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  1. Reading about other peoples' rough situations helps me know I am not alone in my struggles man. No matter how big or small your problem seems to be, if it bothers you, it is worth talking about. In my opinion, it is good to stop and think about WHY we are so bothered by our "failures." After scouring through online sources, I found this quote from theguardian.com that I feel offers some biological explanation: "Assistant professors who dream of attaining tenure and lawyers who dream of making partner often find themselves wondering why they were in such a hurry. After finally publishing a book, it was depressing for me to realize how quickly my attitude went from “I’m a guy who wrote a book!” to “I’m a guy who’s only written one book”. But this is how it should be, at least from an evolutionary perspective. Dissatisfaction with the present and dreams of the future are what keep us motivated, while warm fuzzy memories of the past reassure us that the feelings we seek can be had. In fact, perpetual bliss would completely undermine our will to accomplish anything at all; among our earliest ancestors, those who were perfectly content may have been left in the dust. This shouldn’t be depressing – quite the contrary. Recognizing that happiness exists, and that it’s a delightful visitor that never overstays its welcome, may help us appreciate it more when it arrives. Furthermore, understanding that it’s impossible to have happiness in all aspects of life can help you enjoy the happiness that has touched you. Recognizing that no one “has it all” can cut down on the one thing psychologists know impedes happiness: envy." Took out Link- Message Member~Lindsay So to relate this post to your troubles, you mentioned that you believe your peers from law school are doing so much better. If you were to ask them (and get an HONEST answer), do you believe that they would say they are perfectly content because of their achievements? That they have nothing that troubles them? It is definitely something to think about man, and I have to remind myself of the same thing when I get to feeling down about being a low-class worker here in the US. It seems no matter what job I take, I get talked to like I have the IQ of a rock just because I don't have any kind of degree. Gotta push past it man. We're all just human in the end, and nothing on this Earth will last forever.
  2. Hey @thatguiltyboy, C Midge again. Man, I don't know you, but I care about you like any decent person should care about another person going through a hard time. I'm new here too, but I feel like I understand where you are coming from and I want you to keep your hopes up. You and I have a lot of work to do to get where we want to be in life, but we can do it man. Even big tasks happen one small step at a time, so what is your first step towards being the person you want to be?
  3. Hello @thatguiltyboy, C Midge here. I feel like I understand where you are coming from. I will be 27 before too long and I have no degree, certification, or license of any kind to set me apart here in the United States. The only jobs I qualify for are minimum wage or are very dangerous. I have a wife who works full-time in a factory making minimum wage, and we have two small children. We live in a 28 foot camping trailer and have to rely on government assistance for food and healthcare. I am signed up to take vocational classes after summer for a construction technology course, but I feel like I have wasted so much of my life and potential already. I know I had a bad hand dealt to me in life with my childhood troubles, but I have seen people do much better with much worse situations. I would guess that comparing my success (or lack thereof) to my peers is the root of my depression. I know I shouldn't compare myself to others like that, but I can't seem to help it. The weight of failure just seems to get heavier as time goes on.
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