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  1. Valentine’s Day Valentine’s Day occurs every February 14. Across the United States and in other places around the world, candy, flowers and gifts are exchanged between loved ones, all in the name of St. Valentine. But who is this mysterious saint and where did these traditions come from? Find out about the history of Valentine’s Day, from the ancient Roman ritual of Lupercalia that welcomed spring to the card-giving customs of Victorian England. The Legend of St. Valentine Saint Valentine, who according to some sources is actually two distinct historical characters who were said to have healed a child while imprisoned and executed by decapitation. Fototeca Gilardi/Getty Images The history of Valentine’s Day–and the story of its patron saint–is shrouded in mystery. We do know that February has long been celebrated as a month of romance, and that St. Valentine’s Day, as we know it today, contains vestiges of both Christian and ancient Roman tradition. But who was Saint Valentine, and how did he become associated with this ancient rite? READ MORE: Who Was the Real St. Valentine? The Catholic Church recognizes at least three different saints named Valentine or Valentinus, all of whom were martyred. One legend contends that Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young men. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine’s actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death. Still others insist that it was Saint Valentine of Terni, a bishop, who was the true namesake of the holiday. He, too, was beheaded by Claudius II outside Rome. Other stories suggest that Valentine may have been killed for attempting to help Christians escape harsh Roman prisons, where they were often beaten and tortured. According to one legend, an imprisoned Valentine actually sent the first “valentine” greeting himself after he fell in love with a young girl–possibly his jailor’s daughter–who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter signed “From your Valentine,” an expression that is still in use today. Although the truth behind the Valentine legends is murky, the stories all emphasize his appeal as a sympathetic, heroic and–most importantly–romantic figure. By the Middle Ages, perhaps thanks to this reputation, Valentine would become one of the most popular saints in England and France. Origins of Valentine’s Day: A Pagan Festival in February While some believe that Valentine’s Day is celebrated in the middle of February to commemorate the anniversary of Valentine’s death or burial–which probably occurred around A.D. 270–others claim that the Christian church may have decided to place St. Valentine’s feast day in the middle of February in an effort to “Christianize” the pagan celebration of Lupercalia. Celebrated at the ides of February, or February 15, Lupercalia was a fertility festival dedicated to Faunus, the Roman god of agriculture, as well as to the Roman founders Romulus and Remus. READ MORE: 6 Surprising Facts About St. Valentine To begin the festival, members of the Luperci, an order of Roman priests, would gather at a sacred cave where the infants Romulus and Remus, the founders of Rome, were believed to have been cared for by a she-wolf or lupa. The priests would sacrifice a goat, for fertility, and a dog, for purification. They would then strip the goat’s hide into strips, dip them into the sacrificial blood and take to the streets, gently slapping both women and crop fields with the goat hide. Far from being fearful, Roman women welcomed the touch of the hides because it was believed to make them more fertile in the coming year. Later in the day, according to legend, all the young women in the city would place their names in a big urn. The city’s bachelors would each choose a name and become paired for the year with his chosen woman. These matches often ended in marriage. Valentine’s Day: A Day of Romance K.J. Historical/Corbis/Getty Images Lupercalia survived the initial rise of Christianity but was outlawed—as it was deemed “un-Christian”–at the end of the 5th century, when Pope Gelasius declared February 14 St. Valentine’s Day. It was not until much later, however, that the day became definitively associated with love. During the Middle Ages, it was commonly believed in France and England that February 14 was the beginning of birds’ mating season, which added to the idea that the middle of Valentine’s Day should be a day for romance. The English poet Geoffrey Chaucer was the first to record St. Valentine’s Day as a day of romantic celebration in his 1375 poem “Parliament of Foules,” writing, ““For this was sent on Seynt Valentyne’s day / Whan every foul cometh ther to choose his mate.” Valentine greetings were popular as far back as the Middle Ages, though written Valentine’s didn’t begin to appear until after 1400. The oldest known valentine still in existence today was a poem written in 1415 by Charles, Duke of Orleans, to his wife while he was imprisoned in the Tower of London following his capture at the Battle of Agincourt. (The greeting is now part of the manuscript collection of the British Library in London, England.) Several years later, it is believed that King Henry V hired a writer named John Lydgate to compose a valentine note to Catherine of Valois. READ MORE: Momentous Kisses Through History Who Is Cupid? Cupid is often portrayed on Valentine’s Day cards as a naked cherub launching arrows of love at unsuspecting lovers. But the Roman God Cupid has his roots in Greek mythology as the Greek god of love, Eros. Accounts of his birth vary; some say he is the son of Nyx and Erebus; others, of Aphrodite and Ares; still others suggest he is the son of Iris and Zephyrus or even Aphrodite and Zeus (who would have been both his father and grandfather). According to the Greek Archaic poets, Eros was a handsome immortal played with the emotions of Gods and men, using golden arrows to incite love and leaden ones to sow aversion. It wasn’t until the Hellenistic period that he began to be portrayed as the mischievous, chubby child he’d become on Valentine’s Day cards. Typical Valentine’s Day Greetings In addition to the United States, Valentine’s Day is celebrated in Canada, Mexico, the United Kingdom, France and Australia. In Great Britain, Valentine’s Day began to be popularly celebrated around the 17th century. By the middle of the 18th, it was common for friends and lovers of all social classes to exchange small tokens of affection or handwritten notes, and by 1900 printed cards began to replace written letters due to improvements in printing technology. Ready-made cards were an easy way for people to express their emotions in a time when direct expression of one’s feelings was discouraged. Cheaper postage rates also contributed to an increase in the popularity of sending Valentine’s Day greetings. Americans probably began exchanging hand-made valentines in the early 1700s. In the 1840s, Esther A. Howland began selling the first mass-produced valentines in America. Howland, known as the “Mother of the Valentine,” made elaborate creations with real lace, ribbons and colorful pictures known as “scrap.” Today, according to the Greeting Card Association, an estimated 145 million Valentine’s Day cards are sent each year, making Valentine’s Day the second largest card-sending holiday of the year (more cards are sent at Christmas). Women purchase approximately 85 percent of all valentines. Victorian-Era Valentines Could Be Mean and Hostile Ah, the season of love. Most Valentine's Days, we cram as many romantic activities into the day as possible. Candlelit dinners. Couples' massages. Cocktails at a swanky lounge. But this year, things are different. Amid the coronavirus pandemic, many of us are spending Valentine's Day at home. And while that might sound boring, it's actually the perfect excuse to plan a special indoor date or family activity. Whether you're celebrating with your special someone, your Galentines, or your entire fam, we're here to help you plan the ultimate at-home Valentine's Day bash. Our best tip is to make the day as over-the-top and festive as possible. Wear matching outfits. Recreate your first date. Surprise your S.O. with breakfast in bed. The more thought you put into the day, the better. And to cap off your holiday, make sure you exchange gifts. For example, you might want to pick up one of the best Valentine's Day gifts for her or the most romantic gifts for him. 1Make breakfast in bed. MIKE GARTEN There's no better way to start the day than with breakfast in bed. Put a tray together for your partner — and don't forget to include as many heart-shaped food items as possible. It's a simple way to say "I love you" before your partner even takes a sip of their coffee. RELATED: 30 Delicious Valentine's Day Breakfast Ideas for a Romantic Morning 2Wear matching outfits. PATPAT patpat.com $6.99 SHOP NOW The easiest way to make any holiday even more festive is by wearing matching outfits. These heart shirts are oh-so-cute — but really, any pink or red getups will do. 3Decorate! AWW SAM Make your home a romantic oasis by decking it out with sweet heart-shaped items. We love this donut peg wall — treats + decor = double win! — but there are so many incredible DIY Valentines' Day decorations that you can whip up in no time. Get the tutorial at Aww Sam » 4Make a photo book. ARTIFACT UPRISING artifactuprising.com $59.00 SHOP NOW Sure, a photo book makes a great Valentine's Day gift. But putting one together also makes a great Valentine's Day activity. Grab your sweetie and compile all your favorite photos. You'll have so much fun reminiscing on your favorite memories. 5Recreate your first date. NEYYAGETTY IMAGES Here's an opportunity to go all out: recreate your first date — at home. If you went to a coffee shop, whip up some artisanal coffees. If you went to a romantic restaurant, print the menu and try to make one of the dishes in your kitchen. If you went to the zoo, print pictures of the animals you saw and put them in frames around the living room. Get creative and remember to tell your partner everything you loved about them on that very first day. RELATED: 100 Most Romantic Date Ideas Ever 6Take a class. MAREN CARUSOGETTY IMAGES Little ones deserve to have a festive Valentine's Day too. To get them in on the fun, sign them up for a V-Day-themed virtual class. Websites like Outschool and Eventbrite have options from baking and letter writing to dancing and singing. 7Make a charcuterie board. JON LOVETTEGETTY IMAGES There's no better snack to nibble on all day than a charcuterie board. Add whichever treats you like, and don't forget to pair your cheeses and jams with the perfect wines. Not a fan of cheese and crackers? Try a different type of charcuterie board, like one made with candy or desserts. 8Send a Valentine. If you can't be with your sweetie in person this year, then you might as well send them something sweet in the mail. This chic set from Godiva includes three chocolate truffle flavors: milk chocolate, milk chocolate caramel, and dark chocolate strawberry. 9Make cards. ROBMATTINGLEYGETTY IMAGES Card-making is a great way to get crafty and creative. Pull out your art supplies and put together the most festive combinations of pink and red — or anything else! This is a fun activity for kids and adults, and no matter what your relationship status, there's always someone in your life who would appreciate a DIY Valentine's Day card. 10Plan a game night. WESTEND61GETTY IMAGES If you and your S.O. love competition, then plan a fun game night for Valentine's Day. With enough cocktails and snacks, it'll be perfectly romantic. You can also play easier games for a fun family-friendly activity. RELATED: 20 Fun and Easy Valentine's Day Games 11Take a virtual mixology class. MITCHELLPICTURESGETTY IMAGES Valentine's Day is the perfect excuse to get fancy with your drinks. BROWSE MIXOLOGY CLASSES 12Plan a movie marathon. ELKORGETTY IMAGES Take a chill approach to Valentine's Day this year. Instead of planning a ton of activities, plan an all-day movie marathon. The lineup can include the best romantic comedies — and lots and lots of snacks. 13Ask conversations starters. TABLETOPICS TABLETOPICSamazon.com $25.00 SHOP NOW Sure, you and your partner have incredible conversations all the time — but that doesn't mean you can't benefit from a little inspiration on special occasions. This conversation-starter set includes 135 questions, from "what song reminds you of a romantic time that we spent together?" to "if we were a superhero tag-team what would our powers be?" 14Write a love letter. TETRA IMAGESGETTY IMAGES Whether you're seeing your partner in person or celebrating from afar, there's nothing more romantic than sending them a love letter. Make your letter personal: include all the reasons you love them or list all your favorite memories. It'll be a keepsake they save for years to come. RELATED: How to Write a Love Letter, According to Experts 15Or letters of gratitude. JGI/TOM GRILLGETTY IMAGES When you're done writing a letter to your special someone, write a few letters of appreciation to the other important people in your life. A letter of gratitude or friendship can go a long way in making your loved ones feel special. 16Cook a romantic dinner. MIKE GARTEN You might not be able to go out to the hottest restaurant in town this year, but that doesn't mean you can't indulge in a delicious dinner. Prepare something decadent that the two of you love, and dress up as if you're going out. If you're celebrating Valentine's Day on Zoom, prepare the same meal and eat it together. You can compare notes on recipes. RELATED: 55 Perfect Valentine's Day Dinner Ideas for a Romantic Night at Home Depressionforums.org
  2. Welcome Charles, Like @Epictetus said it is nice to have our generation come here and visit Depression Forums for a change. It so happens today is the most depressing day of the year! Blue Monday 2021: what is it, why is it today – and the meaning behind the most depressing day of the year Blue Monday shines an important light on mental health issues – but experts dispute the science behind it Monday 18 January marks ‘Blue Monday’, the most depressing day of the year. It’s the day when the financial pressure of the Christmas just passed hangs over us most, the weather is at its worst, and the extra pounds we’ve acquired over the holiday season are proving harder to shift than we anticipated. But is the idea rooted in science, and where did it first come from? It may feel harder to get out of bed on the morning of Blue Monday, but is it really? (Photo: Shutterstock) Read More '˜Blue Monday' myth moves employers to offer incentives Here’s everything you need to know: When is Blue Monday? Blue Monday usually falls on the third Monday of every New Year, and is considered the most “depressing” day on the calendar. In 2021, that’s 18 January. In 2020, Samaritans handed out cups of tea at Edinburgh’s Waverley station, encouraging commuters to share a cuppa with someone in their office who may be feeling lonely (Photo: Shutterstock) But as you'll see, it’s not always reported as being on that date. Is it real? Despite its widespread acceptance among the British public, there is no scientific evidence to suggest the third Monday of the year is any more or less depressing than any other day. In fact, the birth of the idea is shrouded in controversy, and despite usually falling on the third Monday of the year, some outlets report the date as being on the second or fourth Monday of January. Where did Blue Monday come from? The concept of ‘Blue Monday’ appears to have originated in 2005, in a press release from now defunct holiday company and TV channel Sky Travel, who claimed to have used an equation to calculate the date. That original press release appeared to have been written by Cliff Arnall, a tutor at Cardiff University’s Centre for Lifelong Learning. But Guardian writer Ben Goldacre – known for his Bad Science column and series of books – revealed that the press release was sent pre-written by a PR company to a number of academics, who were offered money to put their name to it. "I know that because I have received an avalanche of insider stories… including one from an academic in psychology who was offered money by Porter Novelli PR agency to put his name to the very same Sky Travel equation story that Arnall sold his to," he said. How is Blue Monday ‘calculated’? The release claimed Blue Monday was reached by “taking into account various factors” such as average temperature, days since the last pay day, days until the next bank holiday, average hours of daylight, and the number of nights in during the month. The release claimed the formula that gives us Blue Monday is C(P+B) N+D, an equation which “allows us to work out the day with the highest 'depression factor' which you can then use as a focus for making things better, booking your holiday etc...” It doesn't take much effort to see the true purpose of Sky Travel's press release – selling more holidays – and Goldacre said “these equations are scientifically uninformative, and driven by money.” According to Dr Dean Burnett, a tutor at Cardiff University’s division of psychological medicine and clinical neurosciences, “there are so many reasons to believe [the Blue Monday equation is] nonsense. “Firstly, the equation wasn’t the result of some psychological study by a reputable lab, but conducted by a travel company, who then fished around for a psychologist to put his name to it, to make it seem credible. “It combines things that have no quantifiable way of being combined. Debt level, time since Christmas, weather, motivation – the equation combines all these things, but that’s not possible.” Despite lending his name to the concept, Arnall himself now campaigns against the idea of Blue Monday via his Twitter account. Why is Blue Monday still a thing? Over 15 years on, despite its pseudo scientific origins, Blue Monday still trends on social media every year. That's mainly down to the PR industry, who use Blue Monday as a chance to push their products, whether they be wellbeing products, fitness items, or other self-improvement and happiness boosting tools. But a lot of good has come of the date too. In 2020, Samaritans handed out cups of tea at Edinburgh’s Waverley station to help morning commuters get through the day, encouraging them to share a cup of tea with someone in their office who may be feeling lonely. The charity is pushing for it to become known as ‘Brew Monday’, a day when connecting with others over a cuppa can help weather the ups and downs of life. “All you need is a kettle and some mugs, and this could make a huge difference in someone’s life,” they say. So whether it’s all a load of nonsense or not, Blue Monday at least shines a spotlight on loneliness, and gets people talking about depression, even if only fleetingly. At a time when it’s more important than ever to reach out, that can only be a good thing. You have a wonderful day! -Lindsay, Forum Administrator
  3. Happy New Year! 'Great Conjunction' 2020: NASA tips to see Jupiter and Saturn shine as a 'Christmas Star' This year's great conjunction also marks the first time in nearly 800 years since the planets aligned at night and skywatchers were able to witness the event. (The 1623 conjunction wasn't visible to skywatchers on much of the Earth because of its location in the night sky, so the last time the event was visible was in 1226.) The planets will be closest to each other in the sky on Dec. 21, appearing only a tenth of a degree apart. They will remain in close alignment for a few days and will be easily visible to the naked eye when looking toward the southwest just after sunset. While the two planets may be viewed as one point of light, they will remain hundreds of millions of miles apart in space, according to the statement from NASA. Click here for more Space.com videos...Coincidently, this year's great conjunction also falls on the first day of winter in the Northern Hemisphere. As a result, some have referred to the planetary alignment as forming a "Christmas star," in reference to the Star of Bethlehem, given the event falls only a few days before Christmas. "Conjunctions like this could happen on any day of the year, depending on where the planets are in their orbits," Throop said in the statement. "The date of the conjunction is determined by the positions of Jupiter, Saturn and the Earth in their paths around the sun, while the date of the solstice is determined by the tilt of Earth's axis. The solstice is the longest night of the year, so this rare coincidence will give people a great chance to go outside and see the solar system." How to see it On Dec. 21, 2020, Jupiter and Saturn will appear just one-tenth of a degree apart, in an event known as a "great conjunction." The planets will be visible to the naked eye when looking toward the southwest about an hour after sunset. (Image credit: NASA/JPL-Caltech) To view the astronomical event, skywatchers should point their gaze toward an unobstructed part of the southwestern sky, about an hour after sunset since the planets will set below the horizon quickly. Leading up to the Dec. 21 conjunction, Saturn will appear slightly above and to the left of Jupiter. Then, the planets will reverse positions in the sky, NASA officials said in the statement. Jupiter and Saturn are bright, so they can be seen in areas with clear skies and no cloud cover — and even from most cities. This also means that the event can be seen with the naked eye. However, binoculars or a small telescope may allow viewers to see Jupiter's four large moons, according to the statement. Editor's note: If you capture an amazing view of the Great Conjunction of Dec. 21 and would like to share it with Space.com for a story or gallery, send images and comments in to spacephotos@space.com. Follow Samantha Mathewson @Sam_Ashley13. Follow us on Twitter @Spacedotcom and on Facebook. Join our Space Forums to keep talking space on the latest missions, night sky and more! And if you have a news tip, correction or comment, let us know at: community@space.com. The December 2020 Great Conjunction By Graham Jones The year 2020 ends with a special astronomical event: the closest great conjunction of Jupiter and Saturn in 397 years. On December 21, the two planets almost touched in the sky. Scroll down to see telescope footage! 1x Video: Jupiter and Saturn converging in the night sky, shown in weekly intervals. This simulation is for New York, USA, but the great conjunction can be seen all over the world. When Harry Met Sally is right: It's about old friends As Meg Ryan's character Sally says in the movie, this is a song about old friends. The lyrics to the later verses, when translated into English, make this perfectly clear. The "pint-stoup" business is essentially saying, "Surely you'll buy a pint and I'll buy a pint and we'll drink to the good old days." In the next verse we hear about how "We two have run about the slopes / and picked the daisies fine." Old friends who haven't seen each other in a while are meeting up again, having a drink, and reminiscing. If this were a song that you normally listened to in a quiet room at full length in English when sober, there would be no confusion. Since that's basically the opposite of a New Year's Eve party, which is when you usually hear the song, there is a lot of confusion. But the song itself is not especially complicated. New Year's is a big deal in Scotland One reason a random Scottish folk song has come to be synonymous with the new year is that New Year's celebrations (known as Hogmanay) loom unusually large in Scottish folk culture — so much so that Scotland's official website has a whole Hogmanay section, which notes that, "Historically, Christmas was not observed as a festival and Hogmanay was the more traditional celebration in Scotland."That's because the Scottish Reformation brought to power followers of a Calvinist branch of Protestant Christianity known as Presbyterians who didn't really care for Christmas. Indeed, in 1640 the Scottish parliament went so far as to abolish Christmas vacation "and all observation thairof," citing its roots in "superstitious observatione." When theologically similar Puritans briefly ruled England as a result of the English Civil War, they also attempted to suppress all Christmas celebration. But Presbyterianism put down deeper roots in Scotland, leading Hogmanay to displace Christmas as the number one midwinter celebration. Everyone likes a good party, and the end of one year and the beginning of the next seems like as good a thing to celebrate as anything else, so Scottish-inflected New Year's celebrations — including the sentimental and appealingly nonspecific "Auld Lang Syne" — came naturally to the English-speaking world. Canadian band leader Guy Lombardo made "Auld Lang Syne" an institution From 1929 until 1976, first on radio and then on television, Americans tuned in to the New Year's Eve broadcast by Guy Lombardo and the Royal Canadians, a big band act led by Lombardo, a Canadian whose parents immigrated from Italy. By the mid-70s, Lombardo's broadcasts began to face serious competition from Dick Clark's "New Year's Rockin' Eve," which was positioned to attract younger viewers and emphasized the rock element to contrast with the Royal Canadians' big band tunes. But for decades, Lombardo owned December 31 — even earning the nickname "Mr. New Year's Eve" — and every single year he played "Auld Lang Syne" to ring in the new year. Auld Lang Syne Explained Below
  4. There has always been different categories, but Coops has always been DFs. IPS which is our platform upgrade was done awhile ago and the emoticons changed a tad except for Coops emoticons and some holiday ones never made the grade and they need to be taken down. They will probably change again whenever we get a new Tech as a new upgrade is waiting to be done! That's about it dear members. < One of Coops ~Lindsay
  5. Merry Christmas! Depressionforums.org Christmas, a Christian holiday honoring the birth of Jesus, has evolved into a worldwide religious and secular celebration, incorporating many pre-Christian and pagan traditions into the festivities. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christmas_traditions
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    Thanksgiving Thanksgiving is a national holiday celebrated on various dates in the United States, Canada, Brazil, Grenada, Saint Lucia, and Liberia, and the sub-national entities Leiden, Norfolk Island, and the inhabited territories of the United States. Thanksgiving Day, annual national holiday in the United States and Canada celebrating the harvest and other blessings of the past year. Americans generally believe that their Thanksgiving is modeled on a 1621 harvest feast shared by the English colonists (Pilgrims) of Plymouth and the Wampanoag people. Sep 26, 2020 DepressionForums.Org As fall is ramping up, many people have already begun to plan for the holidays. It’s no surprise that celebrations will look a little different this year—and Thanksgiving is no exception. The line is blurry as to what is considered safe and what isn’t, so the CDC has offered some considerations to help protect individuals, their families, friends, and communities from COVID-19. As expected, staying home is the best way to protect yourself and others. The federal health agency advised that the safest way to celebrate Turkey Day is to avoid unnecessary travel. If you do intend to travel, however, you should be informed of the risks involved and adhere to CDC guidelines. The best options? Having a small outdoor dinner with people in the same household, delivering food to neighbors, and participating in a virtual dinner all fall under the CDC's low risk category. Activities like apple picking and visiting pumpkin patches fall into the moderate risk category. On the far end of the spectrum, parades and other large gatherings are considered high risk and off-limits. (Macy's has already modified its plans for the Thanksgiving Day parade to a television-only presentation.) PAID CONTENT Working Out With a Mask Some types of masks are better than others when exercising in crowded spaces. Black Friday shopping is also on the no-go list, with health officials saying that shopping from home is recommended for your binge-shopping needs. But don’t fret: Retailers like Amazon and Target are trying to nudge people to online shop by starting juicy holiday deals sooner and extending Black Friday deals online. It’s important to note that these guidelines are meant to supplement—not replace—any state, local, territorial, or tribal health and safety regulations with which holiday gatherings must comply. If you’re planning to host a holiday celebration, you should first assess current COVID-19 levels in your community to determine whether to postpone, cancel, or limit the number of attendees. The CDC has ranked the following activities into three areas: lower risk, moderate risk, and higher risk. Lower risk activities Having a small dinner with only people who live in your household. Preparing traditional family recipes for family and neighbors, especially those at higher risk of severe illness from COVID-19, and delivering them in a way that doesn’t involve contact with others. Having a virtual dinner and sharing recipes with friends and family. Shopping online rather than in person on the day after Thanksgiving or the next Monday. Watching sports events, parades, and movies from home. Moderate risk activities Having a small outdoor dinner with family and friends who live in your community. Lower your risk by following CDC’s recommendations on hosting gatherings or cook-outs. Visiting pumpkin patches or orchards where people use hand sanitizer before touching pumpkins or picking apples, wearing masks is encouraged or enforced, and people are able to maintain social distancing. Attending a small outdoor sports events with safety precautions in place. Higher risk activities Going shopping in crowded stores just before, on, or after Thanksgiving. Participating or being a spectator at a crowded race. Attending crowded parades. Using alcohol or drugs, which can cloud judgement and increase risky behaviors. Attending large indoor gatherings with people from outside of your household.
  7. ((((((( @SailingSoul))))))))) I am so sorry to hear what you and your baby are going through! I can understand some of what you are experiencing, my grandaughter has a myriad of things. But her major issue is Borderline Personality Disorder, (BPD). She lives with my daughter and the rest of the family. I know that it is difficult being a grown woman with a baby having to live back "home". I do think that is the #1 worst MH issue you can have, as I have been there to see everything that she has gone through so far, and I would not wish that on my worst enemy. I love and adore her so much. Have you gotten any Mental Health help at all or a diagnosis? Are you certain that you have OCD? Perhaps you have another MH dx as well? Maybe you should post some things in the OCD Obsessive Compulsive Disorder - OCD Forum for suggestions and support from OCD Members? If you are not working, do you get money from the government for you and your baby? From family? Support from the baby's father? I know that it there is not much out there for people who have mental health problems and cannot work. It is an awful system. I have been trying to break the system for years for MH parity. I feel for you and your baby SS, you have not mentioned your Mother, only your father. I hope there is someone in your life that can supply you with some comfort and love. Anyway, welcome back to you and the baby, sweetie. I hope DF can give you the support that you need. -Lindsay Forum Administrator, Founder
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    What is Rosh Hashanah? What is Rosh Hashanah? Rosh Hashanah is the celebration of the Jewish New Year. It’s a very important holiday on the Jewish calendar. It is the first of what we call the High Holidays (or High Holy Days), a ten-day period that ends with Yom Kippur—the holiest day of the Jewish year. On Rosh Hashanah, Jews from all over the world celebrate God’s creation of the world. Rosh Hashanah is two days long, and it usually occurs during the month of September. How is Rosh Hashanah Celebrated? During Rosh Hashanah, Jewish people ask God for forgiveness for the things we’ve done wrong during the past year. We also remind ourselves not to repeat these mistakes in the coming year. In this way, Rosh Hashanah is an opportunity to improve ourselves. It’s a holiday that helps us to become better people. And that’s a beautiful thing. Jews from all over the world celebrate Rosh Hashanah in different ways. Holiday traditions can be different depending on where you’re from and how your family celebrates. A special prayer service is held at synagogue. The shofar, a special instrument made from the horn of a kosher animal (usually a ram), is blown during the Rosh Hashanah service. Tzedakah, or giving charity to people in need, is also part of the holiday. Good deeds are done and charity is given in the hopes that God will seal our names in the “Book of Life,” which brings the promise of a happy year to come. What kinds of foods are eaten on Rosh Hashanah? Food is an important part of Rosh Hashanah. Many special foods are included in a traditional Rosh Hashanah meal as blessings. Sweet foods are eaten to symbolize our hope for a “sweet new year.” We enjoy “new fruit,” a fruit that has recently come into season but we have not yet had the opportunity to enjoy this year (often a pomegranate). The head of a fish is sometimes served, to remind us to be “like the head and not the tail”—so we’ll be leaders, not followers. The fish also symbolizes the translation of Rosh Hashanah, which means “Head of the Year” in Hebrew. A pretty, symbolic bread called challah is baked, sweetened with raisins and braided into a round shape. Apples are dipped in honey, again symbolizing sweetness. All of these traditions are important, because they help to connect us to the deeper meaning of the Rosh Hashanah holiday. What is the proper greeting for Rosh Hashanah? If you’d like to wish somebody a happy Jewish New Year, you can say “L’Shanah Tovah,” which is Hebrew for “A Good Year.” YOU MIGHT ALSO LIKE Yom Kippur FAQ: All About the Day of Atonement Yom Kippur is the Jewish day of communal and personal atonement for sins committed during the past year. What are some of the customs on Yom Kippur? Fasting is one of the central components of the Yom Kippur holiday. When is Yom Kippur 2020? Click here to find out. Jewish adults are commanded to fast, but there are exceptions for pregnant women, nursing mothers and those who are ill. Learn here who is traditionally commanded to fast and find tips on staying healthy during the Yom Kippur fast here. What are the services on Yom Kippur? Prayer is the other central component of the holiday. The Kol Nidrei service kicks off the holiday, and Neila comes at the very end, bookending the holy day with solemn prayer. In between we read the book of Jonah and perform the special Avodah service, which involves continually and frequently prostrating oneself on the ground. Learn how to find tickets for Yom Kippur services, how to find a Mahzor (High Holiday prayerbook) and how to stream Kol Nidre and other High Holiday services on your computer.
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    Yom Kippur

    Yom Kippur Holy day Yom Kippur, also known as the Day of Atonement, is the holiest day of the year in Judaism. Its central themes are atonement and repentance. Jews traditionally observe this holy day with a day-long fast and intensive prayer, often spending most of the day in synagogue services. Wikipedia Date: Sun, Sep 27, 2020 – Mon, Sep 28, 2020 Observances: Fasting, prayer, abstaining from physical pleasures, refraining from work Significance: Atonement for personal and national sins, fate of each person is sealed for the upcoming year Observed by: Jews, Samaritans
  10. Borderline Personality Disorder Borderline personality disorder is a chronic condition that may include mood instability, difficulty with interpersonal relationships, and high rates of self-injury and suicidal behavior. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is characterized by pervasive instability in moods, interpersonal relationships, self-image, and behavior. This instability often disrupts family and work life, long-term planning, and an individual's sense of identity. People with BPD, originally thought to be at the "border" of psychosis and neurosis, suffer from difficulties with emotion regulation. While less well known than schizophrenia or bipolar disorder, BPD affects 2 percent of adults. People with BPD exhibit high rates of self-injurious behavior, such as cutting and elevated rates of attempted and completed suicide. Impairment from BPD and suicide risk are greatest in the young-adult years and tend to decrease with age. BPD is more common in women than in men, with 75 percent of cases diagnosed among women. People with borderline personality disorder often need extensive mental health services and account for 20 percent of psychiatric hospitalizations. Yet, with help, the majority stabilize and lead productive lives. Symptoms According to the DSM-5, individuals with BPD exhibit some or all of the following symptoms: Efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. Intense bouts of anger, depression, or anxiety that may last only hours or, at most, a few days. These may be associated with episodes of impulsive aggression, self-injury, and drug or alcohol abuse. Distortions in thoughts and sense of self can lead to frequent changes in long-term goals, career plans, jobs, friendships, identity, and values. Sometimes people with BPD view themselves as fundamentally bad or unworthy. They may feel bored, empty, or unfairly misunderstood or mistreated, and they have little idea who they are. Recurrent suicidal behavior. Transient, stress-related paranoid thinking, or dissociation ("losing touch" with reality). People with BPD often have highly unstable patterns of social relationships. While they can develop intense but stormy attachments, their attitudes toward family, friends, and loved ones may suddenly shift from idealization (great admiration and love) to devaluation (intense anger and dislike). Thus, they may form an immediate attachment and idealize another person, but when a slight separation or conflict occurs, switch unexpectedly to the other extreme and angrily accuse the other person of not caring for them at all. Most people can tolerate the ambivalence of experiencing two contradictory states at one time. People with BPD, however, must shift back and forth between good and bad states. If they are in a bad state, for example, they have no awareness of the good state. Individuals with BPD are highly sensitive to rejection, reacting with anger and distress to mild separations. Even a vacation, a business trip, or a sudden change in plans can spur negative thoughts. These fears of abandonment seem to be related to difficulties feeling emotionally connected to important people when they are physically absent, leaving the individual with BPD feeling lost or worthless. Suicide threats and attempts may occur along with anger at perceived abandonment and disappointments. Read More A Compelling New Framework for BPD Research: The Promise of Neuropeptides Three Factors to Understand in the Borderline Personality Why Borderline Personality Is Tough to Diagnose from Afar Causes Although the cause of BPD is unknown, both environmental and genetic factors are thought to play a role in predisposing people to BPD. The disorder is approximately five times more common among people with close biological relatives with BPD. Studies show that many individuals with BPD report a history of abuse, neglect, or separation as young children. Forty to 71 percent of BPD patients report having been sexually abused, usually by a non caregiver. Researchers believe that BPD results from a combination of individual vulnerability to environmental stress, neglect, or abuse as young children, and a series of events that trigger the onset of the disorder as young adults. Adults with BPD are also considerably more likely to be the victims of violence, including rape and other crimes. These incidents may result from harmful environments as well as the victims' impulsivity and poor judgment in choosing partners and lifestyles. Neuroscience is revealing brain mechanisms underlying the impulsivity, mood instability, aggression, anger, and negative emotion seen in BPD. Studies suggest that people predisposed to impulsive aggression have impaired regulation of the neural circuits that modulate emotion. The brain's amygdala, a small almond-shaped structure, is an important component of the circuit that regulates negative emotion. In response to signals from other brain centers indicating a perceived threat, it marshals fear and arousal, which may be more pronounced under the influence of stress or drugs like alcohol. Areas in the front of the brain, in the prefrontal cortex, act to dampen the activity of this circuit. Recent brain-imaging studies show that individual differences in the ability to activate regions of the prefrontal cortex thought to be involved in inhibitory activity predict the ability to suppress negative emotion. Serotonin, norepinephrine, and acetylcholine are among the chemical messengers in these circuits that play a role in the regulation of emotions, including sadness, anger, anxiety, and irritability. Drugs that enhance brain serotonin function may improve emotional symptoms in BPD. Likewise, mood-stabilizing drugs that are known to enhance the activity of GABA, the brain's major inhibitory neurotransmitter, may help people who experience BPD-like mood swings. Such brain-based vulnerabilities can be managed with help from behavioral interventions and medications, much as people manage susceptibility to diabetes or high blood pressure. Treatment The recommended treatment for BPD includes psychotherapy, medication, and group, peer, and family support. Group and individual psychotherapy have been shown to be effective forms of treatment for many patients. Psychotherapy is the first line treatment for BPD, and several forms of therapy, such as dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT), mentalization based therapy (MBT), cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and psychodynamic psychotherapy, have been studied and proven to be effective ways to alleviate symptoms. Pharmacological treatments are often prescribed based on specific target symptoms shown by the individual patient. Antidepressant drugs and mood stabilizers may be helpful for depressed and/or labile mood. Antipsychotic drugs may also be used when there are distortions in thinking. References Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition National Institute of Mental Health US Department of Health and Human Services National Alliance on Mental Illness Last updated: 02/22/2019
  11. Dialectical Behavior Therapy Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) provides clients with new skills to manage painful emotions and decrease conflict in relationships. DBT specifically focuses on providing therapeutic skills in four key areas. First, mindfulness focuses on improving an individual's ability to accept and be present in the current moment. Second, distress tolerance is geared toward increasing a person’s tolerance of negative emotion, rather than trying to escape from it. Third, emotion regulation covers strategies to manage and change intense emotions that are causing problems in a person’s life. Fourth, interpersonal effectiveness consists of techniques that allow a person to communicate with others in a way that is assertive, maintains self-respect, and strengthens relationships. When It's Used DBT was originally developed to treat borderline personality disorder. However, research shows that DBT has also been used successfully to treat people experiencing depression, bulimia, binge-eating, bipolar disorder, post-traumatic-stress disorder, and substance abuse. DBT skills are thought to have the capability of helping those who wish to improve their ability to regulate emotions, tolerate distress and negative emotion, be mindful and present in the given moment, and communicate and interact effectively with others. Read More What Is DBT? What to Expect DBT treatment typically consists of individual therapy sessions and DBT skills groups. Individual therapy sessions consist of one-on-one contact with a trained therapist, ensuring that all therapeutic needs are being addressed. The individual therapist will help the patient stay motivated, apply the DBT skills within daily life, and address obstacles that might arise over the course of treatment. DBT skills group participants learn and practice skills alongside others. Members of the group are encouraged to share their experiences and provide mutual support. Groups are led by one trained therapist teaching skills and leading exercises. The group members are then assigned homework, such as practicing mindfulness exercises. Each group session lasts approximately two hours, and groups typically meet weekly for six months. Groups can be shorter or longer, depending on the needs of the group members. DBT can be delivered by therapists in many ways. For instance, some people complete the one-on-one therapy sessions without attending the weekly skills group. Others might choose the group without regular one-on-one sessions. How It Works DBT is a cognitive-behavioral treatment developed by Marsha Linehan, Ph.D., in the 1980s to treat people with borderline personality disorder. Those diagnosed with BPD often experience extremely intense negative emotions that are difficult to manage. These intense and seemingly uncontrollable negative emotions are often experienced when the individual is interacting with others—friends, romantic partners, family members. People with borderline often experience a great deal of conflict in their relationships. As its name suggests, DBT is influenced by the philosophical perspective of dialectics: balancing opposites. The therapist consistently works with the individual to find ways to hold two seemingly opposite perspectives at once, promoting balance and avoiding black and white—the all-or-nothing styles of thinking. In service of this balance, DBT promotes a both-and rather than an either-or outlook. The dialectic at the heart of DBT is acceptance and change. What to Look for in a Dialectical Behavior Therapist DBT assumes that effective treatment, including group skills training, must pay as much attention to the behavior and experience of providers working with clients as it does to clients’ behavior and experience. Thus, treatment of the providers is an important part of any DBT program, and therapists should practice the skills themselves. They need to know basic behavior therapy techniques and DBT treatment strategies. Look for a mental health professional with specialized training and experience in DBT. The Linehan Board of Certification, a non-profit organization, has developed certification standards for clinicians. In addition, it is important to find a therapist with whom you feel comfortable working. References Chapman AL. Dialectical Behavior Therapy: Current Indications and Unique Elements. Psychiatry. Sep 2006;3(9):62-68 Panos PT, Jackson JW, Hasan O, Panos A. Meta-analysis and systematic review assessing the efficacy of Diabletctical Behavior Therapy (DBT). Research on Social Work Practice. 2014;24(2). Valentine S, BankoffSM, Poulin RM, Reidler EB, Pantalone DW. The use of dialectical behavior therapy skills training as stand-alone treatment: A systematic review of the treatment outcome literature. Journal of Clinical Psychology. Jan 2015;71(1):1-20.
  12. The paragraph below was givn to me by my 20 yr. old granddaughter, Syd. She is doing DBT Therapy, Dialectical behavior therapy, (which I will explain somewhat below after this post). Here is Syd explaining how she is trying to cope with her feelings having BPD after 3 yrs. More stories loaded.
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    July 4th

    Independence Day The Fourth of July—also known as Independence Day or July 4th—has been a federal holiday in the United States since 1941, but the tradition of Independence Day celebrations goes back to the 18th century and the American Revolution. On July 2nd, 1776, the Continental Congress voted in favor of independence, and two days later delegates from the 13 colonies adopted the Declaration of Independence, a historic document drafted by Thomas Jefferson. From 1776 to the present day, July 4th has been celebrated as the birth of American independence, with festivities ranging from fireworks, parades and concerts to more casual family gatherings and barbecues, now with Social Distancing. The Fourth of July 2020 is on Saturday, July 4, 2020. A History of Independence Day When the initial battles in the Revolutionary War broke out in April 1775, few colonists desired complete independence from Great Britain, and those who did were considered radical. By the middle of the following year, however, many more colonists had come to favor independence, thanks to growing hostility against Britain and the spread of revolutionary sentiments such as those expressed in the bestselling pamphlet “Common Sense,” published by Thomas Paine in early 1776. On June 7, when the Continental Congress met at the Pennsylvania State House (later Independence Hall) in Philadelphia, the Virginia delegate Richard Henry Lee introduced a motion calling for the colonies’ independence. Amid heated debate, Congress postponed the vote on Lee’s resolution, but appointed a five-man committee—including Thomas Jefferson of Virginia, John Adams of Massachusetts, Roger Sherman of Connecticut, Benjamin Franklin of Pennsylvania and Robert R. Livingston of New York—to draft a formal statement justifying the break with Great Britain. Did you know? John Adams believed that July 2nd was the correct date on which to celebrate the birth of American independence, and would reportedly turn down invitations to appear at July 4th events in protest. Adams and Thomas Jefferson both died on July 4, 1826—the 50th anniversary of the adoption of the Declaration of Independence. On July 2nd, the Continental Congress voted in favor of Lee’s resolution for independence in a near-unanimous vote (the New York delegation abstained, but later voted affirmatively). On that day, John Adams wrote to his wife Abigail that July 2 “will be celebrated, by succeeding Generations, as the great anniversary Festival” and that the celebration should include “Pomp and Parade…Games, Sports, Guns, Bells, Bonfires and Illuminations from one End of this Continent to the other.” On July 4th, the Continental Congress formally adopted the Declaration of Independence, which had been written largely by Jefferson. Though the vote for actual independence took place on July 2nd, from then on the 4th became the day that was celebrated as the birth of American independence. Early Fourth of July Celebrations In the pre-Revolutionary years, colonists had held annual celebrations of the king’s birthday, which traditionally included the ringing of bells, bonfires, processions and speechmaking. By contrast, during the summer of 1776 some colonists celebrated the birth of independence by holding mock funerals for King George III as a way of symbolizing the end of the monarchy’s hold on America and the triumph of liberty. Festivities including concerts, bonfires, parades and the firing of cannons and muskets usually accompanied the first public readings of the Declaration of Independence, beginning immediately after its adoption. Philadelphia held the first annual commemoration of independence on July 4, 1777, while Congress was still occupied with the ongoing war. George Washington issued double rations of rum to all his soldiers to mark the anniversary of independence in 1778, and in 1781, several months before the key American victory at the Battle of Yorktown, Massachusetts became the first state to make July 4th an official state holiday. READ MORE: Two Presidents Died on the Same July 4: Coincidence or Something More? After the Revolutionary War, Americans continued to commemorate Independence Day every year, in celebrations that allowed the new nation’s emerging political leaders to address citizens and create a feeling of unity. By the last decade of the 18th century, the two major political parties—the Federalist Party and Democratic-Republicans—that had arisen began holding separate Fourth of July celebrations in many large cities. Fourth of July Fireworks The first fireworks were used as early as 200 BC. The tradition of setting off fireworks on the 4 of July began in Philadelphia on July 4, 1777, during the first organized celebration of Independence Day. Ship’s cannon fired a 13-gun salute in honor of the 13 colonies. The Pennsylvania Evening Post reported: “at night there was a grand exhibition of fireworks (which began and concluded with thirteen rockets) on the Commons, and the city was beautifully illuminated.” That same night, the Sons of Liberty set off fireworks over Boston Common. Fourth of July Becomes a Federal Holiday The tradition of patriotic celebration became even more widespread after the War of 1812, in which the United States again faced Great Britain. In 1870, the U.S. Congress made July 4th a federal holiday; in 1941, the provision was expanded to grant a paid holiday to all federal employees. Over the years, the political importance of the holiday would decline, but Independence Day remained an important national holiday and a symbol of patriotism. Falling in mid-summer, the Fourth of July has since the late 19th century become a major focus of leisure activities and a common occasion for family get-togethers, often involving fireworks and outdoor barbecues. The most common symbol of the holiday is the American flag, and a common musical accompaniment is “The Star-Spangled Banner,” the national anthem of the United States. READ MORE: Why We Celebrate July 4 With Fireworks Photo Gallery: The Founding Fathers
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    Flag Day

    Happy Flag Day! Flag Day is Sunday, June 14! This annual holiday celebrates the history and symbolism of the American flag. Learn about the history of this holiday and the beloved Stars and Stripes! WHAT IS FLAG DAY? Flag Day is a celebration of the American flag that occurs each year on the anniversary of the flag’s official adoption, June 14. What we know fondly as the “Stars and Stripes” was adopted by the Continental Congress as the official American flag on June 14, 1777, in the midst of the Revolutionary War. Colonial troops fought under many different flags with various symbols and slogans: rattlesnakes, pine trees, and eagles; “Don’t Tread on Me,” “Liberty or Death,” and “Conquer or Die,” to name a few. The first official national flag had 13 white stars on a blue field and 13 alternating red and white stripes—both representing the 13 original colonies. Today, there are 50 stars, one for each state in the Union, but the 13 stripes remain. Flag Day was first celebrated in 1877—on the flag’s 100th birthday—and persists today. On Flag Day, many towns and cities hold parades and events to celebrate the flag, and the colors are to be flown at all government buildings. Flag Day is not an official federal holiday, but its observance is traditionally proclaimed each year by the President of the United States. Who Made the First American Flag? Although many people believe that Betsy Ross designed and sewed the first flag, there is no true proof of that. However, records do indicate that she made ensigns and pennants for the Philadelphia navy during the war. WHEN IS FLAG DAY? Flag Day is celebrated annually on June 14. In 2020, Flag Day will be observed on Sunday, June 14. Year Flag Day 2020 Sunday, June 14 2021 Monday, June 14 2022 Tuesday, June 14 2023 Wednesday, June 14 HISTORY OF THE AMERICAN FLAG January 1, 1776: The first United States flag, the “Grand Union,” was displayed by George Washington. It became the unofficial national flag, preceding the 13-star, 13-stripe version. June 14, 1777: The Stars and Stripes was adopted by the Continental Congress as the Flag of the United States. June 14, 1877: Flag Day was observed nationally for the first time on the 100th anniversary of the Stars and Stripes. June 14, 1937: Pennsylvania became the first state in the United States to celebrate Flag Day officially as a state holiday. July 4, 1960: The new 50-star flag was flown for the first time, and is the flag that still flies today. The Grand Union Flag, the first unofficial national flag, represented here on a 1968 postage stamp. WHY IS THE AMERICAN FLAG RED, WHITE, AND BLUE? The Continental Congress left no record as to why it chose these colors. However, in 1782, the Congress of the Articles of Confederation chose the colors for the Great Seal of the United States with these meanings: white for purity and innocence red for valor and hardiness blue for vigilance, perseverance, and justice According to the End of the Oregon Trail Interpretive Center, the colors originated with the British flag, which is called the Union Jack and was a combination of the Scottish cross of St. Andrew (white on blue) and the English cross of St. George (red on white) at the time. (The modern British flag also incorporates the Irish cross of St. Patrick into its design.) AMERICAN FLAG ETIQUETTE Did you know that there is a proper way to fly the American flag? The U.S. Flag Code is an official set of guidelines (not laws) that dictates how a flag should be flown in order to show it the respect and honor that it deserves. Learn all about American Flag Etiquette here, and be well-prepared to hoist the flag this Flag Day! WHERE MAY THE AMERICAN FLAG BE FLOWN 24 HOURS A DAY? The flag is usually taken indoors at night out of respect, but there are some places where flying the flag around the clock is permissible. Do you think you can guess them? The Betsy Ross House in Philadelphia The White House The U.S. Capitol The Iwo Jima Memorial to U.S. Marines in Arlington, Virginia The Revolutionary War battleground in Lexington, Massachusetts The site of George Washington’s winter encampment at Valley Forge, Pennsylvania Fort McHenry in Baltimore, Maryland The Jenny Wade House in Gettysburg, Pennsylvania (Jenny Wade was the only civilian killed in the Battle of Gettysburg, during the Civil War) The USS Arizona Memorial at Pearl Harbor All customs points of entry into the United States Any US Navy ship that is under way In truth, the flag may be flown at night anywhere that it may be flown during the day, provided it is properly illuminated during the hours of darkness.
  15. That is not true. But if collecting SSI, you do need to report what you earn if you are under age 65. The Supplemental Security Income (SSI) program pays benefits to disabled adults and children who have limited income and resources. Reporting Wages for Supplemental Security Income (SSI) If you receive Supplemental Security Income (SSI) and you or your deemor (e.g. your ineligible spouse or parent(s) with whom you live) work, then either you or your representative payee must report the gross wages to Social Security. You should consistently report wages during the first six days of the month to help prevent overpayments and underpayments. Because SSI is a needs-based program for people who are aged, blind, or disabled, the amount you can receive is based, in part, on the income available to you. Generally, the more income available to you, the less the SSI payment will be. You can report wages by visiting, calling, or writing your local Social Security Office. You should ask about our options to use the automated toll-free SSI Telephone Wage Reporting Service, the free SSI Mobile Wage Reporting Smartphone app, or the my Social Security online wage reporting tool. If you want to report wages using our telephone service or Smartphone app, please contact your local Social Security office and speak to one of our representatives. Sign Up To Receive An E-mail Or Text Message Wage Reporting Reminder Regardless of which method you choose to report wages, you can sign up online to receive a monthly e-mail or text message wage reporting reminder. Sign up here! If you have any questions about SSI Wage Reporting, please contact us. (SSI Administration)
  16. @emptyman, Please read DF's Terms Of Service before posting links. If anyone wants to see his link, please PM him. Thank you! Take care. ~Lindsay
  17. Welcome to Depression Forums, @Girlnextdoor24 ! There is so much information here to discover, to talk about to your peers. Members here are so helpful. You will find it therapeutic since now it is really inconvenient to go out and about, DF is a great place to make acquaintances and get the answers that you need. Take very good care of YOU! ~Lindsay, Forum Admin, Founder Depressionforums Administrator
  18. Dear, dear @Epictetus, My goodness, I am so fortunate to have you on my staff. And I am wondering, what has made you so wise? You my dear friend are invaluable. Thank you for being here all these years. I have not thank you enough. ~Lindsay
  19. Sorry to see you go @Devlinkyla, these things happen. This is called life. We just cannot dwell on it . We can post how sorry we are, but. We have to try and stay positive if possible, and as life keeps on going we must at least try to. I lost a fabulous moderator in the mid 90's due to Suicide and everyone knew she was going to die. She was wonderful, I did not give up DF though. Neither did our members! It is difficult I know, I have been there and right now I am starting to feel it as well, but I am not giving-up! I wish you well in whatever you do and wherever you go. ~Lindsay P.S. There were some very nice things spoken.
  20. Usually you give a medication a chance, or at least call your pDoc and they would prescribe something to calm you a bit along with the Abilify. Not just an antipsychotic alone. I was once given Haldol mistakenly!! and it was horrific! (for me)! That is one strong med, I was on it one day and my Dr. immediately took me off as it was totally not for me! Please know that you need to consult your pDoc and give your meds a chance, which most usually are btw 4-6 weeks to fully take effect. JMHO. Feel better, best wishes to you, ~Lindsay
  21. Valentines Day 6 Surprising Facts About St. Valentine Who was St. Valentine, and why do we celebrate him on February 14? In honor of Valentine’s Day, get the facts about this enigmatic character. ELIZABETH HANES 1. The St. Valentine who inspired the holiday may have been two different men. Officially recognized by the Roman Catholic Church, St. Valentine is known to be a real person who died around A.D. 270. However, his true identity was questioned as early as A.D. 496 by Pope Gelasius I, who referred to the martyr and his acts as “being known only to God.” One account from the 1400s describes Valentine as a temple priest who was beheaded near Rome by the emperor Claudius II for helping Christian couples wed. A different account claims Valentine was the Bishop of Terni, also martyred by Claudius II on the outskirts of Rome. Because of the similarities of these accounts, it’s thought they may refer to the same person. Enough confusion surrounds the true identity of St. Valentine that the Catholic Church discontinued liturgical veneration of him in 1969, though his name remains on its list of officially recognized saints. 2. In all, there are about a dozen St. Valentines, plus a pope. The saint we celebrate on Valentine’s Day is known officially as St. Valentine of Rome in order to differentiate him from the dozen or so other Valentines on the list. Because “Valentinus”—from the Latin word for worthy, strong or powerful—was a popular moniker between the second and eighth centuries A.D., several martyrs over the centuries have carried this name. The official Roman Catholic roster of saints shows about a dozen who were named Valentine or some variation thereof. The most recently beatified Valentine is St. Valentine Berrio-Ochoa, a Spaniard of the Dominican order who traveled to Vietnam, where he served as bishop until his beheading in 1861. Pope John Paul II canonized Berrio-Ochoa in 1988. There was even a Pope Valentine, though little is known about him except that he served a mere 40 days around A.D. 827. 3. Valentine is the patron saint of beekeepers and epilepsy, among many other things. Saints are certainly expected to keep busy in the afterlife. Their holy duties include interceding in earthly affairs and entertaining petitions from living souls. In this respect, St. Valentine has wide-ranging spiritual responsibilities. People call on him to watch over the lives of lovers, of course, but also for interventions regarding beekeeping and epilepsy, as well as the plague, fainting and traveling. As you might expect, he’s also the patron saint of engaged couples and happy marriages. 4. You can find Valentine’s skull in Rome. The flower-adorned skull of St. Valentine is on display in the Basilica of Santa Maria in Cosmedin, Rome. In the early 1800s, the excavation of a catacomb near Rome yielded skeletal remains and other relics now associated with St. Valentine. As is customary, these bits and pieces of the late saint’s body have subsequently been distributed to reliquaries around the world. You’ll find other bits of St. Valentine’s skeleton on display in the Czech Republic, Ireland, Scotland, England and France. 5. Chaucer may have invented Valentine’s Day. The medieval English poet Geoffrey Chaucer often took liberties with history, placing his poetic characters into fictitious historical contexts that he represented as real. No record exists of romantic celebrations on Valentine’s Day prior to a poem Chaucer wrote around 1375. In his work “Parliament of Foules,” he links a tradition of courtly love with the celebration of St. Valentine’s feast day–an association that didn’t exist until after his poem received widespread attention. The poem refers to February 14 as the day birds (and humans) come together to find a mate. When Chaucer wrote, “For this was sent on Seynt Valentyne’s day / Whan every foul cometh ther to choose his mate,” he may have invented the holiday we know today. 6. You can celebrate Valentine’s Day several times a year. Because of the abundance of St. Valentines on the Roman Catholic roster, you can choose to celebrate the saint multiple times each year. Besides February 14, you might decide to celebrate St. Valentine of Viterbo on November 3. Or maybe you want to get a jump on the traditional Valentine celebration by feting St. Valentine of Raetia on January 7. Women might choose to honor the only female St. Valentine (Valentina), a virgin martyred in Palestine on July 25, A.D. 308. The Eastern Orthodox Church officially celebrates St. Valentine twice, once as an elder of the church on July 6 and once as a martyr on July 30.
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    Happy Hanukkah People are preparing to light their menorahs for the first time Sunday night, making it the perfect opportunity to curl up with, as Adam Sandler sings, a "gin and tonic-ah" and learn about Hanukkah. Sunday marks the first night of the holiday, also known as the Festival of Lights. For the next eight days, Jewish people will gather with friends and family to light their menorahs and remember a miracle that God performed thousands of years earlier. When Antiochus IV Epiphanes ruled Judea, the land known today as Israel, he outlawed the Jewish religion and ordered everyone to worship Greek gods. After his soldiers marched into Jerusalem, they desecrated the Second Temple and erected an idol. To fight back against the oppression, a group of people known as the Maccabees banded together. Led by Judah, the son of Mattathias, a local leader in Modi'in, they were successful in their revolt against the king's much more powerful army and reclaimed Jerusalem. When the Maccabees returned to the destroyed temple, Judah ordered it to be rebuilt and for the menorah to be lit once again. Despite having untainted oil to light the menorah for only one night, they lit it anyway. Miraculously, the menorah remained lit for eight days. Now, Hanukkah serves as a reminder of God's miracle and the Maccabees' victory over their oppressors, despite the enormous odds against them. Starting on Sunday, people will light their menorahs, adding one additional candle for each subsequent night until all eight are burning on the last night of Hanukkah. Along with lighting the menorah, which is usually placed in a window or a spot in the home where it can be observed from outside, people often eat latkes, potato pancakes they fry in oil, reminiscent of the oil that burned for eight days.
  23. `Tis The Season Welcome to the holiday season. Typically, a time for families and friends to connect and share in the joy of the season. That said it can also be a time of isolation for many, for stress overload, and a general sense that it is not “joyous.” Recent social media posts on suicidal ideation from celebrities who have been harassed and the recent murders and suicide of a family in Tampa exacerbate negative feelings. Personally, this holiday brings a sense of melancholy to my family, having just lost a wonderful member of our family within the last few weeks and knowing that two other loved ones passed away during this month in years past. We understand that feelings of sadness or loneliness are “normal” feelings that dissipate in a relatively short time. However, for people living with depressive disorder, or chronic depression, those feelings may not subside. According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), an estimated 16 million American adults had at least one major depressive episode in the past year. Depression does not discriminate; rather people of all ages and all racial, ethnic and socioeconomic backgrounds experience depression. Depression that is chronic, more than two weeks, is different for each person. Depressive disorder changes how a person functions day-to-day and symptoms can include change in sleep or appetite, loss of energy or interest in activities, physical symptoms of pain, and suicidal thoughts. The good news is that there is treatment and support available. Psychotherapy, medication, exercise, and alternative approaches are just a start. NAMI Sarasota County offers weekly and monthly support groups and education classes designed to help individuals, families and caregivers with their mental health issues. NAMI is also a resource to individuals and families looking for support and services in the community. Reach out for help, whether it be to a friend, family member, co-worker, or NAMI at 941-376-9361 or info@namisarasotacounty.org. And if you or someone you know is in crisis, whether they are considering suicide or not, please call the toll-free, 24/7 Lifeline at 800-273-TALK (8255). -Lindsay FacebookTwitterEmailShare
  24. Happy Thanksgiving! Thanksgiving Day, annual national holiday in the United States and Canada celebrating the harvest and other blessings of the past year. Americans generally believe that their Thanksgiving is modeled on a 1621 harvest feast shared by the English colonists (Pilgrims) of Plymouth and the Wampanoag people. The American holiday is particularly rich in legend and symbolism, and the traditional fare of the Thanksgiving meal typically includes turkey, bread stuffing, potatoes, cranberries, and pumpkin pie. With respect to vehicular travel, the holiday is often the busiest of the year, as family members gather with one another.
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