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  1. haha not for another 4 years, but as soon as I get the title ill be using it every chance I get
  2. I'm about to start my PhD in biomedical science, I met with the supervisor on Friday and she showed me some of the cells she works on and I literally had a braingasam I was so impressed and excited and I cannot wait to start I've dreamed and wanted to do one for so long it just feels to good to be true!! thank you
  3. I'm so f*kn tired a few good things happened this week tho, I finally FINALLY got a PhD, like I'm 100% a PhD student now, and I found my own apartment!! I'm so excited to live alone, just me and my cat, and then to get more cat children
  4. Hey, sorry you're struggling with this, I dont have the answers for regaining pressure etc but I feel you on the not being interested in sex anymore. I was as a teen but had a really traumatic relationship and its put me off from ever having one again and being able to trust someone enough to be that vulnerable again. I wish I had the answers but you're not alone in this
  5. Hi everyone Its nice to be back, I had to leave for a bit because I was so down and found reading about others struggles (especially the ones I related too so much) was a little triggering and exhausting. I've been so su*cidal the past year and couldn't do anything beyond staying in bed, drinking a lot of coffee and watching a lot of TV shows. I like to watch crime and I watched the entire 21 seasons of SVU cuz I found it comforting that if I ever decided to report my assaults that maybe I could find cops like them, even though I know its all fictional but they must get their stories from somewhere right. I'll probably never report tbh and I dont generally trust or like cops but watching the show made me feel less alone in what I've been through. Anyway, I'm in a slightly better place now, and today I'm waiting anxiously for the PhD supervisor I chose to hopefully agree to take me on. It's like almost offical but not 100% yet, m but I'm keeping my hopes up that she will It's also winter in my side of the world and I'm really missing the heat and wish I was currently in the west so I could be in summer like the majority of you are. (though I am glad I'm currently not an American because being a woman in the states seems really scary right now especially since I'm of "child bearing" age, I know for sure that I never want kids, I dont know what I'd do if I was in one of the states where its almost impossible to get an @bortion now....
  6. Thanks, its nice to hear from you too! I remember you post a lot in the how do you feel right now thread so im gonna go there to see how you're doing now etc
  7. Im sorry its everything seems so difficult! it must be hard having to deal with your emotions and mental health state when you've got kids etc, I feel you on needing to rely on meds so much, I should be getting ritilan soon but I currently rely on lorazepam and can sometimes take too much, I really have to keep myself on a limit so it doesn't run out too fast and I dont get considered high risk for over use so I can keep getting prescriptions for it. At leat you can come on here and vent out your frustrations, cuz we all get it and can relate im sure I hope today is going ok for you
  8. Hey fellow DF people, I haven't been on in about a year, hope you remember me! I guess I'm doing ok, Im on new meds, still have issues sleep and Sui thoughts and ideations, terrible anxiety and depression and PTSD stuff but I'm hanging in there. my eating disorder has been really bad this year, I cant let go even though I know if I don't start trying it'll eventually k*ll me I got my ASD diagnosis and Ive been in persistent trauma therapy for almost a year, I finally found a good therapist! Ive also qualified for gov funded mental health and disability and have been seeing a psychiatrist to get on the right meds. I'm currently still on mirt, venlafaxine and the new one lamotigene. She's going to switch my venlafaxine to Wellbutrin soon (yay cuz venlafaxine is awful and my Sui thoughts have been so strong the last year so clearly its not helping and doing its job). The mirt really helps with sleep but at times I still have to take zopi's. I'm still not working but I have finally found myself a PhD position which im going to start later in the year. I'm really trying to work on my mental health to get into a healthier place before I take on such a stressful challenge. I'm still struggling and sometimes I can actually feel hopeful that maybe I won't have to be like this forever, but I'm still having more bad days than good. I still haven't found any positive ways to cope with stress or overwhelming feelings but hopefully I can soon. How's everyone else been? What's new in your life? I still have my cat child as my most trusted and best friend, and I've made a few new friends but my trust issues hold me back from being fully comfortable around them. Life's hard and it sucks most of the time but maybe maybe MAYBE it can get better
  9. I really need to care about myself to improve things. I just need to care a little bit, not love or even like for myself, just a little bit of caring. Ive felt so numb and apathetic towards myself for awhile now, I stopped caring, I didnt even hate myself because to hate you also have to care. Its gone to beyond hate, its just nothingness. I need to find a way to start caring about me!
  10. yes this is exactly how I felt the other day in my session, I was shaking too as I was trying to talk, and my mind was drawing blanks like trying to make me freeze so I wouldnt keep talking to protect myself. Sometimes im ok and can deal with it a little, but after my first session I felt horribly depressed after as well. I think the more I keep going the harder its going to get. Yes why ask that? Like if we could figure it out ourselves we wouldnt be paying for their help and putting ourselves through this. I think I've had 5 sessions now and I still dont have any answers but shes helping me make connections and understand why things happened and the impact its had on me since. But yeah definitely no solutions, I still dont feel like theres any answers to it but we shall I guess
  11. what must it be like? It seems like a fairy-tale!
  12. Are their really no people out there that live without depression and anxiety?! that actually have a depression and anxiety free head? how? I cant imagine ever not feeling this way.
  13. Thanks nightjar Idk what would be best because I feel like my past dictates my behavior now and I can't improve my now until ive learnt how to deal with whats happened before. I feel like everything is bubbling up at the surface, I want to get it all out for someone else to deal with because I just can't anymore. Stuffing it down and holding it in is such a prison that I can't get out of. I need someone to help me talk about it and work through it and validate my feeling towards it because I look back on things now and I feel like ive over exaggerated it in my mind and it wasnt as big or as significant as I think.... even though the teenager I was before died when things started happening. I just wanna understand who I am again. I want this therapist to help me. I just wanna be cured! (as if). I wish I had a friend who I could do that with.. but I really am a loner. Ive isolated my self for so long for protection and safety that I dont know how to open up anymore, and I feel so uncomfortable around others, even when I know they're safe. The uncomfortableness it to much to bare so I chat for like 5 mins and then find any excuse to leave and hide away again. Its hard, but it has to work, I have to get everything out, it has to work
  14. Going to sleep each night and waking up each day sober is such a challenge, quitting something that distracts and takes the pain away for moments is so difficult I cant imagine how I would cope. You have achieved and continue to achieve a great thing. Its so goddamn hard to not do something when your mind is focused on only doing that.
  15. I feel your pain ladysmurf, you're not alone in this struggle. While I would never ever encourage someone to take their own life... I fully understand feeling like its the only option left and that the pain is too much to bare. I feel this so much too. So for however words can help. If we were friends in the same country I would endorse depression and anxiety sleep overs where we just hang out together and be depressed so we know were not alone. We dont even have to talk or shower or eat. Just let ourselves be as depressed and as anxious as we want to with no expectations, judgement or fear from anyone. If I could handle having friends staying with me in my personal private space such as my room, I would find this so comforting. Having someone support me no matter how I was feeling, and not trying to make me feel better or anything, just allowing me to feel as bad as I want to and being there for that would be enough. Sending you support, hugs, and good comforting coffee (if you drink it). I hope you get some respite soon
  16. Now Im worried at what ive just admitted to here
  17. Even though im medicated now... lots of past hurt has been coming up for me in therapy and I never learnt how to deal with it then and I still don't know and for the last week Ive been smoking a lot of marijuana to cope. Ive been high from about lunch time to bed time the last 8 days because the self hate is so strong, and when Im high I can really pretend I feel good about myself and I just feel good overall. Ive only been smoking because its the easiest cheapest drug to get.. if I could get my hands on a pill dealer I feel I really would become an addict... one night I found an MDMA dealer and I almost bought some.. one of my sisters was an addict for two years and she almost died and nearly destroyed her life and I was so mad at her then because I was so afraid for her... but now I would probably do the same thing to myself if I could because I .. hate myself so. When Im high I feel good, I just want to feel good.
  18. Thank you I've thought of telling people im feeling non-verbal atm, I actually just came out to my family about my autism diagnosis, their first response was "I know autistic people and you aren't that" and then I explained a but and they were like "ooohhhhh". Felt so blah and scary coming out to them about it, but I guess it's part of who I am and I've got to accept it.
  19. I really am proud of myself for being able to complete my masters thesis and be awarded my masters with first class honours. I dont know how I did that. Its been such a hard year, I've been so incredibly depressed and anxious and suicidal, yet I was still able to complete a first class honours thesis! how?! I dont know, but its now officially published online and I still can't believe that Im the author. I can't believe how hard I worked for it despite everything. I may be depressed, anxious and suicidal, but my brain still managed to do something amazing for myself. I've never been so proud of myself
  20. I know how you feel, I was in the same boat a earlier this year, but I just decided to let go and try them because off them I was miserable as f* anyway so what did I have to lose? I believe that we know our bodies and minds best but doctors understand our biochemical systems that we dont, and if they think trying a drug is worth it then it probably is. I know some GPs are terrible and dont listen and patronize you, but when you get a really good one that listens and explains everything and reassures you that this is the best option now because going it "natural" isn't working anymore, then maybe they have a point? Im on 150mg venlafaxine and 15mg mirtazapine. Im still pretty unwell but I think I am getting some good days in there now when I was persistently low and suicidal before... even tho ive had a bad week and have been really low and suicidal..... ill be seeing my doc again in a week or so so she might increase the dose again to 300mg venlafaxine which im a bit about, but whatever. Im placing my hope in these drugs now because nothing else has worked for me in the past. Make the decision best for you, but if you do decide to try them you most likely wont have any side effects (or they will subside in a few weeks to a month) and itl all be fine
  21. we are still in lock down, going into week 11 They're saying we will remain until most likely December, then they want to open up and let covid reign. I dont know whats worse, being isolated and locked up to not knowing who is sick and when you'll get sick. The anxiety so much for NZ being world leaders with covid... we'll be like the rest of the world soon. What will be the point in keeping us in lockdown for 4 months if at the end they just give up and open everything and covid spreads like a wild fire? I really am worried about how im going to cope with having to go to work and take public transport every day knowing that covid is floating around, I dont know how you've all done it for a year and a half now! Being isolated and shut-in triggers bad depression, but being allowed out will trigger huge anxiety, idk what ill do. Its a no-win situation.
  22. Not doing so well today, just feeling really down and really sad
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