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  1. Hi there. Try not to be too hard on yourself. I'm sorry you are having a tough time right now. Have you considered that the drinking influenced your behavior? Maybe consider getting another referral from your GP that doesn't have such a long waiting list. Be sure to forgive yourself. We have all done things we are not proud of but we must forgive ourselves so that we are able to move forward. Wishing you the best.
  2. Hi Avatar. You are in a difficult situation and I'm sorry. Things get very difficult when friendships and emotions are tied together in a working relationship. Have you considered that your friend's personality has always been this way at work? Maybe he is experiencing a lot of stress and doesn't know how to deal with it. However, no one deserves to be abused in any situation. Have you thought about what you want to do in the future? Would it be in the same line of work? Maybe consider talking to your friend about your concerns away from the workplace and in a neutral location (not your home and not his home). Maybe he really doesn't realize how his behavior has affected you and your relationship. Maybe your friend needs to seek some professional counseling to help him with his emotions. If you feel that you can no longer manage the situation at work, maybe it's time to look for an exit strategy. It's easier to find another job when you already have one. As mentioned, be sure to know exactly what the non compete clause outlines. It is never a good idea to quit a job without having another one already in place. Wishing you the best.
  3. Hi Jane. It's hard to figure out what came first but I know that the two together can be difficult to manage. I hope you were able to burn that brush pile. As you said, baby steps. Maybe take a small step towards accomplishing your goal. That may be, for example, just burning a portion of the brush pile. Once you see you have done that with success, maybe it will make other things a little easier to manage. With me, I know that when I have a little success, it motivates me to do more and want more successes. Maybe give it a try. Have you thought that maybe the procrastination is actually increasing your stress level and panic? Maybe consider some professional therapy to help you find some strategies to manage the panic to lessen the procrastination...best wishes.
  4. Happy Belated Birthday! I hope you made it through okay. I am so sorry about the passing of your mother. I'm also sorry that you have been experiencing depression for such a long time. Have you considered therapy/counseling? Maybe it would help if you talked to a professional to talk about some of the emotions your are experiencing. You are forgiven. Please try to forgive yourself. Your mom loved you unconditionally, If you can, maybe find one good memory of a time you and your mom had a good talk or spent time together. Try not to think too much about the times that were not so good. We all have done things that we are not proud of but we have to try to forgive ourselves and you have apologized. You are moving forward. Don't give up. Wishing you the best.
  5. Hi Cosb4568. I'm sorry you are going through this. Maybe consider going to counseling. I know it's difficult being alone and lonely. Maybe think about making friends if that's what you want to do. Friends can be for a very long time or just for a season. Have you thought about hobbies or something you like to do? Maybe start attending a local interest group or do you have any churches, recreations center where you can hang around people with the same interests? There is hope for your future. Wishing you the best.
  6. Relationships can be very challenging especially when one party feels differently from the other. Have you thought about how you will handle seeing him on a daily basis? Seeing him may continue to bring back those emotions of feeling hurt. Sometimes it takes distance from a person and situation in order to move forward. In sounds like you have some tough decisions to make. Wishing you the best.
  7. I'm sorry you have experienced this. Have you considered getting counseling to help you with strategies to deal with the emotion of not liking yourself. Maybe a counselor would be able to help you feel better about yourself. Have you thought about sharing this with your parents? I'm sure they love you and want the best for you. You are not ugly or disgusting and you are loved. You are still young and you may eventually meet some new friends. As far as a special relationship is concerned, remember you are still young and that type of relationship is usually reserved for older people. Keep reaching out for support and don't give up. Wishing you the best
  8. Hi Lexiia, the forum is here for you and you can express yourself anytime. Have you considered talking to another adult family member about your feelings? Maybe they would be able to be a support for you and maybe be able to talk to your mother for you. I'm sorry you are having a difficult time right now. Many people don't know about depression or how to handle the symptoms. Try not to be upset with your mother because maybe she doesn't know how to handle things. Have you considered going to counseling? A counselor may be able to help you with strategies to help you get through the day. Maybe call your local mental health clinic to see if they offer counseling for young people. Wishing you the best.
  9. I'm sorry you're going through this. Relationships can be very challenging at times and hard decisions have to be made. While your boyfriend is trying to figure things out for himself, have you considered getting counseling for yourself? Maybe counseling would help you with coping mechanisms on the emotions your are currently experiencing. We can't make people get help if they are going through tough times but we can only suggest it. Have you thought about how to move forward with your life? Maybe think about what you would like to do with your future and write down a plan on how to do it. There is hope for your future. Wishing you the best.
  10. Hello, I'm sorry that you are going through a tough time right now. Sometimes picking up the Bible and trying to read it is difficult. It has so many words that are unfamiliar and even harder to pronounce. With me, I needed to find someone who was knowledgeable about the Bible. I found that in a local church. They had groups that did Bible studies so that I could understand the Bible when I read it on my own. Don't give up. Have you considered trying to find a local church? Your life is important. If you are not able to go outside, have you thought about walking in place and exercising in your house? You can use items in your house to work out with for example if you have a can of vegetables, you can use that as a weight. Walking in place on a soft surface can also help. Be sure to check with your doctor before starting an exercise program. Have you considered going to a counselor? Maybe they would be able to help you with some strategies on handling your emotions. You're in my prayers.
  11. Finding a way to cope with chronic depression can be tough. I'm sorry you're going through this. Have you considered talking to your therapist about ways to support your husband while maintaining your mental health? Has your husband thought about getting a second opinion regarding his treatment? Maybe if he had a second opinion and the opinion was the same, it would make it easier for him to get the help he needs. Wishing you and your husband the best.
  12. I think at some point in time we all reflect on where we are in life. I can feel your frustration and your desire to move on. Everyone has a path for their life and everyone's path is different. Comparison is never a good thing because other people's lives always looks better than our own. This is not necessarily the case. Maybe think about where you want to be and what you want to be doing in the next 5 years. Have you thought about writing down life goals, short term and long term and then start working towards those goals? Life isn't always easy and we all have highs and lows. You are on the right path because you are starting to think about your life and what you want. Maybe think about your future and pat yourself on the back for what you have accomplished and continue to move forward and focus on the positive. You can do it!
  13. Hi Rashawn. I can feel your frustration in your post. I'm sorry you are having a tough time now. Have you considered going back to therapy? It may not help you get a job or go to school but it may help you to cope with the emotions of your current situation. In most areas, there is an employment office and sometimes they help people get training or help them find a job. Have you considered researching programs in your area that might assist you in going to school regardless of your loan debt? It may just be a training program and not a full college program. Don't give up. There is still hope.
  14. Things have been really hard for you. I'm sorry the years have been difficult for you. Have you thought about requesting a new social worker? Maybe the one you have is not a good fit for you situation. May consider writing down what you think your needs are and give it to your social worker. Maybe the people that you have contacted aren't sure how to help you. You have done a good job to keep pushing forward. Don't give up. Things will get better. Wishing you the best.
  15. I think it's good that you are opening up to your boyfriend. Maybe he got upset initially because you told him you wouldn't drink. When you did drink and you weren't having a bad day, he couldn't comprehend why it happened. Also you told him that you wouldn't and you did so he may have felt you broke your promise to him. Your friends care about you but they do not know how to help you. Have you considered finding a local therapist in your area? A professional will be able to help you deal with your emotions. They are trained to help you figure out what works best for you and how to help you function on a daily basis. You won't have to keep quiet about your feelings when you find a professional therapist. Maybe you are getting mad at your boyfriend because you have an expectation that he will understand what you are going through. He is trying to help the best way he knows how. Things will get better when you are able to find the help you need. Don't give up things will get better.
  16. If you want friends, you have to be friendly. If you want to be a real friend, the people you are friendly to, you will genuinely care about them. The people you don't care about are not the people that are going to be your friends. There are times when we all just think about ourselves and feel better just being by ourselves. It's okay to feel that way sometimes. Friends like to help their friends overcome there challenges. However, hearing about problems all the time can be a bit overwhelming. When it comes to your friends, maybe talk about your depression on occasion but have a therapist to talk to about your problems. Have you considered thinking about other people during your depressed times? Focusing on others may help you to refocus your thoughts and not remained depressed. Just some thoughts. I know you care about people. We all go through this at some point in time. Best wishes to you.
  17. I’m sorry you are experiencing so much pain. I know things can just feel so overwhelming at times. You are not a bother and thank you for reaching out. It’s good to express yourself and not keep things bottled up inside. I read some of your other posts. I’m glad you’re getting help. Things will get better. When you are online, if there is no-one available right away, have you considered contacting a depression telephone hotline? There are usually people available when you need a listening ear. Wishing you the best.
  18. Hi Rabbie. I understand how it feels to be homesick. I am sorry that you are going through this. I have moved several times myself and I've experienced being homesick too. I commend you because it sounds like you are doing well in your new place (career advancement, already making new friends and a nice boyfriend). I know it's really hard to make a major change. Sometimes that second thought always tries to make us think we made a bad decision. Have you thought about maybe limiting the amount of times you look at your Facebook? I know for myself, in order to move forward and enjoy my new location, I had to limit some of my old contacts so that I could begin looking forward to my bright future. You have a bright future. You were in Florida for many years so there are a lot of expectations in your new place. When I've compared my old place to the new, they never are able to compare. I've learned to look at each place on an individual basis. Everyone and everyplace has it's own good merits. How long have you been in your new place? Have you given yourself an opportunity to become familiar with your new place? I ask the questions not to get an answer but to help you make a decision as to stay or return to Florida. Remember all of the positive reasons that the move was a good one. Sometimes when we continue to hold on to the past, we can't see the good that is before us. You know the old saying "They can't see the forest for the trees?"
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