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Hi, I guess we are on the same boat. I am too a 30 year old virgin. I have social anxiety disorder, it makes me so anxious being around a girl that I can't stand it and plus I have cero social skills. Like you I have been called names and made fun of. A year ago I felt miserable and I was in a deep depression. But I started to take meds and going to therapy and it has helped me a lot. Still no girl friend but I have been on dates. So my advice is to seek for a therapist, they can help you learn and practice social skills and plus you will have support which in my case it is essential. As for feeling bad being almost 30 and a virgin, It can be troublesome only if you let it. I have to say I have been a victim of the social stigma surrounding it but I learned that I will not let that affect me, it is just some stupid social prejudgment. So that's my advice to you, you don't have to listen to it if you don't want to. Just trying to tell you the things that have work for me in some degree.

Hello, I am sorry you are going through this right now, I know OCD can be hell but there are ways to make you feel better. First of all I recommend seeking for therapy, if you aren't currently doing so. I can relate to what you said, having OCD and having done some stupid things when I was younger certainly haunted me. Disclosing to someone the stupid things we regret might help, it help to me talking to my therapist and telling all the things I regret. Now with OCD you can't analyze the thought that will only get things worse, what you need is to let the thoughts flow, not analyzing them just let them pass through, don't fight them!! The more you stay with the thought, as if you where observing, the less anxiety will cause you. Treat them as just thoughts or mental garbage. We all had sin, the thing is to forgive yourself for whatever you made, there is no unforgivable sin even the worst among us can redeem our selfs and be forgiven.

Hi and welcome. First of all I am so sorry for your loses. Maybe it is a symptom of major depressive disorder. I also have dysthymia and I suffered from major depression disorder a year ago, doctors call this double depression. I remember being tired all the time although I did shower. Losing the need to shower and other cleaning necessities is a sign of depression. I recommend therapy if you haven't done it yet.

I can relate to what you are saying. I am 29 and I felt that I had wasted away my years because of fear, particularly fear of being with a girl. But I have learned that I am still young, you are younger than me, and I can still changed. What I am trying to say is that it is not to late to change, maybe therapy can assist you in giving you more courage because it definitely has done for me. The first steps are always the hardest but so what take a leap and make that live stream on twitch, the more you expose yourself to fear the braver you get.

Hi and welcome to the forum. I am glad you are staying away from drugs and alcohol, they can really mess up the treatment. 20 mg of prozac is the starting dose I suppose your doc will increase your dose until you reach the desired mood. I am currently on 60mg of prozac and it took almost a month for the antidepressant to kick in. I felt really bad during that time but it does get better.

Hi, glad to hear prozac has worked on you. For me, it took a little to kick in, like 3 weeks. Those 3 weeks I felt like crap but once the prozac started working the change was noticeably. I am currently taking 60mg.

Hi, I had suffered from religious OCD. The thing that helped me a lot was letting the thoughts flow. If there is a blasphemous thought just go along with it, it can't harm you it is just mental garbage. God knows you are suffering from OCD and those aren't you real feelings, OCD is just garbage. I would recommend therapy, because it has helped me a lot for this particular problem, but if that is not an option try to read some books about it. I recommend Stop Obsessing by Edna Foa, its a great book and addresses the religious obsession questions you have.

Hi and welcome, Lexapro is one of the safest pills out there. This is the first choice pill pdocs prescribe when dealing with depression because it has few and low side effects. Also 5 mg is a low dose so probably you won't feel a thing.

Hi and welcome to the forum.I am so sorry to hear what you've been going through. I can relate to what you are saying about being alone and feeling the angst of it. And it is brutal, but what had helped me is talk therapy and meds, also learning social skills had made me more confident of my self. Still I am no were near where I would like to be but I had made progress. I suggest looking for a therapist if you are not doing so, it can really help. I disagree most women don't care much about looks.

See it this way, he isn't worth your time, a dude that acts like that isn't worth anybody's time. You are much more worthy than pursuing somebody who can't appreciate you, if he doesn't want to be with you his loss not yours. You deserve much better and not a guy who doesn't care about you.

Hi, I am sorry you are going thru this. Like most of us here I have been there too and I can tell you the pain will go away. When I am on those kind of situations I always remind my self of a quote that goes "and this too shall pass". It reminds me that no matter how hard things are they eventually pass, we need to just hold on patiently.

Hi Alxdx, welcome to DF. Reading your post reminds me a lot of me. I suffer from social anxiety disorder, never had a girlfriend and I tend to be a loner. Also suffer from depression and some other things. Well my advice is to seek for psychotherapy, if you aren't seeing someone already. Living a lonely life can be real tough but there are ways you can crawl out of your isolation, and that is therapy and a lot of willpower. Maybe when you get a gf or more friends you will see there is no need for meds any longer. I always thought meds are like training wheels for some of us. So I don't think you necessarily need the meds to feel better, try making small changes in your life and you eventually get there, step by step. Hope my message is useful in some way.

Hi Lili and welcome to DF, I am sorry for your struggles. Although I am not a professional on the field it sounds like you are experiencing some kind of intrusive thoughts, they are quite common in people with PTSD. I have them and its like another "me" thinking weird disgusting stuff that I can't control. Good news is that it is treatable. Regarding your feeling of dreaming someone else dream, it sounds like depersonalization and it is common in people with anxiety. Hope you get well soon

Hi, I just read it all, I just have to say I am sorry you got involve in a situation like this and its pretty good you talked to a therapist. I agree she is not worth your time, ignore her and you will see how desperate she will try to call your attention, but don't fall for it. She is a toxic person not worth it.

Hi, I am sorry your are feeling like this. Like you just said this isn't a diagnose nor anything like that but it sounds like Anhedonia to me. Anhedonia is a symptom of depression, and that feeling of being disconnected might be depersonalization which also occurs during depression. You say that you feel ok when shocking and unpleasant things happened, I can relate to that. When I am depressed and going thru similar phase of not feeling or caring about anything, when shocking things happen, like jump scares, I feel alive again. So it does sound like depression to me, I suggest visiting a therapist or a doctor so you can get a diagnose. There are ways to make you feel better I hope you find them.