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mmd

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  1. Does anyone also deals with loneliness ? No friends. No people to talk. And joined to this or other online sites whiling to meet people who also deal with loneliness ?
  2. I think you should put clear what its bugging you (not for us reading you, for you), at I least I couldnt see whats the solid reason of whats giving you a hard time, maybe you know it and dont feel comfortable sharing it hear. Maybe you need some time for yourself ? Away from family. If is this maybe you can find some activity/hobby, only for an excuse to be out from the house.
  3. I think you are needing friends ? Thats the thing ? Do some hangs every now and then, with people you care, have a nice time. Relationship with your wife is ok ? Or you dont talk real with her ? Anyway, live with sad is terrible. And this kind of things are so hard, because you cant go and buy them. Hope you be ok this days.
  4. Tell to her how much you concern about her is a good thing also tell her that you dont understand much what she is going through, but anyway you want to stay there for her. I mean, express all your care for her in words, so she really gets how much you care for her. And then, talk, ask to her what is really happening, so she can open up with you. Lot of talk, and lot of listen from your part. Advice: try to dont say things like "i dont understand why you so bad, looks like you have a good life" , that can upset some people. Good luck.
  5. Yes, me. I dont feel that people dont care about me or devalued, but I really dont have people to talk besides some family, which is just that, family talking. I pass days alone, and only talk a bit with some online contacts, but its not a meaningful chat. Ive been like this since 5 years and maybe a little more. I finally get used to this. But anyway is not easy.
  6. And all this past days been null also. Woke up and... nothing, just nothing to do. Nothing to have fun or joy, nothing to feel good. Just sit and wait and try to feel like things are ok. I pass time imagining the things I would like to do. Just that, imagining. And silence, no one to talk to. So, thats my day(s).
  7. Hi there. Maybe is better to stop couting with those people. I mean, now you know you are not going to find support from them. I know its hard, but stop trying to convince them is the only way to dont get frustrated. And maybe find another way to cope, online maybe the best. Ive also had to make more things than just say words to express problems, its crazy, but some people are just dont understand. Take care.
  8. Hi, so bad to hear all you telling. Hope things get well for you. Have you heard of Pepe Julian Onziema, I know he is in favour of LGBT rights in Africa, he (borned woman) is from Uganda, maybe you can contact him, for support and find others like you and maybe to boost your fundrasing.
  9. I dont see depression, I see stress. Depression is when you are low all the time, and you cant get out easily. Etc. But, this doesnt mean you are ok. I see how hard you are struggling, I know this is common in students, Ive heard lot of stories like you describe, you are not alone on this, at all. Its crazy how society demands can push us to the point life seems have meaning in things arent esencial to life. Try to do your best. Try to find the way to find your potential in your studies. But remember how hard it is, and that its not not going to be easy. But you cant put all the meaning of your life on this. Try to find ways to cope and be ready if plans dont result as you expected. Goos luck.
  10. Hi there, I remeber I read your first post and I didnt relste it to only physical atraction at all. I think it was really clear that you are looking for a meaningful and stable relationship. Hope you can find someone, have you find dating sites ? Maybe in facebook.
  11. Hi. I deal with loneliness too, and it really devastaste me, so I know how hard is to deal with it. I know how is to spend days alone, pass days without talk with anyone, etc. Find forums to "talk" with people is a good way to cope. Try to mantain your feet on earth. And try to do your best to stay alive, and then try to do things to meet more people. Take care
  12. Hi there , hope the forum can help you. Sometimes its just good to write your thoughts down to find some relief. I also play guitar. Take care.
  13. I think you are taking the word confident or have self cobfidenxe in the wrong way. This is a simple example: "I dont know if Im enough good to make that career, Im not good at things" that person lacks of self confidence. "Im think I could take a try and see if I can mske that career", thats a person with self confidance. Self confidance doesnt mean "I know Im gonna be the best on that career and have no flaws, its all going to be perfect". Theres people who just feel they are not able to do tasks or or be in situations because they dont trust on themselves. Confidence its not only about think you are going to make things perfect. Confidence its about you feel you are be able to adapt to what the situation needs to be completed. Its a long topic to discuss - Personally I feel confident if my self. That means I feel the best ? No. But I trust in myself to take desitions And if someone tells me "no, you are wrong, I have the best solution", I feel confident enough to trust more in my opinion. Confidence means (by psychological theory, I was a psychology student, drop out): trust in yourself to take desitions by yourself.
  14. Hi , just here hoping you find the way to feel ok again. Good luck, and take care.
  15. Hi there, i read your whole post, seems you been throw a lot, but also I think you are now able to process all you passed. Right ?
  16. Hi , I read your whole post, so hard what telling, so hard to dont have any support to find some relief, forums are good to put out all your stress, hope you find it like a good wayvto cope, there are also lot of facebook groups about this, arent my favorite thing but try them, maybe help you too. Good luck try to find some peace.
  17. I read your whole post, I think you are a very inteligent person, you have a very practical thonking. Having said this, I think you should take a time to sit down and think in al this, in the most practical way, what to do with your job. I see you are very ambicious, maybe now try to find a safe and steady ground, until you can recover your optimal energy and be ready for higher goals. Take care, dont over stress.
  18. Woke up a little while ago (4:47am now), walked down the stairs, turn on the TV, and then... check my cellphone, facebook contacts (full of people I dont know in real, and not close to anyone), forums, no one to talk, just stay waiting in silence. It feels so alone.
  19. Hi there, you can talk with me if you feel you need to talk with someone, I have no problem to listen you and try to help you.
  20. Anyone knows if the rules of this forum allow to post images ? Took from the phone.
  21. I havent talked with anyone today and since a while and Im needing it, just want to hear some of you to conect me again with human life for a while. What have you been doing lately ?
  22. Sorry to hear that Epictetus, yes I remember you mentioned to me about your grand mother. The pie/Pi story, wow. My mother loves to fight thats a bit of a problem, she is bad at social traits, instead try to find solutions she preffers to argue, lately she is quite ok, but her house is such a mess ! The other day at lunch time I was looking for a knife and in the knife drawer I found the old litter scoop of a cat we no longer have, you know for what the litter scoop is for... And she doesnt care if that is with the plates or anything.
  23. The stroke was long time ago, this is not a new story. After a stroke, now my mother have lot of cognitive issues, like short memory loss, also she cant find the words she is trying to say, she have an "exentric personality", she likes to fight with all people, she unbelievavle a messy house. I just post this to see if there are other people who also have a parent in this situation. Im not looking for advices or kind words. Due the stroke in her right part of the brain, her left hand is always closed, also a bit of the same in her left foot. She causes me lot of stress sometimes. In part of the fights she loves to have, also she sometimes cant comprehend things, so she fights again, even if Im trying to help her. When I visit her the house is really messy and she doesnt like if I clean it, the house needs some repair, the walls are crumbling but she doesnt want to repair it, even if she have the money. She have some "magic thinking", its complicated to explain. Things been OK with her lately, yesterday I had a bit of an aegue but was short, by phone, I try dont think too much because if I do I can go to a really dark place. Anyway.
  24. If money isnt a problem dont worry, being a parent isnt that difficult (lot of people are going to fight me but anyway). If you reaally want or not be a mother, thats a deep question, but... its seems you want to, and, seems your partner really wants to be a father, so its not like the kid is gonna be alone. Try to enjoy the new family members. Maybe I say this because I get along well with kids. Good luck.
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