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  1. I am sorry you are struggling. My first suggestion is don't be so hard on yourself. We are our worst enemies. We spend too much time comparing ourselves to others and forgetting what makes us special. I had to learn to change my perspective and find joy in the moment. Things will happen in life like a speeding ticket, or breaking an important item, like I did yesterday. But instead of looking down at my self and thinking badly - I realized we all make mistakes and can usually learn from them. Like next time be watching our speed better or move the fragile items before doing anything else. God has made each one of us uniquely and wonderfully made and there is not one of us the same. We each are designed with talents and gifts. We may not know for sure what they are, but God does and will disclose them through prayer and experiences. Think about what you are good at and what you are passionate about. Those are usually your talents. I just recently went to a local career center and they helped me with finding what are my most successful skills. See if you can go visit your local career center. Try making a list of what you think you do well, I bet with some time you will have a pretty long list. Don't let others bring you down. You just need to remember to change your perspective to a positive one. Prayer is important too. God will help you see your gifts, just pray and ask Him. I will be praying for you. Please keep in touch and let us know how you are doing. Hugs!
  2. Welcome to DF. We are glad you reached out here. We all understand the struggles with depression. We want to listen, care, and encourage you. Are you getting professional help for your depression? How long have you been struggling? I struggled for over 20 years on and off. With the right medication to keep my chemicals in my brain balanced and learning what my triggers are, I have been doing well. I just need to remember to keep my thoughts right, give myself a break and not be so hard on myself, and keep my perspective to realistic thoughts. It takes practice but it is possible to keep your thoughts positive and practical. Please feel free to reach out here anytime. We are here for you. If you want to go into more details with what is going on in your life, you are welcomed to pm me. I am happy to listen and encourage. Just know you are at not alone and things will get better with the right help and time. I will be praying for you. HUGS!
  3. It looks like you have a good plan. I will be praying for your daughter and your family. You are doing a great job showing your daughter how much you care and are there for her. With the right help, she will find ways to cope and learn how to avoid falling into deep depression. Do they provide recreational therapy as an inpatient? My daughter had that and she was able to be creative. That helped her not be so much in her thoughts. Please continue sharing, we are here to support you too. What you are going through with a severely depressed child is very hard. You need support for yourself and your spouse. We are here for you. Lots of Hugs!
  4. If you would like some helpful articles please pm me. I found some that can help you understand more about depression and how to help a loved one that is struggling. I will continue to be praying for you and your family.
  5. Just checking up to see how your daughter is doing? Did you find any help for her? My prayers continue to be with you.
  6. I am so sorry your daughter is struggling. It is good that she opened up to you. My daughter struggled with depression for awhile when she was in 8th grade. She actually was to a point of cutting. My husband and I didn't find out for a while. It took a friend of hers to share with the school counselor for us to f ind out. My daughter did need to be hospitalized for about a week so she would be safe. We were overseas so it wasn't the best mental hospital facility. What we found is you need to find the right therapist that your daughter can relate and feel comfortable sharing with. It also takes time to find the right medication and dosage. Zoloft is not always the solution for everyone who struggles with depression. For us Wellbutrin works best. Also, each time the dosage changes, it make take several days to see a difference. You and your wife are doing a great job showing your daughter how much you love her, are there for her, care, and seeking the best help she needs. I will be praying that you find the best facility for your daughter and that she gets the treatment she needs to feel better. My thoughts and prayers will continue to be with you. Please keep in touch and let us know how your daughter is doing. Hugs to you my friend. My heart goes out to you.
  7. Putting on a mask isn't healthy for us. Try to surround yourself with others who understand. Being in this support group is a good start. We know how hard depression can be. Please feel free to share anytime about how you are feeling. We care and want to show you love and support. I am praying your week goes well and that others around you can be a support. Hugs and Blessings.
  8. I am so sorry that you are struggling with depression and anxiety and that it leads to nausea. I have felt that way at times. I take tums for most of my stomach discomfort. Are you sure your nausea is due to the anxiety only? Have you been to a doctor to see if it is not something else that is causing your nausea? Did you start a new medication for the depression? When I first went on my depression medication, it caused me nausea because it was too high of a dose. It was actually a funny situation because I thought I was pregnant with all that nausea, but later found out it was a side affect of the medication being too high of a dose. Once we regulated my medication, the nausea went away. I will be praying for you. God doesn't want us to suffer. I will be praying for the source of your nausea and that a resolution can happen quickly and you can feel better. Please keep in touch and let us know how you are doing. Hugs and Blessings.
  9. Welcome to the DF. We are glad you reached out here. It is a great place to receive support and give support to each other dealing with depression or family members struggling with depression. I personally have struggled with depression and anxiety for over 20 years. My husband also has struggled with depression. Both my girls have dealt with depression for a short period. What has helped all of us is seeking professional help by getting the right counseling and taking the right medication to help with the chemical imbalance. It takes a while to find the one that works best for each person. Recognizing that depression is a disease was an important step and seeking help is the next. Then learning what the triggers are and being aware of them. We also believe faith helps heal. I pray daily and journal my thoughts and concerns. Knowing that I am not alone helps me feel better. I will be praying for you and your family. God loves each of us and does not want us to suffer. My daughters are both young adults now and are doing well from the depression. Being aware of how we see a situation and changing our perspective is helpful to feeling better. I have some great resources to encourage those dealing with depression. pm me if you would like me to share them with you. Hugs and Blessings.
  10. I am sorry you are struggling with depression and struggling with the thoughts of being a fraud. Depression is a real disease and more often now it is being recognized as a real disease. A doctor once told me Depression is as real as Diabetes and medication is necessary to keep those chemicals in balance just like insulin for Diabetics helps keep there sugar levels balanced. People who don't understand that depression is a disease need to be educated. There are a lot of resources on depression for people to understand. I hope you are getting counseling for your depression and checking into medication if your depression is related to a chemical imbalance. So often our thoughts can cause that imbalance. That is why it is so important for us learn to have healthy thoughts. I will be praying for you. Know that you are not a fraud and depression is a real disease. I have struggled on and off for over 20 years. I have been in counseling and on medication. I am doing much better and haven't spiraled in years. Knowing our triggers, knowing how to change our thoughts, giving ourselves a break, and acceptance that we are dealing with a disease are all strategies to keeping a more balanced life. I pray daily and that helps too. Please keep in touch. My thoughts and prayers will be with you. Hugs!
  11. I am so glad you have reached out on this site. This is a site where you can share and not be judged. It is good to know there are others who understand your struggles and you are not alone. It is great that despite your anxiety you moved and tried a new life style. That was a huge step. I am sorry you are struggling. I started struggling with depression a few years older than you. It was after my second child was about six months old. I know how horrible it feels not wanting to get up in the morning and frightened to go anywhere. I did need medication because often anxiety and depression are a chemical imbalance in the brain. With the right medication you can get balanced again and feel better. But medication alone isn't the answer, you also need therapy. It took me years to find the right combination of medication and therapy. I learned what my triggers are and how to deal with them. The number one thing to remember is give yourself a break, don't be too hard on yourself and know that anxiety and depression is a disease but with the right treatment you can feel better. I understand with your anxiety you don't feel comfortable leaving the house to make your appt. with the counselor. If you pm me I can send you a link to an online counseling group that can help you find the guidance you need to getting better. My prayers are with you. Please continue to reach out here and share. We care and want to know how you are doing. God Bless and Hugs~
  12. I am glad you have started counseling. Give it time, you will find ways to cope and deal with your problems. My recommendation though is don't get caught up with the labels. There is medication too that can help with all that you mentioned. I understand about faking it, though there were times, that was even difficult for me to do. I had to learn to not be so hard myself and give myself a break. With the right medication and counseling I have learned to cope and even more in the past two years I haven't struggled at all, even through some tough life situations. I will continue to be praying for you and know I here for you. God has given me the strength I need each day. I pray and rely on Him daily. Please keep in touch. Hugs!
  13. Just seeing how things are doing this week? You have been in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless.
  14. Well I am glad you reached out here. Whenever, I can I will respond to you. I am here for you. Feel free to pm me if you need to chat. I am so sorry your cat was sick. Have you taken him to the vet? What is wrong? My cat was sick like that a few years ago. It was due to a bad vaccination. I also was afraid I was going to lose her. Praise God she made it through that tough time and is doing well. I will be praying for your cat as well. Don't think you are not a good cat mom, the fact that you stayed up concern about him, shows how much you care and how good of a cat mom you are. I am sorry your friends seem too busy. I have learned friends are human. There will always be times when they will let you down. The thing I have learned is God is always there and never lets you down. When I am sad and struggling, I always go to Him in prayer. He will give you the comfort and strength you need. I also prayed for real friends, and then realized that everyone has a busy life and I need to give them the same mercy and grace God gives me and I would hope they would do the same for me. I will be praying for you today to get the strength you need to make it through the day at work. I also pray your cat is doing better and you can find out what's wrong. Please keep in touch. I want to hear how you are doing. Blessings!
  15. I understand you have been hurt before and it is hard to trust. However, as humans we are designed to be social and have friends. They sound like supportive friends. I found an article about friendship that I think would be helpful for you. However, we are not allowed to post links on reply's. If you are interested, pm me and I can send you the link. I think it would be good to give these two friends a chance. Try not to let your thoughts get the best of you. We often make things worse by what we think, verses what is real and true. Try to appreciate what they say about you and believe it about yourself. If you say positive things out loud about yourself you will eventually start to believe it. I will be praying for you. These friends sound like they know how special you are and they care. God Bless!
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