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    I feel very fortunate to have such a wonderful husband. He makes me feel very lucky and very loved. I don't think I could help out here as much if it wasn't for his love and support. I also feel very fortunate to be one of the Mods, Support Staff, and Admin here on DF who volunteer their time and talent. I believe in what DF offers, and I know they do, too.

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  1. I agree with aiutalemani. Time and consistency will help you regain her trust, and help rebuild your relationship.
  2. Looking for another who wants to chat

    You are repeating the mistake you made early on in this thread, mdd. Please do not use the forums to solicit chat partners. You have enough posts to qualify for Private Messaging, please try using this feature instead.
  3. Welcome to DF, lmsmommy. There is absolutely nothing wrong with taking a few moments out of the day for yourself, when you make sure your child is safe. And that's what you do. Please don't fall into the trap of comparing yourself to what other moms say they do - I"ve found that many times, they are exagerating their experiences anyway in an effort to feel like they are better than everyone. What matters is that you love your child and do your best to take care of them. I'm sorry that you have to put up with inlaws that are so toxic and judgmental.
  4. sarabeth24 macandjeez is right - today is only one day. Tomorrow is another chance; you did your best, and that is all that you can do. How are you feeling now?
  5. Anyone?

    Welcome to DF, quietplace27. Give the meds a chance to work for you, and let your prescribing doctor know about what you are going through. There are often negative thoughts, or even faulty thinking processes that go along with depression - the medication helps relieve some of the symptoms so you can work through these issues and correct some of the faulty thinking that can go along with it.
  6. Some people may not be entirely comfortable texting, or see texting as different than actually talking to a person in front of them. She might also be cautious about how much revealing information she gives out over text. Have you had a chance to meet with her yet?
  7. Virtual shoulder

    It looks like you have more than enough posts to qualify for the chat rooms, you might give those a try if you haven't already.
  8. Virtual shoulder

    I'm sorry it's taken to long to reply, vila. How are you today?
  9. Hello, nae568. I wonder if your hubby is in 'caretaker mode'? That maybe he does not want to 'pressure' you with romantic gestures? In any relationship, especially longer ones, there are changes and there is growth, and there are periods where one partner may be more reliant on the other for health or other reasons. This doesn't necessarily make the relationship unhealthy. How both of you define a healthy relationship may be different than how other couples do, and that's okay. If you have the type of relationship where you can talk openly about relationship issues, you might think about just asking him simply and directly. Do your best not to make assumptions about his reasoning.
  10. TW: Flight

    Welcome to DF, shenanigans1315. I'm sorry you are struggling so much right now, but I'm glad you made your way here. You are not alone in your struggles, I hope reading some of the other stories will help encourage you.
  11. Could use a hug

    Welcome to DF, samuel. I'm sorry you're struggling right now, but I'm glad you made your way here. Sometimes just knowing that we are not alone can be helpful. And you are not alone, even though it may feel like it.
  12. Exercise importance

    Welcome to DF, richie4747. I agree that exercise is important in maintaining mental health. It's been proven effective many times. I like walking, or riding my bike when I can. I walk as a way to deal with my anxiety, and to stay healthy. When I walk, I listen to music because it helps me relax. I also use music to stop anxiety loops (circular anxious thinking).
  13. Crying in the Morning

    Welcome to DF, computerchicofmichigan. I'm sorry you are struggling right now, but I'm glad you made your way here. It sounds like you have a pretty demanding life - being a mom and holding down a job while struggling with depression, anxiety, and bipolar sounds pretty overwhelming. All those are pretty demanding emotionally. Its great that you have found relaxing techniques, and that you take time for that every day. Have you thought about talking to a psychiatrist about your crying spells? The 'trigger' you are thinking of might be something that you don't readily connect to your crying. It could be your body's way of releasing tension, too. I can identify with struggling so much in the morning - that's when my struggles show up the most. I hope you find something here that helps you and gives you insight.
  14. Hey

    Welcome to DF, stargazer275. I'm sorry you are struggling, but I"m glad you made your way here. I hope you find encouragement and support here. Sometimes just knowing others are struggling with the same things you are can be encouraging.
  15. Welcome to DF, kamu0404. Unfortunately, we can't give out medical advice here, but it sounds like you are starting to get some answers from the medical professionals you have asked. Make sure and keep your prescribing doctors advised of all the meds you are on and what you are experiencing. I've found it helps if you use the same pharmacy for all your prescriptions - pharmacists can really help, I know they did for me. I hope you find a solution for this soon.