HeatherG

When I started liking myself, approving of myself, thinking highly of myself--I did not need the validation of anybody else. Hey, this took me years! Because I use to live by everybody else's approval or rejection--this just aggravated my depression. You're seeking outside approval, which will keep you down. Upset. You have a husband, baby, I hope some family and some good friends. You may never get an answer on why you've been rejected, do you want to spend your life wondering why, when they probably aren't thinking of you. Hey, sounds harsh, but this was told to me and I still didn't get it. You sound sensitive and I love that--this world needs sensitive people. But sensitive people wear their hearts on their sleeves and we, you, always get hurt. And that hurt lingers. The best revenge is to be happy. I don't know if you're near maybe a therapist to help boost your self-esteem. I speak to mine every week. And yes, swim, read, write, puzzles, play with your baby, spend time one on one with the hubby when the baby naps. And speak with us, reach out to healthy friends! They won't just block you and not tell you why. Real friends act like real friends. Stay lovely, and I wish you the best! And sending virtual hugs! 🙂

I'm so sorry for your loss. I send **hugs**

I'm very sorry for your loss. ***hugs***

Lack of compassion for others.

I'm talking to mine on the phone. Been really down lately. Confused. zero energy.

Wow. His name was George Floyd. My heart and prayers go out to his family and friends.

I was wondering about that too. I've been checking it and no ones ever in there.

none of this sounds safe. 😟

Numbers keep going up. My state opens up soon. Gosh. What in the world!

I'm not even sure sometimes now. Days are the same. Gosh, and this covid19 may run into the end of the year?????????????????????

You seem to be on the right road. Searching. Good. Talking to someone, and if medication helps. Good. Now, how about being kinder to yourself, see? Being nicer and more patient? I had too. No more saying pathetic loser, you're NOT. Words are very powerful, watch the words you say to yourself. Call yourself good. Nice. Intelligent. Kind. Fair. Change the way you think about yourself, I sure am. And yeah it's work, it's not easy. We're so programmed to, belittle ourselves. And I'm tired of treating myself this way. So, you're on the right road. Now be kind to yourself and let's all survive, no, THRIVE in this most tough year. 🙂

Today, I think I feel ok. Whenever my nephew and I spend time together, I'm so lucky he's just this cool, sweet kid. Funny. Easy to get along with. So today was okay. @watalife I hope things start looking up for you.

For me, a great therapist (we talk every week, sometimes zoom in). Getting away from people who trigger me. I hate to say it, but family can be a big trigger (for me) and I had to put my foot down so now I'm the bad person--and now I don't care. My emotional health is a priority. There's so much that goes into trying to keep depression at bay. Also, since I think it ran unchecked in both my parents/hereditary, I too wonder is it always going to linger in the back? I read a lot, try to do what I enjoy, I'm VERY careful who I am around. I must say I have two pastors that call and check on me, but I hate bringing up religion, ya know? Sometimes I just need to be alone, probably a lot. At work it's super hard to control who you're around, so I have to try to find a job where there's not a lot of people--again, these are things I can't control. But again and again, I try. But yeah, I too hate and wonder, where it always be there? And again, I'm super grateful when I see beautiful flowers, hear a great piece of music, movies, books, a painting. Nature. Peace. Quiet. Laughter. Meeting a kind person! I appreciate everything.

Welcome, welcome! And virtual hugs all around 🙂

Miss Normal Days

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Just a lot of worry.. about covid19