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  1. I used to suffer with panic attacks until I learned how to deal with them. When you panic, you hyperventilate and breath out too much Carbon Dioxide. This is what you makes you feel 'weird' and it can be very painful. In order to relieve the symptoms, you need to do one of two things:- 1) Breath into a brown paper bag - this increases the Carbon Dioxide in your system and reduces the strange feelings. 2) Repeat a simple nursery rhyme in your head - your brain can only cope with so many things at once. Doing this stops you worrying about panicking, and stops you hyperventilating almost immediately. In addition to the above, the most important thing you need to do is stop fearing panic attacks, they can't hurt you! The worst thing that can happen is that you pass out or make yourself feel daft in front of people. What you will come to realise is that people are very sympathetic to panic attack sufferers and in addition, they are more common than we realise. Once you stop fearing them, I guarantee that they will go away. I haven't had one for three years, simply because I don't care if I do have another one.
  2. I count to 7. It's boring, but i'm used to it.
  3. But I miss you all, the real people of this world. I am going through absolute hell at the moment, in the last four months I have tried to end it four times, split up from my wife but fortunately we are now together again. I don't know where to begin with what has happened, it has all been so dreadful and is not yet over. Just wanted to say 'hi', that's all. :)
  4. I point blank, absolutely, stoically, refuse to be afraid of panic attacks. They hold no fear at all for me. What is the worst that could happen? Somebody finds out I have problems and that i'm human? Big deal. They can't hurt you. Yes, they make you feel bad but that's all. If you've had one panic attack and survived it, you'll survive another. Stop being afraid of them, and they will go away. Mine have.
  5. I used to have panics attacks, but I don't get them anymore because I am not afraid.
  6. I don't think your 'labels' are really helping in this situation. You get irritated and snappy because you are angry. OCD is part of the anxiety and depression process. Having OCD doesn't necessarily mean depression etc but they are closely linked.
  7. Not easy but stop being afraid of both the feelings, and what other people think of you in that situation. If you can manage that, the fear will go away.
  8. My latest therapist referred me to a forensic psychologist because of my complicated history (sexual abuse as a young child and drug addiction in my early 20's). The purpose of this was to establish several things; my state of mind, risk of self harm, actual condition and best course of treatment. The psychologist has stated that I am not 'irreparably damaged', that I do not have a personality disorder and that the prognosis is good. I feel that finally after all these years I am getting somewhere because I have the 'right kind' of help aka people that not only understand you but actually give a ****. Happy days
  9. Thanks Slim. I think i've found the right therapist. She is very experienced and to start with wants me to see a forensic psychologist to advise on the best way forward given my complicated history. She then intends a multi-disciplined approach including individual therapy, meds, EMDR and group therapy. I feel like I am on track so understandably I am fighting myself harder than ever.
  10. I have contacted them. Appointment on Monday. Here goes...
  11. He can't help me, he is not experienced enough. Surprise However, unlike the last one, he gave me the details of someone who is a specialist in my condition and even had the courtesy to talk to them to explain my condition. A genuinely good person I feel. I haven't spoken to the new therapist yet, bit nervous tbh but I appreciate the help he gave me
  12. And when you die and meet your maker, they'll say 'Are you ready to go back again for your final test, this time it's a tough one'
  13. I so love cats. I was so excited when my two eldest had kittens. Keep them if you can, your mothers will be much happier with them, and of course your kids can watch. Life experiences like that are hard to find.
  14. I don't think anyone on here would ever say your problems are not as bad as theirs. Don't give up on counselling, you'll find the right person and your age is irrelevant. The only thing that is relevant is your suffering and the need for your pain to be eased. Good luck
  15. I only found out last year that I have Avoidant Personality Disorder. Suddenly, everything makes sense so yes, it is helpful. I was originally diagnosed with OCD, but although I do have some symptoms of OCD (counting etc), I don't find it particularly debilitating so it didn't feel like an accurate diagnosis. Edit: Oh and as a result of the incorrect diagnosis I was put on Sertraline which was as helpful as a bag of spanners
  16. I don't think that we cannot depend on other people at all. But ultimately, healing comes from within. Nobody can do it for you.
  17. I have suffered Like no other Walked a thousand miles With pain inside my heart I have longed For all these years For just one touch To ease my burden And at my darkest hour When all hope had gone You picked me up And I was saved I could not believe That someone cared I did not dare Believe it was true Am I truly worthy Of this love? Is it possible To have the peace I crave? But who on earth Wishes me this Eden? Who in Heaven Prays for my soul? I opened my eyes To view my saviour And to my surprise It was me
  18. Jollyrancherisyum, I don't have an issue with you not wanting to see your Gran. I feel the same way. If people have hurt you then why in turn should you feel obliged to help them? I do have issues with the drugs though. Not necessarily immoral, but also not necessarily helpful to your recovery. Peace and best wishes.
  19. I get this every time I talk to a therapist too. In fact, I distinctly remember going dizzy almost every night that I went to bed when I was growing up. I am not sure what it means though.
  20. I was pretty much okay all year until Christmas. I've struggled this month as I do every year. The only consolation I can give you is that 'the happy season' will be over soon. Oh, and you are not alone.
  21. Welcome to the survivors club So glad you joined
  22. I can't give you advice but I can give you a hug Hope everything works out for you
  23. Have a better than you'd expect Christmas everyone
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