanks
  12. In Ontario Canada masks are required in all stores and indoor public places. Compliance appears to be 99%+. Our case numbers are lower than those in many other countries, but I can't attest to precise reasons for that. I think masks help. I'm in a city of 300,000 but I've been through a few small towns nearby where I've found they're often even stricter about masks, presumably because they don't want those passing through to bring the virus into town. Let's just be happy we're not (yet) at the point some parts of Europe find themselves - i.e. masks required anywhere outside your home, even outdoors.
  13. To fearispower I can understand your anxiety, but being in your 20s you have many more years of opportunities left than many of us. I'm in my 60s and feel this virus is stealing a big part of the much shorter period of time that remains for me. I also have very few social contacts. I have been getting out (as safely as possible, masked indoors of course) and have found a surprising number of people interested in chatting (e.g. on walks, store lineups). Sharing experiences and feelings can be therapeutic. Many people, especially elderly, feel isolated and lonely now. I feel a vaccine should bring us back to an acceptable level of 'normal' in 2021. Hang in there. You're not the only one distressed by the current state of affairs. I hope you're managing. I'm sorry I got to this thread so late.
  14. I can totally relate, greeneyedgadgetgirl. It's been brutal since most everything I relied on for social interaction has been shuttered here, and there are only two friends I see infrequently while practising social distancing. Sunset walks on local nature trails have helped a bit. I occasionally run into other singles. It's often just "hi" and occasionally a brief chat, but it helps me realize I'm not the only one in this predicament. Also, this way I get some exercise during these difficult times.
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