Hello friends, my name is Lann, I know there are already many topics with similar titles. But please let me tell you here.
My girfriend and I have been in a relationship for almost two years. In the past when I chased her she didn't want to date, she just wanted to get married. I think it's natural because in my religion, only marriage is considered by God.
But over time, she finally wants to date with me *yayy*
Our relationship experienced sweet and sour love, whether there were other men who approached her, or vice versa. but we can get through it just fine.
Our relationship is not limited to verbal only but also to physical contact, you know what I mean. but only limited to foreplay, for further we do not dare. Our relationship is so beautiful.
until finally I was told that her father wanted her with another man of his choice, not me. Although I know that she is fighting for me, but I'm not sure if she can withstand his "parents" request. It doesn't matter, because I don't care about it.
However, in recent weeks she has said that she feels worthless. she finally told me why she didn't want to date (back then) because she was a victim of sexual assault from her exes. she also felt that I was the same as her ex, even though what we did was based on loves, there was no element of coercion. Even though I already know that she's not virgin anymore and I accept her as she is.
Sadly, our communication becomes less frequent, her physical contact is like keeping her distance even just for a hug.
Several times she told me to look for a better woman than her, which made me even better (she thinks). and she said also that she didn't want to marry anyone if we break up.
I tried to make her comfortable, make her more meaningful by praising her a lot, thanking her, but it didn't work. Only makes me hurt, yes because she keeps her distance from me.
What should I do?? I don't want to break up with her, I love her, I want to marry her (next year). should I seek professional help? Or will it go away on its own?
Thanks a lot friends..