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LadyAmalthea

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  1. 15 hours ago, Liesel said:

    Do you ever find yourself in social circles with people your age and all of a sudden the name or face of your CO springs to your mind and you feel a jolt in your heart like you’re living a double life that’s exciting and you can’t wait to return to that fantasy world that no one knows about involving your CO? I try to live in the moment as best I can but it’s really a challenge as an INFJ to just be present and not drift off in my head. 

    I'm also an INFJ and I find it so difficult to stay engaged in conversation, even with my friends, because I'm naturally quiet. So, naturally, my mind wanders to my CO constantly. I get that jolt in my heart as well! Like a thrill of joy. I completely relate to the feeling of living a fantasy double life. Have you heard of maladaptive daydreaming? I struggle with it, and it sounds a little similar to what you're talking about. Thanks for sharing! 

  2. On 7/13/2019 at 1:37 PM, Myshka said:

    Even though I'm a fan of the guy himself and he pops up in my head sometimes, it's fantasies of various characters of his that really take over my brainspace. Have any of you ever had something like this happen with a fictional character or characters?

    @Myshka

    Aside from my one major celebrity obsession, ALL of my other obsessions have been with fictional characters. I totally know where you're coming from. Whenever I watch a new show or movie, I'll usually get completely fixated on at least one character for weeks, months, or sometimes years, and I'll fantasize about them and even dream about them often. 

  3. On 7/5/2019 at 3:44 AM, HopelessRomantic2011 said:

    Hi there and welcome! I can definitely relate to the hours spent daydreaming and what you said about feeling lonely and not being able to form meaningful relationships because I have the same issue. I think it’s good that you’re seeing a therapist. I saw one a few years ago and while it was nice to talk to someone, it didn’t result in me changing my behavior. But in my case, I wasn’t going specifically  to help me get rid of my obsession although I did mention it to her. Although I would ideally like to have better relationships in real life, I don’t really want to stop obsessing over my favorite celebrities in order to do it. I know that I haven’t excelled socially in life, but I don’t blame my interest in celebrities for that. It’s just a coping mechanism and security blanket and I think it’s less harmful (for me) to indulge in my celebrity obsessions rather than something that could potentially be more dangerous. So I accept that I’ve done this all my life and will continue to do it, but if it’s causing you distress, I think you’re doing the right thing in trying to get help. Don’t be embarrassed to talk to your therapist about it or even other people you trust because you definitely aren’t the only one who’s going through this.

    Hey @HopelessRomantic2011

    Thank you so much for your reply! It meant so much to me. While I want therapy to help me, I can't see how I'll ever quit this obsession, especially since I enjoy it so much. I see my CO as a coping mechanism too, and you're right, it is less physically harmful than, say, drug addiction or alcoholism. Maybe someday I will accept my obsession as my security blanket, but right now I'll try my best to break the cycle. Thank you for your encouragement. It's a huge relief to know I'm not alone.

  4. On 6/23/2019 at 4:15 AM, Sweetrubyroo said:

    I find myself becoming emotionally effected by his ups and downs. Since I was a kid I would fantasize and make up scenarios about him and a lot of times these are sexual scenarios. Recently he was accused of committing terrible acts against women and I can not tell you how it has emotionally destroyed me and my views of him and sadly this has not deterred my obsession but it has made me an emotional wreck and I get anxiety every time I come across an article or comment about the situation.

    Hi @Sweetrubyroo

    I relate to this so much. My celebrity has been accused of crimes as well, and recently it emotionally destroyed me so much that I was losing sleep, losing my appetite, and crying every day. I couldn't focus on school or other responsibilities because I couldn't stop stressing about the situation. I get insane anxiety when I come across articles about my celebrity too, and I know exactly what you mean when you say you're affected by his ups and downs. I know what you're going through, and I know how hard it is. If you ever want to talk to someone, feel free to message me.

  5. Hey everyone! I’m new to this forum. I was so happy to find this support group for celebrity obsession because I feel so alone in my struggle. I feel like I can’t tell my family or friends about what I’m going through.

    I am 21, and I have been utterly obsessed with a celebrity for ten years. I am almost constantly thinking of him, and I struggle with maladaptive daydreaming, which means I spend hours a day fantasizing about him. I prefer to be at home by myself watching his videos or looking at pictures of him rather than hang out with my real friends, and I’ve never been in a real romantic relationship. I have hundreds of pictures of him in my room and close to 25,000+ between my phone and my computer. I am compelled to learn all of his personal habits, and I’ve spent so much time and money filling my bookshelves with books about him, becoming an expert on every aspect of his life. But it’s still not enough. I’m always looking for more. I’m addicted for sure.

    Recently, my obsession started to impact my health and academics. I started seeing a therapist last month. It is so difficult and embarrassing to describe my celebrity obsession to another person. Sometimes I can’t even put what I’m feeling into words. I know my obsession is the result of the fact that I’ve suffered from loneliness most of my life. It is incredibly difficult for me to create meaningful relationships that last more than a few years. My celebrity has saved me from the agony of being alone, but I’m beginning to understand that my obsession has caused me to run from my problems and be absent in my own life. 

    I want to live a more fulfilling life, but at the same time, I’m terrified that nothing will be able to take his place, that no one could ever make me feel like he does – he makes me feel alive. I am so afraid that I’ll never love someone like that again. I’m only a month into therapy, and I already feel like I’m going to lose the best thing that has ever happened to me, the person who has helped me survive my worst years. And let’s be honest, a part of me doesn’t want to overcome my obsession. I feel such a deep connection to this person, and I love him. Maybe it’s crazy to say that, but that’s how it feels. I don’t know how I could live without him, and I don’t want to.

    If any of you can relate, I’d love to hear from you. You’re not alone!

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