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    Thanksgiving Dinn Thanksgiving Day is an annual national holiday in the United States and Canada celebrating the harvest and other blessings of the past year. In the US Thanksgiving is celebrated on the fourth Thursday of November while in Canada nearly one month and a half earlier (second Monday of October). Thanksgiving has deep roots in religious tradition, but nowadays it is primarily celebrated as a secular holiday. Thanksgiving tradition began in early XVII century, but the date and popularity varied between states. First nation-wide Thanksgiving was proclaimed on November 26, 1789 by George Washington. The contemporary date of fourth Thursday of November was set in 1941 by federal legislation. Thanksgiving Celebration Thanksgiving is a great time to be thankful and appreciate who you have and what you have. It is a time for families to meet, socialize and enjoy each other's company, sometimes the only opportunity in a year. Some prefer it to Christmas because of less emphasis on consumerism. Thanksgiving, for most, is also a start of a four day weekend which is great, too. Thanksgiving Date In 1863 President Abraham Lincoln proclaimed national Thanksgiving Day to be celebrated on the final Thursday of November. The rule of declaring the final Thursday of November as Thanksgiving Day was followed until 1939 [6]. In 1939 President Franklin D. Roosevelt declared the fourth (next-to-last) Thursday of November as Thanksgiving instead of the last, fifth one. The change of Thanksgiving's date was intended to extend the shopping season before Christmas and help bring the country out of The Great Depression. In the same manner, Thanksgiving in 1949 and 1941 was celebrated on third (next-to-last) Thursdays. In December 1941 Thanksgiving date was fixed as the fourth Thursday in November. Interesting facts about Thanksgiving Canadian Thanksgiving predates American Thanksgiving by 43 years. The first Thanksgiving in North America was held in 1578 in what is now Newfoundland, Canada. It was 43 before the first American Thanksgiving which happened in 1621 at the site of Plymouth Plantation, in Massachusetts [1]. Sarah Joseph Hale, who is the author of the nursery rhyme "Mary Had a Little Lamb" had contributed to the establishment of Thanksgiving as a national holiday. After 17 years of sending letters to President Lincoln, she had convinced him to support legislation establishing a national holiday of Thanksgiving in 1863. Before Thanksgiving, the only national holidays celebrated in the United States were Washington's Birthday (Presidents' Day) and Independence Day [5]. The TV dinner was invented in 1953 when Swanson had 260 tons of leftover turkey from Thanksgiving and no idea what to do with it. When asked, one of the employees said that they should package it in trays with sides and freeze [2]. There is a grocery in Paris named "Thanksgiving" that sells US food like Skippy peanut butter, Jello Instant Pudding, and Pop-Tarts to homesick ex-pats [3]. The day after Thanksgiving is the busiest day of the year for plumbers and septic companies who call it "Brown Friday" [4]. NASA engineers responsible for the Voyager program calculated trajectories for around 10,000 launch windows, from which they selected about 100 that met the mission objectives while minimizing planetary encounters taking place over the Thanksgiving or Christmas, allowing them to spend the holidays at home [7]. In 2013, Tony Rohr who was a manager at Pizza Hut franchise in Elkhart, Indiana, was fired for refusing to open on Thanksgiving Day so that his employees could spend the holiday with their families. He was offered the job back [8]. Depressionforums.org References Thanksgiving in America vs. Thanksgiving in Canada.
  3. NAMI.com NAMI Verified OCD is a serious mental health condition that should not be mocked or used as a casual term for personality traits. To destigmatize mental illness, education is key. To learn more visit nami.org/ocd - Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is characterized by repetitive, unwanted, intrusive thoughts (obsessions) and irrational, excessive urges to do certain actions (compulsions). Although people with OCD may know that their thoughts and behavior don't make sense, they are often unable to stop them. Symptoms typically begin during childhood, the teenage years or young adulthood, although males often develop them at a younger age than females. 1.2% of U.S. adults experience OCD each year. Symptoms Most people have occasional obsessive thoughts or compulsive behaviors. In an obsessive-compulsive disorder, however, these symptoms generally last more than an hour each day and interfere with daily life. Obsessions are intrusive, irrational thoughts or impulses that repeatedly occur. People with these disorders know these thoughts are irrational but are afraid that somehow they might be true. These thoughts and impulses are upsetting, and people may try to ignore or suppress them. Examples of obsessions include: Thoughts about harming or having harmed someone Doubts about having done something right, like turning off the stove or locking a door Unpleasant sexual images Fears of saying or shouting inappropriate things in public Compulsions are repetitive acts that temporarily relieve the stress brought on by an obsession. People with these disorders know that these rituals don't make sense but feel they must perform them to relieve the anxiety and, in some cases, to prevent something bad from happening. Like obsessions, people may try not to perform compulsive acts but feel forced to do so to relieve anxiety. Examples of compulsions include: Hand washing due to a fear of germs Counting and recounting money because a person is can't be sure they added correctly Checking to see if a door is locked or the stove is off "Mental checking" that goes with intrusive thoughts is also a form of compulsion Causes The exact cause of obsessive-compulsive disorder is unknown, but researchers believe that activity in several portions of the brain is responsible. More specifically, these areas of the brain may not respond normally to serotonin, a chemical that some nerve cells use to communicate with each other. Genetics are thought to be very important. If you, your parent or a sibling, have obsessive-compulsive disorder, there's around a 25% chance that another immediate family member will have it. Diagnosis A doctor or mental health care professional will make a diagnosis of OCD. A general physical with blood tests is recommended to make sure the symptoms are not caused by illicit drugs, medications, another mental illness, or by a general medical condition. The sudden appearance of symptoms in children or older people merits a thorough medical evaluation to ensure that another illness is not causing of these symptoms. To be diagnosed with OCD, a person must have must have: Obsessions, compulsions or both Obsessions or compulsions that are upsetting and cause difficulty with work, relationships, other parts of life and typically last for at least an hour each day Please visit Nami for more information on Obsessive Compulsive Disorder aar0nm1chael It’s not that this post is wrong but more so incomplete. For example: What if I ruminate about stamps all day and feel compelled to spend every dollar I have on my stamp collection? The OCD surrounding stamps would be both distressing and impairing in this case. I would call that textbook OCD. What if I spend multiple hours a day keeping things clean and tidy and feel compelled to clean every time I see a mess? Again….OCD. 1d2 likesReply more_than_bipolar Thank you for this. 1dReply itsbrizee i mean, it is some of these things 22h5 likesReply isat5295 19h1 likeReply hotdog333333 17hReply pocono_united_way #StopTheStigma 16hReply _b_rad_ley_ Except for when someone's ocd is organization like I get what ur saying but idk unfair to say ocd doesn't ever present itself in these fashions when it does occasional 14h1 likeReply beesunflower82 I get the intent of this post & empathizing need foe society to label every personality trait as a disorder or over simplifying the complexity of very serious disorders such as OCD or Bipolar disorder bc we experience mood swings. However, there are two different diagnosis of OCD, one which is a type of anxiety disorder and OCD personality disorder which in fact the criteria is a lot of these traits. I think the message should be self advocate & seek help from a professional. don't diagnose yourself w/Google, social media or try to read the DSM 5 yourself. 14hReply civic.tv83 I completely agree OCD and autistic are some of the most overused and misunderstood terms these days. 12hReply delvmusic Yes!!!!!! People use OCD, ADD and bipolar to unfairly casual. Thank you for this message. 11hReply delvmusic YES!!!!! People use OCD, ADD and bipolar so unfairly casual. Thank you for this message. 11hReply civic.tv83 I completely agree OCD and autistic are some of the most overused and misunderstood terms these days.
  4. Psychotherapy, or talk therapy, is the main treatment for borderline personality disorder (BPD). Several types of therapy may benefit people with BPD, and each type takes a different approach. This article explores the potential benefits of five types of therapy for people with BPD: dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) mentalization-based therapy (MBT) schema therapy (ST) transference-focused therapy (TFP) systems training for emotional predictability and problem solving (STEPPS) Below, we also list self-help strategies and signs that it may be time to reach out to a professional. BPD is a long-term condition that affects around 1.6%Trusted Source of people in the United States. Its main treatment is psychotherapy, otherwise known as talk therapy. Talk therapy teaches people vital skills for managing their thoughts and emotions. There are many types, and each has its own aims and methods. Sometimes, a person has to try several types of therapy before finding one that helps. A person with BPD may also find certain medications beneficial. The Food and Drug Administration (FDA) have not yet approved a medication to treat BPD specifically, but mood-stabilizing, antidepressant, or antipsychotic medications may help with anxiety, hostility, or depression. Types of therapy A person may attend therapy for BPD one-on-one or as part of a therapist-led group session. Also, some therapists offer phone contact between sessions. Group sessions can help people with BPD learn to express themselves effectively and improve interpersonal relationships. DBT DBT uses individual and group sessions to help people manage difficult emotions. The aim is to teach skills that enhance mindfulness, help tolerate distress, regulate emotions, and manage relationships. Clinical psychologist Dr. Marsha Linehan developed DBT for people with BPD and suicidal thoughts. It is similar to cognitive behavioral therapy, but DBT focuses more on emotions and relationships. DBT usually includes weekly individual therapy, a group training session, homework tasks, and telephone support from the therapist, if needed. According to a 2016 reviewTrusted Source, DBT is the only empirically supported therapy for BPD. Older studies confirm that DBT helps reduce self-harm and hospitalizations and helps people stay in treatment. DBT usually includes weekly individual therapy, a group training session, homework tasks, and telephone support from the therapist, if needed. According to a 2016 reviewTrusted Source, DBT is the only empirically supported therapy for BPD. Older studies confirm that DBT helps reduce self-harm and hospitalizations and helps people stay in treatment. MBT The aim of MBT is to help people with BPD understand their mental states and those of other people. The underlying theory is that difficulty understanding others is the main symptom of BPD and that this prevents the formation of stable relationships. MBT teaches people that they may be interpreting the thoughts, feelings, and emotions of others incorrectly. It encourages them to step back and assess whether their thoughts and beliefs are useful and realistic. ST Schemas are deeply ingrained patterns of thinking and behavior that form as the brain develops during childhood and adolescence. They can be affected by a person’s environment and experiences and are closely related to how the person views themselves and the world. Proponents of ST believe that events can trigger certain schemas that then lead to the development of unhelpful thoughts and behaviors. ST aims to reshape a person’s schemas by revisiting situations in earlier life that had a negative impact. Through ST, a person can develop healthier alternatives to harmful patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving. Some pilot studies suggest that group ST has promise as a therapy for BPD. However, the number of participants in these studies is often small, so further research is needed. TFP In psychotherapy, transference occurs when a person projects their own emotions or expectations onto someone else, such as their therapist. In TFP, therapists draw attention to this unconscious process during sessions to challenge unhelpful patterns of behavior. The therapist helps the person see how they are responding to matters that arise throughout each session, and together, the client and therapist recognize and develop positive alternatives to these behaviors as they occur. STEPPS STEPPS therapy is is a skills-based group program that people attend alongside other types of therapy. It frames BPD as an “emotional intensity disorder” and helps people regulate their emotions and behaviors. STEPPS also helps friends, family members, and others in a person’s support network understand BPD. The aim is to help form healthier relationships with people who reinforce the new skills that the individual with BPD is learning. Additionally, STEPPS teaches self-care skillsTrusted Source, such as guidance about healthful eating, sleep patterns, and ways to prevent self-harm. A small, nonrandomized trial comparing STEPPS with DBT showed that both were effective at significantly reducing BPD symptoms over 6 monthsTrusted Source, but that DBT was more effective at reducing behavioral symptoms. Suicide prevention If you know someone at immediate risk of self-harm, suicide, or hurting another person: Ask the tough question: “Are you considering suicide?” Listen to the person without judgment. Call 911 or the local emergency number, or text TALK to 741741 to communicate with a trained crisis counselor. Stay with the person until professional help arrives. Try to remove any weapons, medications, or other potentially harmful objects. If you or someone you know is having thoughts of suicide, a prevention hotline can help. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available 24 hours per day at 800-273-8255. During a crisis, people who are hard of hearing can call 800-799-4889. Borderline personality disorder. (2017). https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/borderline-personality-disorder/index.shtml Chapman, J., et al. (2019). Borderline personality disorder. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK430883/ Choi-Kain, L. W., et al. (2017). What works in the treatment of borderline personality disorder. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5340835/ Dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT). (n.d.). https://dictionary.apa.org/dialectical-behavior-therapy Fassbinder, E., et al. (2016). Feasibility of group schema therapy for outpatients with severe borderline personality disorder in Germany: A pilot study with three year follow-up. https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2016.01851/full Guillén Botella, V., et al. (2020). Exploring the effectiveness of dialectical behavioral therapy versus systems training for emotional predictability and problem solving in a sample of patients with borderline personality disorder. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32250206/ How can I help myself? (2018). https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/borderline-personality-disorder-bpd/self-care-for-bpd/ May, J. M., et al. (2016). Dialectical behavior therapy as treatment for borderline personality disorder. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6007584/ Vogt, K. S., et al. (2018). Is mentalization‐based therapy effective in treating the symptoms of borderline personality disorder? A systematic review. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6900007/
  5. Everyone that posted in this topic and described their symptoms is so similar to my granddaughters symptoms, as she was DX'd with BPD when she was 17 and she is now 21. It is such a difficult Mental Health disease to DX and to treat. IMO, I believe it is one of the worst MH disorders that you can have, but there is HOPE! And HELP! Borderline Personality Disorder Treatment: Yes, There Is Help! By: Sarah Fader Updated May 07, 2021 Medically Reviewed By: Whitney White, MS. CMHC, NCC., LPC Personality disorders are among the most misunderstood mental health disorders, especially among people who lack medical or mental health expertise. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-V), which is published by the American Psychiatric Association, recognizes ten specific personality disorders. The National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) reports that approximately 1.6 percent of adults in the United States have a disorder known as borderline personality disorder. What Is Borderline Personality Disorder? Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a mental health disorder that impacts the way a person thinks or feels about themselves and others.In most cases, symptoms begin in adolescence or early adulthood.Borderline personality disorder is characterized by a long-term pattern of strong emotional responses, unstable relationships, a distorted sense of self-image, and impulsive behaviors.BPD impacts the way affected individuals feel about themselves and how they relate with other people. Symptoms Of Borderline Personality Disorder Symptoms of BPD vary among individuals.Some people experience several symptoms and others may only experience limited signs of the disorder.Additionally, the severity and duration of symptoms may also vary among affected individuals. The symptoms of borderline personality disorder may be triggered by what some consider simple events.For example, an individual with BPD may become distressed when being separated from people they feel close to, such as when traveling to work or school. Some common symptoms of borderline personality disorder include: Risky/impulsive behaviors:Someone with borderline personality disorder is more likely than the average person to engage in risky behaviors, such as unprotected sex, reckless driving, alcohol or substance use, or binge eating.They may also exhibit impulsive behavior, including gambling, going on spending sprees, or suddenly ending positive relationships for no apparent reason. Intense fear of abandonment:Fear of abandonment is commonly experienced by people with borderline personality disorder experience. This fearcan be so severe that a person may engage in extreme measures, such as faking illness or threatening self-harm, to avoid perceived separation or rejection from others. Periods of paranoia:Stress-related paranoia or loss of contact with reality is common.These episodes may be as brief as a few minutes or last for much longer periods. Extreme mood swings:Intense, inappropriate anger may occur; this anger may present as suddenly losing one’s temper or acting bitter or sarcastic.Some people engage in physical fights. A pattern of intense, unstable relationships: Individuals with borderline personality disorder often experience relationships that involve extreme emotional shifts.This may result in patterns that swing from extreme idealization (madly in love) and closeness to anger and intense dislike. What Causes Borderline Personality Disorder? The exact cause of borderline personality disorder is unknown, and researchers and clinicians vary somewhat in their theories.Some research suggests that the structure and function of the brains of people with borderline personality disorder differ from those without the disorder, particularly in the areas that affect the regulation of emotions and control impulses.Additionally, genetics, social, cultural, and environmental factors are also believed to impact one’s risk of developing BPD. People who have experienced neglect or abuse, experienced post-traumatic stress disorder, or lived in an unstable environment, especially during the developmental stages of early childhood, may also be at increased risk of developing borderline personality disorder.Having a first-degree relative, such as siblings or parents, with BPD has also been associated with the occurrence of BPD. Another theory regarding the cause of BPD involves brain chemistry. A hormone compound in blood called serotonin, which is responsible for mood regulation, transmits signals from one area of the brain to another.Abnormalities in serotonin production and absorption are believed to make some people more susceptible to developing borderline personality disorder. Getting An Accurate Diagnosis Borderline personality disorder is believed to have first been diagnosed in the early 20th century.Because BPD is not as commonly known as other personality disorders, misdiagnoses have been common over the years.Fortunately, as more research is done and mental health providers are better equipped with the knowledge necessary to treat personality disorders, more people with the disorder are receiving accurate diagnoses and treatment. The process of diagnosing borderline personality disorder ismultilayered.A medical exam, which can help rule out underlying medical conditions that may be the cause of symptoms, is usually the first step. Diagnosis also involves completing a clinical interview, gathering family histories, and administering assessments or tests. Only a mental health professional, such as a psychologist, clinical social worker, or psychiatrist, should make a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder. Because personality is believed to continue forming through adolescence, diagnosing children with borderline personality disorder is still an issue of debate among mental health professionals.The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders sets standards for diagnosing behavioral, personality and mood disorders as well as other mental illnesses.The DSM-V does suggest caution when evaluating and diagnosing children with any personality disorder because some personality disorders present with symptoms that mirror typical adolescent behavior. Overall, an official diagnosis of borderline personality requires that at least five primary borderline personality disorder symptoms be present in an individual.Those primary symptoms include: Intense and/or unstable interpersonal relationships Impulsive behavior Fear of abandonment Poor self-image Emotional instability Difficulty controlling intense anger Feelings of emptiness or worthlessness Extreme suspiciousness or feelings of being “disconnected” Overcoming The Stigma Associated With A Diagnosis Of BPD Because borderline personality disorder is often misunderstood and stigmatized, diagnosis has the potential to negatively impact the lives of diagnosed individuals as well as their friends and loved ones.Being educated about BPD and being able to separate fact from fiction can help combat the potentially negative stigma that is often associated with the disorder. Treating Borderline Personality Disorder The symptoms of borderline disorder may shift from lows to highs.Recovery and management of symptoms varies among people with the disorder.However, treatment options are available. The treatment approach for borderline personality disorder may include medication, psychotherapy, and/or hospitalization.Treatment plans are generally determined by the severity of a person’s symptoms and their willingness to comply with a recommended plan of care. Although medication does not cure borderline personality disorder, some medications may be useful in relieving symptoms associated with the disorder.Everyone responds to medication differently.Therefore, it is important to follow directions for medications, keep follow up appointments, and report any changes in mood or behavior or any unpleasant side effects. The most common treatment for borderline personality disorder is psychotherapy, often referred to as talk therapy.Psychotherapy is a method of helping individuals deal with mental health issues and emotional difficulties. It focuses on eliminating or controlling psychological symptoms so that the affected person can function more effectively.Types of psychotherapy that are commonly used include dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). Cognitive behavioral therapy helps to identify and change unhealthy beliefs, behaviors, and inaccurate perceptions that an individual engages in regarding themselves or others.CBT is designed to teach healthy ways to react to feelings of anxiety, anger, and insecurity. What Is DBT? Dialectical behavior therapywas designed specifically for people with borderline personality disorder. It is a special type of cognitive behavioral treatment for borderline personality disorder developed by Dr. Marsha Linehan. DBT takes participants through several stages and builds core skills like mindfulness, interpersonal effectiveness, emotional regulation, and distress tolerance. DBT generally involves focus on individual psychotherapy and group skills training. DBT includes learning to apply the skills learned in dialectical behavioral therapy in real-life situations by structuring one’s personal environment and continuing to work with a treatment team. Individual psychotherapy focuses on helping a person grasp an understanding of borderline personality disorder, what symptoms may occur, and how to deal with symptoms when the arise. Group skills training includes the following four modules: Practicing mindfulness or awareness in the present moment Tolerating distress and pain in challenging situations but not changing them Being more effective in interpersonal relations by asking for what you want or saying no in appropriate ways Regulating emotions by changing emotions you want to change While both medical and psychological treatment for borderline personality disorder can be effective independent of each other, many people find that a combination of medication and psychotherapy creates the best treatment results. Getting Help For Borderline Personality Disorder Borderline personality disorder is a psychological condition thatdoes not have a“cure.”However, various treatmentscan help individuals with BPD learn to communicate and manage symptoms more effectively.A treatment program is essential for the long-term health of anyone with BPD; treatment can help prevent problematic life choices and other chronic health issues, as well as lower rates of attempted self-harm and suicidal behavior. Additionally, talk therapy may help those who are close to someone with BPD know how to provide safe and caring support. Remember that an estimated 1.6 percent of adults in the United States are living with borderline personality disorder—several million people. If you or a loved one is experiencing symptoms of BPD, you are not alone, and you have options for help. If you are experiencing thoughts of self-harm or suicide, seeking emergency medical care is critical. If you don’t want to go to an emergency room, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.This lifeline is available 24 hours a day. Your primary care provider can also give you referrals for mental healthcare providers in your area. Online counseling is a flexible, accessible option, particularly for anyone who wants to find therapeutic support but would prefer, for any reason, not to meet in person.No matter how you might choose to pursue treatment, remember that you deserve to feel in control of your life and your symptoms. If you are experiencing symptoms of borderline personality disorder or any other mental health concerns, these services are available to help. When You Need Help The DSM-V defines borderline personality disorder as “a chronic disorder that includes symptoms such as frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment, unstable relationships, identity disturbance, impulsive and dangerous behaviors, recurrent suicidal threats or self-mutilating behaviors, affective instability, feelings of emptiness, difficulties controlling anger, and/or stress-related paranoid thoughts or dissociation.” If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, keep in mind that you are not alone. A combination of therapeutic approaches may help you to manage your symptoms in the long term, and one of the most highly recommended approaches is psychotherapy, also sometimes called talk therapy. Online therapy,such as the services provided by BetterHelp, focuses on offering professional mental health care to individuals in formats that work for them.Online therapy has several particular advantages over in-person services. Because you can arrange your sessions with a therapist around your schedule and lifestyle, you can keep the entire process as private as you wish; you can work with a licensed therapist at BetterHelp on your schedule, by video chat, phone call, email, or text messaging. And if you’d like more evidence, consider these reviews from BetterHelp users who have worked with online therapists to address their personality needs and challenges: The most important thing to remember is that your mental health and wellbeing matter. With the right support and guidance, you canunderstand and manage the symptoms of borderline personality disorder and live a happier, healthier life. Take the first step today. Karyn's perspective on my life and my experiences, particularly in my relationships, has opened my eyes to things I've never been able to see before in my own personality and behaviour. She challenges me! She affirms me! She laughs with me! When I cry, she talks me through it and lets it happen! It's been so helpful and wonderful to have an outside perspective on my feelings during a pandemic, especially. She's helping me become the best version of myself. Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) What Is The Best Treatment For Borderline Personality Disorder? The treatment approach for managing bipolar disorder BPD and similar personality disorders is based on a diagnosis made by a medical or mental healthcare provider. These professionals agree the best method for treating borderline personality disorder and similar mental health disorders is typically a combination of psychotherapy treatment, group and peer support, and medications designed to treat borderline personality disorder. BPD is a mood disorder that can be a lifetime condition; there is no “cure,” but treatments have been successful for many people.Living with borderline personality disorder can be stressful, both for an individual and for their close family, intimate partners, and friends. Regular, long-term therapy and support are keyto managing borderline personality disorder. What Triggers A Person With Borderline Personality Disorder? A person living with BPD may be triggered by mental or emotional trauma. Other existing mental health disorders like post-traumatic stress disorder can also contribute to a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder (BPD). Can A Person With BPD Love Others? People with borderline personality disorder experience the same range of human emotions as everyone else. With the right guidance, medication management, and therapeutic support, a person with BPD can build long-lasting, loving relationships. Do People With BPD Lie? The DSM-V does not list lying as a primary symptom of BPD, but researchers have found that people with borderline personality disorder tend to lie more than the general population. Lying in this context is often a defense mechanism to avoid intense feelings that follow neglect or isolation. Unfortunately, lying can trigger the very rejection that individuals with BPD seek to avoid. It is important to remember that lying from a person with BPD may be rooted in insecurity rather than dishonesty. Do Antidepressants Work For BPD? Antidepressants are one treatment approach that medical and mental health professionals use to manage borderline personality disorder. These antidepressants (along with mood stabilizers) may help someone living with borderline personality disorder to balance their moods and emotions. People who take medications for borderline personality disorder are also strongly encouraged to receive psychotherapy as a total solution for managing BPD. Why Do People With BPDSplit? People with borderline personality disorder may occasionally become so overwhelmed with emotion that they aren't able to see clearly; they may view reality through an “emotional fog” that can cause them to misjudge important situations. This loss of objective reality is known as “splitting.” How Long Can A BPD Episode Last? Because every person with BPD is unique, BPD episodes do not have a standard duration. Some people with borderline personality disorder experience short episodes of “splitting” where they seem incoherent and out of touch with reality. BPD-related episodes can range from a duration of a few seconds to several months or even years. Are People With BPD Dangerous Or Abusive? Research has shown that people with BPD pose no greater danger to others than the average person does. However, propensity for violence can increase when other factors are introduced, such as drug abuse, overstimulation, and other environmental factors. Depending on the situation, a person with borderline personality disorder also may act out by becoming abusive. If you or someone you love is struggling with managing the symptoms of BPD, seek help from a mental health professional right away. Why Are People With BPD So Angry? People with borderline personality disorder may have a more difficult time processing their emotions. As a result, a person living with borderline personality disorder may process their emotions through anger. Mental health professionals call this processing of emotion “borderline rage.” What Happens When Someone WithBPD Is Abandoned? When people with borderline personality disorder are abandoned or rejected, their reaction may be unusually negative or “extreme.” This reaction is due to the fact that some people with borderline personality disorder may be unable to process negative emotions without acting out in anger. How Do You Make Someone With BPDHappy? Remember that happiness begins within a person; while you can provide support and encouragement to someone with BPD, “making them happy” cannot and should not be your responsibility. People with borderline personality disorder have better outcomes when they incorporate psychotherapy and medication with healthier diets and exercise. If you are close to someone with BPD, you can encourage them to take these steps to make themselves happier. Are People With BPDIntelligent? People with borderline personality disorder are often highly intelligent, particularly in the academic or cerebral sense. Emotional intelligence can pose more of a challenge for people with BPD, who can struggle with processing emotions like confusion, anger, and love. Do People With BPDFall In And Out Of Love Easily? The struggle to process emotions may lead people with BPD to fall in love more easily; they may misinterpret interpersonal signals and develop unrequited feelings for others. Additionally, a person with BPD may have a harder time maintaining lasting emotional connections, especially if a relationship stirs up negative emotions, and might bounce from one relationship to another in pursuit of affection. Anyone with BPD who is struggling to find or keep a romantic relationship may find it helpful to speak with a licensed therapist for relationship support and individual therapy. Is BPD Worse Than Bipolar? Borderline personality disorder and bipolar disorder are both mood disorders that share similar characteristics. Neither disorder is considered by researchers as “better” or “worse” than the other. The main difference in the two disorders is how the symptoms are classified in the DSM-V. Can BPD Turn Into Schizophrenia? People with borderline personality disorder share similar characteristics of people with schizophrenia. The differences between the two disorders are that schizophrenia is characterized by paranoid delusions and auditory hallucinations. If someone with BPD began to exhibit these symptoms, their diagnosis could be reclassified as borderline schizophrenia. How Can You Tell If Someone Has Borderline Personality Disorder? People with borderline personality disorder exhibit traits and symptoms that can lead to diagnoses. For example, someone with BPD may struggle with emotional processing.They may also be prone to impulsive outbursts or show other key behaviors that indicate the presence of borderline personality disorder. Is BPD Hereditary? According to researchers, some evidence indicates that borderline personality disorder is hereditary. People diagnosed with borderline personality disorder often have a close relative who was also diagnosed with BPD or a similar personality disorder. Read less
  6. Hello Juno, Here is some meanings behind Dissociation. Dissociation is a disconnection between a person's memories, feelings, behaviors, perceptions, and/or sense of self. 1 This disconnection is automatic and completely out of the person's control. It's often described as an "out of body" experience. Dissociation exists on a spectrum that ranges from mild everyday experiences to disorders that interfere with daily functioning. Nearly everyone experiences mild dissociation from time to time. In fact, daydreaming is a prime and common example of mild dissociation. However, long or persistent dissociative episodes can be a symptom of a larger mental health problem such as a dissociative disorder Symptoms There are five core symptoms of dissociation:2 Amnesia: Often described as "gaps" in memory that can range from minutes to years Depersonalization: Feeling disconnected from your body or thoughts Derealization: Feeling disconnected from the world around you Identity alteration: The sense of being markedly different from another part of yourself Identity confusion: A sense of confusion about who you really are For some people, these symptoms can last days or weeks. If you have a dissociative disorder, you might experience these symptoms for months, even years. You can have symptoms of dissociation without having a dissociative disorder. You can also have symptoms of dissociation as part of another mental illness like anxiety. Depersonalization-derealization disorder: This dissociative disorder is characterized by persistent or recurring episodes of depersonalization, derealization, or both. It's often described as feeling as if you're observing yourself as a character in a movie. Dissociative identity disorder (DID): Formerly known as "multiple personality disorder," DID is a controversial disorder characterized by a person fragmenting into at least two distinct identities, or personality states. Dissociative amnesia: A condition characterized by retrospectively reported memory gaps. These gaps involve the inability to recall personal information, usually related to a traumatic experience. Other Associated Conditions Dissociation is more than just a symptom of dissociative disorders. In actuality, dissociation can accompany almost every psychiatric condition, some of the most common being:3 Anxiety Borderline personality disorder Depression Epilepsy Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) Schizophrenia Causes The exact cause of dissociation is unclear, but it is often a direct reaction to significant trauma.4 Specifically, dissociation typically affects people who have experienced physical or sexual abuse, kidnapping, a life-threatening car accident, or a natural disaster. It's important to note, however, that not everyone who experiences these traumas will dissociate. Most researchers view dissociation as a protective response after trauma.5 It allows people to function and go about their day-to-day lives by blocking trauma-related emotions and memories that could otherwise be overwhelming. Links Between Substance Use and Dissociation Some substances, such as alcohol and cannabis, can trigger temporary episodes of dissociation. Usually, these substance-induced dissociative symptoms arise while the drug is active and fade after it wears off. Their effects typically begin within 20 minutes of ingestion and can last as long as 12 hours.6 Dissociative drugs like DXM (dextromethorphan), ketamine, and PCP (phencyclidine) can also trigger dissociative episodes. But according to the DSM-5, the symptoms triggered by these substances don't meet the criteria for a diagnosis of the disorder.1Amnesia: Often described as "gaps" in memory that can range from minutes to years Depersonalization: Feeling disconnected from your body or thoughts Derealization: Feeling disconnected from the world around you Identity alteration: The sense of being markedly different from another part of yourself Identity confusion: A sense of confusion about who you really are For some people, these symptoms can last days or weeks. If you have a dissociative disorder, you might experience these symptoms for months, even years. You can have symptoms of dissociation without having a dissociative disorder. You can also have symptoms of dissociation as part of another mental illness like anxiety. I hope this helps you somewhat and that other members chime in ~Lindsay, Forum Administrator Verywell HealthVerywell FitVerywell Family /static/4.234.0/image/hon_certificate.gif Link Between Substance Use and Dissociation Some substances, such as alcohol and cannabis, can trigger temporary episodes of dissociation. Usually, these substance-induced dissociative symptoms arise while the drug is active and fade after it wears off. Their effects typically begin within 20 minutes of ingestion and can last as long as 12 hours.6 Dissociative drugs like DXM (dextromethorphan), ketamine, and PCP (phencyclidine) can also trigger dissociative episodes. But according to the DSM-5, the symptoms triggered by these substances don't meet the criteria for a diagnosis of the disorder.1 Links Between Trauma, PTSD, and Dissociative Disorders Treatment The primary treatment for dissociation involves psychotherapy. There are many different types of psychotherapy used to treat dissociation, including: Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT): Designed to help people identify and change negative thoughts and behaviors. Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT): Helps people learn skills to better manage emotions and stop harmful behaviors. Eye movement desensitization reprocessing (EMDR): Utilizes CBT strategies along with visual exercises to help you deal with past trauma and flashbacks. Throughout the course of therapy, you explore the initial experience that caused your dissociation symptoms. With the help of your therapist, you will safely confront this experience head-on so that you can move past it. A Word From Verywell Dissociation is a common reaction to trauma and a component of many mental disorders. Regardless of the cause, it is important to know that you are not alone. If you're concerned that you are experiencing dissociative symptoms, talk to a healthcare professional or someone knowledgeable you trust. Article Sources Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read our editorial process to learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy. American Psychiatric Association. Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. 5th ed. American Psychiatric Association; 2013. Steinberg M. Handbook for the assessment of dissociation: A clinical guide. Vol 433. American Psychiatric Press; 1995. Şar V. The many faces of dissociation: Opportunities for innovative research in psychiatry. Clin Psychopharmacol Neurosci. 2014;12(3):171-179. doi:10.9758/cpn.2014.12.3.171 Loewenstein RJ. Dissociation debates: Everything you know is wrong. Dialogues Clin Neurosci. 2018;20(3):229-242. Granieri A, Guglielmucci F, Costanzo A, Caretti V, Schimmenti A. Trauma-related dissociation is linked with maladaptive personality functioning. Front Psychiatry. 2018;9:206. doi:10.3389/fpsyt.2018.00206 National Institute on Drug Abuse. What are the effects of common dissociative drugs on the brain and body? Updated February 2015.
  7. @TheMaidenTheMotherTheCrone, I am so terribly sorry that you are taking such miserable abuse like this. Depression is a horrible emotion to be feeling, especially having to feel this way due to a close family member. I can so relate. We are here for you, so you can vent all you want, even after 5 posts you can start your own Blog! I do hope you can find another place to stay soon. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do to fix your Mother. Take very good care of yourself and Stay Safe ~Lindsay, Forum Admin
  8. July 4th! r Independence Day is commonly associated with fireworks, parades, barbecues, carnivals, fairs, picnics, concerts, baseball games, family reunions, political speeches, and ceremonies, in addition to various other public and private events celebrating the history, government, and traditions of the United States. Independence Day is the national day of the United States.
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    Father's Day

    When Is Father’s Day—And Why Do We Celebrate It? by Kaitlyn Chamberlin The average dad wasn't always showered with gifts and love for this holiday. Every year, Father’s Day is celebrated by families all around the world. Dads everywhere receive new socks, bizarre flavors of barbecue sauce, or something he actually wants from our finely honed Father’s Day gift guide. Mothers and older children pore through Father’s Day quotes for the perfect words to put in their funny card, while new fathers may find themselves looking to their own fathers for guidance and dad jokes as they enjoy their first official Father’s Day. While last year’s Father’s Day celebrations were limited due to social distancing measures, the vaccine rollout across the country means that Father’s Day 2021 has a good chance of being closer to normal. Of course, it’s easier to be safe and plan outdoor Father’s Day activities that dad will love in the summer! While your dad probably enjoys being showered with gifts and love on this special day, the average dad had rather a different view back when the day was first created, over 100 years ago. In fact, the history of Father’s Day is not a straight line from idea to acceptance. So what is Father’s Day, and how did it originate? When is Father’s Day in 2021? If you haven’t started thinking about ideas for creative gifts and ways to celebrate, worry not. Father’s Day is on Sunday, June 20 this year, which still leaves you with plenty of time to prepare your Father’s Day memes. After all, laughter is a gift! Although you’d better go shopping, too. And if you’ve got little ones, Father’s Day crafts make excellent activities. How did Father’s Day become a holiday? The history of Mother’s Day goes back to the 1860s, and Mother’s Day was declared a national holiday in 1914. The celebration of one parent paved the way for Father’s Day. The history of Father’s Day goes back to 1908 when a church in West Virginia held a sermon to honor 362 men who were killed the previous year in a coal mining explosion. This was the country’s first-ever event to strictly honor fathers, but it was just a one-and-done thing, at least in that community. SPONSORED CONTENT Go On a Real Vacation By Go RVing The following year, however, a woman named Sonora Smart Dodd started her quest to establish Father’s Day as a national holiday. Dodd was one of six children raised by her single father and thought fathers should be honored in the same way as mothers. After a year of petitioning her local community and government, Dodd’s home state of Washington celebrated its first official Father’s Day on June 19, 1910. Over the years, the celebration of Father’s Day spread from state to state, and after a long fight, it was finally declared a national holiday in 1972 when President Richard Nixon signed it into law. Now, we celebrate with funny Father’s Day quotes and dad quotes. It took more than 60 years from the birth of the idea to Father’s Day actually being recognized as a federal holiday, but a lot happened to threaten the parent-celebrating holidays during that time. In the 1920s and 1930s, there was a national movement to get rid of both Mother’s and Father’s Day and replace them with one “Parent’s Day.” Beyond that, some men didn’t even want a Father’s Day, to begin with. Some saw it as a “Hallmark holiday,” invented for the sole purpose of a commercial gimmick, and as many fathers were the sole breadwinners at the time, they didn’t particularly want to spend their hard-earned cash on flowers and chocolates. The Great Depression and World War II, however, helped boost the idea of Father’s Day. Struggling retailers pushed the gift-giving holiday during the Depression, and during the war, Father’s Day became a war to honor the many fathers serving overseas. By the time President Nixon signed the proclamation making Father’s Day a holiday, it was already a national institution. When is Father’s Day celebrated in other parts of the world? Father’s Day is celebrated on different days in different countries. For example, in Europe, the United States, and the majority of other countries, the holiday is celebrated on the third Sunday of June. In many Catholic countries, especially in Latin America, fathers are celebrated on St. Joseph’s Day, which falls on March 19. In many Pacific countries, including Australia, New Zealand, and Fiji, Father’s Day occurs on the first Sunday in September. Now that you know the history of Father’s Day, you’re probably wondering how to celebrate with your dad. After the year we’ve had, spending time together is the best place to start, even if it’s just watching one of these Father’s Day movies together.
  10. Hi! Please read the TOS. Links are not permitted on the Boards. Start your own Blog and you can add a link as long as it meets DF Standards. Lindsay
  11. Welcome to our new Members! As I posted in this Forum in 2015 and I will repeat, please read and make the best of these forums as there are many. Post your feelings and post to our "seasoned" members who will give you some sage advice. We also have BLOGS for you to start your own after 5 posts that you will make . Depression Forums is a wonderful place to start to open up and relieve yourself of all the pressure you have stored up. I have also described it as somewhat of a stepping stone to move on in your life. Take your time and look around. If you need anything click on our staff (pinned above) and PM them. Hugs and best wishes & #StaySafe ~Lindsay, Forum Administrator, Owner
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    Thank you so much for being here Joy. I hope Depression Forums, being here for you, was a help to you. I cannot say that I am sorry to see you go, I am torn both ways. DF is here to be a "stepping stone" for all members to come to DF and then to leave DF as perhaps they feel strengthened to go further on in the 'real' world w/o DF's member's help. You have been a wonderful contributing member. Members leave and sometimes come back after a while and then leave again. Which is fine. Our doors are always open. I wish you all the very best life has to offer you, health, happiness, peace, love, laughter and of course, JOY Love and best wishes always, ~Lindsay, Forum Administrator, Owner
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    Hi IPS, 
    standup reported a post in a topic titled Johann Hari's book, Lost Connections: Why You’re Depressed and How to Find Hope 


    I posted this video because it's very relevant to me. I really relate to the song and I thought that maybe other people could relate as well. It's a very pointed song about anxiety and there's nothing distasteful about it. 

    So, I'm just curious. Why is this video hidden? It just seems so arbitrary and frankly, it's an example of being overly sensitive about content. There's a point where overzealous moderation can start to stifle discussion and become counterproductive. It's impossible to moderate fairly when you're using automated restrictions such as this - especially when you don't have the staff to even review these things.

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  15. If anyone wants to add a video from youtube about MH then please do put a link into their post informing them that they have a BLOG. It will take them to a link on their BLOG to their MH link. We do everything we possibly can to accommodate everyone here the very best we can. Thank you for understanding. There is no need for rude remarks -Lindsay, Forum Administrator, Owner
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