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  1. Yes people like us will end up stronger, and able to handle things with ease that others will cave under the pressure. You have a chance to better yourself over time that weaker people will never have, so don't give up when you have a setback.
  2. I read your story and it sounds like you have a strong will to live. I don't have much family or friends, atheist, etc. Nothing to fall back on, no safety net. But that made me more intent on doing what I can to provide for myself since I can't count on anyone else. I am a man with a mission and if you're not here to help me then get out of my way. That's pretty much my philosophy now...
  3. Sounds like we are in similar situations. I am a professional and make good money but hate my job. I have been at this same job almost 5 years. The difference though is I have a longer term plan I am working towards, so this job is just a paycheck to me. I have noticed some people I work with who get way more stressed/depressed over their career/jobs than me because they have so little control over it. But there's only so much control you can have over your career or your job if you work for someone else, that's just the way it is. The sooner people can accept that, the sooner they can be released of the baggage that comes with the illusion that you do have any control over it. The bottom line is I am there for the money, that's the only reason I am there. So I am going to get it while the getting is good. Do you have a longer term plan? I live way below my means, avoid debt, and save every dime I can because my goal is to be financially independent enough through real estate investments. In the future I will still need to work, but I can be very choosy about what I do because I will still have rental income coming in. If you make good money, maybe you should take advantage of it? Not everyone has the opportunity to make good money so if you have it, think about all the options that gives you. The way I see it, I could be miserable making minimum wage, or I can be miserable making six figures, but with the option of putting myself in a better position in the future. I will take Option B.
  4. 3 years per job these days is stable as far as I am concerned. This isn't 1950 anymore, and it's a fantasy for anyone to think that they can get a job and stay there for any length of time. In fact, the longer you work somewhere the more at risk you are to getting the ax the next time they "restructure", "realign" or "trim the fat". Employment in general these days is pretty depressing even if you like what you do. There's more competition for fewer good jobs, and even if you get a good job there's no guarantee you'll keep it for any length of time. You're always just one "restructuring" or "reorg" away from losing it, and that's the reality of modern day employment unfortunately. I am in the same boat.....
  5. Good things: Stable job, steady paycheck, able to save money Bad things: Hate job, hate where I live, no friends, no family, no life I basically work, sleep and eat, and that's my entire life. It's causing my depression to become really hard to manage. I have been in this same stagnant, monotonous state for about the past 2 years. It has been very very difficult, but I feel that financially it's in my best interest to stick this out and keep saving money for as long as I can. In the past when I have felt stagnant and unhappy, I would quit my job and just pick up and move to a new state or city where I knew nobody, and start over from scratch. I think for many people this would be too much risk and unknown but I am a risk taker and love new adventures and most of the time when I completely shook my life up like that it ended up ok, although it can be scary. The problem is that I am now 52 years old, and the older you get the more risky that type of behavior is because if something backfires and goes wrong you don't have the time to recover like a 25 year old does. I thought by now I would "settle down" and would want more stability as most older people do, but that's not happening. In fact if I had enough money I would get rid of all my possessions and just live in hotels in resort cities and go on a new adventure every day. Another thing that is preventing me from doing anything, is that everything seems very bleak to me right now. Although the economy has been improving for the last few years, many Americans are still just barely able to keep their heads above water. Housing prices and rents have gone through the roof, healthcare costs are approaching levels of insanity I have never seen in my life. With each passing year, the average person seems to be struggling more and more, yet the economy is supposedly "good". What happens when the economy goes south again? Younger people in their 20's that I work with don't seem very optimistic about the future either, and they are our future. What message is that sending? I am not sure, but I don't think it's a good one. I feel trapped, like I want to change things, but leaving a good job seems too risky even if I wasn't 52. This isn't like 1995 where just about anyone could quit a job without having another one lined up and have a new comparable job within a few weeks, even a better job. Now, it seems you are gambling with your life if you try something like that. Does anyone have any optimism about anything these days? I would love to hear from one person that is!
  6. I have existential depression and have had it pretty much my entire adult life. Like you I don't have much passion for anything, don't care about things that most other people care about, and I get bored very easily. I am not religious either, I really don't even believe in god. Pointless as it all may be, I decided long ago that I was at least going to at least try and make my life as fun and interesting as possible so that's pretty much what I did. I exercise daily and try to eat somewhat ok (because if your health goes then you really end up screwing yourself out of quality of life). I also pretty regularly make drastic changes in my life which most people wouldn't do (i.e. just quit my job and up and move to a new state where I know nobody and start over again). As for relationships or family, I was never interested in either. I like the freedom of having sex with different people if I want (or none if I choose). Honestly I just like the rush of excitement I get at times when I put myself into situations where "anything can happen". So, for me life is a series of highs and lows because I can't handle much in the middle, it's too static. Even the lows, when I am deep in the depths of depression and feeling suicidal, is better than that because it's raw and it's honest and it's real. I guess I just need the extremes because otherwise life would be too boring.
  7. I don't believe in god, so everything to me is about cause and effect, luck, timing, etc. Some things are in my control, but many are not. I try and control what I can, and everything is pretty much left to random chance. My life also has been a struggle, sometimes it's really tiring. I sleep a lot.
  8. Oh and P.S. I am not religious either, I forgot about that. I don't need religion personally, it's not my thing.
  9. Hi, and welcome. I have MDD also, but i've never taken meds for it. What seems to help me alot is exercising every morning for an hour and a half before work and staying fit. It sucks getting up that early because I am not a morning person, but I feel physically good which helps my mood alot. I also get plenty of sleep and try to eat somewhat healthy. But, other than going to work and getting food I have become a hermit also. I don't really have any friends where I live so I don't have anyone to do things with. It really sucks. I hope something works for you, it sounds like you're trying to help yourself so I give you props.
  10. One thing I guess lots of people forgot about is that millions of people lost their health insurance when Obamacare went into effect. I know I was one of those people who's insurance (that I had for 6 years) was cancelled by Blue Cross because of ACA rules. I was then FORCED to either pay the ACA outrageous $550 per month premium for bottom of the barrel Obamacare insurance with a $5,000 deductible (both over 300% higher than my previous insurance) or pay a penalty on my taxes. That same $550 policy over three years was increased every year to over $800 per month vs. my $180 per month with Blue Cross. This is for a single healthy person. $800!!!! That's almost as high as a mortgage payment! I am glad some people got insurance out of Obamacare, but millions of people either lost their insurance or their insurance rates went so high because of Obamacare that they could no longer afford it and didn't qualify for a subsidy. Nobody likes to talk about those people, but there are millions of them and they need affordable healthcare and Obama ignored them.
  11. I've been in the corporate/business world for a long time and a couple of things i've found to be true over and over is that : 1.) working your butt off for someone else (corporation, individual, etc) doesn't guarantee anything. I learned that early on, so I pretty much don't expend any more energy or brain power than I have to for someone else. and 2.) personal relationships are extremely important in business and most of the time supersede work skills, talent, etc. so learning how to get people in positions of power to like you is one skill you must have. unfortunately sometimes this takes a bit of manipulation (which I am good at thankfully). i will read people when i first meet them, and then over time ask them questions about themselves, find out their likes/dislikes, needs, etc and then respond in ways that make them think I am interested in them as a person, care about their problems, offer to help them in some way if i can. I might actually hate the person or could care less about them in reality, but my one and only goal and objective is to get them to like me, so my personal feelings are not relevant. And I am good at doing that. this leads to promotions, preferential treatment on assignments, raises, etc. it might sound disingenuous, but that's how business works, i didn't write the rules I just play the game as best as I can. Survival skills are important in life, and business is no different. Learn to adapt and you may not only survive, but prosper. this philosophy has worked out very well for me over the years, time and time again.
  12. Since you like business/entrepreneurship/technology (so do I), i've been learning a lot about bitcoin although I haven't read any books I normally read articles are watch youtube videos. But there's one guy named Andreas Antonopoulos who has wrote a couple of books on the subject. I have invested some money in bitcoins so I follow it closely. I also exercise daily and that helps. Most things in life are boring to me but money helps so anything that can help me get more of it I am interested in.
  13. Family drama is the worst. My family ranks very high on the dysfunctional scale, in fact I am estranged from my own mother and I am not close with anyone else except for my father, who died 5 years ago. You live in the UK? If you want to start a new life you could always try America.
  14. I have MDD also. Some days are tough. Hang in there.
  15. I can relate I don't have anyone in the way of family, few friends and all I do is work. But, it hasn't all been bad. Life has it's peaks and valleys, and some of the valleys can be very long. You are only 22, I would give it some more time if I were you.
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