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Moody Blues

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  1. My male friend B, was dating a woman for 3 months and then she just disappeared. No explanation, no reason, no phone call. My friend is devastated that a person could just walk out of his life like that.

    It's been 9 months and he's still obsessing over her. B is convinced she will come back to him.

    He's depressed and not sleeping, his whole world revolves around this woman that is no longer in his life.

    I'm concerned he will continue to spiral downward. This woman wants nothing to do with him, but he can't give up the hope that "she'll be back". I know this is not a healthy response to a break up and I don't know how to help B. I suggested therapy, but he doesn't think he has a problem.

    I don't know what to do.....Please help.

  2. Believe me, most therapists do not judge you. I've learned to open up and have told my deepest, darkest secrets. Opening myself up, gave my therapist an idea what I was about, how I thought and how I viewed the world.

    We then started to work on my views, my thoughts and my beliefs. It's an ongoing process, but I've learned what I'm all about. I know how to handle the irrational thoughts, that have been creating severe anxiety and panic in my life.

  3. Thanks everyone for their responses up to this point.

    MaggieMae:

    It sounds like you don't think you would be a good employee.

    I think I could do fine in the right job and environment. The problem that the right job for me is determined by what things I can avoid rather than what my potential may be. My job hunt is restricted mostly to low wage work doing menial tasks because want to minimize the risk being judged or embarrassed. It doesn't help that I don't have professional references or any hard skills to sell.

    It sounds like you are concentrating so much on trying to hide your anxiety, you have little focus left to answer questions.

    Yes. Interviews to me are more like interrogations as if they are trying to expose my weak points, looking for any excuse to tear up my resume. I know they are looking for both strengths and weaknesses but because I have a low self-esteem I feel as if there are no real strengths. It's a combination of perceiving potential threats from other people and a negative bias. This, of course, goes beyond interviewing and can be applied broadly to many social situations.

    Wrenn:

    Those are all good suggestions. I know I need to practice more. Things would be a lot easier if my personal issues weren't involved with the process of interviewing. Being excited for a new job instead of dreading it would be nice.

    What is your field?

    Moody Blues:

    Nursing. Smart career choice. High demand. Let us know if you get that supervisory position.

    Yes, I did get the position.

  4. Well I nailed the interview and looks like I will be hired. I'll know definitely on Friday. :smilingteeth:

    Congratulations on your successful interview, that's awesome. What is it for?

    I work as a Registered Nurse and it was for a supervisory position.

  5. Hi LoveandFaith,

    I have turned into my mother! I have all her good qualities and also her bad.

    I watched my mother go through depression and anxiety and was raised in that environment. I can now understand that is not how I want to live my life. I also suffer from depression and anxiety, but decided to get help for it.

    I realize between the environmental factors and genetics, I was going to follow the same path in life.

    You can help yourself get beyond this. You already know you're predisposed to bipolar and now is the time to start addressing it. Understand it and take your power back, it's not easy but it can be done.

  6. You need to be confident with yourself during an interview. When asked a question, I will pause and think before answering. I keep my mind on the "discussion" I'm having with another person, because an interview is just that.....a discussion about you. Think about what you have to offer to the employer, prior to the interview. You can rehearse what you would like to say, it makes it easier if anxiety sets in during the interview.

    I have an interview today and have prepped myself mentally for the last two days.

    I'll wear a nice outfit and present myself as the professional I am. I'll be confident, but not cocky.

    I'll maintain eye contact and ask questions about the position. If I don't get the job, it's not the end of the world, there's other opportunities out there.

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