Jump to content

KCDPN

Junior Member
  • Content Count

    37
  • Joined

  • Last visited

1 Follower

About KCDPN

  • Rank
    Newbie

Recent Profile Visitors

349 profile views
  1. I'll keep that in mind. and I wish you luck and good vibes in fighting with your own battles. I appreciate your message.
  2. I have a habit of becoming so overwhelmed with my depression that I feel like my peers would be better off without me, and I just avoid all contact with people. Days, weeks. Can anyone relate? Anyone have any advice on how to overcome this if it's bad? Any benefits to this?
  3. To give a sort of update as to how I've been lately, I've been off from my college. I actually got some pretty good grades, 4 A's and a B. I had to sacrifice a lot due to unfair circumstances out of my control, and I wasn't expecting anything close to those grades. I sucked it up and joined an anime club at my college, and it took a while but I was able to talk to people. I forgot how much I missed playing games with friends and just being around people, because since 2016 I felt like I was abnormal. I can't hang out with anyone though. They can't come over, and I can't go anywhere unsupervised. That's when the lonliness comes back. I've been trying to get better at my hobbies like drawing, I have my video editing freelancing gig again, and I've even tried to get good at fighting games. Yet... nothing can take my mind off of how inferior I feel to all my online friends, the only real people I CAN talk to. I know they blatantly say the obvious but my mind feels that I'm better off leaving them alone. I've had these feelings for years, I HATE that I can't get over it. I always make everything about me, I'm horrible. I wish I didn't have such an inferiority complex that just because most of my friends are in romantic relationships I feel undesirable and remember how ugly I am, but I do. Besides, I know when I don't belong and when I'm just a third wheel. I'd think avoiding everyone for a couple days minimum would be better than shoving myself in where I don't belong. Better to self isolate than to be clingy. It's just a matter of respecting people's time and boundaries and realizing that their world doesn't revolve around me. I may not talk to some people often but even that's too much when I'm like this. I have nobody to blame but myself, I want to get better or at least keep my mind occupied because I'm just a nuisance to everyone and talking to people about my emotions solves nothing, but I can't ignore it. I've felt like this since I was young, this is just a seasonal phase when it's at its worst.
  4. I have to admit I'm only really a hobbyist. My friends are more talented than me with drawing, coding, and music, in fact some of them are making a game while another has contributed music to indie games multiple times. I'm just settling for a desk job since I don't really have the drive or family support to pursue anything creative. I'll still try to have fun in my spare time, but they aren't happy about it and see it as a time waster. They do make chiptune on DOS computers a lot, though. I know AdLib Tracker 2 is a program people use on DOS. I had also dropped out of college due to harsh treatment from professors teaching tech. A horrible Java and MATLAB class made me give up on IT altogether after thinking I'd do something with computers since I was a kid. Existential crisies before you hit 20 aren't fun.
  5. It's fine. The truth isn't pretty. If it hurts it just means you were honest. I can tell it wasn't out of malice. Thanks for understanding.
  6. I'll try a bit more. It's all I can say. Though I still need to apologize to you, I'm sorry for everything. I'm trying to put myself out there and even then it's hard. Sometimes I have nothing to say or can't really hit it off with anyone. But I'm still trying 3 days a week to make something work. I'm just an awkward, imperfect person. I'm trying to be better. But that's all I can do. I don't have room to give up anyway. So I'm gonna keep going.
  7. You aren't being rude. I'm just sorry for acting this way. And for my inactivity. I've been trying to make friends and I joined my college's anime club. I'm trying to patch things up with various others. And I'm breaking from social media since I don't think it's contributed to my mental health at all. I don't know what I want anymore tbh other than to be happy but that's probably too vague at this point. Sorry for acting so dumb and wasting your time man. I'm just doing all I can to be better on my end atm. You and nobody else deserve that.
  8. They do, since none of my talents are worth pursuing. Also me being horrible at math means being a social worker is the only thing I can do. I'm trapped. My life is over before it's even begun. I'm already helping children out thanks to my major and I'll be helping the elderly eventually. I'm not meant for community service though. It's nothing I'm passionate about and I feel that I'd be a horrible help because I'm trying to get help myself. I feel alone.
  9. Thank you. Despite the morbid mood I have I want to say I appreciate all the support I've gotten here.
  10. I'm not remotely interested in what I'm studying in, I'm only doing it because my family doesn't see what I'm actually good at as worthwhile careers and won't financially support me. Since I don't have job experience yet, I just have to give up on my hobbies and suck it up to do a desk job I know I won't like. But I guess that's what being an adult is about right? Hanging up all the 'childish' stuff and doing the 9 to 5 grind like everyone else because it's "mature"? Eh.
  11. I don't really see the point in it. Considering this is the only time I've ever had ANY girl talk to me for more than 5 minutes and actually be interested in me as a person, I dunno, maybe I'm just too abnormal to have girls understand me? It's less harmful to be mad at myself than them, eh. It's kinda pathetic since I'm going to be 21 in a year but I've never had any romantic experience with a girl but I'm good with just folding my cards and accepting that I'm just not a person that's meant to be in a relationship. My family wouldn't be supportive of my depression, the fact that their smothering of me is partially a contributing factor wouldn't help. Everyone just sucks it up and doesn't trust therapists in my family (and I'm willing to wager my ethnic community, at least the elders discourage therapy or other stuff like it). I've been in internet communities to talk to people since I don't have any friends IRL. This girl was the only person I comfortably talked to on both mediums, I trusted her enough to tell her I likely have depression. I'm not diagnosed but considering I've felt this way since childhood in some form or another, it'd be a shock if this wasn't depression. I have other online friends, some better than others when it comes to helping with emotional stuff, but I kinda don't see the point in venting to them anymore. Doesn't make me feel better, doesn't solve my problems, and it just wastes their time since everyone has their own lives. Drawing, writing, video editing. I also do some chiptune music. It's basically just making music in the style of old consoles like the NES or the Genesis, in programs that mimick the sound chips used. Think something like Shovel Knight's music if you're familiar. A lot of the things I like from music (ska, jazz, j-pop) to television (mostly obscure or forgotten cartoons) are stuff people don't know about and thus, don't care about, so I've kind of accepted that nobody will understand it. From classmates to my own family I've had these interests be subject to ridicule over the years, so I keep it all to myself as much as I can.
  12. My current emotional state is sadly something that I've struggled with for years, to the point where I legitimately find it surprising that anyone likes me. In times of complete stress, hopelessness, or frustration, I tend to cut contact with everyone. Literally everyone. Through no fault of their own, for the most part I just simply believe that they'd be better off without me, and that I haven't been a good friend to them to deserve their compassion. The people who choose to stay, I almost feel worse because I feel like they deserve better. I' a broken, impulsive overly emotional freak who only continues to do this stuff. I honestly stoppped getting mad at people abandoning me long ago, I just want to get it over with and cut off already weakened relationships off at the root. Then there are some friendships that I sadly don't think should even be a thing anymore. An ex-crush of mine for 4 years has recently tried supporting me in my battles with mental health, going so far as to reccomend resources because she had been down a similar road herself, but I feel like I shouldn't be talking with her. Maybe it's just feelings of inadequacy, maybe it's still lingering feelings of immature jealousy, maybe it's the fear of being replaced or forgotten since the only real physical friend I've had for almost half a decade has gotten her own group of friends, her own girlfriend, and her art major, and I have none of that. And I feel like it's unhealthy for me to dump all my negativity on her, despite her never really objecting to any of it. I guess it's just my dumb brain's fault for not being able to be happy for others without it reminding me of my own inferiority. I guess I just regret having any sort of feelings for her to begin with, or maybe we shouldn't have been friends if I knew this is how I was going to act. It's my fault for viewing her too highly as my only real friend at the time. It's not even that not being with her specifically is what's making me a bit annoyed anymore, because thanks to my family I know that it would have ended terribly, and we probably wouldn't be able to speak if we actually tried dating. But the fact that I was apparently close to someone having the same feelings to me as I had for them, only to have it just... fade after hearing she was lesbian. It kinda doesn't make me even want to try again. I've been in so many friendships where in spite of still having hurdles in their own lives, everyone's always improves once they find their ideal partner, so even if it is the objectively right opinion, I just find the whole "a s/o won't fix everything, don't rush into it" mentality to be kinda bullshit at this point. That and it apparently instills the idea that I'm just unloveable, I guess. Whatever chance I almost had was a glitch in the Matrix. I don't see why I get told I'm jumping the gun for giving up on anyone loving me, barely anyone understands me on a basic level IRL, why would I expect romance to be any easier? "Things get better!" Maybe for you, but my circumstances are allergic to progress, and a lot of them aren't even in my control. Part of me regrets telling her that I've struggled with stuff like depression in secret for years, including the entire time I knew her, because I don't want anyone to pity me or to view me as an unstable mess who might **** himself. I mean, I've actively thought of it but I've never taken any actions of self harming. I know suicide isn't worth it, and I'm not a danger to myself. Though I don't think I have anything to live for at this rate. I'm a 20 year old social recluse who drowns himself in niche hobbies nobody cares about to try to fill the void in me and accept that nobody will ever understand me and I'll never have a romantic bond with anyone because I simply wasn't meant to. Big whoop. I feel like I don't deserve her support, or any support that I've recieved, and that everyone would be better off without me. Which leads into my current situation of me cutting off contact with all my friends. I had full intentions of leaving the internet entirely when the thoughts of "nobody will ever love me, i'm never going to be taken seriously by anyone, and i'm going to die alone doing a job i hate" started festering in the back of my mind. I end up back flipping between empathetic remorse and bitter cynicism over their concern. I'm sorry you're wasting your energy on me, but I also hate how you expect me to believe that things will improve just because they were able to for you. Yet, some people continue to stay, and actively get worried about me. That worry made me reconsider and only take the rest of the month as a break from everyone, but honestly with people like that I don't know if I can, or even should ever talk to them again. I have nobody else to talk to anyway, but maybe I should just embrace isolation and be completely alone? Prepare for the inevitable?
  13. I've come to and calmed down a bit. I still think I need a month's break from everyone, but I'll try not to make things permanent. Even if I don't talk to anyone I feel social media just isn't doing me favors. I need a month to myself. I don't know if I'll ever not feel so alone to be honest. So, might as well just accept it for a bit and do some self reflection. I just snapped. Maybe it is immature and impulsive but going day after day and still feeling so disposable, worked to death and stressed beyond belief, and not able to talk to anyone, made me just feel like people would be better off without me. I may have permanently killed some friendships but I'll just accept that it was my fault. I just felt like a lot of them had me just be an annoying inconvenience. Especially to Maggie.
  14. This forum is all I have left. I'll stay but I dont think I'll ever truly be happy. At least everyone I used to be friends with will be happy. I was never a person worthy of their attention.
  15. I'm sorry it didnt work. Its entirely my fault. I dont think someone as broken as me can be fixed. The most I can do is get out of everyone's hair.
×
×
  • Create New...