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Moody Blues

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  1. I've been taking Paxil and drinking coffee for years and haven't had any problems.
  2. From what I experienced, no. I'm on 60 mgs of Paxil and have not gained anymore weight from 30mg. I also feel better on a higher dosage and exercise more frequently. If your AD is working, there's ways to get around the weight gain.
  3. I'm sorry Fides, I know how much it hurts. This is a toxic relationship for you and I know you feel you can't live without her, but you can. It's time you live your life for you, not waiting around for someone to give you a minute of their time. You appear to be a trustworthy, honest and compassionate man. I'm sure there are women out there who would love to date you. Stop wasting time waiting around for a married woman to make a decision. I'm sorry to say, I think you're going to get screwed in the end.
  4. I don't know, everything seems to take priority over you. I have a feeling she's just stringing you along. Do you ever get to spend quality time with this woman, is there any intimacy? When a person loves another, they make time to see them.
  5. Fides, I understand what you're feeling, I've been through it. The one thing I learned is you can't live your life for one person. You need to have a life of your own and not wait for another person to define it. Love is not supposed to hurt, it should bring joy and enhance your life. Letting another person's actions define your mood is unhealthy and will make your depression worse.
  6. I've been suffering from anxiety/depression for years, have you tried CBT? CBT teaches you to change your thought pattern, it's not easy but can be done. I'm on medication and see my therapist weekly, both have helped me.
  7. It seems like she is always the one who determines when and if you talk, etc. It reminds me of my daughter's relationship she had. She was always waiting. I agree Sun, this doesn't seem to be a 2 way relationship.
  8. I was 27 when my depression/anxiety reared it's ugly head. Although as I look back, there were signs earlier in my life, but thought they were normal. I married at 26 and was divorced at 27, it was a horrendous time for me. I was devastated at the lose of my marriage. I think I already had underlying depression and this was the catalyst. I've been suffering for over 20 yrs. with depression and anxiety!
  9. I recently went back to work and it's been very helpful. A job gives me a purpose in life and occupies my time, therefore giving me less time to think about me and my feelings.
  10. Choose a career that will make you happy. You can go back to school part time and get a degree in anything you want to. You may have to stay at the job you have, but creating a plan B should take some of the pressure off. I went back to school at age 35 and obtained my nursing degree. I now work as a Registered Nurse, with a good income, in a field I like.
  11. I was raised by a mother similar to yours, I realize now, that my mom wanted the best for me and was so worried I would make a mistake. Not sure how old you are, but you sound young. My mother was very controlling, but it was out of love. She would go crazy if she thought I was making a wrong decision. I'm 50 yrs old and have to say "I should have listened to my mother"! She was right most of the time, but it was the way she said things, that made me angry. She passed 3 yrs. ago and I would give anything to have her back nagging me. Only after I lost her, did I realize, everything she did was out of love. Please take a step back and look at your mother. She may not always say, or do the right things, but you're her child and she loves you.
  12. In an earlier post in this thread you told me to step back and live my life for me. You also commented on that it seemed I had an obsession with her. So it sounds like you had an opinion on my situation from seeing it from a distance. I would say just listen to him when he wants to talk. I do listen to him, but it's obvious this woman is on her way out. My friend is totally obsessed with this woman and his life revolves around her actions. I suggested he go to therapy, but he won't listen. What finally made you decide to get help for this?
  13. Hi Fides, How are you doing? I have a male friend in a similar situation as yours and I can relate to what you're feeling. Recently his entire life has been focused around one woman and what she does. He's become totally obsessed with her and his mood depends on whether or not she calls him. His entire life has been on hold, while this woman decides what she wants to do. Recently she's been contacting him less and less and he's in a panic. I'm trying to help him, but don't know what to do.
  14. It appears you care very much about this woman, but you can't live your life around her. You seem to have a unhealthy obsession with her, that will only lead to heartache. She's a married woman and IMHO you're playing with fire. You need to step back and live your own life, one that doesn't revolve around this woman. There's a chance she won't leave her husband and where does this leave you? Never give another person the power to make or break you.
  15. Hello and welcome to the forum. I find the members here to be very supportive and understanding towards everyone. You can be yourself here, we don't judge and try to offer helpful advice. IMO, bullies are the ones who have a problem. It's their insecurities that cause them to put other people down. You're only 15 and haven't learned how to deal with people who reflect their own problems onto other's. You will find people like this through out your lifetime and you can't let it affect you in a negative way. Depression and anxiety is difficult to deal with, but you appear to be very intelligent and already have great insight, as to what is going on. Please continue to post, I know there are many people here with similar experiences and are more then happy to help you!
  16. Your boyfriend needs to seek professional help, depression can take over a persons life. Unfortunately, you are in the middle this and will also suffer from his depression. Depression can be a roller coaster, his mood can change in a heartbeat and last for a long period of time. To be honest, I would not want to be involved in a relationship, with a partner who suffers from depression. Especially one who won't seek help for it.
  17. If depression is a gift, I would like to give it back. I'm far from dumb and this illness has caused so much misery in my life. You may be quite content being depressed, but I'm not! There are so many good things in life to enjoy, that's what I want to focus on.
  18. I've been suffering from BDD for years. I finally started seeing a therapist and we are working on it. It's a very complicated disorder and not too many people talk about it. BDD Central is back up and running, it's a forum that discusses only BDD.
  19. For those who are suffering BDD Central is back. http://www.bddcentral.com/forum/index.php?board=1.0
  20. I was on Abilify and it did nothing for me.
  21. Stony Brook University Hospital has an excellent Psych program.
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