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  1. 25 and I havent Even kissed someone since i was 12 out of pure Fear. its sucks missing out on so much...im sorry but you're not alone in this Honestly
  2. Yeah I think at some point that gets to be a little redundant. I agree with the concept that we should for the most part learn to be ok on our own and have a stable foundation where we are able to be ourselves without needing another person. But then its like were never going to be 100% ok . Were aways going to be a bit rocky and all over the place so at what point do we say ok Ive done the solo thing for a while now when Im I so called together enough to be with someone else ? you know.
  3. You know its interesting because I hear that a lot as a women myself that men find women most attractive when they are confident. Ive been told that I need to Fake confidence in order to attract men and that men find that quality sexy. Heak Ive seen videos with men giving it as advice to women and sell the whole confidence bit. But I just dont buy it. "Women are attracted to men with superb self-confidence" is not any more true or false then Men finding women with "superb" self-confidence attractive. Im sure if we look online we can find scientific studies that say as a whole People like that quality Of confidence in other human beings. But idk about you but I dont think ive ever even met a Person that has "superb self confidence" but I met plenty of people that are not confident and have low self esteem. Letting someone know you struggle with two of the most common mental health disorder wont make a women run to the hills especially when Every women I know has struggle with self esteem issues. The only thing that I think turns off most people would be to show that we drown ourselves in self pity because of those two things. Personally as a women I tend to stay away from people that seem to have everything all together and are always happy and NEVER express any insecurity or self doubt. Those people usually make me think they are hiding something. I like it when A guy is able to be vulnerable and tell me stuff they are struggling with because then I feel more comfortable sharing my own struggles as well.
  4. Both. and im going to continue to be more frank since its not like they are going to read this lol but the guy was even more "uglier" then my girlfriend and im closer to the guys brother and he was the one that said it up front too how his brother is ugly and was able to find a healthy relationship from online dating. they are still together too and i believe that is one of his more serious relationships ever. His brother is better looking but he is actually single right now. but he always recommends online dating or at least trying it out because "hey if my ugly brother can find a nice girl on there so can you " lol is what he tells his mates. My friend too her bf is wayy better looking then she is and her relationship is also doing well. both of them are and they are from only dating apps. Again its my "pretty" friend that seems to be struggling more on there but i think that has to do with multiple things which is why just like real life dating there multiple people struggling with it regardless of how ugly or good looking they are theres just a lot of factors to it.
  5. I actually disagree with the statement of staying away from online dating and hiding your depression. Online dating is not just for super good looking people. On the contrary i think it has helped people who have felt that they werent good enough or good looking find someone. to be frank i have an "ugly" friend who has been more successful on the only dating game then my "pretty" friend . Dating is not how it used to be anymore. Online dating is extremely common and normal and most people use it in place of actually dating the old fashion way so I honestly think online dating is for everyone and anyone that wants to try it. It does require some stratigies though to make ones profile stand out since it is indeed competitive. but give it a go and just remind yourself no to take the experience to seriously and not be hard on yourself based on someone response. Hiding depression is also something I dont personally agree with. Many people are struggling with depression and its more common now then ever before. Opening up about ones struggles helps people connect more and create a bond and more comfort with one another. Vulnerability is when true connection is built is people feel more connected. the only thing would be is that I think dont talk about it right away and make it out to be like depression is all you are because youre not finally establishing friendships with the opposite sex is so important. being around the opposite sex and just getting used to being around them . i think that hinders the dating game too that some people are not used to being around the opposite sex and desensitizing yourself would be helpful
  6. thank you jsop4 appreciate the reply ! :) Now that I see both of you say this it makes a lot more sense I think that was probably it as well.
  7. thank you. Your reply was the most helpful and as soon as i read it , it made more sense and helped me rationalize a lot better :) thank you for your input
  8. thank you I get that. But this can be said almost about every post on this website. Im already seeking help and theraphy. Im not asking people to cure it was just a nightmare I had and just got on here immediately to vent and get peoples opinions on my experience. imagine if for every post people just said "just seek a therapist" yeah that obvious and most are this was just a simple post to see what peoples interpretations of this dream was That is all. I seek this website not as a cure or to solve all my problems just here to vent and talk and get it out in the moment. I know no one here is a professional.
  9. no duh ... But i am unsure so im asking what are peoples opinions and interpretations ...idk why even reply something so unhelpful like this.
  10. *Trigger warning sexual abuse* I was molested by my dad when I was a child a few times. As an Adult its still something that effects me. However last night I had the worst dream Imaginable. I had a long dream about how I found my mom in bed with my brother because they were sleeping together and she did that with two of my brothers . I was so mad and disgusted because my mom was supposed to be the good one and she seemed so indifferent to the situation. I called her a disgusting monster and we got into a fight. I woke up being glad It was only a dream but it felt so real... I wonder Why I had that dream?? Was that just me projecting with what happened o me ?? Usually my dreams mean something what do u guys think of this dream ? thanks for reading this and I know its probably very disturbing
  11. I can relate somewhat. This does sound familiar . I dont think im a celebrity but I do frequently imagine myself being a celebrity and being in a dramatic movie or on my favorite reality tv show and winning a prize money ect I imagine myself being different people in different scenarios and make up scenarios in my head. This is a coping mechanism I develop as a child because I was abuse frequently and grew up in an abuse home so this was a way of me coping and escaping my reality. It has stuck with me my whole life. The reason sometimes these thoughts are hard to control are because for me I have a type of ocd that makes controlling these thoughts and imaginative situations to stop. Not sure what your situation may be but just wanted to share a bit of my personal experience. I dont wanna even guess in diagnoses so I agree with others see a professional psychiatrist and get a proper diagnoses so you can know what to do about it . good luck
  12. It seems like your bf contributes to this. You mentioned him a lot when talking about this stuff. You should talk to him about how you feel and see how he reacts. He sounds a bit controlling at this in your other posts . But I agree with the other commenters you are too hard on yourself because you're comparing yourself to these ig girls that probably got plastic surgery has fake boob's and Photoshop their pictures. Nobody is perfect and quite honestly you sound like you have a body that a lot of girls would want also. You also seem very open minded and caring. Don't let crazy high unrealistic beauty standards make you feel ugly when Youre not
  13. You're not overstepping. Uni is stressful ass hell and makes most people anxious. Its worst when you have anxiety and depression. But really my advice is dont over think it. remind yourself that no one is as aware about you as you are. You might be feeling so anxious but im sure others around you dont see it because their too busy worrying about themselves how to survive uni too. Its going to take a while to ease into things so just do a little at a time,. Decide ok today even if I dont feel like it im going to take a quick rinse and just start to get into a routine of showering and doing other things. Also dont get used to staying in your room find a spot you feel comfortable with that has some people around. Say the library or some place outside. Somewhere you can sit and have a few people around you will get you used to the enviroment and having strangers around. I cried my eyes out when I was firts at uni. the first 3 months were hell but then I slowly just started to ease myself into it and it turned out to be an amazing experience and the same can happen to you! Dont feel bad about posting anything here people post whatever they want and their own struggles no biggie its never overstepping. wishing you i know soon youll feel better and more comfortable at uni
  14. Im sorry but replying as a 16 year old probably doesnt help. You still have many more years where you can mess up and itll be ok. it makes it harder when you get older theres less room to makes mistakes and be at certain place for example many jobs dont even like to get people at a certain age ect
  15. how old are you? the way youre putting things come of as a little rude. This forum is filled with normal people who share their experiences and in turn give their opinions and advice how they cope with such experiences. No one owes anyone anything and we dont have a job to make anyone happy. we all have our own issues. this website is for us to vent and seek like minded people so we can feel less alone.
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