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    Jumping got a reaction from Epictetus in Anyone into positive psychology?   
    Thank you epictetus. I’ve also checked out Aaron beck’s video you have suggested. 
    As he had stated I am trying to somewhat make it my priority to recondition my mind to become positive. 
    Decades of negativity may not be overturned in a couple of days but this is my pursuit now. 
    Theres one thing I’ve thats been emphasized in Fred luskins forgive for good book which is somewhat related to what you described as a realist psychology. 
    When you are able to realize all negative experiences are not so personal, you can look at things from bigger perspective and reduce your grievances. 
    For me I easily fall into traps of thinking things in extreme and negative ways and get caught up with them which I hoped to ease up one day.
    letting my thoughts flow in and out and not think and act in such extreme ways. Black and white. Over exaggeration. And so on. 
    Anyways.
    thank you 
     
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    Jumping got a reaction from Soarsie18 in Anyone into positive psychology?   
    I noticed you do a lot of gratitude practice. Are there any specific books or materials that’s been the most effective to you?
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    Jumping reacted to Epictetus in Anyone into positive psychology?   
    I'm into something similar to positive psychology but I guess it could be called realist psychology. 
    It is based on the idea that goodness overwhelms badness everywhere and at all times.  Goodness is pervasive.  If it was not pervasive, it would make the daily news.  For example, a plane crashed today.  That is a fact.  But it is also a fact that tens of thousands of planes transported hundreds of thousands of people safely to their destinations.  That does not make the news because it is so common.
    Or . . . a student went to school last week and did terrible violence and destruction to others.  A fact.  But it is also a fact that every day, hundreds of millions of students go to school and do not do horrific violence to others.  Badness makes the news because it is rare compared to goodness.
    If this were not the case, then the world would be like this:  Earthquakes would destroy every inch of the earth each day and only spare a small area.  Most people would be in prison for violent crimes and only a few would not.  Every day 99% of planes, trains, buses and cars would crash and only a couple would be spared.  Everyday  criminals would do destruction and mayhem every waking moment.  Everyday every single child in the world would be diagnosed with end stage leukemia except for one or two.
    But this is not how the world is.  Good overwhelms bad daily and universally.  This is a kind of "positive" psychology but it is not based on merely looking at the positive.  It is acknowledging that positives overwhelm negatives.  So it is a realism.  It thus proposes realistic appreciation and gratitude.
    It is part of something called Cognitive Psychology, but it is definitely a "positive' psychology.
    According to this psychology, there are always two ways of looking at anything and everything including oneself:  "could be better, but isn't better," which is called "perfectionism" or "could be worse, but isn't worse."  One way produces feelings of sadness, anxiety, anger, frustration.  The other way produces feelings of being lucky, feelings of gratitude and appreciation.
    A negative view of self would be:  "I, you, he, she, they . . . could be braver, smarter, more careful, more successful, more popular, more attractive, more cleanly, more healthy,  morally better."  A positive view of self would be:  "I, you, he, she they . . . could be less brave, less smart, less, careful, less messy,  less successful, less popular, less attractive, less, healthy,  less moral."  But they are not less. 
    Of course, depression has been linked in some cases to organic pathology in the brain, such pathology making it difficult or maybe impossible to "be positive" without medical assistance according to some research.
    If you or anyone is interested in the philosophy behind cognitive psychology, I would recommend a short youtube video entitled "Life Wisdom from Aaron Beck".  Aaron Beck is one of the founders of Cognitive Psychology. 
    Of course I could be wrong about anything I have said here.  I am often wrong about things!  Just FYI.     - epictetus
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    Jumping got a reaction from Epictetus in Anyone into positive psychology?   
    I noticed you do a lot of gratitude practice. Are there any specific books or materials that’s been the most effective to you?
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    Jumping got a reaction from Epictetus in Anyone into positive psychology?   
    Are there anyone that’s into positive psychology or anyone that had been successful with it??
    Ive been reading Fred luskin’s forgive for good and had experienced changes a couple of times and been getting more interested in positive psychology. 
    Anyone who’s familiar with positive psychology, any suggestions or recommendation I’d appreciate it. 
     
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    Jumping got a reaction from Soarsie18 in Anyone into positive psychology?   
    Are there anyone that’s into positive psychology or anyone that had been successful with it??
    Ive been reading Fred luskin’s forgive for good and had experienced changes a couple of times and been getting more interested in positive psychology. 
    Anyone who’s familiar with positive psychology, any suggestions or recommendation I’d appreciate it. 
     
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    Jumping reacted to Floor2017 in JUST LET IT GO   
    JUST LET IT GO
    Whatever, troubled you in 2018 or even today.  Just let it go, because if you don't
    it will drain you of your energy and happiness.  It's not worth it my friends.  I pray
    for all of you to try to get the best out of your day that you can.  
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    Jumping got a reaction from Rattler6 in Shoot first and ask questions later..   
    Oh boy...
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    Jumping got a reaction from Rattler6 in Shoot first and ask questions later..   
    As a child I was a passive child. Therefore I was subjected to bullying at a young age from my mother and some children at school. My mother was my first and the biggest bully of all. Being a passive child and no one to guide me or talk to this about, I did not know what to do but believe that it was all my fault. Hence, the bullying continued....until one day I got tired of it. 
    I started reacting. 
    I started becoming aggressive. I got angry. I fought back. I did whatever I can to express my anger and frustration. And it WORKED. The bullying stopped. If it didn't stop, it definitely got the message across and people weren't messing with me. Instead of me being afraid of my mother, she started becoming afraid of me and gave her a second thought before she decided to attack me again. And others as well. 
    So being aggressive became my new way of dealing with things. It changed my life. It saved me. It gave me a new freedom. It gave me a power. It gave me a control. 
    Not only could I defend myself from attacks but also I could make things happen and accomplish goals. 
    But as I grew up, my aggressive actions also started coming with a bit of prices to pay. But it sure did get my message across. But those prices that I had to pay started getting more expensive as it went on. 
    What had helped me survive and thrive slowly started turning against me, and I had to unlearn it or at least balance it out. This was followed by a big confusion. Again, I felt lost. 
    Especially, past few years, being aggressive when it comes to getting things handled or accomplishing goals wasn't happening like I used to. It seemed like it was causing quite a damage. Maybe my spirit isn't the same as it used to be. I've been feeling pretty beaten by my life. 
    So long story short, recently I found Christianity to deal with my internal chaos and my anger and other negativity I've been dealing with. I feel like it has curved down my anger more than before and it prevented me from blowing out of proportion when I get very upset. I started asking questions before I started shooting. 
    But now being a dad, I see my boy facing some issues at school which gives me a lot of anxiety and worries. This makes me revert to my old ways just to get things handled so I can protect my boy so he doesn't have to live the same life that I lived. 
    And now I'm here questioning myself. Am I going about this the right way? Should I be patient and ask questions or should I shoot first and go about this matter aggressively? Am I causing a damage by shooting first? This is tougher because someone that I care about and love is involved. If it was just me, I wouldn't worry as much...
    Please let things turn out well. And hope I am on the right path and doing the right thing.
     
     
     
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    Jumping reacted to ladysmurf in The moment you realize that no one will fall in love with you   
    I think loving yourself, being confident with yourself is the #1 priority before you go searching for someone else to have a serious relationship. Otherwise you might fall into the wrong person who will take advantage of your need/want to be with them, and you will do anything to please them. You don’t want that.
    Shitty genes in terms of what? Are you calling yourself not good looking? Beauty is subjective. And many other things count far more than beauty..
     
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    Jumping got a reaction from MollieMcdoodlesMom in What do you follow?   
    Recently I have been vibing well with gospels in the Bible. Christian movies. I don’t want to yet label myself as anything. But in a few weeks i definitely see some changes and been feeling more stable and balanced. We’ll see. 
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    Jumping got a reaction from Atra in Shoot first and ask questions later..   
    As a child I was a passive child. Therefore I was subjected to bullying at a young age from my mother and some children at school. My mother was my first and the biggest bully of all. Being a passive child and no one to guide me or talk to this about, I did not know what to do but believe that it was all my fault. Hence, the bullying continued....until one day I got tired of it. 
    I started reacting. 
    I started becoming aggressive. I got angry. I fought back. I did whatever I can to express my anger and frustration. And it WORKED. The bullying stopped. If it didn't stop, it definitely got the message across and people weren't messing with me. Instead of me being afraid of my mother, she started becoming afraid of me and gave her a second thought before she decided to attack me again. And others as well. 
    So being aggressive became my new way of dealing with things. It changed my life. It saved me. It gave me a new freedom. It gave me a power. It gave me a control. 
    Not only could I defend myself from attacks but also I could make things happen and accomplish goals. 
    But as I grew up, my aggressive actions also started coming with a bit of prices to pay. But it sure did get my message across. But those prices that I had to pay started getting more expensive as it went on. 
    What had helped me survive and thrive slowly started turning against me, and I had to unlearn it or at least balance it out. This was followed by a big confusion. Again, I felt lost. 
    Especially, past few years, being aggressive when it comes to getting things handled or accomplishing goals wasn't happening like I used to. It seemed like it was causing quite a damage. Maybe my spirit isn't the same as it used to be. I've been feeling pretty beaten by my life. 
    So long story short, recently I found Christianity to deal with my internal chaos and my anger and other negativity I've been dealing with. I feel like it has curved down my anger more than before and it prevented me from blowing out of proportion when I get very upset. I started asking questions before I started shooting. 
    But now being a dad, I see my boy facing some issues at school which gives me a lot of anxiety and worries. This makes me revert to my old ways just to get things handled so I can protect my boy so he doesn't have to live the same life that I lived. 
    And now I'm here questioning myself. Am I going about this the right way? Should I be patient and ask questions or should I shoot first and go about this matter aggressively? Am I causing a damage by shooting first? This is tougher because someone that I care about and love is involved. If it was just me, I wouldn't worry as much...
    Please let things turn out well. And hope I am on the right path and doing the right thing.
     
     
     
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    Jumping got a reaction from Jamark8 in What do you follow?   
    Recently I have been vibing well with gospels in the Bible. Christian movies. I don’t want to yet label myself as anything. But in a few weeks i definitely see some changes and been feeling more stable and balanced. We’ll see. 
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    Jumping reacted to BrokenHorse228 in What do you follow?   
    I am a person who believes in God but not the church or any physical institution because 1) it's using God's name for profit 2) it has the clique mentality 3) people attend to elevate themselves and belittle others albeit covertly.
    I am a Russian Orthodox Christian, following teachings of the Old Testament. I also have read the Quran. 
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    Jumping reacted to Floor2017 in Are You Facing Challenges Today   
    Are you facing challenges today?  Do you have some giant problems?  Don’t be discouraged.  Don’t compare yourself with the giants; compare the giants with God.  He has promised victory in advance.  Though the future appears daunting, you have a divine Commander in Chief who does all things.  Trust Him, for with Him you are well able to overcome.
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    Jumping got a reaction from JD4010 in Shoot first and ask questions later..   
    As a child I was a passive child. Therefore I was subjected to bullying at a young age from my mother and some children at school. My mother was my first and the biggest bully of all. Being a passive child and no one to guide me or talk to this about, I did not know what to do but believe that it was all my fault. Hence, the bullying continued....until one day I got tired of it. 
    I started reacting. 
    I started becoming aggressive. I got angry. I fought back. I did whatever I can to express my anger and frustration. And it WORKED. The bullying stopped. If it didn't stop, it definitely got the message across and people weren't messing with me. Instead of me being afraid of my mother, she started becoming afraid of me and gave her a second thought before she decided to attack me again. And others as well. 
    So being aggressive became my new way of dealing with things. It changed my life. It saved me. It gave me a new freedom. It gave me a power. It gave me a control. 
    Not only could I defend myself from attacks but also I could make things happen and accomplish goals. 
    But as I grew up, my aggressive actions also started coming with a bit of prices to pay. But it sure did get my message across. But those prices that I had to pay started getting more expensive as it went on. 
    What had helped me survive and thrive slowly started turning against me, and I had to unlearn it or at least balance it out. This was followed by a big confusion. Again, I felt lost. 
    Especially, past few years, being aggressive when it comes to getting things handled or accomplishing goals wasn't happening like I used to. It seemed like it was causing quite a damage. Maybe my spirit isn't the same as it used to be. I've been feeling pretty beaten by my life. 
    So long story short, recently I found Christianity to deal with my internal chaos and my anger and other negativity I've been dealing with. I feel like it has curved down my anger more than before and it prevented me from blowing out of proportion when I get very upset. I started asking questions before I started shooting. 
    But now being a dad, I see my boy facing some issues at school which gives me a lot of anxiety and worries. This makes me revert to my old ways just to get things handled so I can protect my boy so he doesn't have to live the same life that I lived. 
    And now I'm here questioning myself. Am I going about this the right way? Should I be patient and ask questions or should I shoot first and go about this matter aggressively? Am I causing a damage by shooting first? This is tougher because someone that I care about and love is involved. If it was just me, I wouldn't worry as much...
    Please let things turn out well. And hope I am on the right path and doing the right thing.
     
     
     
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    Jumping got a reaction from June322 in Anyone who had anger problems and successfully managed?   
    Anyone that used to have severe anger problems or chronic grumpiness but successfully overcame the problem? Especially without help if prescribed medications?
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    Jumping got a reaction from Epictetus in Anyone into Eckhart Tolle   
    I was wondering if anyone is into Eckhart Tolle and if you are can you share if his teaching had an impact in your life and made some great improvements? 
    I personally discovered him around 2007 and had on and off “relationship “ with his teachings ever since. 
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    Jumping got a reaction from Nightjar in Anyone into Eckhart Tolle   
    I was wondering if anyone is into Eckhart Tolle and if you are can you share if his teaching had an impact in your life and made some great improvements? 
    I personally discovered him around 2007 and had on and off “relationship “ with his teachings ever since. 
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    Jumping got a reaction from darkmamba in Just my story...   
    I had to push myself to catch up on some cleaning. That gave me momentum and motivation to do more so I went to get my grocery shopping done as well and some other tasks that needs to be done tomorrow. So I can have plenty of space to maybe get some exercise in before picking up my boy from school tomorrow. At this moment, I'm at a better place and hopefully it'll start turning the tide for the better. But I need to be careful not to get carried away and have a big expectation and start putting too much pressure on myself. So simply I just wanna say that I feel good at the moment and that's it. Even if it is for this moment and tomorrow I may be at a lower point or be at a higher place. But I should be careful not to pull all the eggs in the basket yet. 
    Anyway, I just wanna say some reminders to myself that no matter what depression says or how much it pulls you back from where you were, as long as you keep putting your feet back on the path and walk on you will be at a higher ground and make some solid progress. So keep at it. So one day you will be at the finish line with stronger faith and stronger mentality. 
    And also remember...good things are always happening to us.
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    Jumping got a reaction from JD4010 in Question: any alternative to marijuana to deal with anger issues?   
    Do you mean ur sharper at work because of the MJ? Or citalopram and Wellbutrin? 
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    Jumping got a reaction from JD4010 in Question: any alternative to marijuana to deal with anger issues?   
    Do these cause any side effects? I’m always hesitant to take any prescribed meds due to negative stories I’ve heard about side effects. 
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    Jumping got a reaction from JD4010 in Question: any alternative to marijuana to deal with anger issues?   
    Hello, long story short, I've tried many different methods (meditating, looking into religions, gratitude diary, positive thinking, and etc.) and many different herbal supplements( ashwagandha, l theanine, magnesium, kratom, kava, CBD, THC, Black seed oil, JiaoGuLan tea and etc.) to deal with my mental issues. 
    But so far only thing that consistently helped me to keep my depression, anxiety, racing thoughts, and mostly anger for going out of control is marijuana (mostly Sativa). It definitely gets difficult to have outbursts of anger when I'm high or anxiety going out of control. 
    However, as much as I like that it's not letting me get irritated and have angry outbursts or turn me into a miserable asshole, I HATE GETTING HIGH. When I'm high, I do feel normal emotions that I usually don't feel anymore.... things are interesting, things don't get me upset easily. But I also become extremely UNPRODUCTIVE. I literally just BECOME A PLANT. I'm just sitting around either munching on food, or listening to music or watching movies or youtube almost all day. 
    So I was wondering if any people had similar experience as mine and found a way to deal with this issues better ways. 
    I wanna be able to contain my anger, anxiety, and depression but at the same time still be able to be clear headed and stay productive. I don't know how some people go workout and exercise and remain productive while they are high, I just can't seem to do it. I just become a couch potato or feel like a peaceful plant just looking around letting life pass by. 
     
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    Jumping got a reaction from Floor2017 in Question: any alternative to marijuana to deal with anger issues?   
    Do these cause any side effects? I’m always hesitant to take any prescribed meds due to negative stories I’ve heard about side effects. 
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    Jumping got a reaction from Floor2017 in Question: any alternative to marijuana to deal with anger issues?   
    Hello, long story short, I've tried many different methods (meditating, looking into religions, gratitude diary, positive thinking, and etc.) and many different herbal supplements( ashwagandha, l theanine, magnesium, kratom, kava, CBD, THC, Black seed oil, JiaoGuLan tea and etc.) to deal with my mental issues. 
    But so far only thing that consistently helped me to keep my depression, anxiety, racing thoughts, and mostly anger for going out of control is marijuana (mostly Sativa). It definitely gets difficult to have outbursts of anger when I'm high or anxiety going out of control. 
    However, as much as I like that it's not letting me get irritated and have angry outbursts or turn me into a miserable asshole, I HATE GETTING HIGH. When I'm high, I do feel normal emotions that I usually don't feel anymore.... things are interesting, things don't get me upset easily. But I also become extremely UNPRODUCTIVE. I literally just BECOME A PLANT. I'm just sitting around either munching on food, or listening to music or watching movies or youtube almost all day. 
    So I was wondering if any people had similar experience as mine and found a way to deal with this issues better ways. 
    I wanna be able to contain my anger, anxiety, and depression but at the same time still be able to be clear headed and stay productive. I don't know how some people go workout and exercise and remain productive while they are high, I just can't seem to do it. I just become a couch potato or feel like a peaceful plant just looking around letting life pass by. 
     
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