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  1. well I do not golf. but I have broken out a club when someone lied to me and cheated in relationship. one time very violent. smashing window and lamp and headed for the car. lots of trouble with one particular boss as well. arguing over a roll of tape(trivial) after in one years time she had complete profit on my labor. what a bi***! my technique that I have discovered recent late one night was humor. I am not funny but I can be inside myself not in front of people. so watching something like kate Mckinnon skit with ryan gosling on SNL doing alien abduction interviews helps me a lot. melissa macarthy is another hilarious but silly. Kate is very funny and her characters take me away from my gripping misery. watch it and then see if you can then spoof your boss..you have to think of ways to laugh about that person causing you anger. kinda of like giving a speech and imagining everyone naked in the room. anger is poison this is my best fun advice. I have other serious recommendations. the tongue is a sharp weapon indeed. quit the job
  2. bat house and great horned owl box for nesting and observation
  3. I think your psychologist is incorrect on the matters of the heavier animal and survival sentence.(or becoming prey to much heavier....) pidgeon hole mentality imo plenty of small "things" are deadly. so her/his reference is incorrect. that is my problem with someone elses thinking. not picking on psychologists though...just scrutinizing thoughts that make me go...?
  4. maybe you don't have to say hello. this is how I perceive you. ok hanging on by the moon and an astronaut. I want it as whalebone scrimshaw and an Inuit. :-)
  5. thank you for the reminder however it was not stated by me in any intention to be mean spirited. it was asked in a way that was fueled with some intensity because I want one single answer!! and someone HERE knows it. it was desperation. is there a time that we remind people of joy and possibility- over an over?
  6. I will respond from my perspective because of simple similarities. I will say there IS good in people. It is as simple as things you might do in your daily life to bring it about. Kindness by my mother: we went to have soup and salad at dinner and she thought about our neighbor who is 90. She lives alone and her husband passed away this passed year. My mother was kind enough to think about asking her to join us on our next outing and bought her a big quart of soup for her. It made me feel goodness toward my mother who usually grates on my nerves because her stance is one of constant perspective that the world is happening in her mind and that is therefor the way the world is.....no need to drag religion into it but her stance is that her way is THE ONLY way... I felt goodness taking the soup and dropping it off at this old lady's door. So maybe you can agree with me that there IS some goodness by even this small example I have shared above. There IS goodness. I could make a list of a lot of goodness if it would make you feel better. Goodness in my life and my encounters. It is easy to be bombarded by images that don't align with your own and if it is water over the damn by now---stop thinking about it. It is not happening any longer. If you have problems at the store that sells booze...certainly there are other places of employment that will give you some peace. be the change you want to see in the world is a great simple quote by Gandhi. Show me some goodness in YOU wishing you better days
  7. I have a nice song for you and anyone else as well. its a real risk for me to post it at this forum because I mean nothing insincere. I think it is beautiful and brings tears to my eyes when I hear it. I heard it with my son the other morning and I could not hold them back and I grabbed his leg and squeezed his kneecap. music can be helpful at times.other times no. its artist: Logic and ft. alessia cara and Khalid ....I don't want to be alive ( I think that is title) good night shamdan
  8. shamdan- I can relate with you very well. My best advise and I hope that I am allowed as another forum dweller to make suggestions. what works for me: notice moments where things are ok. and keep noticing. another strange phenomenon for me was realizing how quickly plants perk up with water! So I am thinking how crucial water drinking is! sounds trivial.. in difficult depression. hoping the best for you
  9. I do not think I ever started in the correct box. and not to be mean or rude....I am not so sure when it says we can help...just what exactly will take place. call me a skeptic. so first hello and maybe its ok post a little pick me up from a few very down days. work is bizarre and people are cheap as hell while I work my ass off....details later music can be soothing and at times it is just background noise. tuned into this one yesterday..... you will have to search for it yourself because I do not do so well on computers. it was classical harmonica virtuoso Bonfiglio-Villa Lobos Harmonica concerto- what I like about it. I had no idea there was such a thing in music with harmonica and it is so light and peppy. the video I pulled up is images of maybe some historic buildings in Europe....similar to Sistine chapel but no... Germany maybe.... but joyful. I posted it some other forum but no one has anything that appeals to me much. something fun for you too(anyone who cares to look it up and listen) let me know if you like it .
  10. inflammation is the culprit
  11. oil and water do not mix same for depression an alcohol. alcohol is a depressant. not much of a story just my experiences booze makes me sad
  12. I saw the shooting star recent. so don't be telling me anything from 6 years ago blurring into my experience. I was with my nephew. he was happy to see the night sky as was myself in a dark field of a nursery picking up my son at his girldfriends home. an onminipotent god is not going to whisper sweet nothings to someone else that can whisper them to me in lingo like the dingo ate my baby..meryl strep and advertise about don't wait for the drawing. yeah. spIRITS pst. let her have the surfboard
  13. I enjoyed the names of the four owls it made me smile thank you
  14. what do they do when it is still cold after they light the candle? they light the other end too! hence we have burning the candle at both ends.....:--) and after that...hot chocolate.... after that the -cashmere blanket.... after that.....AHOOOOOOOO! ........HoootHoooot! an owl echos in the distance...
  15. there was an old fellow named Green, who grew so abnormally lean, and flat, and compressed, that his back touched his chest, and sideways he couldn't be seen.
  16. "actions speak louder than words" is this spoken from someone who usually dominates in conversation? lets get specific about what actions you are talkin'bout. is that so? in every account I have witnessed some unusual actions. not opening the can of worms in a forum or anywhere else for that matter. my time is limited on forums because reading them upsets my psyche most of the time. but I can give my son some good advice based on your input today. some ammunition to qwell his heart and to stand tall. based on his current situation. you can't talk to people about love from the eyes of a parent if you not had the real experience of parenting. how could you and most likely you have not I would imagine the majority of folks who are not parents are stingy because they have never set their life aside for anyone its a life long commitment if someone can bamboozle you with your same dictate- you probably fall in love. what is your definition of cheating? and I do not mean websters mind you don't take this personally. I am just venting from my tongue as I remind myself of innocuous gum flapping and leg flapping- road to nowhere love songs don't mean anything and tears do not care who cry them
  17. was the lab work performed by a Labrador retriever? ha ha did you read the joke from the other thread? stress is driving in a car and lots of traffic and the urge to need to use the bathroom and then locating a bathroom before an accident(s) happen. stress is not having money to pay bills stress is where someone played a hoax on you by putting something scary under the steps inside the closet for you to find that leaves you ill at ease and then your mind plays games over and over preparing for battle. stress contains my middle initials and that is even more stressful stress is realizing you don't have skills to operate a home and have no money to call professionals very often and that you will learn the hard way stress is always pointing a finger at me
  18. I am not sure how you are going to manage to locate any answers of depth in a public forum. What is your truth first.
  19. I have a sister that annoys me. I try really hard to stay open in communicating with her style of personality. It will not be an easy post to describe much of myself or her for that matter. She sends a text blathering about this relationship that ended. She is actually a really smart person in an academic way-but for some reason she has a very blind spot. She professes Christianity and goes to church and prays and etc etc. but she finds these men and gets in fairly significant long term relationships...but they don't ever seem to even be step 1 christian so in the end she can't seem to continue on. why would she not pre qualify dating exclusively Christian men to begin with? I mean if you were interested in going to a gym everyday of the week and working out until perfection would you date an overweight couch potato and get much satisfaction> NO and is it likely to be frustrating to try to convince and change the lifestyle of this person in the name of love? She has never gotten along well with my mother. both parties wounded. when you are from a large family and you have the potential to shine but there is not the energy to place attention on you- will you build resentment because you may have succeeded had they driven you to gymnastics without groveling? so my sister has this pattern of changing her phone number. not kidding about 25 times in ten years. and when she has a tizz she likes to control the talking by not talking and blocks the number or changes the number. ousting the family. well it is no punishment believe me. so she text and group messages a few of the family members about the demise of the relationship(who cares? and I could have seen that coming} and I have NO TIME to get involved with her drama reality tv program. and then she has a debate with my mother they keep falling into the same trap again and again and again..... do we not recognize this? so she blathers in this group text where we cannot respond to this group text stating so and then later goes off to a few of us regarding our mother. and then APOLOGIZES for ranting then continues ranting.......... so apologize only if you recognize that you have remorse and the wherewithal to be taking a new route....a route requiring stepping in not your lonely tracks but in ones that are well trodden. :-) or keep on wolfing
  20. a woman at the beach panics because her bikini top has fallen off(maybe the strap broke-I forgot to ask) in a rush she crosses her arms over her chest and runs toward the water. a young boy cries out:" hey lady if you are gonna drown those puppies I want the one with the pink nose!" I hope that is pg13
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