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    Geting back to work.. here we go again

    I think lonelyforeigner makes a good point about the value of honest work and surfcaster makes a good point about taking little steps. This job is not what you want to do for the long term, but it is a start. If you can show yourself to be reliable and conscientious about performing a job, that will be helpful to you. Try not to worry about what some jerks might think about it. (Easy advice to give, hard to take. I realize that.) Of course, as others have said, if it's too triggering and you simply can't do it, then you can't. I hope you'll give it a real try, though. Remember, it's not forever. It's just a beginning step. It's a way to establish yourself as a reliable employee while you work toward something better.
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    Honestly! Have you ever turned to alcohol?

    I used to try to self-medicate with alcohol. Sometimes it seemed to make me feel better for a little while, but it the long run it generally made things worse. Now I've decided that some people need to avoid alcohol all together, and that I am one of them.
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    Lets share jokes?

    There was this talking dog who was hugely successful as an entertainer. He was on television and performed at nightclubs, and made a lot of money. But then he got sick and had to have an operation. The operation was a success and the dog recovered completely, but he was no longer in demand as an entertainer, and he couldn't make any more money. All he could talk about was his operation.
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    Lets share jokes?

    Guy takes his dog to a vet. After examining the animal the vet says, "Sir, I'm very sorry, but your dog is dead." Guy says, "Are you absolutely sure? Aren't there any more tests you can run?" Vet says, "Yes, I have a dog who is good at diagnosis. I'll bring him in. If he barks twice, that means your dog is dead." Vet brings in his dog, a beautiful black lab. The lab barks twice. The vet says, "I'm afraid that confirms it." Guy says, "Are you sure there aren't any more tests you can run?" Vet says, "There's one last test, but this is the final one. I also have a cat who is good at this sort of thing. If he meows twice, it will mean your dog is definitely dead, and there are no more tests to run." Vet brings in the cat. Cat meows twice. Guy finally sighs, accepts the inevitable, and says, "Thanks anyway. How much do I owe you?" Vet says, "Three thousand dollars." Guy says, "What !!? Why so much?" Vet says, "It would have been just thirty, but it gets expensive with the cat scan and the lab work."
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    I wish I knew where the sense of humor goes when it's gone. I often think of the writer Mark Twain, who had such a wonderful sense of humor, but apparently suffered terribly from depression in his later years.
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    Money Problems

    lonelyforeigner is right that bankruptcy might be a good option for you. I think you should at least look into it. You can google bankruptcy to find out about the process. I've also heard that some lawyers will do a one-time consultation for free. I've heard of people filing for bankruptcy on their own without a lawyer after educating themselves about the process, but I'm not sure I'd want to risk that.
  7. Got a dog to the veterinary opthamologist that's about an hour and a half drive from the small town where we live. The dog is doing well. Her eye problem continues to improve, so that's something to be thankful for.
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    Workplace bullying

    Thanks, everyone. I appreciate the replies. I know I need to practice not reacting. It's just that it's hard to do.
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    I need to get this out.

    I'm so sorry you're having such a rough time. I hope you're getting treatment for your depression. Depression is an overwhelming problem that can really screw up your life. Depression lies. It tells you things like you aren't good enough, you aren't worth the air you breathe. It lies. Sometimes being able to get to work and keep yourself alive is all you can do, and that in itself is an accomplishment, especially when you're also having to battle depression and its nasty lies. As Ba3inga pointed out, being a loving and devoted father is a very important thing. Your kids are lucky to have such a father.
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    Workplace bullying

    Has anyone got any advice on dealing with a bully in the workplace? This woman acts like I'm something she'd scrape off the bottom of her shoe. It's not what she says, it's the snotty, condescending tone of voice. I know I shouldn't let it get to me, but it does.
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    I feel I have no one

    Posting on the forum helps me a lot, and I hope you find it helpful too. Are you being treated for your depression? That's really important.
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    Do you ever wish you lived in a different time/era?

    I think lonelyforeigner makes some very good points. Whenever I start romanticizing the past I think about the fact that one of my sons is gay and the other is engaged to a young woman of a different race. For their sakes I'm really glad it's now and not 100 years ago or even 50 years ago.
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    Haven't hit rock bottom so why am I whining?

    Very true, Luis. I've been telling myself for years that worse things have happened to better people and it hasn't helped me at all.
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    Christmas & Depression

    Christmas is hard for me too. I think that's pretty common for people who have depression. Sometimes the problem is that expectations for it get built up to the point that the reality just can't measure up. I try to keep reminding myself that most people's lives aren't Norman Rockwell paintings and even lives that look perfect from the outside probably aren't. Kogent5, I think if people at church ask you why you're there alone, you might want to look for a different church. It's a rude question and none of their business. We need to be kind and respectful toward one another, especially in church. Morgan_13, it's really nice of you to work other people's holiday shifts for them. I'm sure your coworkers and their families appreciate it a lot.
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    How would you respond to "snap out of it"?

    I would simply snap out of it, be instantly cured, and live happily ever after. (Looked through the emoticons, but can't find one that says "sarcasm.") Some people just don't get it.