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  1. GingerM

    What is this??

    Thank you. I’m certain it’s the dopamine. I’m gonna ask my doc for some Wellbutrin, see if that helps. I really don’t want to take any additional medication, but if it helps, I guess I’ll do what I’ve got to do. It’s a good thing I can’t afford a coke habit ;-)
  2. GingerM

    What is this??

    Sleepy, no. Mentally exhausted, yes - all the time. I’m overwhelmed, and it doesn’t take much to get me to that point. I guess that’s why it’s such a struggle to do anything I don’t absolutely have to do? I don’t know, I wasn’t always like this. I used to be resilient. I think at some point I just got worn down by life, and stopped fighting back.
  3. GingerM

    What is this??

    I’ve had major depression for probably most of my life. I’ve been on Effexor for years (after trying a multitude of SSRIs, which did nothing whatsoever), and I can say it’s been a lifesaver. I no longer feel sad, hopeless, unworthy, etc. I’m hopeful and feel like I can have a good future. However, I never want to go anywhere or do anything, but I’m not sad or weepy like I used to be. I just have no motivation. I do have interests, but getting ready to go somewhere feels like way too much effort. I dread it. When I do have to go somewhere, I put it off so long I’m either late or rushing against time. What is this?? It doesn’t ‘feel’ like depression. When I’m depressed (and not medicated), it feels WAY worse than this. I’m not sad. I’m not crying all the time. I take care of my family and do what I need to do, pretty easily. But anything else is a major effort because I just don’t WANT to. So if it’s not depression, *** is it??? Only answer I can come up with is a general lack of self-discipline. Which has been a theme throughout my life, honestly.
  4. It doesn't sound like you *want* your own place. It sounds like you want someone else to foot the bill for you to act as if you do have your own place. If you really wanted to move out, NOTHING would stop you. Plenty of people with less going for them than you (like myself), have done it. No one gets to do "what they want, when they want" all the time. Grow up.
  5. GingerM

    I'm getting depressed again

    You "did this to yourself 4 years ago..." but then you got into and completed medical school, right? And the same thing will happen with your interviews. You'll make it. And then you'll be able to demonstrate your knowledge and abilities, and your test score will be a distant memory.
  6. I don't understand why your brother living there would confine you to your room?
  7. "No school. Both kids all day. Lord, help me." I'm already exhausted.
  8. So what's the "heart of the problem"?
  9. GingerM

    What Are You Listening To Right Now?

    Medicate - Theory of a Deadman Why oh why can't you just fix me?When all I want's to feel numbBut the medication's all goneWhy oh why does God hate me?When all I want's to get highAnd forget this so-called lifeI am so frickin' boredNothing to do todayI guess I'll sit around and medicate
  10. GingerM

    Another bad day, I am scared

    I recommend silicone scar sheets over creams. I had some abdominal surgery and ended up with a big, uneven scar. I used the silicone sheets on all but a small portion of the scar (I was skeptical and wanted to have something to compare). It took months, but the sheets did make a difference. The trick is to find a brand that is most comfortable, to wear as long as you can (24hrs/day, if possible). I hope you find something that works for you!
  11. Intimacy is a normal and *needed* part of a romantic relationship. If your partner doesn't want intimacy, fine. But YOU can't be expected to ignore your own perfectly-normal-and-healthy needs, either. Regardless of whether there's another potential partner in the picture, I'd get the hell outta there. This has got misery written all over it, with no good outcome. I, personally, am not convinced that being "asexual" is a real thing. It sounds to me like people with DEEP issues they don't want to or can't address. I'm no psychiatrist, so take my opinion with a case of salt.
  12. GingerM

    Not feeling supported by wife

    I'm sure if you tried to find something enjoyable at the renaissance festival, you could. There's lots of food and drink, if nothing else. How often do you get a big ol' turkey drumstick?
  13. I, too, wonder what kind of movies you're watching, because I think I've seen more men's parts in movies than women's. I don't care to see them, but I think it's interesting that men are now seeing what it is to be objectified. Men are visual, and they like looking at women. There's nothing you can do about it, so getting all anxious and self-conscious is pointless. The only one comparing you to those other women is you! Your husband obviously loves you and is attracted to you, so why make yourself upset needlessly? You're 'enough' just the way you are, so don't let those movie b!$(&es make you feel like you're not! As my grandma says, "F*** 'em!"
  14. Yeah, I think it was in my head. I had gotten some bad news earlier in the day, and I think the depression I was starting to feel was just a natural reaction to it. For the record, Effexor does have physical withdrawal effects (I know, because I've been through them), but I agree that one late dose isn't enough to trigger them.