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  1. I know how you feel my friend. Being single often causes me anxiety and depression. I've shown interest in two girls I like and they both ignored me, pretty bad feeling. I see where you coming from but its probably easier sad then done but I guess something that may help is to be grateful for the relationships you had in the past. Some people have it really bad and never get into a physical relationship and never have intercourse or an emotional connection. Sounds like your not that bad with women as you've previously been engaged etc. Hope you feel better. I guess you can try dating mobile apps or dating websites but i guess you didnt come for dating advice but the feeling of loneliness that i often get too...
  2. Hello I'm 30 years old and haven't kissed a girl for over a year and haven't had sex for two or three years. I have messaged a couple girls I'm interested in but they haven't replied (I.e. not interested). So I'm currently not flirting / speaking to anyone and the girls I have showed interest in have rejected me. (Like the girl I kissed a year ago) It's causing me a lot of anxiety being single in general. I have underlying depression for multiple reasons. I think this is one of them, although I remember at a time I was in a relationship I was lying down next to my girlfriend in bed and still had a feeling of emptiness. I've joined multiple dating websites, dating apps etc. But never get much interest and always seem to get rejected. (Not really looking for dating advice but im being pro-active). I've started taking CBT therapy which hasn't really helped too much. I'm thinking of switching therapists. I'm also going to take anti-depressants to see if they help and I'm reading Johann Hari's book on depression 'lost connections.'. But I can't seem to find anything useful on youtube or any books etc on people discussing being single causing anxiety and some depression... Any tips? Thanks...
  3. Perphaps just having an honest and open conversation with her might help... Telling her you understand the arguments between you and her ex partner didnt help your daughter but her putting anger towards you isn't unacceptable and your her mother. I'm sorry to hear she treats you like this and I hope you you feel better. On the one hand she seems like a sensible young woman as she helps you out around the house and pays the bills so you raised a good young lady in that regard. She might just not know how much she hurts you sometimes. One thing that might be useful is to find out if she's like this with everyone, if she is it could be an anger issue, if its just you its likley something that happened in childhood that she still carrys to this day (I have a lot of anger for my mother because she was so over-protective and over-bearing it spoilt a lot of my childhood)
  4. I know it feels hard but you have two kids and a loving wife. How is your relationship with your wife? Do you get along and have a good connection? I notice you have said you have no real close friends. In Johann Hari's book on depression called 'lost connections' he has a paragraph on loneliness. One thing that he says he can help build connections with people and make friends is to have a passion in common. Do you have any hobbies? If so you can try joining a book club, a chess club, tennis club etc. You might be able to meet people and then socialise with people outside your family if that's what you want.
  5. Some people are like that but not all. Not sure how that's related to having a mutual passion/hobbie with someone.
  6. There is a good youtube vidoe I found useful that you might take benefit from. It's called 'The Loneliness Epidemic' by Matt D'Vella It an interview with Johann Hari which led me to start reading his book 'Lost connections'. There's a chapter in the book about loneliness that you might find useful.
  7. A video that I really liked on the subject was this... This is what led me to start reading Johann Hari's book on depression called 'lost connections'. There's a chapter on there about loneliness that might help you. I got a lot of value from the video I linked so do give that a watch, it might help you. He also has a section on the Joe Rogan podcasts where hes talks about loneliness.
  8. Hello I'm 30 years old and haven't kissed a girl for over a year and haven't had sex for two or three years. I have messaged a couple girls I'm interested in but they haven't replied (I.e. not interested). So I'm currently not flirting / speaking to anyone and the girls I have showed interest in have rejected me. (Like the girl I kissed a year ago) It's causing me a lot of anxiety being single in general. I have underlying depression for multiple reasons. I think this is one of them, although I remember at a time I was in a relationship I was lying down next to my girlfriend in bed and still had a feeling of emptiness. I've joined multiple dating websites, dating apps etc. But never get much interest and always seem to get rejected. (Not really looking for dating advice but im being pro-active). I've started taking CBT therapy which hasn't really helped too much. I'm thinking of switching therapists. I'm also going to take anti-depressants to see if they help and I'm reading Johann Hari's book on depression 'lost connections.'. But I can't seem to find anything useful on youtube or any books etc on people discussing being single causing anxiety and some depression... Any tips? Thanks...
  9. In Johann Hari's book 'Lost Connections', he talks about loneliness. He talks about one way to make more meaningful connections with people. And that is to have something in common with them that builds a strong connection. One way to do this is hobbies. For example joining a tennis club, a book review club, a chess club etc. Is there something that you like doing where you can make a meaningful connection with someone? I'm part of a tennis group and that makes me feel better. One of the guys there I talk to about depression, any problems I have etc.
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