Hello, i'm new here and to be honest i only made this account so that i can talk about this specific issue that i have. I am not sure if i have come to the right place to talk about this, but i dont know what to do and i feel that i need to talk to someone about it.
I am a 30 y/o gay man living in the UK with my parents as i am studying full time at college and working part time. About a year ago i met someone who i've been seeing on and off. He is 23 and is living on his own in a one bedroom flat. I am going to refer to him as daniel. When i first met daniel he seemed like a really nice guy, but as i have gotten to know him more there are some things about him that at first didn't bother me much but lately have become a bit worrying.
We have spent alot of our time together watching movies and the occasional dinner at his place. As i have gotten to know him he has told me that when he was younger he got sectioned, but he didnt say why and i was affraid to ask him about it in any more detail. He has scars on his forearms from where he used to cut himself and he is on some sort of medication which he has refered to as mood stabilizers. I have heard him whispering to himself in bed when he thought i was sleeping, but i couldn't make out what he was saying. All i can say is that it sounded like a conversation. He is dyslexic and seems to have alot of difficulty concentrating, because of this he has had difficulty with learning though i'm not sure how much, but it seems like he struggles alot.
Recently he has told me that he loves me and while i do have feelings for him i havent fallen in love with him, but i do feel alot of pitty for him especially as of late because i've noticed his flat is starting look messy, he is struggling to get out of bed in the mornings and go to college, he has no money to buy himself food for the cupboards and fridge. I had to give him some money so he could do some shopping. And i see alot of sadness in his eyes, especially when its time for me to go to work or college. I just feel like he really doesn't like being on his own, he is having a hard time and that he is beginning to slip, because of all of the above reasons i refrain from falling for him as i do not have the time or financial stability of my own to really help him out and i do not wish to continue our relationship.
My problem is that i really don't want to break his heart because i fear what that might do to him especially now. I worry about him, i've cried about this and i don't know what to do.