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    Atra reacted to Ljj71400 in I'm going through a hard time   
    Hi, I am writing this because things in my life are not going well. I will try my best to keep it short. I'm in my final semester of college but I'm struggling with my classes right now. I am sure I will graduate but I will have to work hard to keep my grades up. Plus, I'm starting to notice that some of my friendships/social bonds are starting to fade. Im worried if ive damaged my relationships with others. I have made some mistakes in the past that I feel guilty for. I am trying to move on from the past but its hard to do. I tried talking on the phone to a hotline twice but it wasnt helpful. I am still able to get through the day. But everyday feels like a cycle of overthinking. I am writing all of this because I am currently not happy with how things are going.
    I really just need some uplifting and encouraging words.
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    Atra reacted to Bulgakov in I'm going through a hard time   
    Hi Ljj,
    Sorry to hear that your thoughts are rercycling .  The complaint of overthinking has been posted lots on this site.  I listed "thinking too much" as one of my hobbies in my profile.  My intrusive negative thought usually show as negative flashes of past events that showcase my lack of response or resolve, but most of them come from when I was just a kid; so I always encourage myself to give the kid a break.
    I don't know what kind of relentless thoughts you have.  Maybe you are going over details as a lifestyle, and that may be a different kind of over thinking.  If you want to drive the thoughts away, the quick answer is trying some form of cognitive therapy.  If you want to get to the root of yourself and your current state, then some therapy can be helpful.  Meds may or may not help either effort. 
    If the hotline is your first brush with counseling, then counseling --from your college if available--would help you decide what direction you want to take.  It's a helluva time to be graduating.  I'd be freaked if I was graduating during the Covidian.   I graduated in 1975, gas was less than a dollar a gallon.  I could always afford to run.
    best luck to you, Bulgakov
     
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    Atra got a reaction from anon22ae in Epictetus' 'Keep it or sell it Game', Part 2   
    Keep. Something I'd never buy for myself, would gratefully accept as a gift. Will bite the ears off first--but wait for a moment when I'm alone. Cause anxiety tells me that a grown man devouring a chocolate bunny in public is irresistible. That is, younger people will make a horrifying meme of me tearing up chocobunny.
     
    A long-nosed plague doctor mask makes your head look like a raven?
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    Atra got a reaction from JD4010 in Suffering from major depression   
    That helped me. A community of people who have lived experience with depression made up of some who are struggling more than I (whom I might actually help) and others seemingly doing better (who might help me) provided me with purpose and support. That doesn't come from hanging on in silent desperation or putting up a false front. 
    It's to your credit that you took a chance on us, @Rainbowrainand I hope you’ll find more people who share a common understanding that you can meet and talk with. 
    As for family, everyone has a different situation. I found some members of mine were willing to view depression as they would any physical illness and make efforts to understand and help me. 
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    Atra reacted to Lufciferius in I was ready to die and three weeks later I was free of my depression   
    First, thank you very much for sharing your thoughts on the subject. I am indeed not as well informed as you on the other therapies, that you mentioned. As I never took any therapy I cannot judge how close the approach I used is to any of these. But I remember Dr. Tataryn talking about that the approach is based on a standard intervention used in psycho-therapy.
    Lately - after writing this topic - I came the same realization, that this technique might have work as well for me as I was already aware of the connection from body-sensations, emotions and thoughts. Although in the course of using it a gained many new insights into this dynamic. So in the end I assume that it can be used as a tool for developing that awareness. E.g. when I use one of the trigger sentences and my body starts to shake or I am start to cry,  than the link between the spoken emotion and the body sensations should be obvious 😅
    I am aware of, that as of now and in comparison to other people here, I did not face any of the crises you mentioned. I am also aware of that when facing a big loss I will go through the same stages of grieve as anyone. What I meant with the "certainly" statement is, that using this technique has stringly reduced the fear of strong emotions. I can now go into situations, which are emotionally charged, with confidence that even when I get a scar, I know how to heal it. But that is obviously only my gut feeling. In the beginning I thought that this is a passing euphoria. If it is, it lasts now for almost a year, getting stronger as time goes by.
    Thank you very much for sharing your experience on that matter. I will keep it in mind. 😊
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    Atra got a reaction from sober4life in A-Z: Famous People/Characters #4   
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    Atra got a reaction from Camellia in Suffering from major depression   
    That helped me. A community of people who have lived experience with depression made up of some who are struggling more than I (whom I might actually help) and others seemingly doing better (who might help me) provided me with purpose and support. That doesn't come from hanging on in silent desperation or putting up a false front. 
    It's to your credit that you took a chance on us, @Rainbowrainand I hope you’ll find more people who share a common understanding that you can meet and talk with. 
    As for family, everyone has a different situation. I found some members of mine were willing to view depression as they would any physical illness and make efforts to understand and help me. 
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    Atra reacted to Oscar K in Suffering from major depression   
    One trick I employ to help me is to repeatedly "anchor" myself outside the depression abyss.
    The deep, dark, dangerous depression cave is always a part of us but we need not take up long term residence.
    I do give myself permission to take temporary shelter in my depression cave as long as I stay close to the ENTRANCE/EXIT.
    My feeling is that depression plays the most awful tricks on our poor psyches so maybe we should just play some clever tricks right back.
    Hope this can help a little.
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    Atra reacted to sober4life in Suffering from major depression   
    I feel the same way.  I have survivor's guilt with everyone I love that has died.  If someone had to go I was always the better choice.  Survivor's guilt is the worst thing about someone passing away.  It's not true those feelings we get.  What would the loved ones say?  All I want for you is the best life possible.  Stop beating yourself up please.  Go and be happy.  
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    Atra reacted to Rainbowrain in Suffering from major depression   
    Not to my kids or husband, but to the rest of my family yes. My sister and my parents. My brother died 4 yrs so at the age of 36 and I constantly think it should of me not him as he was loved and admired by everyone.  My parents don't know about my condition and with my brother passing I don't think it would be a good idea. I have the most caring and supportive husband, but it's hard for him to understand when he isn't going through it.  I think I need to talk to ppl who r going through the same thing.  I'm just over feeling down and sad all the time and over just sleeping cause I'm bored.  
    Thanks to everyone who responded to my post,  I'm much appreciated of it.  
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    Atra reacted to dora_wil21 in Medical marijuana   
    hello,
    Art, music, and dance are forms of creative expression that can help you process and cope with emotional issues, including depression. Expressive therapy  For  Depression goes beyond traditional talk therapy. It focuses on creative outlets as a means of expression. This therapy can be especially helpful for people who find it difficult to talk about their thoughts and emotions.

     
     
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    Atra reacted to ladysmurf in Medical marijuana   
    that's how brain works too, nothing is ever enough ..and also the cost of it is a lot, so i don't know if i can afford it.
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    Atra reacted to JD4010 in Medical marijuana   
    I've had excellent luck with it for anxiety and sleep. I only take it at night, after I get home from work. I don't smoke/eat a lot of it, but I feel much more relaxed and calm throughout the day. 
    I also enjoy watching old comedy shows when I'm "high". I actually laugh, which is something I thought I'd forgotten how to do. 
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    Atra reacted to sober4life in Medical marijuana   
    My opinion is it works great for sleep.  I don't know about anxiety.  It becomes like a cigarette.  You keep needing more and more.  I think it made my anxiety worse overall but it was the best thing in the world for sleep.
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    Atra got a reaction from Camellia in How do You Feel Right Now? #12   
    So angry!
    Yesterday a former member of my therapy group left me a lengthy, angry voicemail claiming I mischaracterizes a conversation between she and I, which resulted in her decision to drop out of the group. 
    I'm angry because someone in group relayed details of what I said in therapy group to this former member, violating confidentiality. 
    I'm angry because the former member had no expectation and no right to know what happens in group having made the decision to leave it. 
    I'm angry because this former member texted the whole group saying they are dropping out of it, but not why and didn't respond to other members who were very concerned with their health and wellbeing leaving them distraught. 
    I'm angry because I wouldn't have shared with the group what happened between us but for the fact that they were all informed of the persons departure but not why and that's all they wanted to talk about in therapy group. And they wanted to know what I knew, closure and so forth. 
    I'm angry for being put in a position of knowing why this former member left the group and feeling pressure to share from both inside me and outside. 
    I'm angry because I couldn't see any harm in having discussions with a group member outside of group and that blew up in my face. 
    I'm angry because I create deep and meaningful relationships with people and I hate untidy endings to them. My therapist and  I both agree that I shouldn't respond to this former member's texts, voicemails, emails - even though I feel compelled.  
    And I'm angry because this therapy group is ending for good this week for unrelated reasons and this is a really crappy way for it to go out. 
    I'm angry because the last group session is this week and I'm going to have a hard time not releasing these emotions there. And at the same time, not wanting to because we decided to make it a farewell party. And this ridiculous drama does not represent the 4 years I've been with these people in this therapy groups. 
    🤬
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    Atra got a reaction from Camellia in Suffering from major depression   
    Depression with anxiety is a tough team to face and if you're struggling against them by yourself, it can feel impossible. I know how hard it is to do activities while experiencing constant mental and physical fatigue.
    You're not alone and you don't have to fight this alone in fact it makes it harder. I'm glad you found us and I hope we can become part of your support system.
    A support system is very important for helping me to maintain mood stability and functionality. Meeting online and in person with others who live with depression has helped me develop more compassion for myself.
    How does your family view your condition? Do you feel like you're a burden to them? 
     
     
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    Atra got a reaction from JD4010 in Suffering from major depression   
    Depression with anxiety is a tough team to face and if you're struggling against them by yourself, it can feel impossible. I know how hard it is to do activities while experiencing constant mental and physical fatigue.
    You're not alone and you don't have to fight this alone in fact it makes it harder. I'm glad you found us and I hope we can become part of your support system.
    A support system is very important for helping me to maintain mood stability and functionality. Meeting online and in person with others who live with depression has helped me develop more compassion for myself.
    How does your family view your condition? Do you feel like you're a burden to them? 
     
     
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    Atra got a reaction from Oscar K in Suffering from major depression   
    Depression with anxiety is a tough team to face and if you're struggling against them by yourself, it can feel impossible. I know how hard it is to do activities while experiencing constant mental and physical fatigue.
    You're not alone and you don't have to fight this alone in fact it makes it harder. I'm glad you found us and I hope we can become part of your support system.
    A support system is very important for helping me to maintain mood stability and functionality. Meeting online and in person with others who live with depression has helped me develop more compassion for myself.
    How does your family view your condition? Do you feel like you're a burden to them? 
     
     
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    Atra reacted to Oscar K in Suffering from major depression   
    Welcome new friend to our forum family.
    We are not professionals but we do try our best to help each other.
    I truly believe that we are never helpless confronting Old Man Depression.
    Please keep posting your concerns and check out other posts.
    Problems have solutions.
    Our goal is to not leave anyone behind in their depression "cave".
    Oscar
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    Atra reacted to Camellia in Suffering from major depression   
    I dont hv an advise but i just want to let you know that you are not alone. We are here with you. 
    I can relate to you about having suicide thoughts because i have that in my mind very often. My job helps me to divert my mind. I cant stay in silent mode even a single second because that thought will instantly creeps in. Im always on my earphones or tv  to avoid the silence. 
     
     
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    Atra reacted to Rainbowrain in Suffering from major depression   
    Hi guys, I'm a mother of 2. My daughter is 23 and my son is 11. I have been happily married for 15 years. I suffer from major anxiety and depression and have a long time. Lately I'm finding it hard to even function. I don't go out much due to money being tight.  I sleep a lot. I feel down and sad most of the time.  I take me medication every day.  Just wondering if anyone had and tips or pointers on how to feel a bit lifted up.  I hate feeling this way and have even had suicidal thoughts on the past.  Anything would be muchly appreciated.  Thanks
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    Atra got a reaction from juno_writes in depression is caused by unresolved anger   
    Really impressive insights here folks. 👍
    Yeah I don't find reductive expressions about complexities like depression appealing. There is just one kind of depression, just one cause? Waat? 
    I've heard this worded as "depression is anger turned inward". For some folks, that's probably true. For others just having a Dopamine deficiency in the brain manifests as depression. What's that have to do with "unresolved anger"?
    🙈 Well, I dunno Atra...maybe you're angry at being short on neurotransmitters, buddy. 
    😒 Just a different way of telling us depression is in fact all our fault. I wish I was an octopus so I could slap that person 8 times. 
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    Atra reacted to Kogent5 in If you just want to cry but can't   
    I watch very sad movies. If my depression is bad, even that won't help.
    I think it has something to do with not having compassion for myself but having it for others. Like it's wasted tears on me, but it makes sense to cry for people who are "worth it".
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    Atra got a reaction from Camellia in If you just want to cry but can't   
    I can't handle sitting with my anger until I re-learn how to cry. 
    Say you were somehow able to just let it rip, and have a bawling, nose-runny, can't barely breathe, messy sob. If the meanest person in the world saw you, what would they say?
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    Atra got a reaction from Camellia in If you just want to cry but can't   
    I don’t know about crying happening so suddenly, what is that like?
    I'd kept myself from crying for decades, fought it back to the smallest choke in the back of my throat. While I was suppressing it my anger got out of control--at others, but turned inward mostly. My tears were for loneliness, anger, frustration and powerlessness. What are yours?
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