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    Luciano reacted to ggpheobepeeby in Our best friend, our worst enemy...   
    I love this outlook!
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    Luciano got a reaction from ggpheobepeeby in My experience...   
    I want to share an experience I hope will offer encouragement to anyone who is in the same position I once found myself in. Earlier in my life I had some serious issues with anxiety and depression. After spending some time utilising various coping mechanisms I experienced a particularly difficult period. This experience was horrific. It made me wish I had never been born. But it terrified me so much it spurned me into action. I decided to abandon the coping strategy I had clung to and pursue the root cause of my issues. I believed that if I found the root cause I would be able to address this and cure myself of these symptoms for good. I made a list of treatments I thought might allow me to do this. I worked my way through this list. One of these approaches allowed me to get to the root cause of my depression and anxiety and resolve the issue. I went from being someone who was being crushed by the weight of my emotions to someone who wakes up with an optimistic attitude to life’s challenges. I now start my days with a genuine excitement about the future. I walked this path and made this transition. If you walk this path you can make the same discoveries, the same changes and be cured.
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    Luciano got a reaction from ggpheobepeeby in Our best friend, our worst enemy...   
    Our best friend, our worst enemy... I am talking, of course about our unconscious. At times it is useful to talk about the unconscious as if it is another person. They are the cause of your depression, anxiety and all other related symptoms. But they are actually on your side. What they are exhibiting is a cry for help. Your unconscious desperately wants your attention... but they are ignored, so they cry for help. 
     
    So where do we go from here? Well your unconscious is like the smartest person in the meeting you are sitting in... they are smart but shy, introverted. They do not offer an opinion because they think no one is listening. As soon as they are invited to speak, prompted a little we find they have a huge amount to offer.  
     
    So we need to start listening to our unconscious. If we do so we will find they become more talkative. Once you get this dialogue going you can decipher what the problem is, what is causing your anxiety and depression. Once you do this you will be on the path to fixing the problem and feeling better again.  
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    Luciano got a reaction from sober4life in Our best friend, our worst enemy...   
    Our best friend, our worst enemy... I am talking, of course about our unconscious. At times it is useful to talk about the unconscious as if it is another person. They are the cause of your depression, anxiety and all other related symptoms. But they are actually on your side. What they are exhibiting is a cry for help. Your unconscious desperately wants your attention... but they are ignored, so they cry for help. 
     
    So where do we go from here? Well your unconscious is like the smartest person in the meeting you are sitting in... they are smart but shy, introverted. They do not offer an opinion because they think no one is listening. As soon as they are invited to speak, prompted a little we find they have a huge amount to offer.  
     
    So we need to start listening to our unconscious. If we do so we will find they become more talkative. Once you get this dialogue going you can decipher what the problem is, what is causing your anxiety and depression. Once you do this you will be on the path to fixing the problem and feeling better again.  
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    Luciano got a reaction from Oscar K in Our best friend, our worst enemy...   
    Our best friend, our worst enemy... I am talking, of course about our unconscious. At times it is useful to talk about the unconscious as if it is another person. They are the cause of your depression, anxiety and all other related symptoms. But they are actually on your side. What they are exhibiting is a cry for help. Your unconscious desperately wants your attention... but they are ignored, so they cry for help. 
     
    So where do we go from here? Well your unconscious is like the smartest person in the meeting you are sitting in... they are smart but shy, introverted. They do not offer an opinion because they think no one is listening. As soon as they are invited to speak, prompted a little we find they have a huge amount to offer.  
     
    So we need to start listening to our unconscious. If we do so we will find they become more talkative. Once you get this dialogue going you can decipher what the problem is, what is causing your anxiety and depression. Once you do this you will be on the path to fixing the problem and feeling better again.  
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    Luciano got a reaction from Oscar K in What we know about the mind and what is causing your problems.   
    Whilst it is true that there is a lot about the mind we do not currently understand it is also true that we know enough to do much better when it comes to dealing with mental health issues.  
     
    On one hand there are psychologists who do not believe our minds have a conscious and unconscious delineation. This is largely due to challenges associated with scientifically testing and proving the thesis beyond any doubt. However there are plenty of smart people who believe the unconscious mind does exist. Neuroscientists Daniel Kahneman and Amos Tversky both received a 2002 Nobel Prize for their work in this field. So a lot of people know we have a conscious and an unconscious mind. They just cannot prove it beyond doubt at this stage. 
     
    We know that emotions are caused by the release of neurochemicals such as dopamine and serotonin. We know that our thoughts regulate the release of these chemicals. Sad thoughts equal sad emotions. And do we know what else triggers the release of neurochemicals? Our friend, the unconscious mind. Are your symptoms the result of a chemical imbalance? You could say that. But the source of the chemical imbalance is the faulty signalling coming from your unconscious.  
     
    In closing we know enough to come to the following conclusion. If you are experiencing anxiety, depression or associated issues then the cause can be found in your unconscious.  A different starting position at best will send you the long way round in your search for a solution. At worst it will send you in the wrong direction.
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    Luciano reacted to sober4life in My experience...   
    I agree.  I did the same thing you did for the most part.  My drinking and drug use just prologed the inevitable fight and recovery I had to go through to ever have a chance of being happy and functional in this life.  I guess for a long time you have no idea why you are who you are and don't want to find out and quite literally are afraid to find out but you eventually have to figure out what's going on with you on your own or with help.  Eventually your mind will force you to find out.
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    Luciano got a reaction from Oscar K in My experience...   
    I want to share an experience I hope will offer encouragement to anyone who is in the same position I once found myself in. Earlier in my life I had some serious issues with anxiety and depression. After spending some time utilising various coping mechanisms I experienced a particularly difficult period. This experience was horrific. It made me wish I had never been born. But it terrified me so much it spurned me into action. I decided to abandon the coping strategy I had clung to and pursue the root cause of my issues. I believed that if I found the root cause I would be able to address this and cure myself of these symptoms for good. I made a list of treatments I thought might allow me to do this. I worked my way through this list. One of these approaches allowed me to get to the root cause of my depression and anxiety and resolve the issue. I went from being someone who was being crushed by the weight of my emotions to someone who wakes up with an optimistic attitude to life’s challenges. I now start my days with a genuine excitement about the future. I walked this path and made this transition. If you walk this path you can make the same discoveries, the same changes and be cured.
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    Luciano reacted to sober4life in What is happening? [part 2 of 4]   
    I couldn't have handled those memories until I was an adult though.  I can't imagine what my life would have been if my mind held onto the memories my whole life but is it really better to go from yesterday being around people that have the nerve to hug you and say they love you knowing full well what they did to you and then jump to the day you remember knowing you will be in grave danger as long as those people are still alive?  I'm different than most people.  If someone tries to hurt me or stop me from doing something there is nothing that can stop me from that point.
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    Luciano got a reaction from sober4life in What is happening? [part 2 of 4]   
    I don't believe that anyone's brain is inherently negative. You brain malleable. It is like the cup and the emotions are what are inside. Negative and positive can build up over time, you can go from being full of positive to full of negative and vice versa. 
     
    It is really interesting that your childhood memories acted as an emotional boost to get you across the line with that. 
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    Luciano got a reaction from JD4010 in What is happening? [part 1 of 4]   
    If we can start to understand how our minds work we can start to make sense out of the often illogical, sometimes random, always terrifying uncertainty that surrounds our symptoms like a wintry fog. We have a logical, rational, conscious part of the brain. We then have the unconscious. The latter is like our hard drive. It is where our emotional programming, the emotions themselves and our memories are stored. The language of this part of the mind is symbolic, metaphorical. It often works by association. When you hear that song from a happy time you plug into that happy feeling. The unconscious contains beliefs. These can be beliefs that the conscious/rational mind knows are not true. These beliefs can be the cause of the depression or anxiety. I will include a few examples in subsequent posts.  
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    Luciano got a reaction from sober4life in How do we get back up when we are so low we cannot move?   
    No shame in that my friend. We all need help sometimes. 
     
    L
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    Luciano got a reaction from sober4life in What is happening? [part 2 of 4]   
    Example 1: When Martin was six years old he was in a shopping centre with his Mum. While she was talking to a friend he wandered into a nearby lift and pushed some of the buttons. The door closed and due to a technical issue stayed closed for five minutes. Martin was terrified. He felt trapped and could not see his Mum. While he was feeling a particularly intense emotion the door between his conscious and unconscious opened and sucked in the reference experience. It was recorded as “if I go in the lift I will feel terrified and might die”. An engineer got the doors open, Martin was embraced by his Mum and forgot all about the experience. 25 years later, from out of nowhere Martin has a panic attack. It might have been caused by watching a movie where someone get’s stuck in a lift, or hearing the same elevator music, or perhaps it was the same distinct smell that lift 25 years ago had. Now Martin is suffering from anxiety, panic attacks and he looks around for a cause in his current life. He looks to his job, his relationships with his wife and parents, his finances. He cannot find the answer. On a conscious level he barely remembers the experience of 5 year old Martin.  
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    Luciano got a reaction from sober4life in What is happening? [part 1 of 4]   
    If we can start to understand how our minds work we can start to make sense out of the often illogical, sometimes random, always terrifying uncertainty that surrounds our symptoms like a wintry fog. We have a logical, rational, conscious part of the brain. We then have the unconscious. The latter is like our hard drive. It is where our emotional programming, the emotions themselves and our memories are stored. The language of this part of the mind is symbolic, metaphorical. It often works by association. When you hear that song from a happy time you plug into that happy feeling. The unconscious contains beliefs. These can be beliefs that the conscious/rational mind knows are not true. These beliefs can be the cause of the depression or anxiety. I will include a few examples in subsequent posts.  
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    Luciano got a reaction from Evergreenforst4 in What is happening? [part 1 of 4]   
    If we can start to understand how our minds work we can start to make sense out of the often illogical, sometimes random, always terrifying uncertainty that surrounds our symptoms like a wintry fog. We have a logical, rational, conscious part of the brain. We then have the unconscious. The latter is like our hard drive. It is where our emotional programming, the emotions themselves and our memories are stored. The language of this part of the mind is symbolic, metaphorical. It often works by association. When you hear that song from a happy time you plug into that happy feeling. The unconscious contains beliefs. These can be beliefs that the conscious/rational mind knows are not true. These beliefs can be the cause of the depression or anxiety. I will include a few examples in subsequent posts.  
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    Luciano got a reaction from Epictetus in What is happening? [part 1 of 4]   
    If we can start to understand how our minds work we can start to make sense out of the often illogical, sometimes random, always terrifying uncertainty that surrounds our symptoms like a wintry fog. We have a logical, rational, conscious part of the brain. We then have the unconscious. The latter is like our hard drive. It is where our emotional programming, the emotions themselves and our memories are stored. The language of this part of the mind is symbolic, metaphorical. It often works by association. When you hear that song from a happy time you plug into that happy feeling. The unconscious contains beliefs. These can be beliefs that the conscious/rational mind knows are not true. These beliefs can be the cause of the depression or anxiety. I will include a few examples in subsequent posts.  
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    Luciano got a reaction from Forum Admin in Quit Sugar and Carbs!   
    Hey John
     
    Thanks for sharing your experience. I drastically reduced my carb intake last year (for general health, not merely mental health reasons). I replaced carbs with healthy fats. There is a lot of science that suggests this can slow down the ageing process and significantly reduce the risk of serious illness such as cancer.
     
    L
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    Luciano got a reaction from Oscar K in How do we get back up when we are so low we cannot move?   
    No shame in that my friend. We all need help sometimes. 
     
    L
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    Luciano got a reaction from JD4010 in How do we get back up when we are so low we cannot move?   
    No shame in that my friend. We all need help sometimes. 
     
    L
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    Luciano reacted to Oscar K in How do we get back up when we are so low we cannot move?   
    One comment about "sinking".
    This is a common metaphor that reveals the need for metaphorically letting go of excessive emotional baggage.
    The metaphorical depression cave we all have is a great place to consign any and all negativity.
    Personally I try to keep a handy supply of big, bad, bold metaphorical boulders to squash useless thoughts and memories.
    Old Man Depression is always busy playing awful tricks on our psyches so we should just play some clever tricks right back.
    All's fair in love, war and depression.
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    Luciano got a reaction from JD4010 in How do we get back up when we are so low we cannot move?   
    We sink lower and lower until we hit the bottom. When we're there the best thing to do is take a while... allow yourself to be there, don't force it and don't beat yourself up about it. Tell yourself you will accept it for a period of time... the next hour, day, week, whatever you decide. But tell yourself once that hour, day, week has passed you will take the first small step... start to listen to music you find uplifting, go out and get some fresh air, maybe then meet some friends and work to build the momentum back the other way. 
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    Luciano got a reaction from sober4life in How do we get back up when we are so low we cannot move?   
    We sink lower and lower until we hit the bottom. When we're there the best thing to do is take a while... allow yourself to be there, don't force it and don't beat yourself up about it. Tell yourself you will accept it for a period of time... the next hour, day, week, whatever you decide. But tell yourself once that hour, day, week has passed you will take the first small step... start to listen to music you find uplifting, go out and get some fresh air, maybe then meet some friends and work to build the momentum back the other way. 
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    Luciano got a reaction from Oscar K in How do we get back up when we are so low we cannot move?   
    We sink lower and lower until we hit the bottom. When we're there the best thing to do is take a while... allow yourself to be there, don't force it and don't beat yourself up about it. Tell yourself you will accept it for a period of time... the next hour, day, week, whatever you decide. But tell yourself once that hour, day, week has passed you will take the first small step... start to listen to music you find uplifting, go out and get some fresh air, maybe then meet some friends and work to build the momentum back the other way. 
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    Luciano got a reaction from sober4life in Negative self image   
    Negative self image can be a huge issue. I think it is important to separate two things - 1)How we look; 2)How we feel about/perceive how we look (self image). If the actual issue is #2 then changing #1 won't help. When I had depression the fact I was losing my hair (this started aged 22) bothered me. The fact I was skinny bothered me. The fact I was short sighted and needed glasses bothered me. I got over the depression and now I like having a shaved head. I wear contacts. I see myself as lean and toned rather than "skinny". It's how you feel and the perception of yourself... which is separate from your actual appearance. 
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    Luciano got a reaction from Oscar K in Negative self image   
    Negative self image can be a huge issue. I think it is important to separate two things - 1)How we look; 2)How we feel about/perceive how we look (self image). If the actual issue is #2 then changing #1 won't help. When I had depression the fact I was losing my hair (this started aged 22) bothered me. The fact I was skinny bothered me. The fact I was short sighted and needed glasses bothered me. I got over the depression and now I like having a shaved head. I wear contacts. I see myself as lean and toned rather than "skinny". It's how you feel and the perception of yourself... which is separate from your actual appearance. 
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