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  1. On 1/10/2018 at 10:05 PM, Audrey822 said:

    My heart broke for you as I read that. I know how it must have felt...everything was going along fine, getting news from your Twitter fan club and watching him on IG...until it wasn’t. And when it wasn’t, it was devastating...and there’s no going back to the way it used to be. :tear2: 

    You have a place to talk about this now. I understand everything you said about this. It clicked with me when you said you felt betrayed...it’s clicking now when you’re saying you couldn’t sleep for 2 weeks, you felt lost, couldn’t concentrate. Your feelings for this CO are probably not just a mere crush. It’s OK. That’s true for me as well.

    Mental health professionals don’t fully understand what we call “celebrity obsession” here...it took 2 years before I was able to get my therapist to really understand. We don’t all have the same experience (that’s the reason I wanted the topic title changed) ...we can’t expect the solution to be “one size fits all.” I didn’t want to be “cured” of my CO...I just wanted to learn to stop or manage the heartbreak. Maybe that’s you, too. The writers of the psychology articles you read haven’t talked to you...they don’t know what’s best for you. If their advice doesn’t sound right to you, it’s probably not. Follow your heart. And come here to talk whenever you need to. :hugs:

    You are right. There's no going back. Things won't go back to the way they were. I may be able to sleep now and once a while, there's a thought going on in my head about him and his partner. But okay, put aside the negativity. 

    First, Thank you for your advise. You don't know how much this is meant for me and I'm grateful for that. And glad that there's someone telling me that this is OK. I need to have that confidence that this is OK and everything will be fine. Although, previously I'm truly scared that this might drive me crazy. Thank you again. 

    Dear, I saw your post whereas you've said that you didn't do any online research on your CO. Does this mean that you managed not to look on him online At All? May I know roughly how long you manage to do that? Did you still hearing/listening to your CO album/movies? I still do. I watched his movie everyday or else, I can't survive. I need that part of him in my life. But I can't watch his photo that I previously saved. Even without She-That-Must-Not-Be-Named.(Haha) Only his character in the movies. 

    Because on the latest posts, many are discussing their tendencies on doing online research. You've seem to be having quite some time in dealing with this issue and have more experience. 

    @HeatherG thank you dear. 

  2. 16 hours ago, Audrey822 said:

    There must be something about the magical age of 11. So many people who have come through this thread have mentioned that this all began for them at that age. It was at 11 years old when I first saw my CO. :icon12:

    You said you felt betrayed when you saw him with that woman. Betrayed is how I felt as well. And it shook me to feel that way.  The damage done to my psychological well-being has been very unhealthy...not my CO himself, but the damage done by this feeling of betrayal. I would love nothing more than to turn the calendar back to September 5, 2013 and find something else to do the next day...and never search for information on him ever again. 

    Those psycological websites you found can’t determine what’s healthy or unhealthy for you. We’re all different. I was emotionally abused as a young girl and the abuse and narcissistic manipulation continued even into my adulthood. I have deep scars. I needed coping mechanisms and escapes. I dissociated (hence, alter ego.)  My mother and my husband are both to blame. I have the opinion of two mental health professionals on my side, telling me this is not unhealthy for me. We do what we have to do to survive in this world. :hugs:

    @SeSa @posie_riot It would be nearly impossible to ever talk about this with our friends. Or even closest friends. They wouldn't understand if they never experience it.  Maybe if they heard this from me, they would secretly thinks that I'm mentally disturbed. In my country, psychological talks almost didn't exist. I didn't know who to reach out for. Scared and uneasy, it was a feeling that slowly destroying me from within although on other's people eyes, I looks just fine. I'm happy now that I can share this and heard from you all perspective. It helps me to understand people more. 

    @Audrey822 Same as you, I also remembered well the first day I saw my CO with his new girlfriend. I loved him since 2016 and soon after, he got break up. I was "happily married" with him during those period. He was so active on Instagram and he got many things going on. So, everyday, looking into my Twitter fan club News that I've followed of him is like... A heaven. That was the first and last thing I did everyday, looking into his photos and news. Just like a quote from movie. "You are the first and last thing I wanna see everyday". But, he's not love me back. That reality hurts. Sometimes, he shared funny videos on his IG and I was like, what not to like about this guy? 

    Reality kicks in again when he first going public with his new girlfriend. It was on Wimbledon's final match. On the same day, I was just discharged from hospital due to my health issue. So, you can imagine the last thing I ever want on that day is knowing about this. It was night on my country. I'm just about to sleep. It was my habit to check on him first before going to bed, due to my fantasy. And.... seeing those pictures.... BOOM. I was shook. I'm like a spooked chicken (Not sure this vocab and grammar correct or not). The result from that night, I have trouble sleeping for 2 weeks after. I will wake up at night randomly, feeling lost. I was scared of my own pillow and it was devastating as hell. I have no one to talk to. At work, I barely concentrate. 

    Psychological website says, "You have to forget your CO". Yeah right..... I've tried another hobby. Oh wait, then I realize I don't have another hobby besides watching movies. I tried reading books but I hate it! I've tried, oh well, lets see if I can fantasize on him again, just take it easssy... But, his partner's face popped up in my dreams. I said Go away but she continuously bothers me. And I talk to myself, "I just need a little bit of happiness. Can you not give me that?"

    So, those crazy period is over for now. Now, I'm perfectly able to sleep and no longer scared of my own dreams. But my CO will have to settle down soon. I'm not sure how I'm going to accept it if he got married. I'm not ready for it. 

    Turns out I have hormonal imbalance that's affecting my sleeping routine. 

    @imalittleteapot Same as me. I always feel connected with the characters he played. So far, I like them all. He played a British Duke once, a soldier, Greek warrior, even a spy. And mostly my fantasy are developed from there. 

  3. 7 hours ago, imalittleteapot said:

    It's fine with the title change. I agree that 'unhealthy' ought to be taken out because for some, it's a positive thing. Thank you, Audrey, for having it changed.

    I'm probably most in alignment with @alacroix. My CO admiration, and thoughts, and daydreams, and sometimes heartache, (on and off) affects me as a wife and mom. I'm guilty of spending too much time with fanfiction when I could be doing more productive writing (like short stories for publishing) and even just cleaning the house or playing board games with my youngest more often. 

    I have depression, but it ebbs and wanes, from feeling almost normal and happy some days to complete despair in others. On a good day, I can spend less time in fan/movie/CO related activities, but on a bad day, I like to use the fictional characters as an escape. Not my CO though. Seeing anything about him is a little heartbreaking, (mild now, compared to more painful last spring and summer when the CO episode was at its peak). I still adore him and not only am I not his wife, but he'll never be part of my life in any way. I try to focus only on the fictional characters.

    Does anyone carry an object around that represents your CO? Some people in this thread mentioned having the person's picture as their lock screen, or a photo near their bed or in a drawer. I have a silly one- when I was Christmas shopping a few weeks ago, I saw these little Beanie Baby keychains. I found a keychain of the animated character my CO did the voice for in a popular family movie. So I bought it and put my key on it, and 'he' goes in my purse or coat pocket wherever I go. <3 

    @imalittleteapot @Audrey822 @Helpme26 

    before I found this forum, loving and admiring celebrities have been part of my life since I was 10 or 11. I've been fond of different celebrities through different stages of my life. The interest that started from collecting pictures, buying album and DVD getting deeper and deeper. My latest CO has been the strongest of them all. 

    In this recent years, my life has been the toughest and I need my CO more than ever. It's like taking a refugee from whatever war going on in my real life. I thought I've taken my fantasy to a very extreme level and it hurts me to see him with his new partner. I was broke in tears. I feel like betrayed. Since then, I googled to find out more about this and 9 out of 10 psychological website said that this is unhealthy.

    I was scared. Because I thought I was alone. I have fantasies, I wrote a story, I have pictures of him. No matter how hard I'm trying or even how hurt I was, I can't forget about my CO. It's like battling for drugs. It's not good but I want it. It's even affected my mood, my work....

    Only after I found this forum and reading and listening from all of your experience, I feel so much better...... I'm not alone now.... For now, I've made my CO as a "sweet escape" from real life. 

    I hope more and more will come aboard after the title has been changed. Their voices need to be heard. 

  4.  

    7 minutes ago, HopelessRomantic2011 said:

    My fantasy isn’t really too wild. My CO isn’t an actor in my fantasy, and basically he and my alter ego meet and fall in love. My fantasies don’t usually get to the point of marriage and kids (although they have in the past with other COs), but I primarily just like to focus on how they end up falling for each other. I also usually like to add in some kind of conflict that they have to overcome.

    Me had about the same fantasies but my CO always been the main actor. In my fantasy, my alter ego and my CO will fall in love. Usually, she is the Greek princess and my CO came from lower class family but he is a warrior. Hahahaa:)

  5. On 1/6/2018 at 4:37 PM, SeSa said:

    I have written to my CO, and in my case it really worked out well. I wrote her a poem when she was going through a difficult time, and she wrote back and thanked me. From then I started writing to her for every birthday and Christmas with cards, poems, presents - and she almost always wrote back! And when I met her, she knew who I was already because of having had that contact!

    But I have to say that in all the things I wrote, I deliberately didn't talk about my real feelings, thinking it would put her off from writing back. I talked about her, and limited it to saying that I admired her and was inspired by her, and specific appreciation of what she's done. So now I'm lucky to have a kind of contact with her, but it's on a star-fan level, and I really value that, but anything more is, in my case, limited to fantasy.

    I'm not going to tell you that you don't have a chance to have something meaningful with your CO, but if write first of all in a less intimate way, you won't scare him off, you could establish contact, and then the future is still open. You mentioned maybe sending a piece of your art - that could be an amazing way to establish a human connection. He probably gets a lot of fan mail, but art is something meaningful and special, and could be a way of reaching out.

    It's your call to decide, but I wouldn't totally rule out writing, only I'd say keep a lid on the full expression of your feelings, at least to start with! And to mentally prepare yourself for if nothing much happens from it, because you don't want to build yourself up and be disappointed. And if that would be too much to handle, then I think it's best not to write. 

    WOah you're so lucky!!  I couldn't do that, because the chances of him replying me are very very very low. 

    I knew there is one of his fan from Singapore willing to travel to UK to one of his event. It's a running charity event and she able to meet him. I can't do the same as it's very expensive...

  6. On 1/6/2018 at 1:32 AM, Helpme26 said:

    Mine is in the marvel franchise yes, and it is who you think it is. That makes it absolutely embarrassing actually now that someone knows who it is :/ the marvel franchise is however not initially where I know my CO from. Those UK COs are terrible. They’re so absolutely handsome and no other men can really compete with them. 

    It’s interesting that you have a crush on a CO who’s gay, I’ve never heard of that before. But that makes it a little easier to handle, I can imagine? Because you can’t do much about your own gender. 

    I totally understand how that makes you feel! It’s difficult when other stars - or people who were basically unknown - starts working closely with your CO. I get that. It drives me CRAZY too!

    @Audrey822 congratulations with your upcoming grandchild! That’s something amazing to experience and look forward to :) 

    Ps; I’m sorry if my vent earlier had offended anyone. 

    We all loves superhero. Especially, when he's from UK. Mine is from DC world. 

    Now I'm wishing my CO was gay too. But unfortunately, he's nottttt. 

  7. On 1/5/2018 at 11:46 PM, Audrey822 said:

    @imalittleteapot I’m very much over the moon about the meeting I had with my CO, and also the upcoming birth of my grandchild. But none of that makes up for the fact that I have never had anyone love me as a woman should be loved, and I never will. My husband is and has always been useless for that. He has never paid much attention to me. He plays video games...that’s about it. I no longer care. I was taught sex before marriage was wrong (not that he would have been interested anyway) so I had no idea how useless he was.  I was also taught that divorce was wrong NO MATTER WHAT. I woke up too late. I would gladly stand on my feet for 40-50 hours if anyone would hire me at my age so I could have a source of income out of this existence. All of this is too much information for this thread, and it’s depressing, so I have to stop. I’m not as blessed as you think I am.

    Dear,

    Thanks for entertain me on the messages! I have no perfect words for you, but I do believe, all good things will happen to good people. Maybe, it's not the time yet. I wish you nothing but all the happiness in the world.

    xx

  8. On 1/5/2018 at 11:37 PM, imalittleteapot said:

    I have a little crush on a famous UK movie actor too! He's IMO one of the most handsome men on earth. He's gay- so for some reason it makes it safe and fun to crush on him, because there is no "other woman" in his life. And if he has a male partner, that's awesome and I'm happy for him! LOL. My CO is friends and co-stars with that guy. In my opinion they're equally handsome, but the gay guy is the one who gets the most swooning from female fans. 

    By any chance does your CO act in the Marvel Comics movie franchise? If he's who I THINK it is, I adore him and his character very much! (Plus I feel sorry for him being dumped by a certain singer, who has a habit of putting her exes in her song lyrics! LOL!) If anyone in this thread has that particular guy as a CO, let me know because he's another 'fun crush' of mine. I'm not obsessed with him at all, I just admire his acting and his eye-candy qualities. I've low-key liked him for 5 years now.

    And- oh gosh this is a vent again-  I'm very jealous of the pretty young UK actress who stars in the big blockbuster movie that is out now. (you can probably guess that movie, and this girl!) It's because my CO is an acting buddy of hers, and I ran across an article that she's going to co-star with him again. I just hope and pray she isn't his love interest. I don't want her in a kissing scene with my CO. I'm jealous enough. Plus, it is creepy! This girl is so young, she's only 5 years older than one of my children. She's 12 years younger than my CO. My hope is that she sees him as more of a 'big brother.' She seems to be very fond of him, because in an interview she asked him to attend her big premiere, and he said he wanted to attend it with her. (I did not dare look up anything about whether or not they went to the premiere together. I don't want to know!)

    I'm starting to obsess over this girl's friendship with him more than my CO's actual wife, it's weird. Probably because she's in the public eye, she's everywhere, and I adored her portrayal. My husband and son liked her character too, so it's a 'fan thing' we share as a family. I hope so much that she has a serious boyfriend or marries someone soon! My CO seems like such a sweet pure family man and daddy to his kids and faithful husband. I hope and pray that his feelings for this actress are purely noble and big-brotherly! 

    Sorry, this has nothing to do with my own life. I am going to have to block everything celebrity news related. I can't stop thinking about my CO's friendships. He's such a charismatic man, so overly affectionate and 'gushy' to his co-stars. He's like a teddy bear who hugs and loves on all the people he acts with- male and female. It's one of the things I love about him, so naturally I'm envious of those who get to receive his sunshine in real life. 

    ETA: @Audrey822- I feel bad that you feel bad about your life. You are expecting a grandchild for the first time, didn't you write that? And you are comfortably retired and don't have to be on your feet working 40 plus hours a week like so many people do. And you met your CO and he was nice and friendly to you! (I'm honestly jealous of you for that!) My CO is married and that's a fact, but if I got to meet him and he smiled and chatted with me in a friendly way- I'd be over the moon!

    Hi Hi,

    I think I know who is the Marvel guy you meant. Hahaha yes, he has a great quality as an actor and I loved watching him too! Very funny, talented. But I can't figure out who your CO is. My situation a little bit different as I do not feel envy for my CO's colleagues. I'm totally fine with who he kissed on screen (cause he kissed a lot of woman onscreen before. Hahaha!). It's his Real life partners that I can't stand. I feel like I wanted to shout at that woman, Get off!! He's mine!! hahahaha. 

    My CO is not Marvel guy but you're close enough. He's one of the main superhero of DC universe. Can you take a wild guess on who he is? :)

    Have you started to block all the celebrity news? Cause you said you just read an article about this actress... It means you haven't. You're still googling. Haha. I'm still trying to do the same. Oh it's really hard. I kinda miss him.

    xx

  9. 12 hours ago, alacroix said:

    Hi @imalittleteapot, thank you for your insight! Even if I never 'get over' my CO, I hope to eventually get to where you are at. Still having unrealistic fantasies about him now, it's just so hard because when I feel like I need to break away from it I feel so heartbroken and missing him so much - but I don't even know him so then I feel ridiculous and absurd! Please keep the stories and advice coming though everyone, it is helping me in ways I don't understand right now. Thanks again everyone.

    Just a quick poll: how long have you been dealing with your CO?? I've been hopelessly obsessed for a little over a year now with the same guy now, to the point of obsessing over anything UK since that's where he's from (I'm American) 😖

    I've had this CO for 2 years now. He's a very famous and handsome actor and his news are everywhere. Sigh..... And I don't think there's a man in this world more handsome than him. Hahahaah. And mine is from UK too. UK guys are awesomeee

  10. On 1/4/2018 at 6:59 AM, advice_seeker said:

    Hi everyone,

    I am so glad I found this forum. I have been obsessively (nothing wrong with a bit of humor :-)) reading it for the last hour and I must say it is good to know I am not alone in this unhealthy obsession. Thank you everyone for sharing. I'd thought I'd reciprocate for a couple of reasons:

    1) I believe opening up could be the start of my healing process (I have never shared this with anyone)

    2) There are many similarities on this forum but maybe my specific situation is even more closely related to you out there

    Even though I have a loving wife, three wonderful children, a dog, two cars, a house and a steady job I have found myself slowly slipping in some sort of midlife crisis the last few years. My biggest hobby is watching movies and TV shows and since my teenage years I have had some celebrity crushes here and there. But nothing like when I started Netflix binge watching reruns from a TV show from the 80's (I love the 80's!!). I've found myself thinking about this actress day and night. I'm not even sure if it is the fictional TV character I'm in love with or with her. I'm also feeling very sad, because the actress is 26 years older than me. In the meantime I have also started collecting every movie she's been in. The internet is a curse, as I spend too many hours finding out everything I can. Every new piece of information gives a little euphoric feeling. But as I compile her life I feel proud of her accomplishments and sad for her at the same time (she went through a divorce, it seems she has an estranged daughter) and I want to fix it for her (especially her relationship with her daughter). I want her to be happy. My own self analysis is that as I feel my own eminent death approaching (mid life crisis) I am longing to feel that first feeling of love again and I am projecting this on this fictional character this beautiful actress played decades ago. I know I should stop, but I keep relapsing in these bursts of looking for any information/thinking about her. I would like to be able to enjoy her TV shows and movies and fantasize a little bit, because at the end of the day I enjoy the fantasy. 

     

    Hi @advice_seeker Good day. I hope you're doing well. Maybe you can slow down a little doing online search. Maybe you make a goal to do online search let's say half an hour a month? And by doing this, you will be able to enjoy her works without worrying about her personal life. 

    xx

  11. 1 hour ago, regretgirl said:
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    I am 24 years old, soon to be 25.

    Female.

    Still living with my parents.

    Crap job.

    Don't have one friend to talk to.

    My future is going nowhere.

    I apologize if this is jumbled up but my life is a wreck and I don't know how to express it very well.

    To start, I have a part time job in retail, selling clothes, and I am completely miserable. I don't make hardly enough money to move out with my current salary and do not have the qualifications necessary to get another job, so I'm stuck where I am. My parents keep putting subtle pressure on me to move out - saying I need to figure my life out and get it together. They seem to believe that I can just go out and get an excellent job like that. I would do that in a heartbeat but how am I supposed to without necessary qualifications or experience? I look at job boards weekly and I don't qualify for anything that's in demand. I'm just a burden taking up space and adding to their electricity bill and I hate myself for it.

    I got a bachelors in psychology which is completely useless. "What to do with a psych degree" is a popular google search which ends up fruitless. To become a counsellor requires a surprisingly large amount of certification and after all of that their salary is still low. I don't have a passion for it anyway so I don't know why I studied it. Typical me, making stupid decisions.

    I have no passions or direction. If I knew what I wanted to do at least I could work towards it somehow, but I have no clue, no interest and no spark in my life.

    I see my old friends from high school and they're mostly successful. Many of them studied accounting and finance which is a huge industry where I live. They got necessary experience from interning years ago alongside university, and are already living on their own and building a successful career. Although we graduated high school at the same time I am years behind them. I don't know why I was such an ***** and chose to study something that has little opportunity. It seems as if everyone got their life planned out early while I just went with the flow.. Until I realized it's too late and I've made nothing of my life.

    On another forum site 2 years ago I wrote about the SAME thing I'm posting today. How I have no job, no friends, living with parents, etc. Yes two years ago.

    Years have gone by and I haven't improved myself at all. 2018 will be the same and I'm ready to end it all.

    Hi. I hope you are well there. I'm female, will turn 26 yrs old this year. 

    Our situation are almost the same. I always think myself as a loser. Why? Many reasons. Career wise, I'm just a clerk with low salary. I had no degree cause I'm dropped from college when I was 19. I don't have any boyfriend and never had my whole life actually. I have friends but.... if compared myself to them, I am no one. Most of them are well educated, have boyfriend, getting married, have car. 

    Trust me, at this age, I don't even have driving license yet. It's too expensive and so many things hold me back in the past. To add into burden, my dad and I are having health problems since last year and it is non ending. Although we're not diagnosed with chronic disease, but still, it's very disturbing. We don't have money to go for private hospital, so we went to government hospital and trust me, our government hospital treatment is so..... ###$&&. 

    So, since we're facing the same issue, I want to tell you that first, you need to have the way of thinking that, there are a lot of other people in the world face a lot worse situation than ours. Second, you have to love yourself dear. You need to appreciate yourself. Third, I also don't have any passion. I don't know what I want to do in my life, same as you. But you know, I think I understand why I felt that way. I need to earn money first, only then I can pursue with what I want... I guess I just don't find it yet. That's why I'm doing clerking job as it's the only that can suit me for now. Who knows when I got savings later, time will guide me. 

    It's 2018 and we can end this sadness. But step by step. Baby steps. Don't rush into things. Good luck for you. 

  12. 12 hours ago, SeSa said:

    Well, let me try to explain how it for me. I got to the stage after several years of mostly being in a position where my fantasies don't take over my life, but thinking about this person is a kind of background to my life - in an idle moment I'll think about her, or thinking about her calms me down if I'm stressed, or helps me to get to sleep. Fantasies of her have become a kind of reassuring, comforting thing for me, something beautiful that's always there for me.

    But that makes it all sound easy! And at times, I will fall into bad habits and excessively Google her or search for pics, and waste hours, or I will feel sad or frustrated that I'm destined to feel so much for someone who will remain a kind of distant dream. But in general I feel like it's more positive than negative - for ME, at least, as it helps me deal with life.

    For me, a key thing is too control my "CO time". it's like if you finish your work for the day, and relax with a alcohol - no problem. But if you've got a drink in your hand all day - could be a problem. And when I have periods of getting majorly obsessed (kind of goes in cycles for me), I try to write stories or poems about her - that way you let your feelings out in a creative way, and even if only you ever see them, it's a way to make sense of things, and the obsession doesn't feel it's wasting your time but inspiring you somehow. In fact, I'm working on a poem inspired by the shoes I have!

    This is where I'm at with this thing, but I know everyone is different and this may not work for you, but I hope I've been able to answer your question in some useful way. I hope you can find your own way through this, I'm sending you positive vibes!

    Thanks for your comforting words and advise. I truly appreciate it. Well, not everyone we can share this thing though. It's true what you said, I totally agreed. Limiting our online search about our CO definitely helps. But not that simple. I usually will fall back to that habit again and again. And repeatedly hurting myself when I saw my CO pictures with his partner. Previously, I had another CO but not that strong as this one. 

  13. On 12/18/2017 at 8:04 PM, SeSa said:

    Audrey, thanks for the "welcome back" and the kind words! @nikki114, I totally understand and identify with your situation and I think Audrey's advice is very good. Plus, if you download the pics, you can crop them!!

    On the point about imagination - in my case this has absolutely been the key. I can only talk about my own experience, but I can say that having control over my fantasy life (and knowing and feeling that control) has made it easier to deal with all the stuff in real life that I really don't have control over. It's good to have a place of refuge sometimes! And at least in theory I know the CO of my imagination isn't the real her, and that's fine, I love both versions, just the fantasy one more intensely! At least that's how my rational mind evaluates the situation - most of the time they just blur together and everything flows. But in the fantasy I'm in control!

    Hi SeSa,

    Are you still having the fantasy about that celebrity? Is it okay to continuously fantasizing? I'm too scared. Sometimes my CO real partner sneaking into my fantasy and this feeling so hard to handle. Thanks for your revert

  14. On 1/20/2012 at 1:34 PM, aeiamrc said:
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    Hello, I've seen several posts on this site from people admitting to having an obsession with a celebrity, not just a crush or a normal infatuation, but a full blown obsession, not being able to function without thinking about that certain celebrity, and spending long periods of time online reading about them, looking at pictures of them, constantly researching them and always checking the news relating to them. These people seemed confused and unable to understand why they feel the way they do. What broke my heart is that since this is a such a rare thing, almost nobody could say anything that would really help, because they just don't understand the way that it feels. I have decided to start this thread, because I am in the same situation. As a 16 year old boy, I have had an unhealthy obsession with a female celebrity since I was about 13, and before that, I had an obsession with a different female celebrity from ages about 8-12. I know how it feels, and i know how debilitating it can be, I understand how ashamed it can make you feel, and how hard it is to even consider telling anyone about it, and I don't want anyone to have to deal with this all by themselves for as long as I have had to. I am starting this thread not asking for help, but as a safe place for anyone suffering in this situation to come and discuss their own situations, and have full support from others that understand how you feel.

    Hi, do you still have any obsession towards celebrities? How do you overcome with the problem?

  15. Hi all.

    I'm a 25 year old woman, single. From last year March, I had a huge obsession towards this one actor. Since then, I've been collecting photos, researching all about his details, tried the best I can to buy all of his movies either on dvds or even subscribing to Netflix just because of him. The moment I open my eyes, I will go through social media to look for his latest pictures. 

    I admires him so much. As he's nice, doing a lot of charities and very very handsome. Even named as one of the World's Sexiest Actor. He keeps changing girlfriend. 

    Just recently, he had a new girlfriend and it's affected me emotionally. I became jealous, disappointed and hurt. I even trying to do research on his girlfriend. To know about their details. 

    I had tons of his pictures in my phone, videos, all of his movies. And I fantasizing about him. Fantasizing that I will be his wife and be with him forever. I try to analyze what may cause this. One of the reason I figured out is because I'm lonely. 

    I've never been in a real relationships. I  have few closed friends but we rarely hanging out. I seldom going out and about during weekends cause I don't have transports like car or motorbike. It's hard to go anywhere. My hobbies are listening to music and watch movies. I guess, if I can always have my time filled with something, I won't think about anything else. But again, I'm just super lonely. I usually got no one to talk to. 

    I've realized today that this totally unhealthy for me. Cause if it's make you sad, then it's not. I wanted to get rid of these obsessions and I hoped someone will give me some advice. 

    I want to love this actor and only AS AN ACTOR. Want to keep watching his movies but for the reasons of loving his acting only. Please help me, guys. 

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