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  1. My brother told me yesterday morning around 5:30 am one patient quietly came out of his room and asked a nurse for some food because he was hungry. (That patients get no visitors at all ). The nurse yelled back at him saying quote "Why the hell are you up, get back to your room right now". Would that ever happen to a patient who is hospitalized in a non psych ward? If he was there for physical reason? No it wouldn't at least not in such tone. I've seen some posts related to this topic before on this forum which means many people will agree with me. But if you started this conversation with a shrink quack he would try to defend it. all I can say is if I were healthy enough I would join or even start an organization to fight for mental patients rights. There are some excellent psychiatrists we know that. Kind, caring, friendly and helpful. But many of them, including other staff do not see mental patients as equal as non-mental. If you saw the movie "numb" where Matthew Perry sees his shrink at a restaurant with his buddies and when Perry says Hi the doctor felt embarrassed and said to his friends "Oh it's just a patient". It is exactly so in real life. But if the patient is non mental, especially if not poor, they would behave better towards them.
  2. I know many of us have had health anxiety but I don't know how to cope with it unless I do all the tests. In the past I was a true hypochondriac but wether because of depression taking over or my depersonalization getting worse that symptom was pretty much gone. However, for a few years I've had GERD. In my case it is the so called "silent reflux" without the heartburn. For the last 2 - 3 years the acid has been even destroying my teeth. Last year I had 3 months long gastric/abdominal pain and after the 9th ER visit they did a scope. Only gastritis they said was relevant but did not tell me that I have, as they put, "mild chronic reflux esophagitis". I found that out 3 weeks ago. The anti acid meds never helped me or i didn't take them long enough but if I knew I have an injury to my oesophagus from acid I'd be more alert and careful. Anyway, 2-3 months ago my family says they think I lost a bit of weight. Since being overweight that's a good thing but I didn't notice it. I gained weight rapidly 3-4 years ago due to a med Im still on. 3 months ago I started feeling sore throat and acid was burning my mouth. This acid in the mouth is worst at night as it wakes me often and I need to clean my mouth. Now I am on strongest anti acid med 2x daily. But what got my new family doctor and my ENT concerned is weight loss and bleeding when I clear my throat. I lost about 15 kilos but IDK for sure when I started losing weight. I did eat vety little over the last few months, sometimes once in 3 days because of no appetite but I never ate much. I also started a new medication over a month ago for hypothyroid and one website says that med can cause weight loss at the start upto 15% of your body weight but I doubt they are the reason. My ENT did a throat scope, twice, but he saw no problems. He sent me for barium swallow, it showed nothing. (But barium swallow can't show esophagitus or berrets) The bottom like is, due to chronic acid reflux, rapid weight loss, throat pain and tightness, tightness in the chest sometimes and finding out I have reflux esophagitis made me believe I have esophageal cancer. (Or another cancer around there). The stress over the last 3 weeks has been tremendous and if you add the other distress about my current brother's situation, I feel the only way out is the worst. Sometimes I calm down and try to think rationally saying to myself that the "S" is never an option but the fear is alive. An endoscopy would take that problem under control but they don't do that here now especially because I had 1 last year, had barium swallow, blood work is normal and the waiting time is long. "The only small chance is getting it through ER again if I could convince them but I gotta go there many times and it's hard due to mental stuff". There is no private clinics here and I don't have the $ to go to USA or another province to do it. (They do endoscopy easily at the ER when it's too late usually) But my point is fear that I might have cancer. The fear has almost turned into a belief. The 2 doctors I mentioned didn't reassure me, in fact they said the esophageatis can cause cancer. I am avoiding reading online about it because it will make me worse but even though I need to lose lot's of weight, seeing myself losing it rapidly scares me. I tried to eat more the last 2 weeks but didn't change anything much. Sorry about the rant but I had to get it off my chest and while I understand that the symptoms don't equal disease it is still ******* me. I know from experience that the fear of something has always caused me more harm than the thing I feared but what can I do.
  3. Definitely. If you add to it circadian rhythm disorder (another sleep disorder he has for 20 years) and non restorative sleep meaning even the sleep you get is not quality sleep then it is very serious.
  4. Well it is all free here and we like to complain that our free health care is back firing with bad health care but also long waiting times. Waiting times for a specialist can be months or years. The problem is my brother has gotten worse since gotten there. All other patients but 2 who don't even leave their rooms are unfortunately having problems with reality and that scares him even more even though he is trying to push the fear back and talks to them a bit. He is an extreme sociophob who wasn't leaving his house for a decade and in this hospital a few positives did happen. He was forced to interact with other people and get to know them, mostly nurses both males and females and for him it's a huge improvement which has to continue but not in this environment or this hospital. The thing that has gotten worse over there is one of the most important issues and that's sleep. Sleep deprivation causes fear and fear turns into rage. I have experienced the combo myself. He is scared he might act up on his moments of rage and they would put him into the ICU where someone like him would not survive psychologically. He is an empath (another disorder) with severe mental issues and sleep deprivation. 3 days ago one of the male nurses who "clicked" with him over the time got confused about something about the pills or maybe the guy simply was not in the mood so my brother took it personally, had a suicide attack and even cried. He couldn't calm down until he made sure the other person is not mad after he asked him. Only later, usually a few hours before sleep time when his brain gets tired he can control his emotions better and says he shouldn't care what other ppl think. Years of social phobia have led to this. But the doctors' negligence and sleep disruption is the main reason he would get even worse in there. My theory is that the root cause of this could be extreme fear which started over a year ago because I compare it to myself. The last few night I couldn't get much sleep at all because of stress about him and another stress problem I will post later because it it tearing me apart. But if he got better and my other problem was solved I'd feel much better and sleep better. In his case it went too far. He still needs pills which he is not even getting in the hospital mostly because he cannot tolerate them but also because the staff, mainly the doctors aren't doing enough. But I also think he needs serious psychotherapy. Either way, may God help us cuz the last 4 days I've been in constant distress and he is in it for over a year. It's gotten so bad that sending a text message to a non-family is a hard task for him. But then again he can't function for days if he takes a shower when the water flow goes into his head for longer than a minute and that may not be fear-caused. He did have neurological tests. We will see what happens today first.
  5. Yes he can try that despite many arguments that staying where he is right now is much more dangerous and unsafe but like you said they can do pretty much anything. We are trying to get a social worker involved. If the doctor's have the absolute power then the system is more corrupted than I had thought. If there was someone neutral to judge I believe they would side with my brother with no doubt but they all tend to believe doctors more than patients. In this case the core issue is sleep so maybe the quack won't make any fuss and my brother got admitted voluntarily even though I called the same quack to arrange it for him but I learned long ago never to trust them especially physicians and shrinks IME so I'll see what the liar has to say tomorrow.
  6. My brother's been there since 10 days ago and they are not helping. I made a post about him before. His main problem is sleep including chronic sleep deprivation. But instead of making sure he sleeps well, they put him in a noisy room. Some heater and cooler 2 in 1 is making such a noise that it made ME dizzy and angry during the 2 hour visit. The "doctor" who was "seeing" him for 6 months over the phone has put himself in charge and told all other "MDS Bible" worshippers that he is not as sick as he claims. They told him literally they don't believe him his symptoms. They say it's all in his head. They don't give him nothing to calm him down when he gets his extreme distress fear and rage attack where he feels 1000% suicidal. Nothing. They don't care. He started getting confused in smaller but important ways again like when he wants to eat he has to think for 10 minutes does he need to take spoon, fork or knife. That's all because of sleep deprivation. Not only that he is being not treated there, but neglected and in a way abused. They didn't even allow him access to social worker. Therapists they don't even have. The shrink called me last Wednesday and said "Hey your brother is getting better". I said no he is getting worse. So we decided to meet on Monday at noon to talk. Also, my brother can't take this doctor when he talks. I wouldn't either. When he talks he debates and feels like he is interrogating you. Goes into philosophy etc so my brother told him that in a polite way but he didn't change. On Monday we will tell him to find a suitable environment for him in another hospital. If he "can't" doesn't want to then we will tell him my brother is going home. Also, we will demand another doctor/second opinion but not in that hospital because he influenced all 6 shrinks there not to take my brother serious. There are some positives there as well but the negatives are overwhelming. He is more than 10x more likely to commit suicide there than at home and that's a fact, all because of the reasons above. But I would like to ask is there anyone who is above the doctor we can complain to, not only because we need a new doctor and better environment but also he can give us a hard time to discharge him. There is an organization called mental health advocated but they also work for the health system and they are not above the doctors, they can only give suggestions. I wish I could have figured this earlier and help my brother but due to my own problems I couldn't. Imagine you go to hospital for manic depression and severe anxiety but they treat you as if you are OK or just panicked a little, no big deal, especially if you are sleep deprived. Sleep deprivation kills mentally and physically. This quack is supposed to be sleep specialist as well but he never cared to treat my brothers sleep apnea until we told them so now they say bring your own device. If you go sleep deprived for too long, like if you sleep 3-4 hours per night, you will eventually go mad. All people with sleep disorders especially those who don't get enough sleep must be treated with extra care whoever they are, not putting them in unhealthy environments. I am so upset to the point that I am thinking to kick his ass, literally. Stupid quack makes $300 000 and ruins people lives. They should kiss patients' ass for getting that kinda money for doing nothing not make it worse than it already is.
  7. I think they are just a bunch of old impotent farts who got to their position by people's votes and they got connections as you said. But when they team up with the filthy rich and start doing each other "favours" that can be dangerous for ordinary people. But I know a bunch of people who trust their gov't fully and don't like anything negative I say about them.
  8. I stopped watching TV and quit social media just around a year ago because of covid but other things as well. I feel more peaceful when I read something or watch a funny or family movie instead of watching news. Back in good old days they used to have an hour or 2 of news a day but now they have channels about news all day long and even non-news channels insert news now. And most people know how fake much of their news is. I hope I find your link once you post it. Always loved a good read.
  9. Do you get those thought that the gov't is doing that? I don't see how would that be possible but I've heard it from people who don't suffer any mental illnesses. Maybe they were not serious.
  10. Which antidepressants are known not to cause weight gain in most people and is there any antidepressant/anti-psychotic medication that has no sedative effects? I tried google but I get mixed results.
  11. I don't know is it just me and my illness but I feel that time passes extremely fast. It literally feels like it was a month ago when I went to the hospital last October for abdominal pain. Some say time seems to go faster after 40 but I think it's the lifestyle and mental illness of course. The problem is there is no real health brakes and in no time another year will pass by. Beginning of May this year I started feeling better without any drug changes but not well enough. And of course my brother's illness and covid related fears didn't let me try taking advantage to feel even better. So these few months also went by too fast. I thought my depersonalization makes time go faster but I've had the condition for decades and only the last 2-3 years went by scary fast for me. Anyone else feels this way? I suppose younger people (upto 35) don't have this problem. But then again I see 50 and 60 year olds who are so ambitious and they work like they are gonna live forever.
  12. Right. To me it's not much about how cold the winter can get but how long it lasts. Last year it snowed late October and entire November was sunny and warmish but the snow didn't melt. That's so depressing. and yes, sometimes it goes into May. It's horrible for people who cannot take winter. I didn't know that USA has long winters except Alaska. I suppose you live closer to Canada.
  13. Thank you. His doctor is not helpful at all. I will look up those testings if they are available here. Part of his PTSD is about doctors due to an ugly experience years ago. He never went to see a doctor alone and now if he has to be admitted it is to him like if you have arachnophobia and your house becomes full of spiders. Very difficult situation.
  14. I didn't mean ordinary people. I meant those filthy rich ones and those who control drugs and research. Whatever you and I are going through, if Jeff Bezos for example went through it, he would recover sooner and easier than you and me. I don't blame them it's not their fault that I am poor. But big pharma and their puppets is in the way to people being cured from many diseases. There was a breaking news several years ago where Canada found cure for cancer but the FDA didn't allow to proceed.
  15. Looks like the hospital is the only option. He is totally bed ridden. We all fear hospitalization for him because like I said his lack of sleep is worsening if not causing all the mental issues. Being chronically sleep deprived will torture and **** any person if there is no remedy. But there is no help at home. He is getting just worse. The major fear is drug intolerance. In the hospital they will force him to take it hoping after 2-3 weeks he gets better but it is like stabbing one with a knife and turn that knife around for weeks until (if) it gets better. Even many health professionals don't understand psych-ache. He would do ECT but his memory is already almost zero. His arms are full of writings on them for reminders. They look like heavily tattooed. It is so sad. If I were healthier maybe spending more time with him would help him. I would convince him to force himself to talk to a therapist. But I am now again in distress myself. This is really one of those situations where one says only God can help. Suffering happens every day to many people but I am too emotionally ill to lose my brother and to watch him suffer. Plus our old mother is hiding her pain but his illness is ******* her as well. He said he hasn't killed himself so far is mostly because of our mom. But if something happened to her where does that leave me? How would I survive it? I apologize for complaining this much because I know most of you on here have your own demons to fight but I have to share it with someone. I need hope. I wish there were any drugs to help us cope but there are none. I have tolerance to benzos like he does. PS> We believe amphetamine caused the sleep deprivation but doctors of course won't admit it.
  16. Their drugs can be so dangerous. But when you wanna use something natural they are so against it. They want the money regardless if you get better or worse. I believe they have cure for almost every disease but if they cure everyone that doesn't suit them. I know some will call it conspiracy theory but when you use your brain some things are so obvious.
  17. For some undiagnosed reason if I look at the lamp for more than 10 seconds it knocks me out and I can't function for hours, sometimes days depending what triggers it. (there are other triggers as well). But can you use the lamp and not stare at it? Does it help then?
  18. For me hot weather including some heat waves is better than long and cold winter. That's why I feel better during the summer time. Having a sleeping disorder and sometimes got to sleep during the day makes it worse because the days are so short. When it is snowy, cloudy and usually dark around 4pm to me is hell. Even some healthy people get the so called winter blues. My brother on the other hand likes winter more than summer. To him long and hot summer days are depressing. I guess we are all very different. Oh and for some reason my fears get real bad during winter. I only feel safe indoors.
  19. If I happened to live in California or southern USA I think I'd feel 50% better. But here in Canada cold weather usually starts in November until April. 6 months of winter is too much for someone with a SAD. They don't have any meds just for that except the blue light (which I cannot take due to neurological issues) I fear every winter. I will get more depressed, anxious and suicidal. Not to mention depersonalization. Canada has an organization called "the snow birds". It's people who go to Texas, Florida, from Nov-April. But if you are poor you cant go.
  20. I am anti-medication too even though I take them. I despise psychiatrists but let's not go into that. Despite their poison being harmful, for some people it is life saver. Some people get harmed by it and others get better. In your case since your depression is not that bad the best way to treat your anxiety is through psychotherapy or counselings. If you tried it and it did not help I would then carefully try 1 antidepressant and see if it helps. In most cases though, you feel a little worse for 2-3 weeks. Then after about a month or 2 you will know if they are helping you or not.
  21. I never really had a problem finding a girl but for the last almost 15 years I have been sexually dead. Zero libido, zero interest, zero ability plus chronic pain in that area. So I will never get married again. (God divorced 15 years ago). But I don't think there's a single normal person in this world who cannot find a soulmate that he or she likes. Don't worry about dating apps that rarely works. When you feel right mentally (if you have a mental illness) then you will be able to find someone easily. Just go out. It is scary to think that one is going to die alone but what a guy like me do? No woman will live with me without sex. Take care of your health, watch out what meds you take and remember as long as you got the tools, you'll get the customers.
  22. I'd stay away from betterhelp. I had 2 therapists there and it was horrible experience
  23. I know what you mean but there are some things that just don't add up. For example, when they said that the 3rd wave was stopped due to vaccinating otherwise it would last much longer, what stopped it in Bosnia where only 3% of people were able to get the vaccine at the same time? Now this 4th wave is picking up because of those 25% who didn't get vaxx, it is also rising in Bosnia again at the same time. (I'm comparing these 2 countries, Canada and Bosnia because I live in both) So to me it doesn't make sense. I could put more examples but I don't wanna get into a debate. I don't know what is in the vaccines either except something from a fetus (I think) but the conspiracy people will say it will hurt some people's health one way or another, maybe in long term. I know it makes little sense and most anti-waxxers are low-educated but you can't help but wander. A person told me that it is not true that in Africa there is not enough vaccines it's people not willing to take it. I don't really believe that because I know that in Bosnia there is no enough. Since 2 vaccines are not enough they will start boosters and that's important but 20% of people will never take any vaccine no matter what. That means the pandemic will stick around for a long time even though it could have been over within 2-3 years.
  24. I was supposed to do it several months ago but couldn't go every day due to physical issues but I am on the list again. It helps many people according to reviews but very small number says makes it worse. But I think the sad part is the benefits only last upto 6 months.
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